u/hadtochoosename

26f looking for a texting buddy

Just bored with my mundane routine and kinda tired from my day to day networking so I want to just be able to wind down through online socializing. I’m someone with a pretty boring life so I hate trivial questions like what’s up and how’s your day but other than that I’m a very consistent texter. Also if your messages read like wattpad stories pls don’t message me I’m too old for that thanks

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u/hadtochoosename — 2 days ago

[Routine Help] Tretinoin makes skin peel

I’ve been applying 0.025% tretinoin 2x a week for 3 months now, but my skin still peels. Like the following days I don’t apply tretinoin, if I rub my skin, white dead skin will come off and my makeup looks patchy. I do the sandwich method religiously because it worked great when I was using OTC retinols for 4 years. Do I need a better moisturizer? I use the Dr althea 345 moisturizer which works great by itself, but I’m thinking it might not be a good choice for sandwiching the tret. I have no other skin problems though.

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u/hadtochoosename — 4 days ago
▲ 2 r/cancer

Minoxidil while on chemo

Hello, I came across this subreddit while looking for an answer. I have 2 more doses (June and July) of my current chemo infusion left and was wondering if it’d be a good idea to start minoxidil now since it takes about 2-3 months for new hair to start growing from minoxidil application. So I thought since my hair is already falling from the chemo, I could also handle the initial shedding phase of minoxidil so that I can hopefully get some hair growth before getting bald spots or going completely bald (it’s happened before unfortunately and I didn’t have very positive experiences because of it). I’m sorry if it sounds insensitive but please respect my personal opinion on preserving as much of my hair as I can.

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u/hadtochoosename — 4 days ago

Unemployment while on dialysis

I've been unemployed since starting hemodialysis and it's been about 3 months. I'm fairly young (in my 20s) and didn't have much industry experience to begin with. Now that I go to the dialysis center 3 times a week and then also find myself needing a huge nap after every session, I just can't do anything for the entire day on these days.
Because of this, I can't imagine myself working for a while and finding a full/part time job in my industry is hard in itself without health issues. I feel like I'm wasting my life away but don't know what to do about it.

I currently get financial support from my family, but I can't keep doing that. I also don't feel productive at all, it seems like I don't do anything throughout the day. And before I even know it, it's night time again. I didn't even realize it's been 3 months already since all this started and it seems like l've done nothing throughout these 3 months. Just wake up, go to dialysis, nap, a little bit of whatever, then sleep again. I try to exercise now more and more to build my strength back. And yeah that’s all I really do. I will eventually start applying for jobs again, but the gap on my resume will get bigger and bigger at this rate.

What should I really do? What did going back to work look like for you? Also, how do you pass time and stay productive when you’re unemployed and going through health challenges? It’s one thing to be on a bit of a break and go back to normal life, but it’s another when you don’t know when this normal will start again, so you have too much time on your hands. I’m really not sure how I’m supposed to deal with myself. I don’t even know what my question is by posting this but hopefully someone can relate?

Edit: thanks for all the recommendations about SSDI. I am aware of it and have discussed with my social worker.

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u/hadtochoosename — 5 days ago

Pregnancy

What do pregnancy, labor, and early motherhood look and feel like for those with kidney disease and are on dialysis? Is it even okay to go for it? I know I should consult with my doctors beforehand if I ever plan to conceive but I’m just more curious if anyone was successful, and if so, how it felt compared to normal pregnancy and labor.

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u/hadtochoosename — 9 days ago
▲ 60 r/h1b

Going back home permanently

So I’ve been in the US for 8 years and finally decided to go back home. What should I do to wrap things up? What’s some things you wish you’d done before moving back? Can be anything from buying stuff to doing activities to opening/closing accounts erc. I really can’t think of much. I’ll be traveling to nearby cities for fun and will make some nice purchases, but that’s all I can think of. Any advice will be appreciated.

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u/hadtochoosename — 9 days ago

Going back home permanently

So I’ve been in the US for 8 years and finally decided to go back home. What should I do to wrap things up? What’s some things you wish you’d done before moving back? Can be anything from buying stuff to doing activities to opening/closing accounts erc. I really can’t think of much. I’ll be traveling to nearby cities for fun and will make some nice purchases, but that’s all I can think of. Any advice will be appreciated.

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u/hadtochoosename — 9 days ago
▲ 10 r/lupus

Lupus and social life (and relationship perhaps)

Those cheesy teen movies had me believing that I could find a support group or group therapy and make friends with them and potentially find the LOML amongst them with no struggle! Now seriously, how do you socialize? Here I am in my mid 20s, avoiding people more than I avoid the sun because of all the changes and trauma my body has gone through. Stretchmarks from rapid weight fluctuations, moonface from taking prednisone for months, thin hair from shedding for years, my crooked fingers from joint swelling, and so on and so forth. I know these are all insecurities that are mostly in my head but I just can’t help but feel like I’m unlovable. I mean finding someone who’d be willing to be with me knowing about my diagnosis is hard in itself, but all these physical insecurities just make it seem even more impossible.

I know it’ll be okay in the end, but I just wish I didn’t have to even think this way in the first place. I mean not just romantic relationships, I struggle with platonic friendships too. I barely have any friends, and living in a foreign country doesn’t help at all. I try to put myself out there as much as I can but it takes so much energy from an introverted person like me. At some point, I find myself having to explain myself to new friends and I’m just tired of this disease. Really grieving the life I could’ve lived without it.

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u/hadtochoosename — 12 days ago

My base looks flawless but when I touch my face to scratch or wipe off my sweat, my makeup just peels and my natural skin shows so I have a patch in that area. Is that normal? Am I not supposed to touch my face at all? Or is it about the products or application? Full disclosure, I don’t have any high end makeup products, I only use drug store makeup and it looks really good throughout the day as long as I don’t touch my face. How do I stop the peeling?

I use sunscreen, primer, foundation, liquid bronzer, liquid blush, powder bronzer, powder blush, setting powder, and setting spray.

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u/hadtochoosename — 20 days ago

Is it just me or does anyone else feel like the pace of the chorus of Almost is kind of off? Like he’s half a quarter note ahead of the tune or something? Now I’m not a music person but it just sounds kind of odd. Am I crazy? Any music people out there? It’s driving me crazy not that I’m bothered but I just can’t stop hearing it

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u/hadtochoosename — 20 days ago

Just found out about this coming up. Is this going to be actually her dancing or directed by her? Also never been to the Armstrong theater, how is the experience there?

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u/hadtochoosename — 21 days ago