u/hairyangeljabi

This is the first time I pack/fly by myself, so I apologize for this dumb question

I’m taking my favorite pillow with me and I’m going to try fitting it in my checked bag. It’s a king sized pillow but it’s really thin so it should fit in my bag without me having to force it in there, but is it possible scanners will flag it?

My family moved a couple months ago and I haven’t yet changed the address on my license. I don’t have job or pay bills (my parents pay them), so what forms of proof could I bring? Some sort of school records?

Sorry if this is stupid, I’m just really lost

Disclaimer: this is messy and unorganized. I wrote it in a moment of anger lol

I (19) have Lebanese parents. They divorced when I was young and I lived with my dad because my mom didn’t have the money to care for us.

My dad is — albeit being very hardworking for mine and my sisters sake — emotionally/mentally and sometimes physically abusive. You’d think for someone who claims he works hard for our sake that he‘d love and cherish his daughters instead of bringing them down any chance he gets.

Of course the house is expected to be cleaned and spotless at all times, especially because we’re all girls. I admit I wasn’t actively tidying stuff outside my bedroom up until I was 16/17.

My mom is (usually) my best friend. I call her when I can and catch up with her and tell her things my dad has said or done. The most infuriating part is that she always cuts me off to nitpick at something I did or didn’t do and try to parent me because she didn’t get the chance to raise me.

For context, I called her this morning to rant about how my dad tried mopping the kitchen the other night without vacuuming. I told him I’d do it in the morning since it’s not really cleaning if you’re mopping dirty floors. Of course he loses his mind and claims I’m “attacking” him. He claims he doesn’t want to be the kind of parent that bosses us around, telling us to clean up everything… yet that’s the reason why I started cleaning up more those years ago.

He’d come up from a long day of work and find dishes in the sink and lose his mind, so since then I’ve taken it upon myself to clean the entirety of the main living space before he comes home from work everyday. I even fold his clothes and put them away for him so he doesn’t have to after a long day of work. Now he claims he works like a donkey and does ALL the cleaning and we don’t do anything. All he does is clean the half bath on the main floor and wipe down the kitchen counters (usually right after I’ve already done it…)

I’m mid rant to my mom and she cuts me off to immediately mention how everything is washed, literally even the walls, back in the home country. All aunts/women in my dads life (who were literally stay at home wives) would spend their days cooking and cleaning every nook and cranny, and that that’s how my father was raised. So because HE was raised like that my sisters and I have to fill in the role of stay at home wife and make it our life to cook and clean for him.

I tried arguing that I DO clean. EVERYDAY. She just felt the need to keep repeating that he’s a man and shouldn’t have to clean, and that we as 4 daughters need to make sure everything’s spick and span. Apparently he shouldn’t even have to put away the food and snacks he eats. It’s not like he does anyway. Guess who puts that stuff away!

Ugh it was such a stupid story and she nitpicked on not even the “main” part. I don’t know why I don’t learn to keep my mouth shut and just not say anything to her.

I (19) am being added to my dad’s bank account. We just moved and my license still says my old address. I‘ve never had a job, so I’ve never received any pay stubs/bills through the mail. Are there any other forms of address verification I can bring? I only have a signed letter from a lawyer, but will they accept that?

Edit: I’m getting a job this summer. Please don’t comment on my age and tell me I shouldn’t be added to my dad’s account. That’s not what I came on here for.

I (19) am visiting my mom in a few weeks. I don’t really know the area well and I didn’t order her any flowers for Mother’s Day, so I’m planning on buying some when I’m there

What stores can I go to that sell nice flowers? Can be a grocery store or a flower shop, I’d just prefer some place that won’t charge me $75+ for an arrangement

Bonus if it’s in Chicopee/Ludlow because that’s all I’m really familiar with and I’m still kind of a new driver

I’ve seen people say a week and others say a month. Is it a week if I spend 10+ hours a day vs a month if I do a couple hours a day?

I registered for the class I just didn’t actually buy the subscription/access code. I’m wondering if the 6 week option is too little vs the 11 week option. I might just end up procrastinating with the latter, but idk I want to hear other opinions

I fell really behind in my asynchronous class because my depression got bad, and now I’ve failed it. I asked the processor for a chance to make assignments up and he gave me the green light.

I worked all day for so many days in a row on barely any sleep. I was literally so determined to pass the class.

Of course there were late point deductions, I was just stupid and didn’t ask. I assumed if I got what I could in that I’d pass. I even asked the professor for some reassurance and he say there was a high chance I would.

I worked 18hours yesterday alone to get assignments done. He gave me a grace period until 6am (due date was Sunday midnight) and I used it all.

I was so excited to sleep because I was so exhausted and put in so much effort into my work.

I woke up to a still failing grade. I’m not even sure the professor “actually“ grades the work. I think it’s just completion based.

I did what I could until 6am in hopes that I could pass. There are assignments I still had left that I felt guilty of not getting done when I went to bed. I could have quickly BSed those assignments and likely still gotten credit. All the single assignments I worked hours on didn’t even have to take that long.

My heart hurts and feels like it wants to jump out of my throat. I’ve barely opened my eyes and I’m still so exhausted it literally hurts to cry. I don’t know what to do. I burnt myself out for this stupid class.

I’ve been wearing glasses for a little over a year. I was told beforehand that I’d get headaches while I adjusted to them, but even now I can’t comfortably wear them. I constantly have to take Tylenol and that still doesn’t help.

I only wear them in school or while driving at night. If I attempt to go without wearing them in school I can feel a headache form in a few minutes, and even when I put them on it makes that small headache worse.

I have oily skin, so I’m always readjusting my glasses. I feel like this might be the problem since the headache always starts in the bridge of my nose.

What do I do? The glasses already have nose pads so I’m not sure what else I could do.

Edit: prescription

Left eye is -1.75, right is -1.25. Astigmatism in both

I (19) have absolutely no routine. I hate that I can’t get into one. I can very easily keep my physical space organized, but when it comes to a routine I can’t stick to one

I always convince myself I’m going to do xyz “tomorrow,” but then tomorrow comes around and I don’t get out of bed until noon or later. Then I just feel as though I’ve wasted my day and I don’t want to go through with my plans

It makes school so difficult for me. I can barely force myself to open my laptop, let alone study and get my assignments done

My parents never raised me teaching me the importance of a routine, but now I’m really wishing they did. Why is this so hard??

I (19F) have always had trouble with sleep. I can only sleep with a pillowcase to my lips, and if not, I’m up for hours. My mom said I did this when I was a baby, and that even before I relied on this pillowcase, I refused to sleep and nap when she tried putting me down.

I was 12/13 when COVID started. That’s when I remember my habit of napping starting. I was also depressed (undiagnosed) and never had any motivation to do anything. Even after lockdown and I went back to school in person, I was still napping all the time after school or sports.

Now that I’m in college, I’ve chosen to primarily take online classes. I get so exhausted just driving to school (35-40 minutes) that I struggle to focus in class. If I force myself to then I get terrible headaches.

But because I’m still depressed and home all the time, I never leave my bed. I try to force myself out of bed an hour after I’ve woken up to make myself a coffee and some breakfast, but even with the coffee I always find myself napping a couple hours later. Some occasions my sister will make me go out on a walk with her and I still never have any energy. I always come home and find my way back into bed.

I hardly take myself out or make plans with friends because my social battery drains so fast. I get so sluggish and terrible headaches form behind my eyes.

I don't know what to do. My mental health is so absolutely crap right now. There's three weeks left. It's an asynchronous class I haven't been keeping up with and I'm missing a shit ton of work. I don't know how incompletes work, but can I make them all up over the summer if I ask the professor or is it limited to only a few assignments?