u/lifespersonalfiddle

Location: Greece

I (F25) have been living in this neighborhood for 20 years now, and it was quiet. Then my neighbours returned from Germany and moved in here. The houses are joined, so there isn't a fence or anything, and we use a common gate. My neighbours have a loud dog, which when I said something about it, they said they'll get even more dogs to start barking, and that is a direct quote from them.

Now, I have been playing music on my TV at a low volume (6 - 10) everyday for the past month because I love music and I'm gonna listen to it. My neighbour (M38) came out today screaming for me to shut it off, telling me that he will kill me and my family if I didn't or if I put it on again. It was in the morning, around 9-9:30AM, well after the public hours of silence (idk the english name), and I generally put on music at 09-12PM in the mornings and 18:00-22:00 in the evenings at that same volume.

Of course, I have raised the volume a few days when I needed it (because I'm human and music is expressive), but still always within the allowed times.

I have had a fight with my neighbour twice before and he has always threatened violence such as stabbing, and once even pinning my dad to a wall and almost choking him. I don't have any physical evidence of these, but all my family members (and my cousin who is a cop) know about them.

My question is if I were to call the cops on him and cite all the threats he's made against mine and my family's lives, would anything other than a slap on the wrist be done? Or do I need to call them at the time these incidents occur, if I can?

If the cops wouldn't do anything about when I do call them, it'll probably just turn out worse for me. Even if I mention his use of marijuana (illegal here), he has claimed he has a doctor's note for it, so that's probably a useless thing to say. Anyway, any advice appreciated.

Last week I visited my friend at her own house, which is about 15mins from my house by car on busy streets. It was wonderful, it couldn't have gone better. I was calm during the trip there, the 5hrs I spent there, and the trip back even though my friend's husband and her had to drive me back instead of my mother, as she was at work at that time.

My friend and I stayed in, we ordered some food and drink, listened to music and gossiped lots, it was so much fun and it made me feel normal for the first time in two years and I'm looking forward to our next meet up.

So, it went so good, but when I think back to it, I get anxious? I mean, I think of the drive there (which went great), but my mind is saying "What if I had had an attack during it?" I DIDN'T THOUGH??? I was completely fine.

And my mother, who was at work, I'm thinking "She couldn't have gotten to me if something had happened and my friend doesn't drive." Bitch, nothing happened, what are you talking about?

On the trip back, my friend's husband had to stop on the side of the road for like 30secs to throw out some trash, and even though the thought of panic sparked in my mind for a second, it left immediately and I was fine with it, "but what if I wasn't?" WHAT!?

I don't even know what to say anymore, it's like my mind is fighting me on every single thing. I feel very proud I went out, and I know damn well those bad thoughts are stupid, but I can't understand them. I don't know why, especially after the fact, my mind is going against me and feeding into my fears even when I try not to let it.

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I have to go to the dentist tomorrow morning for an abscess (possible extraction) and I am scared shitless. You might think me weird, but I absolutely love going to the dentist. The last time I went, before this bullshit hit me, it was so relaxing even while my roots were being drilled into. So it's not the dentist that scares me, if anything it helps to think of how much fun it'll be.

The doctor's office is around a 10min drive from my house, but I can't just walk into the building straight from the car seat, because the town square doesn't allow cars on that road, so I'll have to walk about 5 minutes and a flight of stairs to get there. I will be with both my mother and my best friend, so I will have plenty support, thank god.

I'm so scared, but it's something that needs to be done. A week ago, my toothache flared up and my gums swelled to the point that I was sure that if I left it be, it would go straight into my brain and kill me. I called a few offices for mobile care, but as I'm young and my teeth (even failing ones) are strong, it couldn't be done, so I have to go.

I let my doctor know about my agoraphobia and she was very understanding, and I have talked to my psych about meds for the trip, which I will definitely take.

I have to go, and I will.

UPDATE: it was amazing!!! the drive didn't bother me, the walk didn't bother me, nor the walk back to the parked car after the dentist. AND I'm visiting my friend's house next week!!!