u/flightoftheladybirds

i’m working my first ever retail job at a fairly popular chain store. i’ve almost been here for 2 months now and:

• i have only been trained for garments and still have to be trained for food, furniture, homewares, beauty products, and stationery.

• my first day, someone had to show me how to clock in

• i left the fitting room before the next person came to take over because i didn’t know. the only way i learned was because i had to be told by the manager not to do it.

• got put on the cash register for the first time TODAY

today i’m feeling really discouraged and scared because i realized that ive left after my shift every time for 2 months now without doing bag check— my coworker had to tell me today we find an ASM and do it every time we leave.

i’m pretty sure they might talk to me about it next time i come in. i’m still in probationary period and i’m really scared to get another strike (had to call out.)

i can’t believe im asking randoms online to train me but im realizing that, theres just things that happen in retail they’re expecting me to have known before, which is really discouraging. im unsure how to talk about this with my managers (it makes me feel so terrible and unhelpful). but more than that what are some things i absolutely have to know, at any retail job?

i’m working my first ever retail job at a fairly popular chain store. i’ve almost been here for 2 months now and:

• i have only been trained for garments and still have to be trained for food, furniture, homewares, beauty products, and stationery.

• my first day, someone had to show me how to clock in

• i left the fitting room before the next person came to take over because i didn’t know. the only way i learned was because i had to be told by the manager not to do it.

• got put on the cash register for the first time TODAY

today i’m feeling really discouraged and scared because i realized that ive left after my shift every time for 2 months now without doing bag check— my coworker had to tell me today we find an ASM and do it every time we leave.

i’m pretty sure they might talk to me about it next time i come in. i’m still in probationary period and i’m really scared to get another strike (had to call out.)

i can’t believe im asking randoms online to train me but im realizing that, theres just things that happen in retail they’re expecting me to have known before, which is really discouraging. im unsure how to talk about this with my managers (it makes me feel so terrible and unhelpful). but more than that what are some things i absolutely have to know, at any retail job?

my store uses dayforce and we manually adjust our schedules. i‘m taking summer college classes on top of my job and i updated my dayforce accordingly. my manager keeps approving my availability changes, then placing me on the schedule for shifts when i HAVE CLASS.

i email her and either 1. get told it’s my responsibility, find coverage 2. get no response and have to go find her in person and get the same response, 3. get silence-bullied into leaving class or missing class to make it (have done this once.)

i’m new and kind of awkward so if there’s some shift trading group chat i’m not aware— i’m genuinely the only person that posts shifts on dayforce. training at my job sucks and my first day they genuinely had to show me how to clock in on the computer.

all to say i cannot keep posting shifts because of her errors and i’m getting really annoyed😭. i am losing money giving away my shifts if i can’t coordinate a swap.

ive never worked retail before. can someone help me??

i'm incredibly rejection sensitive (both on the ends of receiving rejection and rejecting others). i've only ever had 2 therapists in my life: the first from the time i was a young teenager until age 20, and this one, which i've been seeing for a year. both times, even though i knew i had met my goal, or my current situation where we just aren't a match, i kept seeing the therapist for an incredibly long time because i felt bad.

there will even be points in therapy where my rejection sensitivity flares up. with my current therapist, we were working through an EMDR activity, and i started crying and apologizing to her because i didn't know how to communicate that the activity did not feel like a good use of my time, it wasn't provoking anything meaningful, or that we should move on.

it's almost been a year with my current therapist, and i think i can squarely say that it isn't working out with her (she sometimes gets details and names wrong that i feel are important, or i have to remind her of things we've talked about at each session to catch her up, etc). but i genuinely feel like i need to build courage to say it isn't working, and in the meantime, it does feel a little like i am wasting money.

she is quite literally not doing anything to make me feel guilty, and i think she's loosely starting to get that i feel this way. what's the best course of action? i have a good out where i'm not seeing her for two weeks, but it's like i can't get the words out.

i work at one of the nyc locations and i’ve had a really rough couple of days with the influx of tourism. without bringing a lot of negativity, i just wanted to vent a little🩷 i still love muji it’s just a little harder when people are mean. with that being said please remember…:

- most sales associates are really young. some of us are in high school. especially during busy times muji can tend to hire more people than they are able to train quickly— so some of us have been at a location for 2 months and don’t know the register, have never made a custom aroma oil, done patches, and we certainly don’t know where every single thing is. the things you say matter :)

- PLEASEEE don’t touch or try to squeeze around a ladder while i’m standing on it getting you something😭 i am already afraid of heights (based on a true story)

- obviously i am so happy to check for you. it’s literally my job. but it doesn’t hurt to call a store if you are looking for something specific before getting there. you are saving the both of us a lot of heartache. (re: guy who yelled at me because we didn’t have 2023 discontinued chinos in the stockroom.)

- muji is not fun for little kids by and large. if you are bringing littles please mind them— there are still lots of experiences they might like (we have stationery testers, aroma smells, craft workshops…)

- please look for a name tag before you blindly approach asian people in the store asking if they work here. this happens once a day. it makes me cringe every time.

Anyway… the chocolate bars look good!

i'm incredibly rejection sensitive (both on the ends of receiving rejection and rejecting others). i've only ever had 2 therapists in my life: the first from the time i was a young teenager until age 20, and this one, which i've been seeing for a year. both times, even though i knew i had met my goal, or my current situation where we just aren't a match, i kept seeing the therapist for an incredibly long time because i felt bad.

there will even be points in therapy where my rejection sensitivity flares up. with my current therapist, we were working through an EMDR activity, and i started crying and apologizing to her because i didn't know how to communicate that the activity did not feel like a good use of my time, it wasn't provoking anything meaningful, or that we should move on.

it's almost been a year with my current therapist, and i think i can squarely say that it isn't working out with her (she sometimes gets details and names wrong that i feel are important, or i have to remind her of things we've talked about at each session to catch her up, etc). but i genuinely feel like i need to build courage to say it isn't working, and in the meantime, it does feel a little like i am losing money because i'm afraid.

she is quite literally not doing anything to make me feel guilty, and i would assume she has no idea i feel this way. what's the best course of action?

my friend and i were making OCs and it made me curious: obviously every avatar comes from a cycling nationality, and so inevitably they have to come from one of the four kingdoms. but could there be an avatar who comes from a non-bending community and has no bending to begin with? would the avatar cycle even allow that?