u/gorinlaz

I'm coming back to uni this September and I'm moving into a house. I am stealth in front of everyone in the house and I haven't come out to any of my family.

The question is, I'm not sure how to navigate moving all my stuff in, especially the mix of friends (who I am a man to) and my parents (who I am a woman to).

My mum calls me a masc nickname which is slightly derivative of my preferred name, but my preferred name is distinctly masculine so if my friends call me my preferred name I am slightly fucked but I also want to come out to neither of them. It's more important to me not to come out to my friends, but ideally neither.

The reticence to come out to my family comes more from an aversion to hard conversations than it is to safety.

If anyone has any advice please let me know 👀

With my family, I'm not out and with where my birthday lies in the year, I never really celebrate with friends.

I absolutely dread it. It's not like I don't like the attention either. It just feels like it's directed at the wrong 'person'. I'm so far removed from myself pretransition that the name barely rings any bells. Just everything's addressed to someone who's not myself.

One of my housemates is Indonesian and we love baking together. I've been doing God's work for the UK tourist board with what I've shown her so far, but we haven't really made anything fitting to the weather yet.

I'm a pretty good baker, she's more inexperienced, but we don't have a lot of baking supplies and I don't really have the money to buy more.

I was just looking for recommendations of what to make (preferably something fruity and with lots of steps to keep us busy) so thanks in advance!

In a few months, I shall be a quiz master for my quiz society for an event. I read often and I can read aloud pretty alright, but it's slow. I want to read quickly and clearly, as that is very vital for the event.

If I try and read quickly now, I slur my words a lot and unfamiliar/uncommon words get completely mispronounced.

My housemate was in a mild car accident just outside the flat (not too terribly mind, looked far worse than it was) and she was rather shaken up. I saw it and immediately put the kettle on, as I've been taught by mother dearest.

I was just thinking now, is tea something that genuinely helps, or are we just British and put the kettle on in any situation on instinct?

My mum's only got one month left in her flat and still hasn't found a place to live (small salary). I'm trying to help her find places to live that are a reasonable drive to Stonehouse that are under £900 a month. I don't really know a lot about looking for flats as a busy uni student, but if anyone has any suggestions, please let me know!

I don't mean to post this for sympathy or anything, I just want to help her out.