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Why is it so hard to spare 30 mins (plus dress up and travel times) to meet a stranger in the public place for coffee?

That first meeting can determine if you want to see each other again.

Thoughts?

Is it too much of an ask?

Hi,

My name is Guri and I am an ex-software engineer turned into a product manager.

I would love to create a project like this

Kiva
Gofundme
Too good to go

The goal:
Create something that makes life better.
No money grab
Something that can sustain with minimal intervention (basic maintenance and fixing bugs)

I am in east bay near Berkeley.

I would love to meet and brainstorm ideas if you are near by.

Long shot but looking for like minded people in east bay near Berkeley/Oakland. SF can work but I would prefer to base this project in East Bay. Have a space we can meet.

Last projects:
Van project (hardware to Tablet interface to control/monitor many devices)
Real Estate Tech
Nanny App (including services for special needs kids)
Media players that converts text to speech near realtime.

Plus loads more.

I would love to do something with health monitoring using native phone functions

Or

Travel related

Wish you all well. Msg me if you want to discuss

Not sure if it matters: Indian, male and have studied CS (with SE as a sub track)

Throwing this out into the Reddit universe.

Compensation: sweat equity at this point.

Hi,

My ideal part time product management role would be:

* help a set of founders take an idea from paper to first release
* help an incubator with their startups 
* help a company identify new tech to bring in-house (why build when you can buy)
* be a scout for an organization that is looking for companies to invest in or purchase.
* work on a new product in the social good space from scratch.

I am inspired by projects like Kiva, Too Good to go, gofundme, Craigslist. 

My skill set in short:
Have taken multiple projects from ideation to first deliverable or Prototype (used for fund raising)

MSc CS
Developer 6 years (real time embedded avionics)
Product Manager 15 years (web, mobile apps using native functions and Bluetooth sensors)

Leadership roles are welcome, happy to lead product managers.

One might ask why not work full time?
Good question:
I feel I can deliver better or same results in half the time. Why would I pretend to work full time when it really takes me half the time.
Having said that, if you need a full time team member to come to work everyday, then I am not your person.

Thanks for reading this far. I am in the Bay Area.
Happy to discuss a possible gig/project in person.

Ps, I have a talented tech team in Eastern Europe that has delivered a lot of my projects.

**** update: many have recommended (thanks) the term LAT for what I seek. You are welcome to read and comment. I am happy that many have written direct messages and many can resonate with my post. Many are triggered by it and that is something they will have to look inward as to why they got triggered.

My post is my raw thoughts, I am not intending to offend anyone or any group.

****

Hi,

Just joined.

Not sure when I became 55, but now I have a AARP membership. I am a CIS male if that really matters but it might for the list below:

A few raw thoughts:

1. I am not on dating apps.
2. I have concluded that I am not going to find my romantic person, so am not putting too much energy into that. I have to literally apply for a job to be a potential intimate partner.
3. I am blessed that I have allies and partners for lot of my activities, hiking, travel, eating out, cooking…, having said this, it probably explains why I prefer activity partners. Most of my needs are met.
4. I am not looking for marriage or getting on a relationship escalator.

My ideal partner would be a part-time partner who will agree to seeing each other 2-3 times a week, have their own place and their own activities. A chance to coordinate and invite each other to be part of the other’s activity.

Sorry, the headline is not perfect.

I feel I am not even searching, most of my previous loves have come when they had to and they left when the time was up.

I remain eternally grateful to everyone for sharing part of their lives with me.

Learning to let a loved one leave with grace takes some understanding and love.

I am not sure I would have shared love with so many people had I remained in my starter marriage.

Note to self: keep doing what you love and just might be, someone will walk with you a few steps.

I wish everyone here seeking genuine connection to keep doing what you do and don’t give up hope on love. Love everyone, especially family and friends. Be a giver and someday another giver will bump into you.

I recently came across this term and not much in this subreddit. To Mods. Please delete if not appropriate.

Most of us will be lucky to go on a Honeymoon trip in our lives but for some this might remain a hope.

My ideal Solomoon (solo honeymoon) trip is:

A week in Bali, two different resorts. A room with a bath tub and good food options. Bali offers good massage places and some amazing nature and waterfalls.

What would you do for a Solomoon? Duration and location?

My favorite Solomoon will have to still be Bali, Lihui, Copenhagen and Porto.

Safe travels

Dear Sikhs

I love seeing random Langar Seva that Sikhs do in parks or near homeless shelters.

That is all.

Just saying thanks and leading with humanity and care.

I posted this in a local group.

Me:
55 (not sure where time flew by)
Male
Indian by birth
Successfully failed starter marriage
relationship anarchist
Live in a small house
Love cooking everyday
Have my own small business
I travel 3-5 months a year
I am a giver
I eat Kimchi and Natto
Non drinker, no 420, no any drugs, non smoker
Aspiring Minimalist
Love languages giving (default): quality time and giving meaningful gifts
Love languages receiving: quality time and touch (always open to hugs)
Semi active: I cycle, walk 5-10k steps and hike a bit. I roller skate, I have a long board and do go out with it once in a while. I motorcycle around for longer distance errands

You:
CIS female.
age: 40-56* my last life partner was a year older, I am open to a little older.
Giver (please don’t write if you are a taker)
Lead with love and not hate
Global citizen, be well traveled.
Likes Kimchi and Natto (this is important especially if there is a meal involved)
While I understand that it is a HUGE ask, please be substance free in our interactions.
Drug and alcohol free for #6 (see below)
Please be in east bay (san Francisco area) and not far away.
Physically active.

What I am inviting in life and this could be different people (relationship anarchist being the key hint here)

1. ⁠Performing Arts partner, I love theatre and symphony/concerts
2. ⁠Make dinner Partner, happy to cook for you.
3. ⁠Coffee/meal/dessert partner.
4. ⁠Dance Partner, 80s and 90s, ecstatic
5. ⁠Cuddle partner, I lost my cuddle partner to her getting into a LTR, happy for her. I can adhere to clear discussed boundaries.
6. Life partner, grow and support each other as we evolve as individuals. Physical intimacy is part of this. I am not looking for someone who wants a platonic life partner, I have many dear friends in that category.

I understand that there is no one human that can perhaps be all of these partners for me.

I am open to platonic connections for #1-5.

What I am not looking for:
A. Travel partner (mostly solo and I do have a few travel partners).
B. Long distance friend/partner
C. Penpals or txt buddies.

Thanks for reading this far.

If you are local and curious we can chat a little here on Reddit but a coffee date (date 0) for 30 mins is the first step.

Please read and if you are interested in meeting in person, please only then write.

Background:
Organized a ton of social meetups and events, don’t actively do this.

I am inspired by Travelgal

Here is what I am proposing and feel free to set up your own events. Great way to meet new friends and perhaps find a connection that grows.

Eastbay (Oakland)
Dimsum
4-6 folks
Ideally a mix of genders
Singles

Would you be interested?

The only disclaimer is:
You should be ok with all kinds of Dimsum on the table, chicken feet, tripe…

Cost will be $20-30 with tax and tip.

Post Dimsum is dessert and or boba. $6-12

So, this post is to gauge if there is any interest.

If this is something you would like to attend:
Please comment with “interested”

Some of you may be asking

1. Will this event happen if the gender balance is not 50/50?
   Yes. A table of 4-6 is small group and if there are more men or more women, so be it. Dimsum goes on.

Another set of questions that might come up:
2. Can we do this event if there are 20 people interested?
The short answer is why not,
We might need one leader for each group.

3. Can someone move to another group because the other group has a person of interest,
   Why NOT! Follow your instinct.

I have been inspired to put what I want on paper.

So here goes

Seeking Partner (s)

Me:
55 (not sure where time flew by)
Male
Indian by birth
Successfully failed starter marriage
relationship anarchist
Live in a small house
Love cooking everyday
Have my own small business
I travel 3-5 months a year
I am a giver
I eat Kimchi and Natto
Non drinker, no 420, no any drugs
Aspiring Minimalist
Love languages giving (default): quality time and giving meaningful gifts
Love languages receiving: quality time and touch (always open to hugs)
Last life partnership (short of two years, tried to make long distance work)

I strongly believe I am who I am because of all the past and current relationships and connections.

Things about me that might be triggering:
* Not looking for marriage (not my goal but I have discussed this with last life partner) and neither focusing on relationship escalator
* Not looking for one person to be my everything, cannot expect that from one person.
* Semi clean, that means I do a day of deep cleaning if I have someone coming over, else it is semi clean place.
* i have many allies in my life and they all are important to me. Their success and happiness is important to me.
* Not looking for a move in relationship, you should have your own place.
* i have a very strong connection to my family.
* i believe in peace and want every human to have a safe and wonderful life. I lead with love and empathy.

I am inviting intentional connections in life and this could be different people (relationship anarchist being the key hint here) for one or more types of partnerships

1. Performing Arts partner, I love theatre and symphony/concerts and I am open to going with someone else who likes the same type of performances.
2. Coffee/eating out partner (around $25-30 max per person and that means not splurging on every meal)
3. Dance partner, think mashups 80s and 90s music. I also go to ecstatic dance sometimes.
4. Outdoor activity partner. I have outdoor activity partners but happy to invite another into the mix.
5. Dine in Partner, happy to cook for you, take turns.
6. Cuddle partner, I lost my cuddle partner to her getting into a LTR, happy for her. I can adhere to clear boundaries to be discussed.
7. Life partner, grow and support each other as we evolve as individuals. Physical intimacy and partner travel is part of this. I am not looking for someone who wants a platonic life partner, I have many dear friends in that category.

You:
Female for #6 and #7 (40-56*) my last life partner was a year older but am happy to discuss this on date 1.
Giver (this is key as I want to have friends who are givers as well)
I am open to either gender for most other activities
Age range: I could care less about your age if you want to go see Stevie Wonder or Earth Wind and Fire concert.
Lead with love and not hate
Global citizen, be well traveled.
Likes Kimchi and Natto (this is important especially if there is a meal involved)
While I understand that it is a HUGE ask, please be substance free in our interactions.
Drug and alcohol free for #7 (very important)
Please be in east bay and not far away.

Where do we start:
Date 0: Coffee date 20-30 mins, see if there is any interest in Date 1
Date 1: longer talk and walk or talk and share a meal to learn more about our journeys and if there is any match to be an ally/friend/partner.

There is NO way that one person can meet most of my needs, but there is an opportunity to discuss how we can support each other.

I am blessed that I have friends who are my partner in travel, outdoors, concerts, eating out. These allies are part of my life journey. I am coming from a place of abundance and not lack of.

If you are looking for an activity partner, theatre partner, dance partner, cuddle partner, any type of partner, let’s do coffee and talk.

20-30 mins is the ask from my side.

Wish you all in your search for love and or companionship.

Thanks for reading my thesis long post.

Hi,

I am throwing this out in this Reddit thread. My ideal role would be:

* be an advisor to tech teams
* help an incubator with their startups 
* help a company identify new tech to bring in-house
* work on a project that makes life better for people.  
* be a tech scout for an organization/company that is looking for a global scout.  
* work on a new product in the social good space from scratch.

I am inspired by projects like Kiva, Too Good to go, gofundme, Craigslist. 

My skill set in short:
Take multiple projects from ideation to first deliverable or Prototype (used for fund raising)

MSc CS
Developer 6 years (real time embedded avionics)
Product Manager 15 years (web, mobile apps using native functions and Bluetooth sensors)

Leadership roles are welcome, happy to lead product managers.

Thanks for reading this far.
Wish everyone my best.

Bay Area/remote jobs only please.

My ideal role is part time but am open to a short term full time role.

Remote jobs is preferred. East Bay is 2nd best option.

I have worked on many b2c and b2b projects.

What I bring to the table is

1. to take a product from ideation to a prototype or release 1. Can help manage tech teams (offshore and onshore)
2. Help brainstorm ideas and requirements.
3. Elicit requirements from stakeholders.
4. Get buy in from C suite.

Happy to help bring your idea to production.

Msg me and I can send my resume.

My first post, apologies if this is not the right forum for this.

Background
55, CIS Male, finished the starter marriage.
Solo mostly since 2008.

After divorce, I have met some amazing women, I am truly blessed for everyone of them for challenging me and improving me in some way.

I tried being in a relationship, longest one after divorce was shy of 2 year old monogamous relationship.

After the sunset on that relationship which was long distance and just would not work across oceans, I studied and took seminars.

I loved having a connection but was not looking to get married and start another monogamous married journey and came upon RA.

I feel that if I stick with my RA life with no primary partner or wife, I might have a tough journey ahead.

Most of the women I meet in the Bay Area are either poly looking for her 2nd or 3rd or someone looking for their monogamous partner.

I am living in the moment but have noticed that many of my allies are slowly pairing off.

I feel if I stay true to my RA beliefs, I might have a rather lonely road ahead.

Anyone else feels this way?

Thanks for your time and thoughts you might have on this.

Dear Hyatt buddies,

I am looking for tips from anyone who has successfully negotiated a month long stay with a Hyatt property.

I was not very successful, I tried a property in KL and they came back with 82$ a day and I thought that was not that good a deal especially if I can do points and keep it under $70, not counting any bonus deals or points bonus on purchase of points.

I am looking for category one, KL was a good base with good food.

I might contact a few properties in India and Nepal as well.

Any tips or thoughts that you can publicly share would be wonderful, I am grateful for any insights.

Happy travels.