u/guessbeforeitends

Long story short, we’ve had a pretty unfulfilling sex life for the last couple years. I asked for more intimacy and if there was anything we could talk about that might be in the way. He said no. Just that “he didn’t need it as much as I did”. When we do have sex maybe once a week, it feels like I always have to perform, wear outfits that were playing into kinks, recently he said he wants me to wear wigs. He never did anything on his end. Always me putting on a fucking broadway show for him. I can never just be naked and him find me attractive. I asked if there was another person, porn (which we agreed before marriage was considered cheating and not to be part of our relationship) etc. He always denied. Fast forward to today, I found out he’s been watching extremely graphic porn for an entire year (so he says, probably more). I asked him why. He said “when we have dry spells. Or during your period. Or when you’ve not been up for it.” Mind you I initiate 90% of our scheduled sex because he’s not into impromptu sex and can’t get it up longer than 20 minutes and needs an hour to prepare. I don’t know what to trust. What to do. How can I ever trust him again.

Hi I was using my husbands iPad to type in “CHAT” to use chat gpt and the full http web address for chaturbate . Com came up. Does this mean he’s visited this website before or was it an autofill prediction. Please help me he’s coming home in an hour and I’m trying to have some answers before he gets back.

Im looking to get a product that helps with overall glow/discoloration and was thinking something with Vitamin C. I originally picked the Even Skin Tone Correcting Serum but both of these sound similar to each other (minus the fact that the Alto Adv Defense doesn’t have Vitamin C). Can you weigh in on different benefits and how they act differently before I drop the $$$? Thank you!

Im looking to get a product that helps with overall glow/discoloration and was thinking something with Vitamin C. I originally picked the Even Skin Tone Correcting Serum but both of these sound similar to each other (minus the fact that the Alto Adv Defense doesn’t have Vitamin C). Can you weigh in on different benefits and how they act differently before I drop the $$$? Thank you!

Hi everyone, I’m visiting from out of town and stupidly forgot all my film that I had just bought in order to bring on this trip. Does anyone know where I can buy some film stock? Would love to get my hands on portra 400 but at this point, I’m open to other options.

Hi, I am scheduled for a PCA Ultra Peel tomorrow and last night I stupidly forgot to not use my Dr. Dennis Gross 2% salicylic acid on the spot treatment. I kinda just run it over my congested spots which is cheekbones, jaw, and a few individual problem areas on forehead.

Do I need to cancel my chemical peel? It will be about 42 hours since using by the time my chem peel starts. I am also scheduled for a dermaplane. I do not want to ruin my skin barrier so I’d rather be safe than sorry.

In the last few months I’ve seen this wrinkle get more and more intense to where it now causes my makeup to basically sink into it which makes it more pronounced. How can I fix this? I’m open to Botox but would like to try different avenues before that.

Current AM Routine:

Splash with water

Anua Rice Toner

Sulwhasoo First Care Activating Serum

DDG Blur + Repair moisturizer

La Roche Posay Anthelios SPF 60

PM:
Dodko oil cleanser

Caudalie Vinopure Clarifying gel cleanser

Paula’s Choice Liquid Exfoliant
Anua Rice Toner

Dr. Driss Major Fade hyper serum

DDG Retinol + Ferulic Intense Wrinkle Cream Every other night sans PC Liquid Exfoliant and Major Fade serum)
Or
DDG Blur Repair moisturizer

I have gotten 2 chemical peels in the last two months and am scheduled for the PCA Ultra Peel on Wednesday.

In the last few months I’ve seen this wrinkle get more and more intense to where it now causes my makeup to basically sink into it which makes it more pronounced. How can I fix this? I’m open to Botox but would like to try different avenues before that.

Current AM Routine:

Splash with water

Anua Rice Toner

Sulwhasoo First Care Activating Serum

DDG Blur + Repair moisturizer

La Roche Posay Anthelios SPF 60

PM:
Dodko oil cleanser

Caudalie Vinopure Clarifying gel cleanser

Paula’s Choice Liquid Exfoliant
Anua Rice Toner

Dr. Driss Major Fade hyper serum

DDG Retinol + Ferulic Intense Wrinkle Cream Every other night sans PC Liquid Exfoliant and Major Fade serum)
Or
DDG Blur Repair moisturizer

I have gotten 2 chemical peels in the last two months and am scheduled for the PCA Ultra Peel on Wednesday.

In the last few months I’ve seen this wrinkle get more and more intense to where it now causes my makeup to basically sink into it which makes it more pronounced. How can I fix this? I’m open to Botox but would like to try different avenues before that.

Current AM Routine:

Splash with water

Anua Rice Toner

Sulwhasoo First Care Activating Serum

DDG Blur + Repair moisturizer

La Roche Posay Anthelios SPF 60

PM:
Dodko oil cleanser

Caudalie Vinopure Clarifying gel cleanser

Paula’s Choice Liquid Exfoliant
Anua Rice Toner

Dr. Driss Major Fade hyper serum

DDG Retinol + Ferulic Intense Wrinkle Cream Every other night sans PC Liquid Exfoliant and Major Fade serum)
Or
DDG Blur Repair moisturizer

I have gotten 2 chemical peels in the last two months and am scheduled for the PCA Ultra Peel on Wednesday.

In the last few months I’ve seen this wrinkle get more and more intense to where it now causes my makeup to basically sink into it which makes it more pronounced. How can I fix this? I’m open to Botox but would like to try different avenues before that.

So this is my first introduction to what it’s like to have a spouse on tour. For context, he’s not in the band but he is in the crew. His schedule is pretty demanding and we have a bit of opposite hours right now and haven’t identified the most quality time to connect. So far there’s been a good amount of texting and a few phone calls, but I can tell that just small conversations here and there actually feel worse than not hearing from him til the end of the day because it all feels so insignificant. Lots of interruptions in those phone calls because people need the space he’s in or he’s needing to hop on and fix something.
This tour kind of came out of the blue and was offered to him while he has his full time job so I’m really not having a great time sorting through my feelings and all the decisions we need to make in what feels like a super short window of time.

He’s considering leaving his full time salaried job (that has health insurance) if they offer him the position so he can do the tour since he’s just on a 2 week test trial right now. The full tour is until beginning of September with about 30 tour dates (obviously not including travel days)

I currently work part time at a job that is soul sucking. We’ve talked about me finding a new job but as soon as this tour came up, it sounds more and more like I’m going have to take the full time position at this job so we can have a paycheck once the tour ends and maintain health insurance.

Financially, the tour breaks just above even with what he would make for the rest of the year at his current job. So I guess that’s okay but the job market is awful right now so I’m not too keen on the “I’ll look for freelance work / salary job once the tour is over.”

Emotionally, I’m having a hard time adjusting because of what feels like a lot of unknowns. Right now he’s on the road about 4 days out the week. We don’t have kids, just a dog. It’s not tough but it seems lonely. Please don’t be mean, I’m new at this lol. He’s traveled for work before, sometimes 2-3 weeks at a time but I guess since I knew it wasn’t a long term thing, I was more okay with it. This feels vastly different.

Technically, it’s just a 2 week trial right now. There’s nothing set but according to him, the manager has said it’s more than likely they’ll keep him on. So I’m trying to prepare.

We’ve been married for 4 years now. It feels like a lot and so little all at once. He has horrible work boundaries as it stands and I’ve been a little more lenient with it because he works mostly from home so when I get home from work, we are able to at least eat dinner or be in the same room while he works. We’ve had conversations about his boundaries needing to be better, which he’s admitted and agreed to, but as soon as we were making progress, this opportunity pops up and he just jumped.

He’s already talking about how they may need him to do tasks on his off days (after saying he would make sure we have time on his off days together) which would bring in more money but it just feels like he’s willing to let so much of our relationship go for what he’s said feels like his last chance at making “a real go” at what he does.

I project a lot of fear of being alone, lonely, and feeling left out. I don’t want to be this way, but there’s a lot of security not being provided in the moment. I knew when I married him that he was kind of always a free spirit/entrepreneur that just needs to go and run off and do a big thing sometimes, but I guess I thought that as we grew closer in our marriage, he would be, I don’t know, more concerned with how it affects us. His life already feels so much different than mine. We have friends that tour and I’ve talked to the wife on more than one occasion about the state of their relationship and it’s made me want to cry for her. They make it work but it is hard. My husband and i actually talked about not wanting that type of relationship but he seems to be having some sort of midlife career crisis that makes him feel like he needs to do this.

I don’t want him to resent me if he asks me “do you want me to go on this tour?” And I say no. But I also can’t lie.

Spouses/Partners, how do you make your life not feel like it’s at a standstill?

I appreciate any kind, insightful, and honest advice you can give. Mindsets, tips, ideas, feedback. Thank you.

Hi all,

I’ve been using mouth tape for just over a month (was sleeping with mouth open so I wanted to try taping) and ran out of tape maybe a week or so ago.

The night I ran out, I woke up that next morning with intense jaw pain on just my left side. At first I thought I had tetanus (lol) because it literally felt locked up and then as the morning progressed and I did some stretches, it went away for the most part. Still felt a little sore but mobility was back.

I used mouth tape the next night and woke up with the pain pretty much gone.

I thought this was weird so I did a test and went to sleep without it the following night. The pain was back and mobility was once again limited.

If I massage the inside of my mouth and jaw muscles it helps. There is clicking and feels like things shifting into place when I do that.

I’ve taken Advils and stretched to alleviate the stiffness throughout the day but I just dread waking up in the morning.

I am under a lot stress right now so I can’t completely rule out clenching as I do feel like my left side teeth, top and bottom, hurt and are sensitive from clenching potentially. No neck tension/pain. Just limited to where my jaw hinges.

I tried testing my range of motion with my jaw and when I push/jut my bottom row of teeth forward it feels similar to like a hyperextended muscle and there’s a quick flash of pain. Obviously not doing that again.

My big question is, did I ruin my jaw from mouth taping and cause it to set in a weird way?

Should I go to a TMJ specialist?

Would appreciate any and all tips, tricks and advice.