Currently looking into cars. I got offered $2,500 for a 2013 Chevy Spark. It has 107,000 km / 105,633 miles on it.
Is it worth it in terms of, will it still be reliable etc. ?
basically last night I kinda started being short with my bf. We had a super short call, less than 30 mins because he had family things he was doing. Which is like totally fair but as we're ending it he started talking about how he wanted to do a really long (5 hrs) call on Sunday, especially since we usually don't have time to call on Saturdays (he is also doing family stuff). Anyways I mostly was annoyed about him bringing up the 5 hour call, only because he has a habit of making promises he doesn't/can't keep.
Another one being that he was watching a show with his family, after our call. He said he would still text. Now I don't actually need him to be constantly on his phone. And if he didn't say he would still text, I wouldn't really care. There was consistently 30 minutes between his responses, except for when I said goodnight. Then suddenly he can respond super quick. It isn't about the fact that he didn't respond - it's about the pattern of him saying he wants to do something, and then not following through.
Anyways I was short with him, and now he hasn't texted yet when he normally does by now. We have this thing that he does the first morning text and I do the last night text. So it just feels off. I don't really know how to start conversation, if I should give him space, or wait for him to message me (ie, if he's just busy or something) and yeah. We usually don't talk a lot on Saturdays so I just have no clue what to do and looking for advice :p
I'm currently stuck in that LDR rut where everything is just "I love you I miss you' etc. and it just feels so repetitive. Idk if he feels the same way because this is just in the last few days and I haven't talked to him about it just yet, I was kinda hoping it would go away on its own.
I really hate long distance at times. I was recently in a really bad horse accident and despite having my friend there literally the ONLY thing I wanted was for him to be there. I really love my friends but they're not him.
Today was just, icky. We only got to talk for half an hour, then he had stuff to do with his family (they're watching a show). Now if he said, Hey, I'm doing this thing, talk to you after - that is fine. It gets me though because he said he would text me and then just disappears. I told him to not worry about it but he said he would anyway. Again I'm totally supportive of him fully being with his family, it's the fact that he said he would text and then completely dipped, only to respond almost immediately when I texted him goodnight.
mostly I'm hurt because I really miss him and it feels lately like he's more important to me than I am to him. I'm fully aware that I need to talk to him about this. Mostly i'm typing this out because I need to get this off my chest, and I don't want to take out my pain on him when it isn't his fault and something I need to deal with until I can actually talk to him in a productive way.
This isn't about my boyfriend, but it's about one of our mutuals. So for context my boyfriend and I were long distance from August until January, until he transferred to my university. We met at camp, where we were both working.
At this time, I had freshly gotten out of another relationship - when he asked me to be his girlfriend I had only been single for 6 weeks. That said, I was fully over the previous relationship LONG before it ended. I was talking to my female co-workers about this guy to see what they thought of the situation. They knew my ex, and were aware of the breakup, and the timeline, etc.
One co-worker in particular had said that "he wasn't her type, but if he asked, she would date him." I didn't think much of this statement.
In February, we had a youth event where kids from all over came. My boyfriend and I were helping, and both had our friends coming that we hadn't seen in a long time - some since camp. And so, I mostly stuck with my girlfriends, and he stuck with his friends. We didn't actually interact that much throughout the weekend, as I knew he missed his friends and he hadn't seen anyone since camp. I was busy helping out with my girls.
However, he would come up behind me sometimes and hug me. Usually when I was in conversation with some of my other friends, and just say hi, just briefly, nothing much.
I later found out that the co-worker that had told me that she would date him was complaining to my brother that my boyfriend was being too PDA. (Keep in mind, it was max four hugs throughout the whole two days - you would have had to be really paying attention to ever see us together).
I haven't been able to stop thinking about this. I'm *not* insecure with my boyfriend at all - he is way too obsessed to look at any other girls. But I'm just super curious as to why she would say that. I spoke to my other friends, who are totally honest, and would have told me at the time if he was being too much. Am I wrong for feeling weird about my friend?
tl;dr - at a weekend event, my boyfriend and I barely talked too much but we did hug a few times. Maybe 4. One of my co-workers, who originally vouched for us dating but also said that she would go out with him if he asked her, complained to my brother about us being too PDA when we were barely together the whole weekend. He maybe hugged me 4 times. I feel like she was really watching him, for her to ever see us together that much.
This isn't about my boyfriend, but it's about one of our mutuals. So for context my boyfriend and I were long distance from August until January, until he transferred to my university. We met at camp, where we were both working.
At this time, I had freshly gotten out of another relationship - when he asked me to be his girlfriend I had only been single for 6 weeks. That said, I was fully over the previous relationship LONG before it ended. I was talking to my female co-workers about this guy to see what they thought of the situation. They knew my ex, and were aware of the breakup, and the timeline, etc.
One co-worker in particular had said that "he wasn't her type, but if he asked, she would date him." I didn't think much of this statement.
In February, we had a youth event where kids from all over came. My boyfriend and I were helping, and both had our friends coming that we hadn't seen in a long time - some since camp. And so, I mostly stuck with my girlfriends, and he stuck with his friends. We didn't actually interact that much throughout the weekend, as I knew he missed his friends and he hadn't seen anyone since camp. I was busy helping out with my girls.
However, he would come up behind me sometimes and hug me. Usually when I was in conversation with some of my other friends, and just say hi, just briefly, nothing much.
I later found out that the co-worker that had told me that she would date him was complaining to my brother that my boyfriend was being too PDA. (Keep in mind, it was max four hugs throughout the whole two days - you would have had to be really paying attention to ever see us together).
I haven't been able to stop thinking about this. I'm *not* insecure with my boyfriend at all - he is way too obsessed to look at any other girls. But I'm just super curious as to why she would say that. I spoke to my other friends, who are totally honest, and would have told me at the time if he was being too much. Am I wrong for feeling weird about my friend?
tl;dr - at a weekend event, my boyfriend and I barely talked too much but we did hug a few times. Maybe 4. One of my co-workers, who originally vouched for us dating but also said that she would go out with him if he asked her, complained to my brother about us being too PDA when we were barely together the whole weekend. He maybe hugged me 4 times. I feel like she was really watching him, for her to ever see us together that much.
** not looking for a diagnosis, just seeing what other people's experiences are like! **
Currently working on getting a diagnosis for something that I and my boyfriend's mom ( who is a nurse) could be vasovagal syncope.
I'm so confused though, because sometimes certain symptoms will just disappear for a while; not really my nausea and dizziness, but the blackouts. Like, I've been having at least two blackouts a day for a little while now, but then suddenly they just disappeared for 4 days (so far).
As unfun as the nausea or dizziness is (I get dizzy just walking sometimes), in a weird way it is hard to not accept that as a normal human thing... and without the blackouts, it's hard to feel like this is something that I actually need help for, and not just a scary thing that happens a lot sometimes.
** not looking for a diagnosis, just seeing what other people's experiences are like! **
Currently working on getting a diagnosis for something that I and my boyfriend's mom ( who is a nurse) could be vasovagal syncope.
I'm so confused though, because sometimes certain symptoms will just disappear for a while; not really my nausea and dizziness, but the blackouts. Like, I've been having at least two blackouts a day for a little while now, but then suddenly they just disappeared for 4 days (so far).
As unfun as the nausea or dizziness is (I get dizzy just walking sometimes), in a weird way it is hard to not accept that as a normal human thing... and without the blackouts, it's hard to feel like this is something that I actually need help for, and not just a scary thing that happens a lot sometimes.
Essentially I’ve been getting these episodes for years- it consistently has been: I get up, I stretch, I get an intense headache and lose all or most of my vision. My heart pounds, sometimes my chest hurts. Often I feel like I’m having a seizure or jerking motions, although after experiencing an episode my boyfriend said I was not moving at all. I have to find a place to sit as the symptoms get worse, in case I faint, which has happened twice but years ago.
Heat tends to make my symptoms worse. While I can do active things like biking, some things like driving become more challenging. And after biking, I am knocked out for hours: I do 20kms regularly but yesterday I did 10km and I was out for the rest of the day. It was only 5 pm when I got in.
I went to the doctor and she said anemia or migraines, but this just doesn’t sound right to me.
Has anyone experienced anything similar to what I’m experiencing?
edit: my boyfriend’s mom who is a nurse suspects that vvs is something I could be experiencing.
my episodes are getting worse; i usually get them several times a week but in just two days this week I got 4, and this is full blackout; not even counting all of the times that I got a bad pounding headache or partial vision loss from stretching.
Essentially I’ve been getting these episodes for years- it consistently has been: I get up, I stretch, I get an intense headache and lose all or most of my vision. My heart pounds, sometimes my chest hurts. Often I feel like I’m having a seizure or jerking motions, although after experiencing an episode my boyfriend said I was not moving at all. I have to find a place to sit as the symptoms get worse, in case I faint, which has happened twice but years ago.
Heat tends to make my symptoms worse. While I can do active things like biking, some things like driving become more challenging. And after biking, I am knocked out for hours: I do 20kms regularly but yesterday I did 10km and I was out for the rest of the day. It was only 5 pm when I got in.
I went to the doctor and she said anemia or migraines, but this just doesn’t sound right to me.
Has anyone experienced anything similar to what I’m experiencing?
edit: my boyfriend’s mom who is a nurse suspects that vvs is something I could be experiencing.
my episodes are getting worse; i usually get them several times a week but in just two days this week I got 4, and this is full blackout; not even counting all of the times that I got a bad pounding headache or partial vision loss from stretching.
Essentially I’ve been getting these episodes for years- it consistently has been: I get up, I stretch, I get an intense headache and lose all or most of my vision. My heart pounds, sometimes my chest hurts. Often I feel like I’m having a seizure or jerking motions, although after experiencing an episode my boyfriend said I was not moving at all. I have to find a place to sit as the symptoms get worse, in case I faint, which has happened twice but years ago.
Heat tends to make my symptoms worse. While I can do active things like biking, some things like driving become more challenging. And after biking, I am knocked out for hours: I do 20kms regularly but yesterday I did 10km and I was out for the rest of the day. It was only 5 pm when I got in.
I went to the doctor and she said anemia or migraines, but this just doesn’t sound right to me.
Has anyone experienced anything similar to what I’m experiencing?
edit: my boyfriend’s mom who is a nurse suspects that vvs is something I could be experiencing.
my episodes are getting worse; i usually get them several times a week but in just two days this week I got 4, and this is full blackout; not even counting all of the times that I got a bad pounding headache or partial vision loss from stretching.
I'm travelling within Canada on Sunday, and I bought a power bank. Just now wondering though if I'm even allowed to bring it on the flight? I tried searching up a bit but couldn't find anything useful, so just hoping someone else knows.
This is the powerbank: https://www.amazon.ca/INIU-Portable-Slimmest-10000mAh-Charging/dp/B0DCHVGS2S/ref=sr_1_2_sspa?sr=8-2-spons&sp_csd=d2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9hdGY&smid=AR1T6THSKR9XB
we were not long distance for four months, now we're back at it again and it is proving to be SO hard.
I guess the matter at hand is currently that he has 3 younger brothers that adore him. I'm really struggling because my love language is quality time - texting isn't quality time. We text throughout the day. What really makes me feel connected is calls. Back in September he was at a different school where we were always on call ; and of course, this isn't sustainable when he's at home.
He transferred to my university, so now we get to be together all the time during the school year. He left yesterday morning. Of course he spent time with his family and was exhausted when he got back, so we didn't call. Today we texted about what these next 54 days would look like. It is hard, because he doesn't seem super eager on setting a time to actually sit and call. Which, is totally fair. And I get him for close to 8 months of the year
I just feel so conflicted; on one hand, these nightly calls are so important to me, whether it's 30 minutes or an hour, just something so I can see him and hear him. But at the same time there's the other extreme I'm feeling, where I don't even want to tell him about any of the bad stuff that is happening (such as a close family friend getting cancer again, or my own health issues) or ask him to spend any time with me, at all.
I'm just looking for ways to cope with such strong, conflicting emotions. It is hard, because I'm the one who got to stay, and now the house feels so quiet and everything reminds me of him. I've been keeping busy, but when there's that downtime, this is how I'm feeling, and I just want to be better for him.
tldr; really needing connection with my boyfriend, but also since I have him for nearly 8 months of the year here I feel bad for taking him away from his family to call, etc., even feeling bad for wanting to do stuff with him if he isn't busy anyway. Just looking for ways to deal with such conflicting emotions.
How do you guys cope? This semester he transferred to my uni.. we have been tg every day since January 1st.
Worth noting, one of my best friends moved away last week, and the other has been saying I'm being too much for trying to hang out every so often. Now I have like, one friend left here. I'm having a rough patch with health and my family, and it just feels like once he's gone it's going to be so lonely. I wouldn't have felt this way 3 months ago, I had my 3 friends to keep me company but now everything is so different. I'm not a person who enjoys having many friends either.
I literally haven't been able to sleep at all tonight because I'm just thinking of how he's leaving on Saturday.