u/junglibilli21

Hi all,

I am a 33-year-old woman who has been separated from my husband for the past five years. Our separation happened while I was pregnant with our daughter. During that time, I experienced physical abuse and was asked to leave our home in the USA when I was just three months pregnant.

After my daughter was born, I focused on rebuilding my life. I completed my MBA and recently secured a contract job. It has been a difficult journey, but I kept moving forward for my daughter.

Over these years, my soon-to-be ex-husband has not contributed to our daughter's school fees. When I requested that he submit his payslips directly to the school to support her admission process, he chose not to do so. We are also involved in an ongoing legal battle.

Recently, my daughter had a school activity where she was asked to paste photos of her family members. I suggested including a picture of her father, as I had shown her photos of him many times. However, after the disappointment surrounding her school admission process, I felt it was best to leave matters to the court.

That day, my daughter insisted on not including her father's picture. Later, when a relative asked her about him, I could see the sadness in her eyes. She was only five years old, trying hard not to cry. Watching that broke my heart.

At that moment, I decided to put aside my anger, pride, and hurt for my daughter's sake. I reached out to her father and suggested that he have a video call with her once a week, keeping our legal issues separate from their relationship.

He called that weekend and spoke with her. Seeing my daughter's smile and happiness made me realize that, despite everything that has happened between us, she deserves the opportunity to know her father.

I may never forget the pain he caused me, and I still struggle with many of his choices. But my love for my daughter is greater than my resentment. I sincerely hope he continues to stay in touch with her and remains a part of her life, even after the divorce.

At the end of the day, every child deserves to feel loved by both parents.

Hi all,

Few days back, me and my soon to be ex husband wanted to have a out of court settlement.

Me and my soon to be ex husband has a long history, we are separated for 5 years and we have a daughter who is 5 years old. He physically assaulted me , abandoned me during pregnancy, threw me out of his home from USA. He didn't come while I delivered my child, didn't even try to patch up, he didn't invite his daughter for his sister’s wedding.

My soon to be ex husband was just waiting that I will file cases and ask for money, instead of that I pursued my MBA, doing a contract job.

I came to know he was cheating, from day 1 he didn't try to understand my POV, he was non emphatic, childish as hell.

I just wanted to kick him out of my life legally. So wanted to agree for out of court settlement.

He said, he won’t pay anything for me and only for my daughter education, he wanted visitation rights for his parents and himself, he wanted complete visitation for 10 days until he is traveling from USA to India, if he settles in India in future, i have to send my daughter alternative weekends.

He wanted a joint account, but I was skeptical about all these conditions and didn't want to agree.

My lawyer instead of helping me out, she wanted the negotiation call to happen, instead of listening to me. At the end moment, I didn't joined the call.

Instead my lawyer was forcing that I should show my daughter for Father's day, she kept calling me all day for the Father's day. She was behaving as his lawyer, she wasn't bothered to protect me.He is working in FAAMG USA.

He is throwing money to my lawyer, instead if he pays legally what me and my daughter is supposed to get, this saga will end.

Just feel like I'm fighting all my life for marrying the wrong person. i feel like he is the evilest person I have encountered in my life.

A few days ago, my soon-to-be ex-husband and I(33f) were supposed to discuss an out-of-court settlement.

We have been separated for the last five years and have a five-year-old daughter together. During our marriage, I was physically assaulted, abandoned during pregnancy, and eventually thrown out of our home in the USA. He was absent during my delivery, never made any genuine effort to reconcile, and did not even invite his own daughter to his sister's wedding.

For years, he seemed convinced that I would file multiple cases and demand money from him. Instead, I focused on rebuilding my life. I pursued my MBA, raised my daughter as a single mother, and worked hard to establish my career.

Over time, I also came to learn about his infidelity. From the very beginning, he showed little empathy, never tried to understand my perspective, and consistently displayed immature behavior.

At this stage, my only goal is to legally close this chapter and move forward with my life. That is why I was willing to consider an out-of-court settlement.

However, his proposed terms were difficult for me to accept. He stated that he would not provide any financial support for me and would only contribute towards our daughter's education. He also demanded visitation rights for himself and his parents, requested uninterrupted access to our daughter for 10 days whenever he travels from the USA to India, and insisted that if he ever relocates to India permanently, I must send our daughter to him on alternate weekends. He also wanted a joint account to manage certain arrangements.

Given these conditions, I was uncomfortable proceeding. Instead of feeling supported, I felt pressured into negotiations that I was not ready for. At the last moment, I chose not to join the settlement call.

What hurt me even more was feeling unsupported by my own lawyer. Rather than listening to my concerns and protecting my interests, I felt pushed toward decisions I was not comfortable with. On Father's Day, I received repeated calls insisting that I should make my daughter available, despite my reservations. At times, it felt as though my concerns were being overlooked entirely.

My soon-to-be ex-husband works in a FAANG company in the USA. If he fulfilled his legal responsibilities toward our daughter and complied with what is legally due, this matter could be resolved much more easily.

Sometimes, it feels like I have been fighting the consequences of one wrong marriage for years. I am exhausted, but I continue to move forward because my daughter deserves stability, peace, and a better future.

I hope that one day this chapter closes, and both my daughter and I can finally move on.

I am a 33-year-old woman. I got married in 2018 and moved to the USA after my marriage. Soon after, my husband began treating me differently. He seemed unhappy with me for reasons I could never understand. He would leave me alone at home for days and then return as if nothing had happened. This became a repeated cycle, and I often blamed myself because he appeared to be kind and pleasant with everyone else.

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Over time, I experienced physical abuse, and eventually, I was abandoned while I was pregnant with our child.

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I returned to India, gave birth to my daughter, and completed my MBA. I am now working in a contract job and rebuilding my life.

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Tomorrow, my legal team, his legal team, and my soon-to-be ex-husband will be meeting to discuss an out-of-court settlement. I am only asking for support toward my daughter's education. However, he is requesting a joint account and visitation rights for both himself and his parents. I am not seeking maintenance, alimony, or any compensation, and I am comfortable with that decision.

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My only concern is ensuring that I am not misled or taken advantage of during the discussions tomorrow.

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We have already been separated for five years, and I sincerely hope everything goes smoothly so that this matter can finally be resolved and I can obtain my divorce soon.

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I am a 33-year-old woman. I got married in 2018 and moved to the USA after my marriage. Soon after, my husband began treating me differently. He seemed unhappy with me for reasons I could never understand. He would leave me alone at home for days and then return as if nothing had happened. This became a repeated cycle, and I often blamed myself because he appeared to be kind and pleasant with everyone else.

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Over time, I experienced physical abuse, and eventually, I was abandoned while I was pregnant with our child.

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I returned to India, gave birth to my daughter, and completed my MBA. I am now working in a contract job and rebuilding my life.

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Tomorrow, my legal team, his legal team, and my soon-to-be ex-husband will be meeting to discuss an out-of-court settlement. I am only asking for support toward my daughter's education. However, he is requesting a joint account and visitation rights for both himself and his parents. I am not seeking maintenance, alimony, or any compensation, and I am comfortable with that decision.

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My only concern is ensuring that I am not misled or taken advantage of during the discussions tomorrow.

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We have already been separated for five years, and I sincerely hope everything goes smoothly so that this matter can finally be resolved and I can obtain my divorce soon.

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Hi all,

Just wanted to share something that has been on my mind.

I (33f)was abandoned by my soon to be ex husband while I was pregnant with our child and was also physically assaulted.

I came back from the USA and tried to pursue a mutual divorce after giving birth to my daughter. She is now five years old.

Over these five years, I lost my father and recently joined a contract job.

Every day, I take my daughter to the school bus stop. For the past week, I have been seeing a couple who also bring their daughter there. The father lovingly says goodbye to his child before she leaves for school.

Today, it hit me hard that my daughter does not get to experience that kind of fatherly presence.

I crave having a family.

I tried to settle things through a mutual divorce, but even then, he would not have been a present father. For years, he did not contribute even towards her school fees. Only in the last two years has he started paying Rs. 20,000 per month, which is still not enough to cover her expenses.

From the day I became pregnant, I have been on my own. I have learned to live with it, but there are moments when I grieve the family we could have had.

I hope he eventually agrees to the divorce and at least tries to be a father through regular video calls. I do not have any great expectations from him.

I do not know why I felt the need to share this today, but I did.

For now, I will continue doing my best to be both parents for my daughter.

Hi all,

I don’t know why, but today I just felt like venting. Please bear with me.

There are certain incidents regarding my soon-to-be ex-husband that still hurt deeply.

1. My dad passed away two years ago. When my soon-to-be ex-husband came for the funeral, he spent most of the time smirking and smiling. Later that evening, he came and offered fake condolences. He wanted to speak to me privately, but I only spoke to him briefly in the living room and asked him to leave.

2. During my daughter’s school admission, I needed his payslips since he works in the USA. I requested him multiple times, even asking him to directly fill out the form if he didn’t want to share the documents. He simply told me not to disturb him. That was the point I told him to proceed with divorce.

3. He applied for divorce, and honestly, I’m okay with that now. But what hurt was that two years ago I didn’t even have a stable job, and he never cared about how I would manage expenses or my daughter’s future. I felt completely abandoned.

4. I slowly realized he never truly loved me. I often felt used and emotionally drained. He constantly projected himself as someone irreplaceable — always boasting that he was the greatest coder and no one could match him. Life changes people though, and now even he is pursuing an MBA in the USA.

5. There was also physical abuse. Whenever he became aggressive, he blamed me for “causing” it. Yet outside, he portrayed himself as the sweetest person on earth.

I don’t even know why I’m writing all this today. Maybe because people should be taught how manipulation works and how deeply it affects someone’s mind.

Even now, after everything, a part of me still feels like I’m the bad person. And today, for some reason, I just broke down crying.

Hi all,

This is a vent-out post. I know I need to take therapy sessions, and I’m planning to start soon.

Suddenly, out of nowhere, I started thinking about my soon-to-be ex-husband.

I recently got a contract job after a 9-year career gap.

Last week, I went for a team lunch. I’m an introverted person, but I still decided to go. My teammates were kind and didn’t bother me when I declined alcohol. Everyone had fun and bonded well.

At that moment, I suddenly thought about my soon-to-be ex-husband. When we used to go out in the USA after marriage, I would decline alcohol and tell him that he could drink if he wanted to. Instead of respecting my decision, he would hold the glass near me and force me to drink.

Before marriage, I had clearly mentioned that I don’t consume alcohol, and he seemed okay with it at that time. Later, he showed his true colors.

He physically assaulted me and abandoned me while I was pregnant with his child.

Sometimes, I feel like a loser.

I feel like I’m just running in a rat race that I never wanted to be part of.

Today, I’m crying, wondering why I was treated so horribly. Maybe I really am a loser, just like my soon-to-be ex-husband says.

Some days, I feel like I’ve moved on. But today, I feel like I’m back to square one.

Somewhere, I truly loved him, and realizing that he never loved me the same way still hurts a lot.

But I also want to prove to myself that I’m not a loser. That’s why, even with social anxiety, I’m trying every day to become better, stronger, and more confident.

Hi,

I’ve recently joined as a fresher in the Client Success Manager domain. I would like to build a strong understanding of the technical aspects of EDI.

Could you please share any useful resources, links, or documents that can help me learn? I’m especially interested in understanding how customer work orders are handled from a technical perspective.

Since I come from a non-technical background, gaining this knowledge will help me collaborate more effectively with mappers and integrators.

Thank you in advance for your support.

Hi all,

I recently joined as a CSM in a product company.

Because of my father’s death, pregnancy, and divorce, I had a career gap of 9 years.

When I got the interview call for this role, I honestly thought I wouldn’t clear it. But I did, and I joined on a contractual basis as a fresher.

In the last one month, I have been given KT and currently handling only 4 accounts. My manager asked me to bill 0.5 hours for each project and mark the remaining time as training.

During this KT period, I’ve been trying to understand the role better. From what I understand, a CSM’s job is to ensure both customer satisfaction and smooth coordination with internal teams.

However, I sometimes feel that internal teams like mappers and integrators don’t take me seriously because I’m new and I don’t have strong technical knowledge in EDI.

Whenever an SLA is close to breach, I inform the development team and follow up to make sure it gets resolved.

I really want to improve as a CSM and perform well so I can continue after probation. This job means a lot to me.

I’m also an introvert, but I’m trying my best to come out of my comfort zone and grow professionally.

I would really appreciate advice from experienced CSMs on how to improve, gain confidence, and handle internal teams better.

I lost my dad a year ago and I’m navigating a difficult divorce. My focus now is to make my mom and daughter proud and happy, and to grow into a better version of myself this year.