u/gol_goth_a

If any mods see this please let me know if this is too heavy for this sub. I will take it down if so.

Trigger warning for self harm and suicide.

Does anyone else think a large amount of people posting themselves to be roasted in r/roastme are engaging in self harm behaviours because of their poor mental health?

Don't get me wrong, a lot of posts aren't concerning and the OP is roasting people back and just generally having what seems like a good time. I don't really understand it but I respect that some people genuinely love 'the art of roasting'.

But some descriptions attached to these posts are really concerning. Some of these posts are made by people who are depressed, have had horrible life events happen to them recently, and/or have body image issues. When I see these posts I can't help but think they are just engaging in self harm behaviours and the internet is joining in.

I have believed this is the case with many of these posters for a long time. But it got a bit deeper for me after r/roastme was recommended to me again today.

At points in my life I've been very suicidal. I think a lot of people who have dealt with being suicidal will understand that sometimes you want to end everything but can't go through with it, so you wish you could feel so horrible that you can go through with ending your life. Sometimes it's not just wishing and people engage in self harming behaviours so they can go through with their plans. Things like burning bridges, going on benders, etc.

This type of thinking is very common amongst people with severe mental health struggles and is what really concerns me. I worry that some of these people are at this point in their struggles and want to engage in self harm behaviours through posting to r/roastme so they can take another step to getting to a point emotionally in which they are able to go through with ending their lives.

I did some google searching and looked through Reddit and have found people who have had similar concerns surrounding people with mental health struggles using r/roastme to engage in self harm.

But I have never seen someone talk about how suicidal ideation fits into these self harming behaviours.

I would like some people to weigh in on the topic and see what your opinions are. Part of me is thinking, is it really this deep? It feels like it is.

Hi everyone,

So as I said my relationship with my gender feels really complicated. I think I'm genderfluid with a transmasc leaning (I don't know how else to describe it)

I don't think about my gender too much. It's partly because I pushed all of these feelings to the side. I'm generally 'okay' (I think I tolerate it) with the body that I have and I love presenting in a feminine way. But today I had huge emotional overwhelm and everything started bubbling up.

I keep thinking back to when I was in drag and wore a fake beard. I loved it so much. I feel deep down I would be happier and I want to look more masculine.

I thought I was a trans man between 13 to 16. I love being called he/him 90% of the time but there's still those small times that I feel uncomfortable from from being referred to with masculine pronouns which is what makes me think I'm genderfluid with a transmasc leaning.

I think I would definitely feel more at home if I had a more masculine body. If people just assumed that I was a man who enjoyed dressing in a feminine way. That feels like 'me' so much more than being perceived as a woman ever could. I see photos on this sub and I'm like "Yes!! YES!!! This is how I experience gender! I want to look like a man and dress as femme as I want!!"

That's the background. My main issue right now is I feel like I really want to start T, get a beard and see other changes in my body. But there's still those small times in which I also get gender dysphoria from being perceived as a man and I really don't know what to do.

PS. Am I overthinking this? Is feeling like I would be happier being perceived as a man and looking like one gender dysphoria?

As I said I don't experience too much gender dysphoria, I don't look in the mirror and hate what I see, I'm generally okay with it and I'm okay with tolerating it, I just feel like I would be so much happier and more myself if I looked more masculine (while still dressing as femme as I want).

Also I'm not sure if this is fitting for the sub so no hard feelings if it's taken down!!

I have another question: what is the most effective bait for snap mouse traps?

I currently don't have any peanut butter, nor any chocolate spread. I've seen those both recommended frequently.

Currently I have museli bars, cheese, jam, salami, hot chocolate powder, orange flavoured chocolate, oranges & kiwis and many other things such as meats, vegetables and grains but I don't think they would work based off what I've read.

Thankyou everyone, I would really appreciate a reply before I go to sleep in a few hours ❤️👍

Hi everyone,

I know for a fact I have mice in my house.

I can't handle death, mice give me panic attacks and I can't afford to pay someone to take care of it for me.

Is it true that with humane mouse traps, if you let them go they just come right back in the house?

What is the best way to get rid of them you can recommend while taking my aversion to death and anxiety into account?

(I know realistically I'll have to face it somehow but I just need some advice as to what the easiest method for me will be)

Thankyou so much everyone, I really need some advice here.

Hi everyone,

This happened a while ago but I've only had the chance to enquire about it now.

A couple friends of mine noticed that the wheelchair accessible trolleys were locked away. No problem, they requested one and used it in store.

When they tried to leave the store to bring the groceries to the car, one of the workers refused to let them leave with the trolley and they were told it needed to stay at the store.

After a long line of conversation and an argument they ended up allowing my friends to take the groceries to the car using the trolley, only if the trolley was brought all the way back to the store.

My questions are:

Has anyone had a similar experience?

Is this actual Woolworths policy or just a misinformed worker on a power trip?

I tried calling the "Instore queries line" with no response. Is there a better place to enquire/complain about this event?

Oh my fuckin god.

So at the start of the shit show. I have chronic pain but no one knows what's wrong with me. Every single doctor I've been to thinks it's endometriosis but no one can diagnose me until I have surgery to find, and take endometrial tissue out to test it. (And I might not even fucking have it!)

I found out in December that the medical (gyno) referral I've been waiting 8 months for was never actually put through by the hospital after a previous visit.(I understand I should have called up and checked I've learnt that lesson now)

Fast forward to a month ago I was in severe pain all day for a week straight and ended up in hospital. The hospital kept me for three days doing every test under the sun to find NOTHING. They had me do an ultrasound in which my bladder had to be full, scheduled for 10:30am. At 11am they told me it would be in 30mins and told me to just keep holding it. At 11:30 they told me the same thing. This went on until 5:30pm. I was busting, in pain, extremely anxious and nauseous ALL DAY.

They had me on Oxycodone all day for a week straight. It made me feel nauseous, destroyed my appetite and I had no filter when I spoke. It was a horrible fucking experience.

Now I don't need the Oxycodone anymore but I'm still in some level of pain, all day everyday.

While in hospital my partner couldn't be there to support me on the last day and it opened up a can of worms and is causing problems in our relationship. (not going too deep into this for my own privacy).

I had a horrible weekend, I spent the whole time trying to just exist when my brain is constantly giving me horrible intrusive thoughts, telling me I'm a horrible person and giving me every single reason why I shouldn't exist anymore. I managed to get through it.

Only to wake up today with my freezer door slightly ajar, all of the food inside defrosted, while being broke as fuck. I'm going to be real. I eat a lot of food out of the freezer because I struggle to not let food go bad in the fridge.

So now 90% of my safe foods are defrosted, without enough time to goddamn eat it all before it goes off so I'm inevitably going to have to throw a lot of it out.

I started bawling. Just crying like a mf. But now I'm angry so I'm posting all of it here.

Thanks for reading friends.

Hi friends,

Lately I've been dealing with some mental health issues. I really need a good laugh.

Additionally, some themes are too much for me to handle right now. Please don't recommend any anime with intense graphic violence or intense mental health themes such as Bungo Stray Dogs (although I like that anime it's not for me right now).

For some context on what I like, I really enjoy Sleepy Princess in the Demon Castle and That Time I Got Reincarnated As A Slime, and they are a couple of my comfort watches.

Thankyou everyone and I'm looking forward to watching what you recommend!