u/in-her-element

Hey all,

I’ve been working as an admin at a boutique financial firm in NYC for the past two years. When I started, I was very upfront that I wanted to build longevity in the role. Obviously, I know that can never be guaranteed, but genuinely, that was my goal.

This week, I got a pretty strong hunch that they’re hiring to replace me. I’ve seen communication and calendar invites between my boss and the recruiter who originally hired me, along with a job description that appears to be essentially my exact role, but for about $30K less.

I’m really, really bummed, but at this point, I also feel like the evidence is pretty clear. My suspicion is that they may be waiting for me to finish a big project that’s about to wrap up and then let me go, potentially as soon as next week. Obviously, I don’t know that for sure.

I’ve already started putting out resumes, but I’m wondering if I should also get ahead of this and schedule a check-in with my boss. Not in an accusatory way, but maybe just ask if there’s anything I could be doing better or improving on. Part of me thinks that if there’s something I can fix, I’d really like the opportunity to do it before they make a decision. Of course, I realize having that conversation could also potentially speed things up.

I’m just really, really sad. I wanted this job to be long-term, and I honestly can’t afford another job search right now. I’ve already had several jumps on my resume for reasons that weren’t always within my control, and the idea of having to start over again is incredibly disheartening.

What would you do? Would you have the conversation and try to get ahead of it, or keep your head down, continue job searching, and see what happens?
Thank you.

Hey y’all, I have reason to believe my firm is hiring for my role, and honestly, I’m pretty sad and bummed about it.

I’ve been with the firm for two years, and I haven’t received any bad performance reviews or any straightforward feedback that would make me think my job is at risk. That said, I also don’t necessarily think this is the kind of firm that would give you a lot of warning or have a very direct conversation about something like this.

At this point, it seems pretty obvious, and I’m wondering if I should get ahead of it. Would you ask your boss directly about it if you had reason to believe they were hiring for your position? Part of me thinks I should ask, not in an accusatory way, but more along the lines of: Wanting to check in, is there anything I should be doing differently? Is there anything I need to improve? What can I do to make sure I’m the person they want to keep?

I’d much rather have an honest conversation and know where I stand than sit here and speculate. And if there are things I need to improve, I’d genuinely like the opportunity to work on them.

I also can’t help feeling hurt that they may have started looking externally instead of talking to me first. I’ve been here for two years and would have appreciated the chance to understand what wasn’t working and try to fix it.

What would you do? Would you ask directly and try to get ahead of it, or would you wait and see what happens? Thank you. 🙏

Edit to add: We’re a pretty small firm, only 14 people, so this isn’t your standard large corporate environment where there might be a lot of layers around something like this.

Hi everyone, just checking in to see how the NYC Executive Assistant job market is right now.

I’m freaking out a little because it looks like I’m going to be laid off. To make matters worse, my company is hiring for essentially my role, but at around 40% less than what I currently make. I’m trying not to spiral, but I’m definitely nervous about having to get back into the job market.

I genuinely like what I do and have built a career as an EA, but my resume has a lot of short-lived positions at this point. Most of them weren’t really by choice, a lot came from company acquisitions, mergers, restructurings, etc., but I’m exhausted from having to explain all of the movement and then start the job search process over again.

Honestly, I’m frustrated and emotional about it. I could cry just thinking about having to go through interviews, applications, explaining my resume, and starting from scratch again.

For those currently hiring or job searching in NYC: how is the EA market right now?

I’m typically looking in the $120K–$130K range, ideally for a role where I can actually settle in and grow rather than having another short stint due to circumstances outside my control. Would really appreciate any insight, encouragement, or reality checks from people currently in the NYC EA market. Thank you

Looking for a fun spot to grab drinks after dinner tonight (Friday) around 9–10 p.m.

I’ve already seen a lot of the usual cocktail bar recommendations, but I’m specifically looking for somewhere with:
- A lively, social atmosphere
- A crowd that’s not too young (30s+ is ideal)
- A place where you can usually walk in and hang out at the bar without needing reservations or waiting an hour

We went to Oscar Wilde last night, so looking for something different. Any recommendations within a reasonable walk from the Ritz NoMad?

I always hear people say Summer Streets is one of the best things NYC has to offer, and I definitely appreciate the idea behind it. Was thinking of going to Park Ave this Saturday but the more videos I watch, the more it seems like it’s mostly for cyclists.

As someone who would just want to walk, is it actually enjoyable? Especially with kids. Or do you mostly end up feeling like you’re in the cyclists’ way? I don’t want to be an annoyance to them either. Curious what the experience is and what’s so fun about it if you don’t plan on riding on running

Giving away two tickets to Wyatt Waddell at Blue Note tonight at 8 PM. I got them through DoMoreNYC but can’t make it anymore.

DM me if you’re interested and I'll email them to you! I just ask that your message history is visible so I can see you’re a real person, or that you have some karma, or at least include more than two words in your message so I know you’re not a bot/fake account :)

Also, if anyone is generally interested in getting free tickets to events, my DoMore referral code is here. It gets me a free month, and you get one too!

Hi rockstars!

Any baby gift ideas for our attorney who just welcomed a newborn boy? I already have my usual list of go-to gifts, but the budget for this one is a little lower, around $75–100.

Thanks! 

I’ve been wondering if I’m just looking in the wrong places.

I genuinely enjoy going out. Not clubbing until 3 AM, but dinners, restaurant bars, lounges, happy hours, and places where people are actually social and open to talking to each other. I like being around people who are out enjoying life after work or on a Friday night.

What confuses me is that whenever I travel—to places like Chicago, Boston, Philadelphia, or DC—I can walk into the bar area of a good restaurant and see plenty of people in their 30s, 40s, and 50s having drinks, meeting friends, chatting, and generally having a good time. There seems to be a very visible professional social scene.

Back in NYC, I feel like I keep missing that crowd.

I spend plenty of time in Manhattan and Brooklyn, and I often feel like I run into one of three things: a very young crowd, hotel bars where a cocktail is $38, or nightlife that just isn’t really my speed anymore. Maybe I’m simply going to the wrong places.

To be clear, I’m not looking for dating advice, networking events, or organized activities. Those are all perfectly fine, but what I’m really curious about is where people casually go out. Where are the places where the 35–50 crowd is grabbing a drink, sitting at a restaurant bar, meeting friends, lingering for a few hours, and being social?

And please don’t tell me to leave NYC—I love New York and it’s home. That’s actually why I’m asking. There are millions of people here in this age range, so I assume this scene exists somewhere and I’ve just failed to find it.

Am I missing certain neighborhoods? Certain restaurant bars? Steakhouses? Lounges? Recurring spots?

Or is this one of those weird NYC things where everyone my age is somehow living in Rye or Connecticut?

At this point I’m half convinced we all need to pick a restaurant bar somewhere and collectively decide it’s our spot.

Someone I know was about to throw out two bags of toddler books in the garbage 😭 so I took them instead. I was planning to donate them to my local library, but it’s currently closed for renovations.

They’re all in good, used condition. Would love for them to go to someone with little ones or anyone who knows a place that could use them!

Let me know if you’re interested. I‘m by Astoria Blvd & Crescent