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I don't own Cyno because of his god-awful play-style BUT i'm considering it rn...

What changed in his kit?

I began to realize that each time I succeed in life, I'm unable to recognize my efforts unless I deem myself "worthy" of the accomplishment: each time I pass the exam I thought I'd fail, or get chosen for a role I desired, I keep thinking: "I just got lucky", or: "anyone could do it in my position". it even irritates me when my friends and family express how proud they are of me and congratulate me on things I achieved, not sure why but merely witnessing the result is never enough for me to feel "deserving" of it. I feel like an imposter for getting ahead of others in my academic life and outside of it too.

I've always been very independent and academically motivated person. I had no social life during my teen years because I was too focused on acing all my tests and getting academic validation. this changed when I started uni and realized there's more to life than studying. yet, I began to completely dismiss my hard-work by looking for outside factors that contributed to my success.

I can freely give myself credit for other things in life like self-improvement, learning to trust myself, escaping my suicidal mindset and following my dreams. I also take great pride in helping people around me - whether that is by guiding them or something as simple as giving them advice.

I give myself credit for all this but when it comes to ACTUALLY tangible achievements, I can't enjoy them and suddenly it must've been some miracle that I managed to do what I did.

I don't think it's the issue of modesty per se. I seem to heavily rely on my Fi to justify my Te achievements which almost never works out.

i would love any advice on how to work on this issue. i'm not sure if it's an INFP thing but who knows

Hiii! I've decided that I'm pulling Lohen alongside Durin and Nicole after saving 500+ pulls. I'm prefarming rn and all guides say that his normal attack doesn't need leveling. doesn't a huge chunk of damage come from his normal/charged attacks? even his sig buffs these attacks

I realized that I struggle a lot with being in the "present" or actively engaging with my physical environment without experiencing derealisation. once in a blue moon I miraculously find myself in the moment and suddenly the world around me starts to feel unrecognizable. almost like I'm revisiting the same place I've always known, yet somehow I get to experience it in its rawest form instead of being an incorporeal useless bystander. and at that very moment I get the realization that I really am alive and REALLY PART OF THIS WORLD. this almost magical phenomenon always happens spontaneously with no specific trigger that I can think of, so I can never recreate it on command. 99% of the time I feel quite disconnected from the environment even though I practice mindfulness and participate in sensory experiences (nothing as extreme as rock climbing).

This disconnect isn't naturally obvious to me unless I pause and really think about it - mainly by observing my environment and reflecting on my emotions at that moment.
My blind Se becomes painfully noticeable when I'm surrounded by other people who all seem to fit within the present moment while I'm a ghost pretending to be one of them without raising suspicion.

I want to improve my Se. but I keep bumping into the same problem: after a long day of engaging with the sensory world and leaving my comfort zone, I feel utterly drained as if I lost touch with myself and everything I am - as a result of directing all my energy outward (which I normally don't do). afterwards, I can't resist the urge to take a break and isolate myself for a while to recharge and feel like "myself" again.

how do I start focusing on my Se without falling into an existential crisis? i'd love some advice

Hiii! I'm pulling for both Nicole and Durin + his cons so I believe I'll be getting Prune's constellations too. Is she worth building and how good are her buffs?

P.S. I don't own Varka or Venti but I have Klee and Wanderer + MIIIGHT pull for Lohen so IDK if she's good for my account. Maybe in Wrio melt team?

You and your shadow type share NO cognitive functions, with their function stack consisting of your LEAST developed functions.

Oddly enough, shadow types are widely considered ideal romantic partners (why? who knows really)

But what exactly makes inverse types romantically compatible? Wouldn't it cause more issues in decision-making and conflict navigation when you have nothing in common in terms of cognitive functions? Now, I firmly believe that you can find your soulmate in any type, but in a hypothetical vacuum where personality type is the only differentiator, I think when it comes to dating specifically, your shadow type is not an ideal option.

In my personal experience as an INFP, I've noticed that I'm weirdly attracted to Te traits. I find Te people extremely magnetic because of their assertiveness (It's not even funny my self respect goes poof out the window). I find growth-oriented relationships quite romantic - when your weakness is your partner's strength and vice versa, when we help each other leave our comfort zone and grow.

Whats everyone's experience with your shadow type? have you dated one? how did it go?

If you read this far congratulations! here's a cookie 🍪

p.s. I've never actually dated anyone and all my Te crushes are fictional so I am open to being proven wrong about my theory. Maybe somewhere out there is my match made in heaven ENFJ soulmate who I yet have to cross my path with I am keeping an open mind

I recently learned that ENFJs and INFPs turn into unhealthy versions of each other when they're in their shadow. This happens after they've been betrayed, had their boundaries crossed or spent alot of time under stress. ENFJs will turn inward: rejecting social harmony while becoming less reactive to other people's emotions - giving up the "leading role". This leads ENFJs to isolation. On the bright side, being in their shadow can bring clarity as well. For ENFJ's, it's the realization that their self worth is not tied to how much they give to others.

I found this a bit shocking since INFPs and ENFJs are considered a "golden pair" in MBTI community while simultaneously possessing shadow functions of each other. The problem is, you and your inverse type have NO functions in common, isn't that going to create more obstacles especially during conflict? How does this affect their compatibility and overall dynamic? I wanna know if any of you have experienced being in your INFP shadow and what was the experience like?

At first I thought to myself: "hmm I don't think I've ever gone ENFJ... surely not..." *realizes how much I try to control people and their emotions for the sake of social harmony while neglecting my own boundaries when under stress* oops?

Anyways, sending love to all ENFJs out there! I've sadly never met any of you irl but its nice to know that we are each other's dark evil twin hehe

I've always wondered if there's a coloration between MBTI and spirituality/faith and whether or not types with certain cognitive functions are more likely to be religious.

I've always been someone who questioned everything around me and from an early childhood I've been quite skeptical towards religion as an abstract idea as well as organized religion. I love learning about religion from sociological and psychological angle and while I consider myself as non-religious, I am interested in hearing other people's perspectives on this.

As an INFP, the main issue for me is topic of obedience. I cannot follow an ideology which promotes ideas that don't align with my own moral code. So hypothetically if I sin, what's the point of following the rules if in my consciousness I don't feel bad about it? and I'm only obeying because I don't want to upset the idea of god?

In my experience, high Fi users are often spiritual. In my case, while Fi is all about morality and "following the heart", religion always represented the loss of identity and rejection of my own value system.
I observed that Ti doms are least likely to be religious and Si doms being more traditional in that aspect.

overall, I like religion as an abstract concept but not as a reality with other human being involved. I won't be discussing here religion as a political instrument and the history of it since this post is already getting too big.

So my question for everyone is: What's your type and what are your thoughts on religion? how do you understand faith? Are you more religious or spiritual? or maybe none?

p.s. I am by no means trying to convert anyone. just throwing my thoughts out there. Also, this is a repost from INFP subreddit (in case you came across it already)

I've always been someone who questioned everything around me and from an early childhood I've been quite skeptical towards religion as an abstract idea as well as organized religion. I love learning about religion from sociological and psychological perspectives and while I do consider myself as non-religious, I am interested in hearing other people's perspectives on this.

Main issue for me is topic of obedience. I cannot follow an ideology which promotes ideas that don't align with my own moral code. So hypothetically if I sin, what's the point of following the rules if in my consciousness I don't feel bad about it? and I'm only obeying because I don't want to upset the idea of god?

Fear: I'd argue that people turn to religion because atheism sounds too hopeless and most people wouldn't be religious if there was no idea of heaven. the concept of ultimate forgiveness by the divine and the idea of heaven provides a safety net for part of our brain which is horrified of death and offers a way to manage terror. but in my opinion choosing religion because you're scared of the alternative isn't really a good reason to follow religion.

In conclusion, I do have my own idea of the divinity that is far from any organized religion. I have not found any religion which aligns my values and moral code. I think on a surface level, I like religion as a concept but not as a reality with other human being involved.

I won't talk about religion as a political instrument and the history of it in this post since this is already getting too big.

what are your thoughts on religion? how does your Fi understand faith?

p.s. I am by no means trying to convert anyone. I am interested if any other INFPs share the same views as me. I think INFPs are quite spiritual in their own unique way

Hello! I decided to ask this question in ENTJ sub since I'm terrified of ESTJs.

As a Te dom, how do you find ways to structure your life and achieve your goals? do you have a certain routine or set of habits which help you navigate through life without losing your individualism?
I would love any piece of advice on how to strengthen my Te. I think my inferior Te is what's holding me back from achieving what I really want in life and keeps me "stuck". I don't have any Te dom friends to ask this question to so this is my only hope.

most importantly how do you find balance between your Fi and Te? I think what holds me back is my high Fi and struggle to find a way to use my dom and inferior functions to work together - being efficient while not losing my identity in the process of finding structure.

thank you in advance and shoutout to all the ENTJs out there. you guys are the most deeply misunderstood people

for context: my ESFP friend got INFP as her test result. For those who are eager to find their type, here are few reasons that make MBTI tests unreliable in my opinion:

Vagueness: questions are too generalized which forces the person to choose the neutral option.

Guilt tripping: questions which visibility indicate F vs T are formulated in a way that forces the person to choose the "good" aka the feeling option. for eg: "do you often feel empathy for others?" if you submit 'No', you're a jerk congratulations.

Sensing vs Intuition: tests portray sensors as if they navigate through life with their minds switched off while intuitives perform mental gymnastics 24/7.

I vs E: "How'd you rather spend your weekend?"
a) reading a book or watching movies.
b) snorting coke on a park bench with my 25 closest friends.

Biases: Most people's self-perception is quite flawed and doesn't align with who they are in real life. Which is why asking your closest friend/family member questions about yourself will give you some clarity and objectivity.

A common misconception about MBTI is that cognitive functions are somehow zero sum game, meaning that if you're a sensing type, you don't use intuition. Or if you're a feeler, you never use logic. In reality we are all IESNFTPJ, and our type merely represents our preference. All 8 functions are present in EVERY person, the only question is which of these functions are most developed in us and which are underdeveloped.

In conclusion, spending time with your thoughts and analyzing your emotions will help you figure out how your mind works. if studying cognitive functions is too demanding for you, find yourself a friend who's mbti nerd and let them type you. Discovering your type requires pre-existing understanding of your true self, and an online test will definitely not teach you who you are.

I thought I'd make this post since I see alot of people on here asking which test works the best, the answer is NONE. The most reliable way to discover your type is to summon the spirit of Carl Jung and ask him yourself

I have successfully typed all my closest friends except for one. for a while I found this quite puzzling since I've known her for years and I know how her mind works. yet, I have no clue what type she is.

My other friends are ESFP, INTJ and ISFJ. It was fairly easy to type them, but nothing made sense with this girl. I tried to look into high Ne users since she's quite creative and struggles with making decisions. still no success.

She insisted she wanted to be typed anyway (probably because she felt left out after the rest of the group found their type), so she decided she's an INTP because she likes the lab coat worn by INTP avatar girl. I refused to approve her newfound self-proclaimed identity since functions-wise it made no sense.

Today me, her, and our ISFJ friend were discussing an interesting topic regarding identity. I confessed that for the longest time I didn't know who I truly was and felt like a shell of a person who would shape-shift based on the people I was with. I finally started to figure out who I truly was only few years ago. getting to know my true inner self was the direct byproduct of navigating through life independently, almost losing myself through the process, breaking completely and slowly building myself up again. this happened while I was going through the darkest period of my life, lasting almost 2 years. and ever since I worked on myself, shed my skin and emerged as a new person, I just knew it - I knew exactly who I was, what I stood for, my values, my aspirations, my dreams. I knew myself better than I knew anyone.

I wouldn't have discovered my identity without all the hardships I endured and without learning valuable lessons from overcoming those hardships. My ISFJ friend had a similar experience. She experienced hell and dragged herself out of it by working very hard on improving herself and facing her fears. after her crisis, I barely recognized her, as if she became her potential. she is now a person she was always supposed to be and every day we help each other grow.

We naturally concluded that our identities aren't set in stone but rather built on our life experiences. difficult times are often most transformative, and the change that emerges when we are at our lowest point, is solely based on our ability to rebuild ourselves and push through (throwback to the amazing quote from the Legend of Korra: "When we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change"). The way we learn from these experiences are key to finding our truest self.

You can tell how much someone has been through by looking at the way they live their lives, the way they treat others and the way they regulate their emotions. Suddenly it struck me - my friend who I found impossible to type is someone who always plays life safe. She hasn't experienced those so called "transformative" canon events which changed her forever. She is a definition of a new soul (perfectly summed up by our ISFJ friend). basically she resembles a person who has still lot to experience and learn in life. frankly when I explained it to her, she agreed and said that she feels that way too.

I am not by all means trying to glamorize or romanticize pain. We should not put ourselves into dangerous situations or make our lives harder just so we can feel something. But I am a firm believer that the hardest moments in life such as loss, heartbreak, identity/existential crisis are moments which lead us to discover the very depths of ourselves - the parts we didn't have access to until this very moment. parts of us which only emerged after we learned our lesson.

when you lack experience in life, lack a moral compass and do not trust yourself, it is almost impossible to know who you are. while "identity" has a different meaning for every person, I believe that what makes us "us", is our values, morals, way of life and the way we treat ourselves and others around us.

MBTI helps us identify our strengths and weaknesses. gives us a basic guidance on how to improve ourselves, explains how we connect with others, where we clash. but a personality test doesn't tell you who you are. And if you are someone who's very young and still has lot to experience, it is likely that your MBTI type is hard to pinpoint since there's so little to work with.

Thank you for those who listened to my rant. here is a cookie for your reward 🍪