u/gloomycalm

I’m looking for something to drink in the morning - not a pre-workout - and nothing with caffeine preferably OR very very low caffeine. I don’t really drink coffee so that’s not an option for me.

I used to drink Beachbody/Bodi energize and honestly, I’m kind of addicted to the lemon flavor. It’s by far my favorite pre-workout, but I haven’t been working out for a while now and don’t wanna do a pre-workout while pregnant. I also have a stem free pre-workout that I tried pre-pregnancy but I didn’t like it and it actually made me feel weird. I also used to drink a BCAA (C4 brand I think) from target and I really liked the flavor.

Liquid IV doesn’t cut it for me in the morning and I usually add it to my smoothie anyways so don’t want to have more than 1 a day.

I am trying Ladder so I wanna get back into my workouts!! I still have my Beachbody/Bodi subscription, but I’m just kind of tired of the workouts after like 8 years.

Anyways, I really like having a drink in the morning that motivates me to work out. I honestly feel like a pre-workout drink is more of a mental thing for me and just helps me get down to the gym - a placebo effect essentially hahah

Thoughts or suggestions?!

What would you do if you found out that your supervisors supervisor - who is your program manager was “pissed” when you announced you were pregnant nearly two years ago? Program manager is a gay male and most of our team is made up of women - all younger women who are also around my age and likely to start families soon.

Apparently it’s like known information by MANY on my team that he felt this way and now I feel awkward that others have known this and I’ve been oblivious. I don’t want to interact with my program manager anymore but I have to interact with him more than anyone.

He’s also treated another pregnant woman with a certain attitude of remarks but there’s no actual like proof of anything and it’s all just based on things he’s said in meetings and his tone and demeanor.

I’m pregnant again and will likely tell my team in October but now I do NOT want to tell him. He also sounds really difficult to work with. For example, he has a 1:1 with two of the managers under him (one is my supervisor) but our director STILL attends the 1:1 meetings after 3 years which tells me somethings “wrong” or “off.” Cause why is a director attending 1:1s between a program manager and unit supervisor ??

I was thinking instead of telling him I’m pregnant this time I could just meet with my program Director (after I meet with my supervisor) and tell my program Director that I’m uncomfortable telling him… and at least get a documented that I am uncomfortable? Idk if this is quite a hostile environment because he literally seems so nice in person - and he’s VERY gay and it’s very obvious so I feel like the way it kind of comes across is really nice but sometimes condescending and insincere. It’s also weird to me that someone who is gay would not support another human trying to start a family because he just got married.

Last thing, I met with someone recently who called him a snake and to be very careful. Again… News to me! He always seemed so nice maybe a little insincere and overly nice but I didn’t know people would call him a SNAKE.

Anyways.

Thoughts? What do I do?? HR?

Would you rather have…

A director title and make 100k. In person at least 3 days a week. Commute to downtown, pay for parking/take long public transportation. (Located in major US city which is one of the top most expensive states and cities to live)

OR

Have a “specialist” title and earn 77,000. Super flexible job and hours. Great supervisor. Not work 40 hours a week - more like 20-30. Job has been remote but is making you go in once a week. (Also located in same expensive city)

Okay so context….

I don’t know why but recently I’m having a hard time seeing this woman that I graduated college with earn a director title while I’m still a “communications specialist”.

She’s seemed to climb the ladder very well. For instance, I was at the same place she worked back in 2018 and was there for 6 years. I got one promotion towards the end. She somehow started 2 maybe 3 years after me and got promoted/changed jobs like 4 times. We worked in completely different teams and departments.

I obviously can’t compare exactly to what her new job is but wanted to compare as much as possible to see if I’m being ridiculous in my think.

She doesn’t have kids and I think she just got married. I got married 3 years ago, we have a toddler, and we’re expecting our second so while I feel like my job is good for where I’m at… I still can’t help but feel like I’m so much lower than what or where I should be. And maybe like my career is taking a pause because of babies?

Anyways. Idk I’m feeling like my salary just is lower than what I should be making and that I should be farther along. But I somehow get into these positions that have no opportunity for growth. Like my last job I was the only staff member with 1 director and couldn’t go anywhere. Now I’m in a spot where I can’t and don’t want to do my supervisors job, and don’t know if I’d stay with my current employer because it sounds like I lucked out with my team from horror stories I’ve heard from other colleagues.

We can’t afford for me to be a stay at home mom - like I said we live in one of the top most expensive states and cities. My husband says I’m making a lot more than 100k with the amount of hours I’m working but I feel like that’s doesn’t matter because daycare costs don’t change - it’s expensive AF!

End rant and now tell me what you think

A director title and make 100k. In person at least 3 days a week. Commute to downtown, pay for parking/take long public transportation. (Located in major US city which is one of the top most expensive states and cities to live)

OR

Have a “specialist” title and earn 77,000. Super flexible job and hours. Great supervisor. Not work 40 hours a week - more like 20-30. Job has been remote but is making you go in once a week. (Also located in same expensive city)

Okay so context….

I don’t know why but recently I’m having a hard time seeing this woman that I graduated college with earn a director title while I’m still a “communications specialist”.

She’s seemed to climb the ladder very well. For instance, I was at the same place she worked back in 2018 and was there for 6 years. I got one promotion towards the end. She somehow started 2 maybe 3 years after me and got promoted/changed jobs like 4 times. We worked in completely different teams and departments.

I obviously can’t compare exactly to what her new job is but wanted to compare as much as possible to see if I’m being ridiculous in my think.

She doesn’t have kids and I think she just got married. I got married 3 years ago, we have a toddler, and we’re expecting our second so while I feel like my job is good for where I’m at… I still can’t help but feel like I’m so much lower than what or where I should be. And maybe like my career is taking a pause because of babies?

Anyways. Idk I’m feeling like my salary just is lower than what I should be making and that I should be farther along. But I somehow get into these positions that have no opportunity for growth. Like my last job I was the only staff member with 1 director and couldn’t go anywhere. Now I’m in a spot where I can’t and don’t want to do my supervisors job, and don’t know if I’d stay with my current employer because it sounds like I lucked out with my team from horror stories I’ve heard from other colleagues.

We can’t afford for me to be a stay at home mom - like I said we live in one of the top most expensive states and cities. My husband says I’m making a lot more than 100k with the amount of hours I’m working but I feel like that’s doesn’t matter because daycare costs don’t change - it’s expensive AF!

End rant and now tell me what you think…

Looking for chest of drawers that I could put next to each other so they are flush (no gap) in between.

Also looking for deeper drawers. I looked at the HEMNES at ikea but the drawers are tiny, the quality sucks, and it has an edge around the top so if I put two next to each other there would be a gap.

I’d love stay under $1200 total though… is this doable? What brand do I need to look at?

We just found out we’re expecting! But now I’m wondering how to move my toddler into a new room because her room is essentially the nursery. It has the nursing chair, changing table, etc. And it’s all perfectly set up. It would be challenging to move the big dresser, nursing chair, etc. PLUS the other room I’d move her tois bigger.

My toddler doesn’t sleep in her room all night. Only from about 7-10 and we only do nursing in the chair at night time. There’s bookshelves in there and she does play in her room sometimes.

The other room IS smaller but it has a bigger closet which I thought shell need and like. It’s also the middle room between master and nursery. The nursery/current room she’s in is next to the bathroom and you can hear everything…

We plan on cosleeping from the very beginning this time and having both kids in our bed at some point so it’s not really “their room”

My husband wants to keep it her room.
I want to keep it the nursery and move my toddler…But I also don’t want to make this harder on her.

What’s the best option or what did you do?

Has anyone tried mucinex to conceive? A woman at the airport told me about it and swore by it. So now of course I’m wondering more and have gone down the Reddit rabbit hole.

Like which mucinex to take, how much/how often, and when you start (fertile window I assume).

I don’t think I could convince my husband to take it but has anyone else’s husband considered it?

Looking for all the info and experiences