u/goonercold

I’m in a close friend group with 2 other guys. Recently, two of us got into relationships, while the third is still single.

Ever since I started dating my girlfriend, my friends have made it clear they don’t like her. Their main complaint is that I “don’t spend enough time with them anymore.” Before my relationship, I used to hang out with them almost daily. Now I still see them around twice a week, but apparently that’s not enough for them.

They also say I’ve “changed,” but honestly the changes are mostly positive. I got more focused, found a stable job, and started taking my future more seriously.

One incident especially bothered me. One of these friends had surgery, and my girlfriend came with me to visit him. Later I found out he insulted her by asking how much she earns and laughing at her answer. Meanwhile, he’s unemployed and financially dependent on his parents.

Despite all this, my girlfriend has never fought with them or disrespected them. She simply keeps her distance now.

They’ve also made passive-aggressive comments whenever I spend time with her. At one point, while I was literally on a trip with them, they were taunting me for planning another trip with my girlfriend.

Now one of them has a birthday party this weekend. He invited me, the other friend, and the other friend’s girlfriend. The issue is that I already had plans booked with my girlfriend a month ago, and they only invited me today.

I told them I wouldn’t be able to come because I already had plans. Now they expect me to cancel or move everything for the party.

AITAH for refusing to cancel my plans? And WIBTA if I told them their behavior toward my girlfriend is a big reason I’ve been distancing myself?

EDIT: the two friends are 23-24 im 26, my gf is 23

one last update that i remembered just now, so a couple days back they (the 2 friends) invited for a dinner outing and i agreed to it. later they said it is cancelled and i got to know they went by themselves.

I’m in a close friend group with 2 other guys. Recently, two of us got into relationships, while the third is still single.

Ever since I started dating my girlfriend, my friends have made it clear they don’t like her. Their main complaint is that I “don’t spend enough time with them anymore.” Before my relationship, I used to hang out with them almost daily. Now I still see them around twice a week, but apparently that’s not enough for them.

They also say I’ve “changed,” but honestly the changes are mostly positive. I got more focused, found a stable job, and started taking my future more seriously.

One incident especially bothered me. One of these friends had surgery, and my girlfriend came with me to visit him. Later I found out he insulted her by asking how much she earns and laughing at her answer. Meanwhile, he’s unemployed and financially dependent on his parents.

Despite all this, my girlfriend has never fought with them or disrespected them. She simply keeps her distance now.

They’ve also made passive-aggressive comments whenever I spend time with her. At one point, while I was literally on a trip with them, they were taunting me for planning another trip with my girlfriend.

Now one of them has a birthday party this weekend. He invited me, the other friend, and the other friend’s girlfriend. The issue is that I already had plans booked with my girlfriend a month ago, and they only invited me today.

I told them I wouldn’t be able to come because I already had plans. Now they expect me to cancel or move everything for the party.

AITAH for refusing to cancel my plans? And WIBTA if I told them their behavior toward my girlfriend is a big reason I’ve been distancing myself?

EDIT: the two friends are 23-24 im 26, my gf is 23

one last update that i remembered just now, so a couple days back they (the 2 friends) invited for a dinner outing and i agreed to it. later they said it is cancelled and i got to know they went by themselves.

I’m in a close friend group with 2 other guys. Recently, two of us got into relationships, while the third is still single.

Ever since I started dating my girlfriend, my friends have made it clear they don’t like her. Their main complaint is that I “don’t spend enough time with them anymore.” Before my relationship, I used to hang out with them almost daily. Now I still see them around twice a week, but apparently that’s not enough for them.

They also say I’ve “changed,” but honestly the changes are mostly positive. I got more focused, found a stable job, and started taking my future more seriously.

One incident especially bothered me. One of these friends had surgery, and my girlfriend came with me to visit him. Later I found out he insulted her by asking how much she earns and laughing at her answer. Meanwhile, he’s unemployed and financially dependent on his parents.

Despite all this, my girlfriend has never fought with them or disrespected them. She simply keeps her distance now.

They’ve also made passive-aggressive comments whenever I spend time with her. At one point, while I was literally on a trip with them, they were taunting me for planning another trip with my girlfriend.

Now one of them has a birthday party this weekend. He invited me, the other friend, and the other friend’s girlfriend. The issue is that I already had plans booked with my girlfriend a month ago, and they only invited me today.

I told them I wouldn’t be able to come because I already had plans. Now they expect me to cancel or move everything for the party.

AITAH for refusing to cancel my plans? And WIBTA if I told them their behavior toward my girlfriend is a big reason I’ve been distancing myself?

EDIT: the two friends are 23-24 im 26, my gf is 23

one last update that i remembered just now, so a couple days back they (the 2 friends) invited for a dinner outing and i agreed to it. later they said it is cancelled and i got to know they went by themselves.

I’m in a close friend group with 2 other guys. Recently, two of us got into relationships, while the third is still single.

Ever since I started dating my girlfriend, my friends have made it clear they don’t like her. Their main complaint is that I “don’t spend enough time with them anymore.” Before my relationship, I used to hang out with them almost daily. Now I still see them around twice a week, but apparently that’s not enough for them.

They also say I’ve “changed,” but honestly the changes are mostly positive. I got more focused, found a stable job, and started taking my future more seriously.

One incident especially bothered me. One of these friends had surgery, and my girlfriend came with me to visit him. Later I found out he insulted her by asking how much she earns and laughing at her answer. Meanwhile, he’s unemployed and financially dependent on his parents.

Despite all this, my girlfriend has never fought with them or disrespected them. She simply keeps her distance now.

They’ve also made passive-aggressive comments whenever I spend time with her. At one point, while I was literally on a trip with them, they were taunting me for planning another trip with my girlfriend.

Now one of them has a birthday party this weekend. He invited me, the other friend, and the other friend’s girlfriend. The issue is that I already had plans booked with my girlfriend a month ago, and they only invited me today.

I told them I wouldn’t be able to come because I already had plans. Now they expect me to cancel or move everything for the party.

AITAH for refusing to cancel my plans? And WIBTA if I told them their behavior toward my girlfriend is a big reason I’ve been distancing myself?

EDIT: the two friends are 23-24 im 26, my gf is 23

one last update that i remembered just now, so a couple days back they (the 2 friends) invited for a dinner outing and i agreed to it. later they said it is cancelled and i got to know they went by themselves.

So in my close friend group there are 3 guys including me. Two of us are in relationships, one is single and his birthday is coming up.

For context: on my birthday, my girlfriend planned a surprise for me and invited some of my friends, including one guy from this group. The other friend was out of the country, but she still kept him in the group chat so he wouldn’t feel left out. She arranged the whole thing herself.

Ever since I got into a relationship, my friends have made it pretty clear they don’t like my girlfriend. Their main issue is that they think she’s “taking me away from them” because I don’t hang out with them as much as I used to when I was single. But their expectation is basically that I should meet them every single day. I still meet them around twice a week, which apparently isn’t enough.

They also keep saying I’ve “changed.” Before, I was kind of aimless and goofy. Now I have a stable job, clearer priorities, and I’m more focused on my future.

There was also an incident where one of these friends had surgery, and my girlfriend went with me to visit him. Later I found out he insulted her by asking how much she earns and then laughing at her answer. He’s unemployed and lives off his parents, so that rubbed me the wrong way even more.

My girlfriend has never actually fought with them or disrespected them. She obviously doesn’t like them now, but she’s stayed civil the whole time. Meanwhile they constantly make comments about how my relationship affects the friendship. One time while I was literally on a trip with them, they started taunting me for planning a separate trip with my girlfriend.

Now one of them invited me to his birthday party this weekend. He invited the other friend and that friend’s girlfriend too. The problem is I already had plans with my girlfriend for the same weekend — bookings were made a month ago, and they only invited me today.

I said I wouldn’t be able to make it because I already had plans. Now they expect me to cancel or move everything for the birthday party.

AIO for not going? And should I tell them the real reason why I’m distancing myself a bit?

EDIT: the two friends are 23-24 im 26, my gf is 23

one last update that i remembered just now, so a couple days back they (the 2 friends) invited for a dinner outing and i agreed to it. later they said it is cancelled and i got to know they went by themselves.

will ios 27 come in the next beta update once 26.5 is released publicly?