u/just-a-vibe

How do we go about this? I (20f) and my boyfriend (28m) and only been together and year and a few months. We have a baby together, our relationship is getting worse day by day due to him disrespecting my clear boundaries i set with him on unadding his exes on everything, I told him three separate times and each time he told me he would. Each time he didn’t and chose to lie to me and say he did. He offered for us to go to counselling but at this point I don’t think there’s any fixing this. I keep can’t stop bringing it up, it grosses me out that he knew I didn’t like that and that I told him to stop multiple times but kept doing it insisting he doesn’t understand why it bothers me? I don’t want to argue with him anymore especially for our baby. He just turned 9 weeks. I know this relationship screams bad decisions but now i’m trying my best to make it into something better for my baby and I need advice on how. When/if it happens do we just live in separate rooms in our two bedroom apartment??? Is there a good way to make a schedule for our baby? Im currently finishing highschool while also completing a college course and doing job training. He is doing nothing. I need help and don’t know how to make this better.

How do we go about this? I (20f) and my boyfriend (28m) and only been together and year and a few months. We have a baby together, our relationship is getting worse day by day due to him disrespecting my clear boundaries i set with him on unadding his exes on everything, I told him three separate times and each time he told me he would. Each time he didn’t and chose to lie to me and say he did. He offered for us to go to counselling but at this point I don’t think there’s any fixing this. I keep can’t stop bringing it up, it grosses me out that he knew I didn’t like that and that I told him to stop multiple times but kept doing it insisting he doesn’t understand why it bothers me? I don’t want to argue with him anymore especially for our baby. He just turned 9 weeks. I know this relationship screams bad decisions but now i’m trying my best to make it into something better for my baby and I need advice on how. When/if it happens do we just live in separate rooms in our two bedroom apartment??? Is there a good way to make a schedule for our baby? Im currently finishing highschool while also completing a college course and doing job training. He is doing nothing. I need help and don’t know how to make this better.

My boyfriend and I got into a big fight, I found out for the third time that he’s still following girls that he fucked or wanted to. I told he the first time with his exes to stop, the second time months later I found out again that he still was and I told him to stop, He told me if he knew it bothered me so much he would’ve stopped. Now for the third time I found out and he deleted their previous chats so I wouldn’t know. Since the third time I feel so hurt and it almost made us breakup and I still feel hurt. All i got was that “i’m overreacting and reaching, and why don’t I trust him? Why am I looking for a problem?” I still feel hurt and I lost trust in him and haven’t looked at him the same since. I don’t know what to do because he gets angry when I bring it up and I just want my feelings to be validated. Not “there I unfollowed her you happy?” and some half ass apology. Please I don’t know how to bring it up because if I don’t i think i’m just going to leave him, he doesn’t get how much it affected our relationship.

I deserve someone who respects what I don’t like in a relationship, I deserve someone who puts in the same effort, someone I can trust fully not to look at someone else like that? Someone who still does romantic things no matter the length of time we’ve been together, someone who is as loyal as I am. Right? Are there really people out there like that? I doubt it now, i thought there was.

I feel horrible, my emotions are out of control and I can’t stop thinking about this fight I had with my bf. I still feel hurt when thinking about it and I just want to relapse and cut myself again. It’s been two years. I have coping strategies but it’s getting hard. I feel horrible, I feel so depressed. I have to stay strong for my baby but I just want to break down, why is shit like this??? I’m not doing so good anymore I don’t think, everything is just piling up and I don’t know how to cope. I miss my niece, I miss my family, I miss what used to be even though it made me hate everything. I wish my boyfriend could do the same for me as I do for him, I wish he could acknowledge my feelings and apologize, I wish my friends didn’t live so far, I wish I wasn’t in this stupid fucking city, I wish to go back to a time where things were okay and I was happy, but that never existed. I’m happy with my baby, but i’m not sure things are okay. I just needed to write my thoughts out

getting so tired of ts bro. I’m starting to get so sick of this (20f) I still have really good times with my boyfriend (28m) but it’s more bad things piling up than good. I’m so tired of doing the mental load with things, I plan my appointments, I plan his appointments besides a couple (that’s IF i constantly remind him), I plan our baby’s things, I planned everything leading up to having our baby, I got everything for him (he picked stuff up but still like why couldn’t he help me with his nursery?). I do things for his son (9m in foster care only gets visits). I’m sick of having to ask him to do stuff, asking him to clean OUR apartment, asking him to get a job, asking him to help when the babies crying because 80% of the time he just ignores. He loves him and me but like fuck man. We also got into a massive fight because I found out he was still friends girls he used to fuck/wanted to fuck on facebook. I told him TWO separate times I didn’t like that and that’s my only rule is to not associate with them. (once in october, then in february, and last week). I don’t give a fuck if he’s “friends” with them because if he was why doesn’t he talk to them at all and the only thing he’s ever done with them in the past was fuck/flirt???? t’s the fact that I don’t do shit like that to him and when I tell him not to do that he disrespects now three times and continues. That fight lasted 3 days and it just made me see him in a completely different way, it honestly did and still does gross me out and hurt me so bad that I was going to leave. He barely resolved it besides (there i unfollowed her are you happy now? Fuck im just gonna delete the whole app so there’s no more problems”. I don’t want his son to live with us because he’s extremely violent. I keep waiting for the guy that I started dating to come back but I honestly don’t think it will happen. He used to do anything to make me happy, write notes to me, sing songs to me, make things, compliment me, take me on dates, want to do things with me and actually put that romantic effort in NOT just sexual. What fucking pissed me off the most right now to write this is after he told me he was feeling good this morning, i told him I felt bad and all of a sudden he doesn’t feel good and proceeds to sleep all day and leave me alone with the baby. I’m so sick of this shit and I’m afraid i know the answer already to make me feel better. I can’t keep waiting for the guy I fell in love with to come back, and i can’t see myself continuing like this unless he actually changes. I hope he’ll change because I love him, that’s why i stayed/am staying I want him to change and i’m hoping with everything that he will, but it seems he doesn’t/hasn’t loved me as much as I love him, nor does he put the same effort in… I feel so used and tired