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I wish to seek opinions from fellow senior cat owners.

Had a long-distance call with my mom yesterday who updated me that my senior cat (16) vomitted and started to eat and drink much lesser since Saturday (it’s Wednesday now). He was diagnosed with renal CKD stage 3 last month and successfully went on a renal diet (Royal Canin) and was on miralax, high BP med, and a gut motility med for his health issues. He has been doing VERY well until Saturday, when he puked and started hiding, and didn’t want to eat much.

He apparently has high calcium in his blood. Could have been from a few issues, but currently I’m at a loss of how to proceed. Vet tells my mom to mentally prepare, and I am also doing the same, from a long distance away. I’m tense, and going through anticipatory grief. It seems like we cannot do much about it, and the vet gave my mom IV to administer to him, plus appetite stimulant meds. Simply to extend his life.

Are there any other things we can do? I read on Gemini Google that we can change his diet.. add fiber, something, to flush the calcium out.

If you know anything, please advise. I don’t want my cat to leave so soon, when I’m overseas and cannot hug and smell him before he does.

Thank you.

Hi fellow cat lovers! 🐱

I have a senior boy, 16 of age. He’s been well so far health-wise, but in recent weeks have been showing weird signs of what I’m assuming is constipation.

He would attempt to poo in his sandbox… a few gold bars fall out… then he’ll stop and find it hard to finish. He’s got more gold stuck inside. He gets into a weird sitting position in a corner, and proceeds to vomit, which helps him to clear out the remaining brownie… on the floor/on his chair. (I don’t mind any of these, but I worry about him having to use this vomiting method each time he needs to clear logs from constipation).

These constipation episodes happen maybe 50% these days. The other 50% of time he’s fine, smooth drops. I hold my breath each time when I see him poo.. not because it’s smelly, but I worry about recurrences.

He’s otherwise completely fine, eating, drinking, sleeping well. We have been transitioning him to wet can food for 2 times a day, and if he’s hungry still, he goes to his kibbles. We sometimes give him belly massages in hopes it helps..😆

I read that vets might be able to give him laxative, but this boy is smart. He can taste what isn’t real food, and he’d reject it.

Anyone has had experiences with such before and managed to navigate it? My poor little baby, he’s never had such problems when he was young. We’re trying to make his life as comfortable as can be now that he’s a senior (fit senior, quite youthful for his age!).

Hi there!

I’m J, 35 years of age, and originally from Singapore. 🐦 I’m moving to the Greater Vancouver area (BC) in July 2026 (and am currently feeling a mixbag of both excitement, and early homesickness).

On the personal front, I’m first and foremost a Christian who seeks to honour Christ in my life. The Christian walk is often hard, riddled with challenges; often times I fall, but His grace abounds.

I’m also someone who is very open and genuine. I speak my mind, and deeply enjoy to-and-fro stimulating conversations. It really could be anything from the little fun findings/ jokes from the mundanity of life, or bigger issues surrounding us: faith, geopolitics, social issues, cultures, philosophy, etc. I simply enjoy engaging, learning, listening, understanding. As well, I keep an open mind to things—there are often nuances to most everything, and I find it best to understand first where one is coming from… After all, the world is massive, and experiences are varied.

I’ve travelled a fair bit to experience different cultures and life. Different cultures and ways of life have fascinated me since I was little. These days, I’ve been watching travel vlogs to India and Pakistan, super interesting! The one thing I derived from my immersion into cultures, is that we’re ultimately all ‘same-same, but different’. We —or most of us—work for a living, have goals and dreams, feel joy and pain, and will die one day. At the very core, humans are motivated by many similar drivers, and are really not that much different at all.

Authenticity is crucial for me. The one thing I cannot stand for the life of me, is disingenuity. I’m personable, but selective of people I let into my life. I appreciate those who’re real and genuine, and hold tightly to my few close friends who have remained true for the long haul. As a natural introvert (who is occasionally somewhat extroverted), I’m pretty much lowkey and appreciate life as such.

I can be absolutely silly (in my nature to be), or necessarily serious, depending on context. My default is lightheartedness, and I don’t get offended very easily. When I’m close to someone… my humor becomes outrageous. At home, we roast each other for good fun, and laugh at stupid things all the time. I’m self-deprecative and don’t enjoy taking things too seriously. A massive favorite is Irish craic/English dry humor (I especially enjoy Seán Burke and Bernard O’Shea). I also LOVE Conan O’Brien, who’s coincidentally also Irish…

At 35, I’ve gone through my fair share of great heights and painful abyss, and feel more positioned to be a matured, empathetic, and understanding partner to someone else. I’m also gifted with the ability to connect with others deeply, and soulfully.

And for the questions:

• Area of study/work: I studied English literature back in university, but ended up doing digital marketing in the corporate world. It’s exhausting and mentally draining, corporate life, and those who go through it know it. (But, it pays the bills.) I have at some point thought of changing careers, to becoming a social worker or counsellor, but that’s still decisions in process.

• Hobbies/interests: I’m mostly a creative, and love and appreciate art in all forms, whether that be visual or textual. I’m a big appreciator of artsy-fartsy indie films (those that you watch and ruminate on for much time beyond, and have endless discussions about), and also graphic design, or fine arts. Oh, I really enjoy cooking as well, and also making delicious beverages 😌 Very fulfilling. Also… hiking, outdoor activities, all up for it. Alllso… I really really love animals (especially cats, dogs, primates lol)

• Tell us a bit about your Christian journey: I grew up in a Christian household, but it wasn’t until I faced with some challenges in life that I seriously sought God. Through the years, I’ve had various questions I also needed answered, as I got to befriend more non-Christians and becoming more burdened re their salvation. Personally, I strive to honour God with my life, and be the messenger in whichever station I’m put at: whether it’s me demonstrating everyday small doses of Christian love to my non-Christian colleagues, random people I meet that I’ve had the pleasure of some meaningful exchange, friends who have yet to accept Christ, etc. All important to me. I try to be the bridge that is relatable, in order to relay the Christian love across.

• What sort of person are you looking for?: A steadfast, empathetic, and easygoing Christian man (with humor) who enjoys diving into conversations (be it inane drivel, or intellectual discussions) with me. Someone who makes me feel seen, heard, and understood (and whom I’ll do the same for). At this point of my life, I’d like to have kids, and would very happily accept your kids. Very open to dating either single men without kids, or single fathers with kids.

As I’m someone who’s generous with sharing and doesn’t sweat the small stuff, I’m looking for a man who likewise has a spirit of openness and generosity, both inwardly, as well as to the outside world. Having empathy, compassion, and consideration for people, the vulnerable, the feeble, and animals — matters a lot to me. There is a saying I firmly believe in: True character is shown in how one treats those who have nothing to offer them.

Also importantly: I’m seeking someone who’s self-aware, emotionally healthy, and knows how to emotionally regulate during conflicts. Having healthy communication skills to manage conflicts is so so important for relationships, and I’d like for us to pray, talk, and work things through together, when challenges come our way.

• Age range: 30-49 (I’ve met men in their late 20s or early 50s who expressed interest, so I’m not entirely opposed to that as well. It just matters more to me if we click.)

• Would you be willing to do long distance/relocate?: As of now, I would prefer to meet someone I can easily meet in person, so ideally someone within metro Vancouver or BC. Open to other provinces within Canada as well.

(That being said, though not exceptionally keen on long distance, I’m not entirely opposed to it if there’s significant immediate mutual interest, and natural connection. The odds of that are likely low, so pardon me if I do not reply to long-distance messages…! God bless you all!)

*For anyone interested, I’d appreciate if you could drop an introductory message with a few pictures. Also, if at all a little request, I’m 5’4, and so am looking for someone who is at least 5’6 and above.

Cheers!