u/itzrrl

I (F18) have finally moved out of my household where my mom was an incredible narcissist who made my childhood terrible. My mom beat, verbally abused me, played victim, made me beg for her attention, and in my early teenage Years made it damn near impossible to live out my life. There were so many times where my friends invited me to hang out and I couldn't because my mom wouldn't let me. I missed out on so many opportunities to have fun because my mom would consistently say either I don't help or "I don't go out, no one takes me out so why are you".

This was so draining because the thing was I did help, I took care of my sisters kids, I was a free baby sitter and was made to feel that it was my responsibility because my sister also took care of me when I was younger. I missed out on a lot of opportunities to live my childhood because I had to stay home taking care of kids that weren't mine. I also always cleaned the house, I was told it was my responsibility and of course I understand that every child has chores but god, I fed 2 kids, had to still feed myself, I had to clean the house entirely, and god forbid I asked to go live my life.

Now to present tense I turned 18 and I always said to myself that when I was 18 I would move out. now I'm here and finally moved out after my mom tried forcing me to stay home when I was trying to go out, she said I wasn't coming back/ welcome back if I left. so I left. Now I live with my brother who lives with his wife family and oh my god. Ive never seen such a healthy family dynamic. There mom told me she always wants what's best for her kids and advocates for them to go out and live there life because if they don't they'll be 30 regretting not being able to do anything.

this was eye opening because it really was pure jealously from my mom. this was heart breaking but god I miss my family but I know if I go back I'm going to miss my future. I feel crazy because when I try to think to myself and justify what my mom's done to me and I can't seem to remember. I know she's hurt me a lot, I know she's said terrible things to me, but I can't recall. I don't know if it's all the trauma and Im repressing these memories. I have gotten messages from her since moving out and calls and she tries playing the victim saying she isn't the perfect mom I wanted and now I feel like she's trying to make me feel bad and I don't know if I'm overreacting, am I crazy, am I over thinking, am I to aware. what do I do.

I (F18) have finally moved out of my household where my mom was an incredible narcissist who made my childhood terrible. My mom beat, verbally abused me, played victim, made me beg for her attention, and in my early teenage Years made it damn near impossible to live out my life. There were so many times where my friends invited me to hang out and I couldn't because my mom wouldn't let me. I missed out on so many opportunities to have fun because my mom would consistently say either I don't help or "I don't go out, no one takes me out so why are you".

This was so draining because the thing was I did help, I took care of my sisters kids, I was a free baby sitter and was made to feel that it was my responsibility because my sister also took care of me when I was younger. I missed out on a lot of opportunities to live my childhood because I had to stay home taking care of kids that weren't mine. I also always cleaned the house, I was told it was my responsibility and of course I understand that every child has chores but god, I fed 2 kids, had to still feed myself, I had to clean the house entirely, and god forbid I asked to go live my life.

Now to present tense I turned 18 and I always said to myself that when I was 18 I would move out. now I'm here and finally moved out after my mom tried forcing me to stay home when I was trying to go out, she said I wasn't coming back/ welcome back if I left. so I left. Now I live with my brother who lives with his wife family and oh my god. Ive never seen such a healthy family dynamic. There mom told me she always wants what's best for her kids and advocates for them to go out and live there life because if they don't they'll be 30 regretting not being able to do anything.

this was eye opening because it really was pure jealously from my mom. this was heart breaking but god I miss my family but I know if I go back I'm going to miss my future. I feel crazy because when I try to think to myself and justify what my mom's done to me and I can't seem to remember. I know she's hurt me a lot, I know she's said terrible things to me, but I can't recall. I don't know if it's all the trauma and Im repressing these memories. I have gotten messages from her since moving out and calls and she tries playing the victim saying she isn't the perfect mom I wanted and now I feel like she's trying to make me feel bad and I don't know if I'm overreacting, am I crazy, am I over thinking, am I to aware. what do I do.

hello I (18f) have finally reached my wits end after an argument with my sister and mom. My mom has always been incredibly narcissistic and it kind of clicked that I have free will and don’t have to deal with this. Only problem is if I move out my mom would not let me have my car as it’s in her name. I have a job that pays me around 600-700 every 2 weeks which has made me financially independent and have not asked my parents for money in maybe a year. My FAFSA covers all my school so they can’t dangle that over me thankfully. my boyfriend of 4 years who lives with his brother has mentioned I could move in. I wouldn’t have to pay maybe more than 165 a month for a bill as I’d want to contribute. Also my boyfriend who has 2 cars has offered to let me use his car until I save for a car of my own but I’d pay its monthly payment of 180. since it’s summer I was planning on taking classes but if I go with this plan I would be out of a car and I’m to scared to take my boyfriends car to my campus that’s 40 mins away, I would hate to get in an accident and it be a whole thing. I don’t know if I’m being impulsive and maybe I should play the long game and stay here, suck it up and hopefully save enough to by my own car without the hassle. Is there anything I don’t know that I’m not accounting for when moving out. Advice needed.

I (f18) went to a rave with my friends while my bf (m20) was out of town. I let him know and everything but once he saw what I wore to the rave is when he started to almost degrade me.
I always see posts of women being controlled by their boyfriends and them not letting them wear certain stuff and I’ve always told myself id never let a man control what I wear and I told him that.
I said I didn’t get overly drunk and I wasn’t easily going when guys approached me but I will continue wearing what I want to wear.
This is where things began to spiral and he started arguing that I disrespected him by what I wore as it was for the “male gaze” , this really turned me off because what the fuck? I asked why he was arguing w me for guys looking at me. He later said that I went to this rave where people were dressed like sluts and that he was bewildered that I thought I was totally in the right. I genuinely could not believe this man I’ve been dating for 4 years was talking to me this way. Am I really in the wrong.

Edit: I wore a split hem halter top, black shorts, and some knee high boots. We started dating when i was 15 he was 16. 2 year age gap for those wondering.