u/mar_im_o

Hello! I'm Juno. I'm autistic, physically disabled, and have been an age regressor for years as a means of coping with severe childhood abuse and neglect. I live with my fiance who has fallen into the occassional caregiver role when I'm regressed.

I have been lurking in this sub for a few months now, though never posting because I haven't had much to say. I have an opinion that I keep sitting on and haven't shared, but I genuinely want to because I think it could benefit a lot of this community's members in the long run.

Before you look for a caregiver, you need to look for a relationship.

I see a ton of regressors on here posting about how much they want a caregiver. The things they describe are all take with no give, and I do understand that there are situations where that will be the dynamic of the relationship, but that shouldn't be the expectation.

So many of you are looking for a caregiver which will allow you to feel completely cared for without having to do anything yourself. That mindset is going to lead to one of two situations: either you'll end up taking advantage of someone kind and well meaning, or you'll be taken advantage of by someone who wants to feel powerful.

If you want a healthy and lasting relationship with a caregiver, you need to see them as a person, not someone completing a service. They need to be someone you're willing to care for and assist and step outside of your comfort zone for.

I truly and deeply understand wanting to be taken care of all the time, but I worry for so many of you who are searching for caregivers without being willing to build a complete relationship. You all deserve to be cared for and treated correctly, and I hesitate to believe that can happen when creating a relationship whose dynamic is 100% reliant on you being helpless.

I've been reading the Sonic IDW comics for the first time and got to Surge and Kit's introduction. Something about Surge really got me. I felt this intense sort of understanding for her backstory, like I could relate. Then it all clicked into place.

I thought I was canon compliant, but I guess not entirely. Because Eggman created me.

Well, not entirely. I was my own hedgehog at first. But when I was young, Eggman took me in as a "prodigy". It's not entirely clear what happened, but I know he was cruel, and the outcome was my blue quills and speed.

I know I'm not cybernetic, so he must have been doing work with purely organic material at that time. I don't really know how he did what he did or why, but I know THAT'S the reason I hate Eggman so much.

I'd love to figure out more. I assume it'll come to me when the moment is right. But that felt like a pretty big realization.

Hi! I'm very new to this community and have recently gotten more involved through my Sonic fictotype. I was supremely obsessed for a few days and really felt like Sonic, so I started reading the IDW comics to appease the itch. Since then, I've noticed my kin feelings fading. I just don't feel as connected to him anymore and I'm not sure why. I felt SO euphoric a few days ago when I was called Sonic and really feeding into my 'type, but now I'm scared it was all just my imagination.

Is this normal? Or am I maybe not fictionkin at all?

Thanks!

Hello! I'm very new to the community and recently have felt really connected to my Sonic kintype. I'm experiencing some cognitive distortion in trying to figure out how I'm Sonic, though. I can't figure out what I believe about my fictionkin experiences--whether they're psychological or spiritual or physical. I feel like Sonic. I KNOW I'm Sonic. But I don't understand how.

Was hoping to hear others talk about their own experiences so I can see what common belief systems are! Figured that could guide me in my own self-exploration!

If you feel comfortable, please share your beliefs in how your identity originated!! Thank you!!

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Hello!

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My fiance (26NB) has crohn's disease and has days of pain and constantly running to the toilet during flair ups.

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Their job's policy is that any time off needs to be scheduled. Whether it's paid or unpaid, calling out unexpectedly accrues points. 3 times calling out within 3 months puts you on probation and takes away whatever bonuses you've earned for the month.

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Since the pain is unexpected, my fiance has had to call out without scheduling due to waking up in pain. Despite being one of the top performing employees in the building, they're being penalized. They've been told they cannot call out at all in the next 90 days, and my fiance is very worried about what to do if they wake up in severe pain again.

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So my question is: could they ask for this policy to be flexed as a reasonable accomodation? It wouldn't put undue stress on the workplace (there are many others there who do the same job as them), and they have the PTO. They would simply be asking to use time off without it being scheduled given their condition.

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I really don't think this is an unreasonable request, but I'm worried the workplace will argue that it is.

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I know FMLA is the best way to go here, but they haven't worked there a year yet, and we're not sure they can refrain from calling out for the next six months.

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Thank you!

Hello!

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My fiance (26NB) has crohn's disease and has days of pain and constantly running to the toilet during flair ups.

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Their job's policy is that any time off needs to be scheduled. Whether it's paid or unpaid, calling out unexpectedly accrues points. 3 times calling out within 3 months puts you on probation and takes away whatever bonuses you've earned for the month.

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Since the pain is unexpected, my fiance has had to call out without scheduling due to waking up in pain. Despite being one of the top performing employees in the building, they're being penalized. They've been told they cannot call out at all in the next 90 days, and my fiance is very worried about what to do if they wake up in severe pain again.

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So my question is: could they ask for this policy to be flexed as a reasonable accomodation? It wouldn't put undue stress on the workplace (there are many others there who do the same job as them), and they have the PTO. They would simply be asking to use time off without it being scheduled given their condition.

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I really don't think this is an unreasonable request, but I'm worried the workplace will argue that it is.

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I know FMLA is the best way to go here, but they haven't worked there a year yet, and we're not sure they can refrain from calling out for the next six months.

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Thank you!