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I am curious to know if anyone has any good suggestions on resorts in Cabo to have a destination wedding, and the approximate price for around 30 people (they are paying their stay).

I’m an Aries, and I recently proposed to my Libra lady—she said yes.

We’ve started planning our wedding, and despite having countless conversations throughout our relationship about our future together, we never really discussed in detail how we envisioned the wedding itself.

My family is small, while hers is huge. Even if my family were large, I know I’d still prefer something small and intimate. I have no issue inviting only the people who truly mean the most to us and having honest conversations if others are disappointed. I’m a fairly private person, and more importantly, I see our wedding as the beginning of our life together. I’d rather put our money toward building our future and starting a family than spend an enormous amount on a single day.

She, on the other hand, has been all over the map with what she wants. Part of that is simply her personality—she likes to weigh every option and find balance. Her culture also places a huge emphasis on large weddings. While there’s definitely a side of her that wants to do something different—whether that’s a destination wedding where attendance naturally stays smaller or even eloping—she also feels a genuine sense of obligation to invite extended family members she truly loves and values. I completely understand and respect that.

And yes, the Libra vanity is alive and well. Despite being quite private herself, I know there’s a part of her that would love to have everyone there celebrating her with eyes on her. She’s going to look absolutely stunning, and I can understand wanting to experience that surrounded by the all people she values.

Unfortunately, these conversations have started putting a strain on our relationship. We’ve been butting heads, and I’ll admit, it’s been freaking me out a little. This is the first major life decision where we’ve realized our instincts pull us in different directions.

I am trying to be patient and navigate the situation and not make the decision for her, but find a balance and determine what she truly wants out of her wedding…

Just proposed to my fiancée last week, and now we’re deep into wedding planning for next year.

One challenge we’re running into is the guest list. My family is quite small, so if I invited everyone I truly want there, I’d be around 50 people. My fiancée’s family is much larger—just her immediate aunts, uncles, and cousins puts her close to 100 guests, and that’s still leaving out a fair amount of extended family and friends.

We’ve talked about all kinds of options, from a destination wedding, to a smaller local wedding, to simply doing the wedding we want with the people we want there. I’m completely open to scaling my side down and keeping things intimate, but I also feel for her. Family events are a big deal in her family, and many relatives would gladly travel to Canada to celebrate with us.

For those who came from families of very different sizes, how did you handle the guest list? Did you try to keep numbers even, set a total cap, or just accept that one side would naturally be much larger than the other?

Also, for those who wanted to include a larger number of guests without breaking the bank, what did your wedding end up costing, how many guests did you have, and what were the biggest things you did to keep costs down while still making it feel like a special day?

One other thing we’re considering: while we’re not against having bridesmaids and groomsmen, we’re wondering if it would be odd to skip a wedding party altogether, even with a guest count in the 100–150 range. Part of it would be to keep costs and logistics down, but also because we want the day to be focused on us getting married rather than feeling obligated to follow every wedding tradition. Has anyone done this, and if so, did you regret it or were people generally supportive?

I am curious to know how the engagement and proposal process goes when a man decides to become official with his lady.

How is this process usually carried out in the Assyrian/Chaldean community, and has it westernized at all over time? For instance, if the parents meets, the man asks her parents for her hand in marriage, is it followed by a surprise proposal between just the two of them?