u/hyoongaul

Hi! I am in an Long distance relationship since 7 months, we're never mets planning to meet next month... We had a few hardships in relationships recently (because of external factors no trust breaking/infidelity/lack of boundaries/losing of interest involved). But we somehow persevered. I was literally imagining a future with him.

But these days I dont know why but i have a bad gut feeling even when i know nothing is wrong and i have always since about 3 weeks seeing 13 number a lot... Like time gaps in messages, like missing him being online just by 13 minutes and whenever he says something sweet and I'm blushing and suddenly look at clock or phone clock it's always (some hour number):13 mostly... what does it signifies? Bad luck? And coincidence is that i thought this synchronicity today (Friday)... What does it really mean.

Although neither of us belong to western culture and we both are not christians can anyone tell what it means?

myquals:12thpassed(95%)

same as title.

edit: parents are finanicially effluent enough to bear management quota fees.

same as title, ALSO, WHEN ARE THEY STARTING THE SESSION?!

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TLDR: I sent an impulsive message to my boyfriend out of insecurity saying that him following a girl was making me uncomfortable, he was understanding and reassuring, but i'm really feeling bad and guilty for having suspicions upon him, even tho he's a good guy. I need advice how to fix my insecurities and not ruin my good relationship.

Hi! I [20F] am really behaving insecure and childish and adamant in my relationship since last week because of a large communication gap and no contact between my boyfriend [22M]for like 4 days because of my parents' interference, they found out my chats with him and my mother broke my phone (i still don't have a phone, using PC).

We are both nevermets upto now, we met online in jan this year and started dating in february and we're planning to meet the next month in august. In starting, the initial 4 months we vibed well, initially i was a bit insecure (because of a bad relationship in past and past persistent bullying in school.). But gradually as the days passed, i became secure in my attachment with him because he was very transparent with me and a matured and honest person too.

All was going fine until june starting, when my parents and my sibling found out our chats and my phone was smashed away in anger. My parents are still saying that they won't give me a phone until i move out for college in august. I informed him via my laptop that day at night about my situation and told him that i'll go to non contact for may be months as my parents took my laptop shortly afterwards too... But then after 4 days i figured out some other method to contact him via my relative's laptop bcuz i didnt wanted to lose him at any cost.

We started chatting daily again... but not for 5-7 hours like before, just 1 hour bcuz i was afraid of getting caught or else my only digital device would also have been snatched away. It was this time i had developed insecurity that he will leave me. In the past he told me that he had dated 8 girls upto now, so initially i had some retroactive jealousy when he discussed abt his previous relationships (in a healthy way, not comparative one.) and this rough patch of time when i knew i wasn't available for him much amplified my fear of abandonment and stupid insecurities.

Last week on monday i saw that he's following a girl and she's following him too, i got panicked, insecure and suspicious, mon tues that week i somehow suppressed my urge to bring that topic to him as i rightly thought that would be a really toxic move from my side and would lead to misunderstandings within us. On wednesday last week i sent him a LONG LONG message indirectly hinting him to unfollow her in a nutshell that message said "i'm sorry that i'm not able to give u enough time these days, but please tell me if u ever change ur mind during this period. And please maintain boundaries with whoever u chat." To this, he replied in the most sensible way and offered me reassurance and he promised me that there would be no third party between us. I said sorry to him and said that "i wont REPEAT the MISTAKE".

And still despite all his efforts, i was even more insecure af , i didnt mentioned anything to him until this wednesday i.e. today when i was overthinking A LOT about that thing, i just sent a small text with the intention of just letting out my frustration and deleting it within seconds, the text was "i am feeling really uncomfortable but as soon as i sent that text, he suddenly came online and saw it, i unsended it quickly, but it was too late, he replied that she's his frnd and like a sister to him and they both just chatted about their careers and studies, he said that he had blocked all the sus women he used to chat with a long time ago when we started dating and he wants to be just be with me. And he said me politely to not accelerate this or misunderstandings will prevail.

I am feeling very guilty about thinking bad about my such a good boyfriend, now i see that the problems are within me and i shall work through it, also i repeated my mistake despite assuring him earlier that i wont do it again, that makes me feel that may be i will hurt him and ruin his life more if i don't change. I really love him a lot, and i care for him even more after today's incident. Its such a blessing that i got such a good guy but i ended up suspecting him, now i just want him to be happy and be the best partner for him, if my mental state prohibits my healthy functioning in a relationship and i end up hurting him even more (which i don't want at any cost), i'd myself ask him to let me go if he wants and find someone who loves him more and also doesn't inflict pain upon him like i did. But that would b a hard pill for me to swallow.

i need advice as to how to handle this situation, work upon myself and to patch up my relationship and most importantly be secure in a good relationship (if it continues)...

TLDR: I sent an impulsive message to my boyfriend out of insecurity saying that him following a girl was making me uncomfortable, he was understanding and reassuring, but i'm really feeling bad and guilty for having suspicions upon him, even tho he's a good guy. I need advice how to fix my insecurities and not ruin my good relationship.

Hi! I [20F] am really behaving insecure and childish and adamant in my relationship since last week because of a large communication gap and no contact between my boyfriend [22M]for like 4 days because of my parents' interference, they found out my chats with him and my mother broke my phone (i still don't have a phone, using PC).

We are both nevermets upto now, we met online in jan this year and started dating in february and we're planning to meet the next month in august. In starting, the initial 4 months we vibed well, initially i was a bit insecure (because of a bad relationship in past and past persistent bullying in school.). But gradually as the days passed, i became secure in my attachment with him because he was very transparent with me and a matured and honest person too.

All was going fine until june starting, when my parents and my sibling found out our chats and my phone was smashed away in anger. My parents are still saying that they won't give me a phone until i move out for college in august. I informed him via my laptop that day at night about my situation and told him that i'll go to non contact for may be months as my parents took my laptop shortly afterwards too... But then after 4 days i figured out some other method to contact him via my relative's laptop bcuz i didnt wanted to lose him at any cost.

We started chatting daily again... but not for 5-7 hours like before, just 1 hour bcuz i was afraid of getting caught or else my only digital device would also have been snatched away. It was this time i had developed insecurity that he will leave me. In the past he told me that he had dated 8 girls upto now, so initially i had some retroactive jealousy when he discussed abt his previous relationships (in a healthy way, not comparative one.) and this rough patch of time when i knew i wasn't available for him much amplified my fear of abandonment and stupid insecurities.

Last week on monday i saw that he's following a girl and she's following him too, i got panicked, insecure and suspicious, mon tues that week i somehow suppressed my urge to bring that topic to him as i rightly thought that would be a really toxic move from my side and would lead to misunderstandings within us. On wednesday last week i sent him a LONG LONG message indirectly hinting him to unfollow her in a nutshell that message said "i'm sorry that i'm not able to give u enough time these days, but please tell me if u ever change ur mind during this period. And please maintain boundaries with whoever u chat." To this, he replied in the most sensible way and offered me reassurance and he promised me that there would be no third party between us. I said sorry to him and said that "i wont REPEAT the MISTAKE".

And still despite all his efforts, i was even more insecure af , i didnt mentioned anything to him until this wednesday i.e. today when i was overthinking A LOT about that thing, i just sent a small text with the intention of just letting out my frustration and deleting it within seconds, the text was "i am feeling really uncomfortable but as soon as i sent that text, he suddenly came online and saw it, i unsended it quickly, but it was too late, he replied that she's his frnd and like a sister to him and they both just chatted about their careers and studies, he said that he had blocked all the sus women he used to chat with a long time ago when we started dating and he wants to be just be with me. And he said me politely to not accelerate this or misunderstandings will prevail.

I am feeling very guilty about thinking bad about my such a good boyfriend, now i see that the problems are within me and i shall work through it, also i repeated my mistake despite assuring him earlier that i wont do it again, that makes me feel that may be i will hurt him and ruin his life more if i don't change. I really love him a lot, and i care for him even more after today's incident. Its such a blessing that i got such a good guy but i ended up suspecting him, now i just want him to be happy and be the best partner for him, if my mental state prohibits my healthy functioning in a relationship and i end up hurting him even more (which i don't want at any cost), i'd myself ask him to let me go if he wants and find someone who loves him more and also doesn't inflict pain upon him like i did. But that would b a hard pill for me to swallow...

i need advice as to how to handle this situation, work upon myself and to patch up my relationship. tbh i'll do anything to improve myself for him

sorry for bad english.

Hi! i'm in ldr with a guy since 5 months, we are nevermets but we are planning to meet in august. We both vibe well and understand each other. But lately because of some circumstance i am not able to chat with him regularly, with that bein said, i think he is falling out of love with me because i noticed that unlike previous times when i was available, he started following a girl on insta, who is an aspiring content creator and she follows him back too.

Initially, when i met him on reddit and we got into a relationship, i had ample of time to be online as i was enrolled in some course and in between studies, we were given 2 hrs break in total, so i chatted with him. But then my course ended and i am at home since march, will enroll in college in august. I have really strict parents and a vigilant sister, who care for me and are concerned for my online wellbeing and used to strictly monitor my online activities. They used to observe me when i sneakily used to chat with my bf, they warned me not to do it and later on get married in arrange setup/ be single later on. I didn't paid much heed to them whatsoever but one day, my sister caught me chatting with him red handed, she called my mother and my mom then scolded me and smashed my phone. She told me that she will buy me a new phone when i will join college in august. I planned to contact him again via laptop but i knew that insta sometimes doesnt gets logged in on desktop version, so i made a discord id just for contacting him that day itself.

After that i contacted my boyfriend via my laptop, two three times i got caught chatting on laptop by my parents, so it was siezed too. I told him everything , communicated with him openly about my situation and i apologised beforehand to him that i won't be available much, now i contact him via my uncle's laptop. I really miss him the whole day, we chat for like only 1 hour in morning, when no one is at my home. Sometimes i personally felt That i'm making him wait for too long and i'm guilty about it, whenever possible besides in mornings too, i try to be available online for him whenever i'm free while making sure that i don't get caught again . I really love him and i wish that when things will get normal for him i'll be available for him always but because of these circumstances, i somehow feel that most probably i'm not being enough for him and i can't be with him when he needs me the most. He earlier showed great improvement that he himself unfollowed and stopped chatting to all girls except me on insta without me telling him.

One day my account got suspended from insta, other day i recovered it and messaged him that my account was suspended, then i told him that i don't wanna lose him so i told him let's add each other on discord in case my insta doesnt logs in, and i told him that i made that id just to not lose contact with him. I think that had made himthat i'm making him wait for too long and i'm guilty about it, whenever possible besides in mornings too, i try to be available online for him whenever i'm free while making sure that i don't get caught again . I really love him and i wish that when things will get normal for him i'll be available for him always but because of these circumstances, i somehow feel that most probably i'm not being enough for him and i can't be with him when he needs me the most. He earlier showed great improvement that he himself unfollowed and stopped chatting to all girls except me on insta without me telling him.

One day my account got suspended from insta, other day i recovered it and messaged him that my account was suspended, then i told him that i don't wanna lose him so i told him let's add each other on discord in case my insta doesnt logs in, and i told him that i made that id just to not lose contact with him. I think that had made him think that i chatted on discord with other guys too, but in reality i just made that id to not lose contact with him.

I can't lose him and i don't wanna control him and make him feel suffocated by my possesive behaviour, but yeah i accept that him following other girl who is an aspiring beauty influencer and her following him back seriously makes me uncomfortable and insecure,. I haven't discussed with him about this yet, i don't know what to do and somewhere i know it's my fault and my irregularity which has led to this.

I need advice as to how to approach this situation and communicate with him and also how to stop being insecure about it.

Hi! i'm in ldr with a guy since 5 months, we are nevermets but we are planning to meet in august. We both vibe well and understand each other. But lately because of some circumstance i am not able to chat with him regularly, with that bein said, i think he is falling out of love with me because i noticed that unlike previous times when i was available, he started following a girl on insta, who is an aspiring content creator and she follows him back too.

Initially, when i met him on reddit and we got into a relationship, i had ample of time to be online as i was enrolled in some course and in between studies, we were given 2 hrs break in total, so i chatted with him. But then my course ended and i am at home since march, will enroll in college in august. I have really strict parents and a vigilant sister, who care for me and are concerned for my online wellbeing and used to strictly monitor my online activities. They used to observe me when i sneakily used to chat with my bf, they warned me not to do it and later on get married in arrange setup/ be single later on. I didn't paid much heed to them whatsoever but one day, my sister caught me chatting with him red handed, she called my mother and my mom then scolded me and smashed my phone. She told me that she will buy me a new phone when i will join college in august. I planned to contact him again via laptop but i knew that insta sometimes doesnt gets logged in on desktop version, so i made a discord id just for contacting him that day itself.

After that i contacted my boyfriend via my laptop, two three times i got caught chatting on laptop by my parents, so it was siezed too. I told him everything , communicated with him openly about my situation and i apologised beforehand to him that i won't be available much, now i contact him via my uncle's laptop. I really miss him the whole day, we chat for like only 1 hour in morning, when no one is at my home. Sometimes i personally felt that i'm making him wait for too long and i'm guilty about it, whenever possible besides in mornings too, i try to be available online for him whenever i'm free while making sure that i don't get caught again . I really love him and i wish that when things will get normal for him i'll be available for him always but because of these circumstances, i somehow feel that most probably i'm not being enough for him and i can't be with him when he needs me the most. He earlier showed great improvement that he himself unfollowed and stopped chatting to all girls except me on insta without me telling him.

One day my account got suspended from insta, other day i recovered it and messaged him that my account was suspended, then i told him that i don't wanna lose him so i told him let's add each other on discord in case my insta doesnt logs in, and i told him that i made that id just to not lose contact with him. I think that had made him think that i chatted on discord with other guys too, but in reality i just made that id to not lose contact with him.

I can't lose him and i don't wanna control him and make him feel suffocated by my possesive behaviour, but yeah i accept that him following other girl who is an aspiring beauty influencer and her following him back seriously makes me uncomfortable and insecure,. I haven't discussed with him about this yet, i don't know what to do and somewhere i know it's my fault and my irregularity which has led to this.

I need advice as to how to approach this situation and communicate with him and also how to stop being insecure about it.

Hi! i'm in ldr with a guy since 5 months, we are nevermets but we are planning to meet in august. We both vibe well and understand each other. But lately because of some circumstance i am not able to chat with him regularly, with that bein said, i think he is falling out of love with me because i noticed that unlike previous times when i was available, he started following a girl on insta, who is an aspiring content creator and she follows him back too.

Initially, when i met him on reddit and we got into a relationship, i had ample of time to be online as i was enrolled in some course and in between studies, we were given 2 hrs break in total, so i chatted with him. But then my course ended and i am at home since march, will enroll in college in august. I have really strict parents and a vigilant sister, who care for me and are concerned for my online wellbeing and used to strictly monitor my online activities. They used to observe me when i sneakily used to chat with my bf, they warned me not to do it and later on get married in arrange setup/ be single later on. I didn't paid much heed to them whatsoever but one day, my sister caught me chatting with him red handed, she called my mother and my mom then scolded me and smashed my phone. She told me that she will buy me a new phone when i will join college in august. I planned to contact him again via laptop but i knew that insta sometimes doesnt gets logged in on desktop version, so i made a discord id just for contacting him that day itself.

After that i contacted my boyfriend via my laptop, two three times i got caught chatting on laptop by my parents, so it was siezed too. I told him everything , communicated with him openly about my situation and i apologised beforehand to him that i won't be available much, now i contact him via my uncle's laptop. I really miss him the whole day, we chat for like only 1 hour in morning, when no one is at my home. Sometimes i personally felt that i'm making him wait for too long and i'm guilty about it, whenever possible besides in mornings too, i try to be available online for him whenever i'm free while making sure that i don't get caught again . I really love him and i wish that when things will get normal for him i'll be available for him always but because of these circumstances, i somehow feel that most probably i'm not being enough for him and i can't be with him when he needs me the most. He earlier showed great improvement that he himself unfollowed and stopped chatting to all girls except me on insta without me telling him.

One day my account got suspended from insta, other day i recovered it and messaged him that my account was suspended, then i told him that i don't wanna lose him so i told him let's add each other on discord in case my insta doesnt logs in, and i told him that i made that id just to not lose contact with him. I think that had made him think that i chatted on discord with other guys too, but in reality i just made that id to not lose contact with him.

I can't lose him and i don't wanna control him and make him feel suffocated by my possesive behaviour, but yeah i accept that him following other girl who is an aspiring beauty influencer and her following him back seriously makes me uncomfortable and insecure,. I haven't discussed with him about this yet, i don't know what to do and somewhere i know it's my fault and my irregularity which has led to this.

I need advice as to how to approach this situation and communicate with him and also how to stop being insecure about it.

(Repost) because had to delete the earlier post

Hi i am in a long distance relationship with a guy. I am not in college yet, I'll go to college in August this year. we are also nevermets and will meet this year in September. All was going well until a few days ago my mother and my sister found out my chats with him in my phone . She asked me to break up asap with him when i refused she broke my phone. So posting from laptop.

We both vibed well and understood each other, i did not want to lose him at any cost. So i didn't even thought of breaking up with him even once and next day contacted him via my laptop and told him everything. But then while chatting with him on laptop too, i got caught twice by my sister... today too...

I told him all that and also i had earlier conveyed to him that im sorry that i couldn't give him much time because of these reasons. He said that he was okay with it.

My family these days is hypervigilant for me and constantly getting concerned about me. I wanna regain their trust, so i considered my boyfriend's suggestion of taking a break, he was saying that he will wait till August, but i want it to cut it short till 15 days or 30 days ,i told him that this week I'll be offline because of my family's concern and I'll be online on Monday, and ill justtell him that upto what duration we have to be non contact. But still i feel bad and guilty about leaving my boyfriend for 15 -30 days , also because of my trust issues , i am kinda afraid to lose him, im afraid of any third party involvement during that gap, and im really afraid that what if after that duration he becomes distant from me or uninterested in me.

Also i myself believe that either there is contant communication in a relationship , especially LDR, or there is breakup. Also i don't wanna leave him trapped in an emotional limbo, at some point, although I'm very much attached to him , i feel like im holding him back ...

What should i do? If i should take a break how to approach it and convey to him all my thoughts and concerns about it?

Hi! I am 18 year old female, i graduated out of my high school last year in April, but in 2025, i did not enroll into college yet because as my parents told me , I took a drop year for clearing some national level exam that would have eventually led me into a prestigious medical college in my country. I was always called a gifted child, performed well in academics, but I had always been the black sheep in my school settings and among my peers, have been bullied and ostracized too. My parents never made me upset, although they were strict, but that was for my betterment. They had high expectations from me and saw the potential in me. I had always been pampered since childhood. There is nothing (upto now) which I had demanded from them and did not got. They fulfilled each and every wish of mine. I am thankful that they did this for me, and they paid a huge amount of money last year for my coaching (cream school) for the preparation of my pre medical exam.

I had many setbacks in my highschool, which neither me nor my parents were sure that i would overcome , i overcame it somehow with 90% of my hardwork and 10% luck. I was very diligent student. But in 2025, i completely wasted my life, my potential, shattered my parent's dreams, their aspirations, their trust in me , and detoriated their mental health completely because of my selfishness and stupidity. I joined some random chat site because i felt lonely ( I was not allowed to use social media apps by my parents because they were afraid that i would get spoiled, so i secretly made an account on some random chatting website),and then from there, my downfall started.

I chatted with many stranger guys, did risky and disgusting things, shared sensitive information online , i have never ever been loved by a guy, got no male attention in school,(which was a good thing, but i became so desperate, i was stupid) even got body shamed. I literally became addicted to male gaze and I lost all of the good values and modesty of mine just because I wanted a boyfriend. I got used , although thank God i never did anything irl, but yeah i wasted a lot of time, started skipping classes, my academics ruined day by day, i got marks in literally NEGATIVE integers.

Eventually my parents became more vigilant in my online activities and found out all that nasty things which I did, but i became such a despisable monster for them that i didn't stop there , i continued and continued, upto the point where my younger sister who is five years younger than me, had to look after me and scold me. Now i think that I was literally such a b*stard to have ruined my parents hope and did mental ruin to my innocent sister.

I gave two entrance exam, fucked them both, one paper got cancelled on a nationwide level, which re exam is about 20 days from now. I completely lost the motivation of studying and I had literally turned into an online ho, my parents cried, begged me not to do it, i did it....

Now i feel guilty upto the core, i wanna make my parents feel proud and make my life better. I know i deserve all the hate but I can't sit with this guilt so I posted it online.