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Over de sidste 9 måneder har jeg lavet en lille modermælk stash i fryseren, fra de ekstra jeg har pumpet ud. Med den ide om at når min mand er på barsel så kan han give den til baby inden hun skifter til erstatning.

Nu er min mand på barsel og nu afviser min baby alt mælk. Så jeg tror bare ikke hun kommer til at drikke den, og det ville være ærgeligt hvis den går til spild.

Jeg ved at man kan donere til hospitaler men det må ske inden for de første 8 uger.

Jeg ved ikke om der er nogle som har fx en tidlig født baby og mistet deres mælk produktion, om de er interesseret i at overtage modermælk? Alt har været rent og mælk er i sterilt poser, jeg tage ikke medicin, fik blodprøver da jeg var gravid osv. Tænkte at det er værd at spørge, så den ikke går til spilde.

Baby is 9 months tomorrow and she will start nursery in a month and a half. So yes, i know theres a bit of a way yet but im the kind of person who overthinks and likes stuff in place in my head.

I have not yet talked specifically with the nursery about EC, but i know they have a few infant sized toilets and the staff seem very friendly/good with the kids.

I dont expect them to be able to watch out for cues, but giving her the chance to sit on toilet after meals and naps etc would be good. I cant bear the thought of her just being left and having to walk round in her own poo.

To those whose babies started nursery at a similar age, can you share how it was for you?

- were the nursery accomodating?

- did not having the same number of opportunities as they would at home cause any kind of regression overall?

- if they somehow refuse point blank to help with this because of her age, if we keep up the ec at home will that be enough to keep on track?

- do their patterns change much when starting because everything is new?

We are in such a good place right now with things. In the last 4 nights we have had 3 dry nappies in the morning. It is 100% obvious she holds the wee when she wakes from naps. I really would be sad if we went way off course. Mainly because i think about her skin you know, like we have never had issues with any redness or soreness.

All experiences welcome :) also if anyone has any tips on how to navigate the conversation with the nursery.

I hope this is a good sub to post in. I tried posting in a climbing specific sub but couldnt. I know the walls on this sub are a bit different to what i have in mind but hopefully you guys have the experience all the same.

I have a wall outside in the garden, its brick thats been plastered over. Its a really good spot to put some climbing holds up for my daughter. I wasnt thinking much, just a scattering to make a traverse type thing. She is just pulling herself up to stand now so just for something in the garden that she can pull up on and scoot about with, and then when shes older and can reach an upper level of holds for her to traverse along the wall a bit.

I was originally thinking I should just drill straight into the masonry, but then I read that it isnt so stable if the brick is a crumbly section. That people recommend building a wooden frame, attaching a plywood board and then the holds to that. But thats more of an indoor thing, Im not sure how well it would fare outside?? (live in europe where summers are getting relatively hot and winters get below freezing, and generally we get alot of rain year round).

Does anyone have any experience or advice on what would be better? Our house isnt that big so theres not much room indoors for anything, and it would be nice to be in the garden so she has a little play area out there.

Thanks :)

I hope this is a good sub to post in. I tried posting in a climbing specific sub but couldnt.

I have a wall outside in the garden, its brick thats been plastered over. Its a really good spot to put some climbing holds up for my daughter. I wasnt thinking much, just a scattering to make a traverse type thing. She is just pulling herself up to stand now so just for something in the garden that she can pull up on and scoot about with.

I was originally thinking I should just drill straight into the masonry, but then I read that it isnt so stable if the brick is a crumbly section. That people recommend building a wooden frame, attaching a plywood board and then the holds to that. But thats more of an indoor thing, Im not sure how well it would fare outside? (live in europe where summers are getting hot and winters get below freezing).

Does anyone have any experience or advice on what would be better? Our house isnt that big so theres not much room indoors for anything, and it would be nice to be in the garden so she has a little play area out there.

Thanks :)

She has just turned 8 months. When we started ec we used a tophat. Then maybe a month or so ago she was stable enough in her sitting, and big enough, that we got a toilet seat reducer. It worked fantastically, especially since holding her in ec hold was getting heavy, and you can just flush it all away.

She is a super curious baby and has never liked being contained if she wants to be places, but we never had any issues besides the usual rolling about on changing mat, up until recently.

Maybe 4 weeks ish ago she had a hatred for being laid down on the changing mat. I dont know where it came from, the usual toy in hand or something to distract her just stopped working. She just did not want to be laid down. But as soon as i lifted her up and put her on toilet she was okay again. It was just the mat.

But now its not just the mat and its the toilet too. She will cry and arch her back.

Weve just got back from being away camping and ec seemed to go okay. I mostly held her in the ec hold due to lack of amenities. She didnt like being laid down to remove the nappy etc but once picked up was okay. Now we are back to this. Is she just not used to sitting on the toilet seat reducer after a while away?

She farted just before but i didnt take her to the toilet because id just done it an hour ago and didnt want to be putting her on it too much incase she gets bad associations, and then she did a poo so i had to change her nappy anyway. I dont want to go even further backwards as i really feel we were making progress.

Shes just in the last week started pulling herself up to stand so pull ups are on the horizon, maybe that would help so she doesnt have to be layed down to take on and off the nappy??

Sorry this has turned a bit long. But if anyone has any ideas id love to hear. I feel like its escalated from just not wanting to lie on changing mat to not wanting to sit on toilet and i dont want it to escalate even further.

My baby has just turned 8 months and about a week ago we saw her first pick up food using a pincer grip. She is mostly still doing big fist type movements but thats because im still offering food in sizes she has had since 6 months.

I am wondering whether i should start cutting it up tiny so she can pick up little pieces? But i dont know if 9 months is the recommendation for that because thats just the average age they get pincer grip, or if theres also some development she needs to do with mouth in terms of navigating the smaller pieces of food about and chewing smaller pieces before swallowing. I wouldnt want her to be able to get it into her mouth but then her mouth struggling and her choking.

She has 2 half teeth if that changes anything. Theyre just erupting now.

What is your bedtime routine? And what time do you do it? Do you put baby down before you go to sleep, or do you all go to bed together?

I feel like my sister was saying that we dont have much routine. Then i see on the internet other peoples bedtime routines, where every day they read and sing etc. And i worry we dont have a good enough one. Or maybe its something that develops over time?

Our baby is 7 months old. We have just started giving her a bath most evenings, either in her little tub or she has a shower with me holding her. Then we just head to bed, i feed her in bed and she falls asleep 🤷‍♂️ we read and sing during the day, we just havent incorporated it into the nighttime routine yet. My sister kept saying its important so she knows its nighttime, but at nighttime she falls into a deep sleep we dont get during the day. Like she knows its night time.

We bedshare, so when shes asleep i will lay down, maybe go on my phone a little or read before going to sleep myself. We bedshare partly because i really just love sleeping next to her, and i know she loves it too because of the way she leans into me and seeks me out at night. But also because at the 4 month mark we hit a phase where she got really hard to transfer, would wake up and be very upset in the side bed bassinet. I feel like my sister expects babies to be able to be 'put down' early and then for the parents to have an evening child free. But my baby is more of a night owl and usually goes down around 9ish (thats from about 10pm last month).

We follow her cues and shes so happy, i dont know why my mind keeps ruminating on this. But it would be interesting to hear how you all do bedtimes.

From what I understand, where we are now, milk is the important calories and food is the side exploration. So after she wakes up from first nap and before I give her her meal, I nurse until she is full of milk.

When does this change over to giving food first and then milk after?

Vores baby er nu snart 7 måneder. For cirka to måneder siden var hun igennem en udviklingstrin (?) og så lige pludselig gik vi fra minsdt en dag lur i barnevogn, til kun kontaktlur.

Hun er skrevet op til vuggestue til midt November, hvor hun vil være ca 10 måneder.

Jeg har prøvet virkelig hårdt med at transfer hun til barnevogn på forskellige måder når hun sover men så vækker hun enten med det samme eller efter 5 minutter. Og til sidst besluttede jeg mig for at det bruger så meget energi, i de eneste tidspunkter jeg havde 'fri', så for nu er det kontaktlur. Og hun er 100% en FOMO baby. Hvis jeg går en tur når hun er træt så bliver hun vågn så hun kan kigge rundt.

Sundhedsplejeske siger jeg skal begynde at træne hende til at sove i barnevogn så hun kan det når hun starter vuggestue. Som skal nok kræve meget frem og tilbage med baby osv.

Hvad hvis det ikke lykkes inden hun starter vuggestue?

Kan babyer lige pludselig kunne sove der selvom derhjemme er en anden historie?

Hvis hun ikke kan sove der hvad så? Må man bare hente baby så de kan sove hjemme i stedet?

Er der nogen der har været igennem prosessen i at have baby til at sove i vogen igen, efter de har været en meget kontakt krævende baby? Tips and tricks?

Ive been reading through the blw book by Gill Rapley, and she says you can just serve apple raw and pretty much whole. But the solid starts app says to steam them until much later on. Why such constrasting advice and how are people serving apple to 6/7 month olds?

I alternate them as you should. I do everything youre supposed to yet the right breast is so slow and doesnt really make much milk. Or maybe the left is just a show off??

Baby is exclusively breastfed. She gets one bottle a day of pumped breastmilk from husband, so she is used to bottles. I will be going back to work when she is 9 months old, so at that point we will need to have switched to formula, until she is 1 year old and can switch to cows milk (as per my countries guidelines).

Baby is 6 months now but I like to plan ahead/have things straight in my head so when the time comes I know what to expect and do.

I just have a few questions.

- how long did the switch take? Did you do it slow or relatively quickly?

- Occasionally of an evening when she gets the bottle, if she is very tired etc she will get quite fussy and not want to drink from the bottle even though she is hungry. So I just nurse her instead, which works fine now, but wont when she cant breastfeed anymore. To those who EBF first, was this something you encountered to be a problem or does it tend to resolve itself more once shes on solids etc?

- right now i feed on demand, which is usually when she wakes from nap and then a little tipple when shes tired and about to go to next nap. And then a big feed before nighttime. Do you do the same with bottles? Like how would i know how much milk to make up for her little pre-nap tipple?

- anything else thats useful to know?

Thanks...this feels overwhelming and i wish i didnt have to go back to work until she is 1 so i could avoid this

We will be travelling by plane in a few weeks and Im thinking about what I need to take food wise. Thought it would be good to have a thread of some no-mess easy travel snacks.

So far im thinking:

- corn puffs. The most driest of all baby foods yet she still manages to get it in her hair. But she loves them so we'll take a packet.

- those food mesh pacifier things i can just put some fruit in. But what should i put in that doesnt juice up so much? Banana? Anything else?

- think ill take a couple of those pouches and hopefully just squirt porriage directly into her mouth, very anti-blw but needs must. We havent tried them yet but hope she likes them

Is there anything else i could take? I will have room for a couple little tuperware boxes of stuff, i just have no idea as we are only a couple weeks into solids.

Before I had a baby i heard an awful lot about 'The newborn smell', how amazing and addicting it was etc etc. I dont know what i imagined, im sure id heard someone say its like talc powder. I imagined it being really strong like a perfume is strong.

But honestly im not sure she really had much of a smell? Or i couldnt smell it anyway. I mean she had a smell and that was the smell of old milk, but everything smelt of old milk in those newborn days, even my fingers.

Is my nose just crap or is this just something people say about newborns?

Our baby is 6.5 months old, has three naps a day, the last one being a short one around 6/7pm. This is definitely a nap becsuse she doesnt fall into the same deep sleep as she does at night time. We go to bed all together, so our bedtime is her bedtime. Which is usually anywhere between 21:30 to 22:30, depending on the chores we need to do and depending on her tiredness levels.

She is definitely a baby who needs to sleep with us. She sleeps on her side and stretches her arm out to touch my face, and falls into complete calm. This is one of the reasons i love bedsharing, because i know this is what she needs and it helps her find calm.

But what do people do when their baby starts getting a naturally earlier bedtime? Is this a sure thing, that she will start to go to bed earlier? My niece goes to sleep at 7pm and i just cant even imagine my baby doing that. And if she does start needing to sleep earlier, how do we manage that with the bedsharing?

Jeg tænke på, hvordan man kan sige 'do you need to have a poo'. 'do you need to have a wee' er nemt... Skal du tisse? Men findes det et verbum form for at lave afføring? eller er det bare 'skal du lave afføring'? Jeg har bare aldrig hørt den sætning bliver sagt, så ikke ved om det er det rigtige dansk måde at sige det på.

Avacado, great to mush between two fingers.

Strawberry, cannot mush. But i can give it to my 6 montj old and thats okay? Bit confused...

When did you stop using the tophat potty? Or holding them in that position over sink etc if you didnt use potty

What did you move up to? Potty they could sit on or directly to one of those toilet reducer seat things?

Baby used to be very good at being transferred to pram etc for naps. Then we hit 4, 5 months and it went out the window. Contact naps only. I try transferring her sometimes but shes always awake within 5 to 15 minutes.

I dont mind contact naps when im at home. Theyre snuggly and i love them.

The challenge comes when im out and about.

For example, today we went into town and took the pram. After a couple hours i fed her and she fell asleep. Managed to transfer to pram but she woke after 15 mins. So when i go out and about im time limited because maybe she can have a cpuple nap times shortened but eventually shes going to be too tired and i need to be home to give her a proper nap.

Is this contact napping/i will wake up on transfer thing something that resolves itself? Or do i need to do something about it to 'teach' her how to sleep in pram again?

Our health visitor says we should just keep transferring her even if she wakes up, but that means a daytime filled with too short naps and a tired baby and exhausted me for having to be vigilent and constantly rocking to sleep etc.

Has anyone been in this situation where baby suddenly needed contact naps but then got out of it again?

So once you start solids you introduce allergens slowly one by one, and once youve introduced them you keep them in babies diet couple times a week so they get continual exposure. Got that bit.

But when can i stop exposing her to them? For baby to still retain the allergen okay-ness?

If by a year she is eating what we eat...we dont eat much fish, we dont eat nuts as my husband is allergic, we dont eat shrimp or lentils... do i cook separate meals forever, or is there a time point when a childs body is like, okay we got this.