u/mascprincessa

Heyoo. So I'm looking for a connection with depth and emotional intimacy. A connection where we can be ourselves and where I feel safe and respected as I am. Someone I can call my best friend and hopefully also partner if our connection develops into something really special and deep. Someone who thinks I'm brilliant the way I am and he just likes being around me even if we do nothing special.

I want to start as friends because I'm not about going fast and I need to know a person deeply before I know if they're someone I'm romantically interested in. I like to just relax and see where our connection leads. But not in a flimsy way like k let's see what happens, but in a intentional way. Like let's see what unfolds here and if it's something special.

Now let's get into who I am. I live in Finland, my mother tongue is Finnish but I'm bilingual these days cause I've spoken English every day for almost a decade now. I have an american accent with a bit of british sprinkled in there. I don't know where the british comes from, it just happens 😄. I don't really define my sexuality with a label. I just say I like girls mostly and sometimes guys. It's very nuanced and I don't like limiting myself with a label. I'm anyway more interested in someone's essence and personality rather than their gender.

I'm a witch. Ooo spooky, run 👻. Okay lol but seriously I'm a witch so I practice witchcraft. I'm a deeply spiritual person overall. My spirituality is based on witchcraft, nature and goddess spirituality. I love manifestation, tarot/oracle cards and dream interpretation. Also interested in the occult. Shamanism also fascinates me. I'm a very spiritual person so if you ask me how I'm doing I might be going through some deep transformation within and I might be receiving guidance, intuitive hits, or I might just know something and then it happens etc. so if you wanna know me, be prepared for that kind of stuff. I get along best with people who aren't overly logical and who acknowledge that there is a spiritual aspect to life. So if you're like very skeptical and don't believe in anything spiritual, we aren't a good fit.

I'm a masculine presenting woman and for me that means I'm very male-leaning in how I look, my mannerisms, clothes etc. I have a masculine energy to me most of the time. But when I say masculine I don't mean tough, toxic or macho. I'm talking about healthy masculinity. And when I say male leaning I don't mean like omg Thor XD, I mean more like boyish looks. Basically I don't look like a woman and I'm not interested in looking like a woman, but I am a woman. Got it? Great. I like masculine clothes, I love cologne and wear a suit to fancy occasions. In every day life I love casual, comfortable but stylish clothes. I mostly wear streetwear, if that's what it's called.

In a relationship I'm naturally very protective of my partner and caring. I like holding my partner on my lap or have them lay on my chest when we sleep or when I'm reading etc. I'm clingy and affectionate so I like holding my partner close often and giving him kissies 🥰.

I'm someone who really doesn't give a damn about gende roles and honestly heteronormativity is such a cult in my opinion lol. It's disturbing to me how someone's behavior, personality, roles in life or in a relationship are expected to be determined by their gender. Like why would some generalized idea fit every complex individual person, just because they happen to be some gender? Doesn't make any sense to me. We all are aware that people are unique and different. I don't think anyone is meant to fit into some box.

I'm very attracted to guys who are smaller, delicate and have a soft and warm personality. I also prefer guys with more boysih and soft looks. But then I also like guys who are physically fit and strong. I find physical strength very attractive. But I also like more delicate guys who aren't strong.

What's most attractive to me is someone secure in themselves, confident, warm and he dares to be authentically himself, even if it ruffles feathers or someone disagrees.

My weakness is someone with a cute and innocent vibe but someone who is fiery, opinionated and speaks his mind as well. You know a softie with a backbone. I like a soft boy with a bit of an attitude :D. The more stubborn the better. I'm a very headstrong person so I want someone who's as headstrong as I am. I want someone who can answer my fire with fire.

I'm attracted to a guy whose character I admire. He's respectful, warm, curious about me but respects boundaries, polite and overall considerate of others. Someone who loves banter and being absolutely ridiculous together but also can be calm and grounded when the moment calls for it. I like someone who has a calm personality with a playful and cheeky side. Someone who feels grounding, steady but also radiant and alive. But I also love someone who yaps a lot and I think I need an extrovert or an ambivert. Someone who likes talking a lot with people. I'm quiet sometimes but with someone I love I'm a podcast and love talking for hours. So I really love it when someone likes talking a lot, about regular stuff, funny stuff, deeper stuff. Someone who makes me laugh just by being himself.

It's very important to me that my partner is someone who believes that human rights aren't up for a debate or an opinion, they're a given and everyone deserves to be treated with respect. He doesn't listen to degrading rap music, watch youtubers who make offensive jokes, he doesn't use words like the b word, mf, etc. because he understands that's offensive and harmful language. Like can I find a guy who just realizes on his own that hey, that's not a nice thing to say or do, even if it's normalized in every day life. I've yet to find a guy who is normal like this and self aware and naturally just notices injustice and cruelty.

There's also this thing about me, I'm very independent and I'm used to carrying it all alone. I'm a very resilient person emotionally and mentally. I'm also strong willed. That's why I've always wanted a partner who can match that. Who's the same type of resilient and has that inner strength. I've felt dissatisfied in past connections when I noticed that the other person couldn't hold as much as I could. I mean in a way like, he'd say don't worry I got it, I'll handle this one just relax. Someone who takes initiative to do something without asking. You know a natural leader type of person. I feel like I need a relationship where we both are natural leaders. That's the only way I'll feel fulfilled. Because yes I love to lead, I love to protect, I love to be the strong one. But I also love when my partner does that naturally, because that's just who he is.

I've also noticed that too often people are intimidated by me. I'm a very blunt and honest person, not in a rude way but I'll tell you what I think. And often that would mean the other person retreats and shrinks in my presence. People are different but when it comes to romance, for me, it has to be someone who doesn't shrink in my presence. A guy who doesn't get intimidated by a fiery personality or by me giving him my trademark calm stare when questioning him about something. The point is  I've got opinions and I share my thoughts openly. And apparently I have a habit of triggering even the most calm seeming dudes just by calmly questioning their behavior. I genuinely don't know what it is. I'm not doing anything special. But I do know that I'm only attracted to a person who doesn't shrink or run away when I talk to him or when there's a tough conversation that needs to happen. I wanna be able to be my full self without him shrinking himself. So that means I'm looking for a guy who's very secure in himself, mature and confident.

I also like someone who's a bit of an irritating asshole. Not genuinely, I don't like some disrespectful idiot. I mean he likes annoying me playfully and if I shove him he just grins and he likes seeing my attitude. That type of dynamic. For example I like shoving his chest whenever he's annoying (or perhaps when I'm flustered but I never said that). And sometimes, when I'm arguing I'm actually flirting. I know, I'm a confusing lass 🤌🏻.  but if you know me well you know if I'm actually angry or just into you.

I really like people who can easily talk to others and love having conversations. Someone who's genuinely curious about my inner world and what I think. Someone who's present and not in his head thinking about some trauma that happened five years ago or whether the dishes are done or whatever the helly else. Like just a guy who can sit there and be there with me without rush or urgency. Real presence.

Deep connection and community are part of my core values. I really value having close connections and I become very devoted/loyal once I trust someone. I really dream of that best friend energy. Like we can talk about anything, just hang out and have a whole slumber party just chatting to the wee hours of the morning in bed just being silly or talking about what's been bothering us, you know just normal stuff. But we both feel like we can just relax and be ourselves here. We don't need to pretend we are more knowledgeable or capable than we actually are. That kind of safety and bond is what I dream of.

Couple lifestyle related notes:

- I don't drink or smoke and never want to. I want a partner who feels the same way. Friendship wise it's fine if you drink occasionally (without trying to get drunk)

- I live in Finland and don't have interest in moving abroad

- I'm child-free by choice. I love children but I just wanna have fun doing what I want with my partner for the rest of my life so kids are a no thanks for me

My age range is about 23 to 33 give or take.

If you resonated with my post, send me a dm and introduce yourself :)

Haii. I’m not here to cure my boredom or to have a quick chat that ends in a few days. I’m also not looking for a conversation where we take turns to ask questions just to keep the conversation alive.

I’m here for depth and a real, genuine connection. I’m mainly looking for long-term friendship, my soul tribe.

I want to talk to someone who’s also eager to get to know someone new deeply and wants to have those natural back-and-forth type of conversations where the energy and conversation just flows naturally. Of course that can’t be just forced so if it doesn’t happen naturally we can just be like ight this ain’t working have a good day tho.

I’m looking for a friend I can share anything. We feel comfortable around each other and we both can be ourselves. A connection where we don’t feel judged, but we can also argue constructively and in a healthy way if there is a disagreement. So I’m looking for someone mature emotionally and mentally. Someone who can handle conflicts easily and isn’t reactive or immature. Someone who’s done her inner work and is self-aware. I’m looking for a friend who loves being silly and lighthearted as well and loves to make me laugh. Someone I just enjoy being around and she enjoys being around me, even if we do nothing special. I'd love to eventually meet if we become close.

I’d love to chat often so if you’re terribly busy it’s probably not gonna work out. I’m looking for someone who can be available and present in that way.

I'm first and foremost looking for a friend, but if I meet someone truly special I'm open to a serious relationship. I'm a date to marry type of girl btw.

My non-negotiables for a friendship are:

you don’t drink or smoke. Drinking occasionally is fine. But if you enjoy getting drunk I’m not for you. I’m looking for a person who values being present and healthy.

you’re someone who values using classy and respectful language. Aka you don’t curse every two seconds or use offensive casual language like the b word or mf etc. I don’t tolerate those words in my circle and if you don’t agree with that, I’m not for you.

You’re emotionally intelligent, mature, self-aware, respectful, emotionally available, kind, highly empathetic and have a good heart.

You value deep connections and having community.

You don’t watch anime and you agree that it’s problematic. You don’t wanna consume something like that.

You don’t play violent games, not a big gamer overall. If you play gta or cod, I’m not for you. Cozy games are fine.

you’re a feminist 100%

You don't use ai when sending me or other people messages. If you can't talk to me yourself, I most likely don't wanna know you.

You don’t tolerate or agree with toxic masculinity or macho culture. I’m about healthy masculinity and allowing people to be freely themselves.

You’re open minded and non-judgemental.

You overall care about all human rights. I don't mean you gotta be an activist, I mean you embody that value in the way you live.

I’m not negotiating or changing my non-negotiables. Naturally not everyone is gonna fit into what I’m looking for. I’m here for something specific.

About me:

I’m masculine presenting and have mostly a masculine energy. I don’t use any labels other than those, I’m not quite clear what fem/masc/butch etc means and I’m not personally about labels.

I’m studying art studies in university, aesthetics are my main subject.

I’m from Finland, bilingual (Finnish and English) and white. I don’t label my sexuality either. I don’t like doing that.

Personality wise I’m calm, grounded, blunt, can be fiery, and I’m passionate. With people I love and trust I’m very affectionate and clingy. I’m naturally very protective. I’m the type of friend to tell you when you’re out of line because I care about you. I don’t do lying or keeping the peace just to keep the peace. I’d rather have the tough conversations or even an argument if it happens to go that way. I’m not afraid of conflict and I love people who want to communicate. I love people who have enough security in themselves that they can advocate for themselves in a disagreement.

I’m not for people who refuse to grow or look at themselves honestly. I want responsible and caring people around me.

I’m a witch and very spiritual. I love manifestation, tarot/oracle cards, energy stuff, dream interpretation, psychic abilities and so on. I live cyclically and my spirituality is nature based.

I’m very woman centric in my life and a big feminist. Women are close to my heart. And by feminist I mean I believe every woman should be treated with love and respect, trans, poc, white or cis. I surround myself with women mostly and learn from and about women. I’m so done with men overall in my life and only accept quality men if there are any.

So if you fit my non-negotiables and we have a lot in common, send me a message introducing yourself. Looking forward to meeting you :). My age range is 23 to 32 give or take.

What I’m looking for:

1. Has done her inner work/therapy. Has worked on her self-awareness
2. Emotionally and mentally mature, secure in herself
3. Loyal
4. doesn’t drink or smoke
5. spiritual, witchy, into stuff like tarot, oracle cards, manifesting, witchcraft etc.
6. feminist and cares about other human rights as well. To her human rights are a given, not an opinion
7. doesn’t watch anime or play violent games like gta or cod.
8. Doesn’t curse much or use vulgar language. Doesn’t feel the need for that and doesn’t really like cursing
9. Someone open minded, kind, very empathetic and warm. Doesn’t judge people just because they’re different or don’t fit the norm
10. Has a mind of her own and doesn’t blindly follow the crowd
11. Yapper and loves to have conversations. Likes to talk about what interests her, what she dreams about, what’s inspiring her, or about something absolutely silly that makes us both laugh like crazy. Doesn’t connect with people through gossip, complaining or negativity
12. Likes to be playful, childlike, and silly
13. Is looking for a emotionally intimate and deep friendship even if there’s a distance. Values friendship and connection a lot

I check all the boxes above as well btw.

Who I am:

Heyoo so I’m a masculine presenting girl, 28 and from Finland. My pfp is a selfie of my shadow if you wanna get an idea of how I look btw. I speak English and Finnish. I have a American accent with a bit of British sprinkled in there for some reason XD. I don’t smoke or drink and don’t want anything to do with clubbing or bars.

I value living slowly and peacefully surrounded by nature. I wanna live a creative, inspired and deeply spiritually guided life surrounded by the people I love and doing what I love. I don’t believe in hustling or achieving stuff just to get validation. I don’t believe the crazy notion that productivity or how much you’ve done in your life somehow equals how worthy you are. Everyone is worthy just because they exist. Just being is enough. I don’t care if someone is successful or has a job or whatnot. What matters to me is someone’s character. Are they kind? Do they pay attention to others feelings? Do they have a good heart? That’s what I care about. I also believe in focusing on what makes me feel happy, at peace and fulfilled. I’m not about following society’s rules or norms just to fit in. I’m about authenticity and walking my own path, even if it’s scary sometimes.

I’m a very calm and grounded type of person. I’m usually in my own inner world, pondering or observing. I’m quite private too so I don’t let people close to me until they give me a reason to trust them. I’m often told I seem intimidating at first but then I’m actually surprisingly warm and empathetic when they talk to me.

I say what I actually think and I don’t care about ruffling feathers if it means I’m standing behind my values and what I believe in. I’m also the type of friend to hold up a mirror to you when needed and telling you if I think you’re about to do something reckless or stupid, even if you get mad at me for it. I don’t like lying just to avoid an argument. I’d rather argue constructively than pretend everything is fine. So if you’re someone avoidant and conflict is stressful for you, I’m not for you. I’m looking for people who know that arguing can be constructive and done in a healthy way.

I'm very spiritual and it's a big part of me. I've been spiritual since 13 and it's part of how I see the world. I love tarot/oracle cards, manifesting, dream interpretation and witchcraft.

I love sims 4 worldbuilding and gameplay, and hogwarts legacy. omg I love that game too much. Sebastian and Ominis are my comfort characters🥰. I also love the harry potter movies. No I'm not a jk rowling supporter. Maybe don't assume. A new concept I know🫢. I also love fitness, mostly weight lifting or dancing. I'm a cultural studies student soon and probably gonna do art history or folklore studies. I'm interested in symbolism, art and folk traditions.

the type of connection I’m looking for:

I’m looking for someone who also wants to find soulmate type of friends or your soul tribe. Someone who wants to talk often and actually build trust and a real friendship. I’m not looking for a quick chat that lasts anywhere from a few days to a week or two. I’m not here to cure my boredom or to flirt. I’m looking for someone genuine and someone who also craves real connection with someone on the same wavelength. I wanna find people who want to be close friends and be part of each other’s lives. I’d love to meet in the future irl if there’s a distance.

I’m open to a serious relationship if I meet someone great. But I start with friendship because to me it’s important I know someone’s character and values before I’m interested in them. I can have a spark with someone but no important values in common. So having a spark holds little weight to me in terms of who I’m interested in romantically. But if you’re interested in me romantically after reading my post I don’t mind if you share that with me. I’m masc4masc btw so I’m very into masculine presenting women.

So if you read my post and fit into what I’m looking for and you’re eager to get to know me, send me a dm 🙂. my age range is about 23 to 33.

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What I’m looking for:

1. calm, grounded, secure in herself

2. has done therapy/her inner work, very self aware

3. knows who she is deeply

4. natural leader

5. mature emotionally and mentally. Handles conflicts smoothly. Doesn’t get reactive if her view is challenged in a conflict. She can have a conversation about it. She doesn’t get defensive. She wants to know what I’m feeling, what she’s feeling and find a solution. She’s very present, calm, patient and resilient in tough situations. Takes my feelings seriously.

6. yapper and loves to have conversations. Loves to talk about things that inspire her, interest her, our dreams and things we both are reflecting on. She doesn’t bond with people through drama, gossip or shared trauma

7. doesn’t drink or smoke. She thinks it’s unhealthy and just causes issues. She knows there’s nothing real or joyful about getting drunk

8. Feminist and she cares about other human rights as well deeply. Human rights aren’t an opinion to her, they’re a given and a foundational part of her values and the way she lives.

9. Very empathetic, warm, caring, kind and emotionally intelligent

10. Doesn’t play super violent and disturbing games like gta or cod

11. Doesn’t watch anime and also recognizes how problematic and disturbing most of it is

12. deeply spiritual. Trusts the unseen, passionate about things like manifesting, tarot, witchy stuff, nature based spirituality etc.

13. Positive outlook on life while acknowledging that our world is very dark

14. doesn’t believe in hustle culture or being overly busy. She wants to live slowly, doing the things she loves and being surrounded by nature and the people she loves

15. has a mind of her own. She doesn’t follow the crowd. She has examined her societal programming and lives outside of it

I’m looking for a woman who’s also looking for a forever type connection. Not that it must last forever if it doesn’t for some reason but the intention is there for both of us. We want something lasting, to find our person, or our forever friends. I’m looking for someone who is interested in deep, devoted, emotionally intimate relationships. Someone who doesn’t waste time on surface level connections and doesn’t find them fulfilling. I’m not looking for a distraction, to cure my boredom or to have some fun. I want something steady, continuous and genuine. A connection where we both deeply care about each other, even if there’s distance.

I want to start as friends because I don’t really flirt with people from the get go. I’m not interested in that. For me to be interested in someone I’m watching for her mindset, maturity and if we have a similar vision for our lives. That’s what makes me interested. Nothing’s more attractive to me than someone with values, morals, actual maturity and someone who’s dived deep into herself. That’s the only way you can dive deep with someone else anyway, when you’ve done the journey within yourself first. So yeah I like to take my time getting to know you. I like when it’s slow and intentional. Not necessarily slow in how often we reply but how fast we move. Of course I don’t mind if it’s fast in ways if we really connect and feel safe with each other. But you get the point I’m not looking for a trauma bond or fast sparks.

About me:

Now more about who I am so you can get an idea. I’m a masculine presenting woman and have mostly masculine energy. My pfp is a selfie of my shadow if you want an idea of how I look. I wanna mention btw that my masculinity has nothing to do with being tough, stoic or toxic. I’m very much emotional, soft.

I’m attracted to other masculine women almost exclusively. I’m attracted to women who look very masculine and have both masculine and feminine energy to them. I’m from and live in Finland, white, sapphic, I’m bilingual so I speak English and Finnish. I have an American accent with a dash of British which I don’t know where that comes from but k😂

I did 4 years of therapy and it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. Honestly felt like a life university at the time. I think everyone should do therapy. This world would heal and perhaps people would be less greedy and evil. I genuinely think the world has bad people because of so many wounded and traumatized people who just try to keep themselves together by any means necessary. They become so obsessively focused on numbing their own pain that nothing else matters. They become selfish and blind to anyone else’s feelings or the impact they’re having on people.

I see the world through a psychological lens a lot and a spiritual one. I studied psychology in depth in high school and on my own time. So I understand why people behave the way they do, plus my therapy definitely added to that.

I’m also deeply spiritual and it’s a big part of me and how I live. I listen to the unseen, I’m constantly guided by spirit/the goddess/the universe, whatever you wanna call it, if I just want to be. I’ve been spiritual since I was 13. These days I’m a witch, my spirituality is nature based, I live cyclically with the seasons and my menstrual cycle. I work with goddesses and to me god is a feminine entity/energy.

I also like to embrace the mystery. Like I don’t have to know exactly what the truth of this universe is. I’m chill about it cause I know I probably will never know fully.

My spirituality is heavily experience based. To me something is true if I experience it myself or someone close to me does. I’m actually a huge skeptic as well but also deeply trust the things we can’t see, which is curious. I also make sure my spirituality is as matriarchal and woman centric as possible. I’m tired of the patriarchal faiths full of oppression of different types of people. People say respect different religions but I don’t respect something that disrespects my existence in the name of religion. I’m not mean to people of those faiths but I just don’t talk to them.

I’m a big feminist, women are very important to me and I have a lot of love for women. I don't use words like the b word, mf etc, I don’t listen to or watch music/media that’s sexist or otherwise oppressive. Of course I can’t always fully avoid it in media but I sure try. I genuinely can’t stand it and it makes me feel upset, uncomfortable and unwell if I let such stuff into my mind. I genuinely don’t get how most people are fine with it. Well I have a theory, I think most people are asleep, unconscious to it even happening or they’re so numb to it by now they think it’s normal.

Other stuff about me, well I’m very creative, imaginative, I love everything cozy and magical. I’m also fascinated by eerie and odd things, probably why I love alice in wonderland and Wednesday Addams. I’m a writer and I also love world building in the sims 4, making elaborate save files with lore and beautiful builds. Very passionate about branding, visual design and content creation. Currently I’m reflecting and deciding on what to study in university. And yes I don’t have a degree yet so if you’re gasping at your screen right now with 0 understanding of how people have different lives and life situations, please do exit my post, we wouldn’t be good friends.

Oh and one more thing that’s important to mention. I’m very blunt and honest. You’ve been warned. And I don’t mean I’m a jerk I mean I sometimes say truths you might not wanna hear. I definitely make sure you know how I feel if you’re someone I care about and you’re about to do something irresponsible, reckless or downright stupid. It’s because I love you and I care. And I deliver it with eloquent firmness. But honestly I’d love a relationship where we are so comfortable with each other we can call each other stupid without it meaning we are genuinely trying to be mean. Delivered with love you know😂

I value honesty and a direct communication style in other people as well, those are my favorite people. People who are outspoken and I don’t have to wonder what they’re thinking or feeling. I’d rather date a stubborn, vocal cutie than someone who hides what she feels and thinks. I’d rather have an argument with you than have to guess what you feel. And I mean argue constructively, not in a toxic way.

So those are the most important points about who I am and what I’m looking for. If you read my post and really align with my values, mindset, and are looking for what I’m looking for, send me a message 💕

And if you’re like okay she’s like cool but like what the helly do I say, inspiration is gone😩🤌🏻 Girl just say anything genuine. Direct works best with me, nothing creepy tho.

My age range is about 23 to 33.

Looking forward to hearing from you! 🎀

I’m looking for a genuine friendship with someone who’s also looking for a real friendship that lasts. Not some chat that lasts for a few days or a week. Someone who craves vulnerability, emotional intimacy, depth, loyalty and a space where you can be yourself fully. A friendship full of softness, warmth and care. Someone who shares my values.

I’m looking for friendship where we just enjoy being around each other even if we’re not doing anything special. We bond over sharing who we are, our experiences, talking about our dreams, what inspires us, our interests.

I’d love to meet someone with a similar time zone so probably someone from Europe (I'm from Finland). I’d love to talk a few times a week or so. So if you’re terribly busy it’s not gonna work.

I’m gay btw so you weirdos who think you can get with me can get lost. I’m only here to find a genuine friend.

My ideal friend is someone warm, emotionally open, soft, caring, deeply empathetic. Someone kind and considerate. You have a good heart.

What’s also important is that he’s emotionally and mentally mature. He’s done the work. He doesn’t react to everything like a man child. A guy who’s actually a grown man with a brain and a heart.

Do you know how many men pretend to be oh so mature but the second you challenge him even a lil bit, just a teeny tiny bit, he flips the tables like a five year old crying for mommy cause his self esteem got a hit. Yeah, if you’re that don’t talk to me.

I’m looking for a guy who can easily handle conflict like alright let’s talk about it, I actually care about how I made you feel.

I’m a person who faces conflict or a problem head on and I love mature, open communication. We can have a full conversation even when we’re mad at each other. If you’re the type to freeze, run away or you just try to quickly calm it down because you get anxious about arguments, I’m not your gal. I like a person who can stay present during conflict and is interested in listening to me and understanding me and himself.

What’s also important to me is that he’s someone who cares about his health and is responsible. I don’t drink or smoke anything. I prefer friends who live the same way. I am fine if you occasionally drink but if you like to get drunk and it’s fun to you, we’re not a good match.

Feminism is also important to me. I’m someone who has deprogrammed patriarchy from my mind and life. I surround myself with people who share that value. I’m looking for a guy who is a proud feminist and lives that value embodied in his life. A guy who cares about what he listens to and watches. A guy who gets uncomfortable and mad from sexism or any other type of oppression. A guy who also dislikes when people use words like the b word, mf etc. Genuinely, if you don’t feel anything towards seeing oppression and you gotta scratch your head to figure out why I just said all that I said, you’re not for me. I’m looking for a conscious, normal man who cares. Not some dude who lives within his programming and never questioned anything he thinks or believes.

Now, I’ll share more about myself:

so I’m a masculine presenting woman and I want to live a slow, creative and inspired life surrounded by nature and peace. I don’t do bars or clubs and I’d rather stay at home sipping tea on my terrace.

I'm a highly sensitive person, warm, affectionate with people I'm close with and I'm direct in the way I speak.

I’m a very spiritual person. I believe in manifesting, psychic abilities, energy, the divine is a goddess to me. My spirituality is very feminine and nature based. I’m also a witch and it has become my new passion lately. I also love studying tarot and I’d like to become really good at it. If you’re my friend you should be someone who doesn’t doubt the existence of the spirit world or the unseen. To me those are very real and I can’t connect with someone who’s overly logical and believes only what he can sense with his five senses.

I also love playing Hogwarts Legacy, it’s my comfort game at the moment. I don’t like other gaming much. I’m a big harry potter fan too btw. I don’t like jk rowling but I love the films and the world. If you’re a potter fan as well awesome! Lemme know your house and favorite character(s).

So if you read my post and think wow I think we’d get along so well, we have such similar values! Send me a dm introducing yourself. I’d love to get to know you <3 Age range about 24 to 32.

P.s.

no anime dudes or gamers who play cod, gta or other violent, vulgar games.

I’m looking for a real, long-term friendship. I’m not looking for a quick chat, a chat that lasts for a few days or to cure my (or your) boredom. I’m looking for an actual friendship. I don’t mind distance. I'm from Finland.

What I’m looking for in a friend:

- emotionally and mentally stable, takes responsibility for herself fully, and for her mistakes.

- mature emotionally and mentally. Has done her inner work. She has raised her self-awareness.

- Speaks fluent/native English or Finnish (I’m bilingual). I don’t want a language barrier.

- When there’s conflict she’s calm and curious about why I’m feeling the way I am. Her sense of self isn’t threatened if I’m mad at her or even if it was a misunderstanding. She has enough inner security to not attack herself if she’s done something. Instead she takes responsibility. She cares about how she makes others feel. She doesn’t crumble, freeze or get defensive in emotionally difficult situations. She stays present and wants to communicate. Someone who feels emotionally safe.

- She doesn’t smoke anything or drink. It’s fine if you drink occasionally but wanting to get drunk is a deal breaker for me. I want friends who care about their health and are responsible.

- Deep, emotionally open and introspective. Someone who self-reflects and thinks about things deeply, and doesn’t have a lot of emotional walls or distance. Emotionally available. Avoidant or emotionally shut down/distant is a deal breaker for me.

- Spiritual like me. Likes manifestation, witchcraft, tarot, things like that. I’m very spiritual and it’s part of my worldview. I’d want a friend who also understands the world that way. A deal breaker is if you’re a major skeptic and doubt the existence of the unseen world. To me it's a very real and natural part of how the world works.

- She’s a proud feminist and women’s rights and wellbeing is important to her. Not in a political or activist sense necessarily, although that’s cool too, I mean she lives out that value in her every day life. She cares about what music she listens to, what and who she chooses to watch or follow. She gets uncomfortable if there’s sexist language or content. Someone who cares about that stuff and doesn’t just brush over it. Someone who cares about human rights as a whole. To me human rights are a foundational value. To me every person has innate value and someone’s rights aren’t an opinion, they’re a given.

- Supportive of trans, non-binary people and bisexual women.

- Optimistic, open-minded, notices the good and wants to talk about what excites her, inspires her, interests her. She loves conversations and is curious about other people.

- Can look at things from multiple angles and doesn’t result to black and white thinking.

- Has a calm and grounded energy to her. For example if she sees some mean comment or an opposing opinion online she doesn’t feel the triggered need to add to the conversation, it’s just useless arguing online to her. She’s not reactive and pulled to different directions by her triggers. She’s self-aware and has no need to proof her point to people.

- Doesn’t curse a lot and doesn’t feel a need for it.

Now more about who I am:

I’m a masculine presenting woman, leaning towards looking very “male”, that’s what I prefer. I have a mostly masculine energy to me. I’m someone calm, grounded, sensitive and I enjoy living surrounded by nature. My goal in life is to have a spiritual, cozy, slow, deeply inspired and creative life.

In a crowd I’m the quiet observant one who knows too much about other people but most know very little about me. I just notice a lot, I do think it’s because I have the highly sensitive trait.

When I’m close to someone I’m very devoted and loyal. I like to be physically cuddly and affectionate. I’m very nurturing and protective as well. I share my opinion quite stubbornly when I feel something you’re about to do is unsafe or irresponsible. I don’t mind if you get mad at me cause I’m more committed to you staying safe than you liking me in that moment. I’m also quite direct and blunt sometimes so keep that in mind if you want to be my friend. I don’t work well with people who take my words as an attack when I’m just sharing the truth that’s not easy to face. I want a friend who wants to know the truth.

I have a big heart and usually the first thing people who know me say about me is that I’m very warm and empathetic.

I sense from someone’s vibes and behavior if they’re someone genuine and safe to open up to. I read body language well and listen to my intuition. If they’re not safe I stay quite vague, not really sharing much about myself. I only share myself with people who have a genuine heart.

I’m spiritual and have been since I was 13. The unseen and spiritual parts of life are a natural part of how the world works. To me it’s not supernatural. But it definitely does make life magical. I love manifestation, witchcraft, tarot, dream interpretation and women’s mysteries. I live cyclically with the season and my menstrual cycle. My spirituality could be labeled as feminine/goddess spirituality. I’m psychic as well. And no I won’t do a tarot reading for you or try to sense you if you ask.

Other interests I have are fitness, playing hogwarts legacy(my favorite game) and sims 4 world building. Oh and I’m a writer as well.

I am open to a relationship developing if I meet someone special. But to me everything starts from a solid foundation of friendship and I don't rush things. My type is usually very masc women, like visually they're very masc.

So if you fit what I’m looking for and you want to get to know me, send me a message introducing yourself. Would love to hear from you.

Hey, I have had a bit of a rough night and I'd love to talk to someone who has space to listen. Especially if you have dealt with insomnia due to emotional distress or sleep anxiety. I'd really appreciate anyone reaching out. please be non judgemental and kind, I don't need someone invalidating my feelings when I'm already not doing well, thank you.

Hey ♡ I'm a 28 year old masc girl who lives surrounded by nature and loves spirituality, writing, fitness and everything cozy. I value living life slowly and softly. I believe life is about enjoying it and sharing it with the people you love.

What really matters to me is my self, my loved ones and my desires in life. And good food 🤌🏻✨ seriously I'm the happiest when I'm sharing a nice meal together with my people and just talking, spending the day together. Another time I'm really happy is when I get to just be alone and connecting to my inner wisdom or when I'm creating.

I love herbal tea, gentle yoga, tarot readings, witchcraft, bookstores, playing Hogwarts legacy and roleplaying. I'm childlike and imaginative.

I don't like social media thus I don't have stuff like insta, tiktok etc. i hate that stuff. I want to live life offline and only consuming a few youtubers who make content I care about. Mostly spiritual stuff, pick a card readings and ambiences.

I don't smoke or drink, never touched that stuff. I decided at probably 13 I won't ever drink. I never liked that stuff and I don't understand the appeal.

To me in friendships what matters most is a deep emotional bond. That we can be fully ourselves without judgement and we are loyal. A relationship won't make us forget our friendship. I want that type of friendship. We both value each other as much as our romantic relationships.

What I'm looking for in a friend:

I don't care about long distance. As long as you speak fluent/native English or Finnish.

Substance free or you drink a little occasionally. If you drink to get drunk I'm not interested.

Mature emotionally and mentally. Conflict is easy for her and she stays present in conflict. She openly listens to feedback on her behavior and it doesn't feel like a threat to her. She becomes curious rather than afraid when I'm angry or upset. She feels comfortable disagreeing with me if needed be and wants to have an actual conversation with me about the situation. She wants fix the situation and genuinely cares about how others feel.

She respects boundaries, is considerate of how her words affect others.

Kind, very empathetic and has a big heart. Affectionate and warm.

Chatty and loves to talk a lot with me from deep topics to absolutely random ridiculousness. I'd want a friend I just enjoy being around. I like being around her because of who she is.

Open minded and non-judgemental. Like if someone says they have never flown a plane or don't have a degree at 30 she's not gonna be like "ummm whattt that's like so embarrassing." I don't wanna be friends with mean people thanks.

Someone who's already deep in her spirituality. it's fine if you're new to it but I'd rather want people who aren't super skeptical of the unseen world. To me the spirit world, psychic abilities, tarot, energy, manifesting are all very much real. So I'd like a friend who's already on that wave length and not wondering is this all real.

A person who also values a certain level of class and sophistication. Like she won't curse a lot or use words like the b word or mf etc. I'm uncomfortable with people who wanna use offensive language about women.

Likes honest and direct people. I can be very blunt occasionally and I'd like a friend who is chill about that.

She's a feminist proudly and she cares a lot about women's rights. I don't necessarily mean politically but personally she wants to make sure she behaves and speaks respectfully. She embodies and lives out that value in her every day life.

Send me a dm if you wanna chat ♡

Hey ♡ I'm a 28 year old masc girl who lives surrounded by nature and loves spirituality, writing, fitness and everything cozy. I value living life slowly and softly. I believe life is about enjoying it and sharing it with the people you love.

What really matters to me is my self, my loved ones and my desires in life. And good food 🤌🏻✨ seriously I'm the happiest when I'm sharing a nice meal together with my people and just talking, spending the day together. Another time I'm really happy is when I get to just be alone and connecting to my inner wisdom or when I'm creating.

I love herbal tea, gentle yoga, tarot readings, witchcraft, bookstores, playing Hogwarts legacy and roleplaying. I'm childlike and imaginative.

I don't like social media thus I don't have stuff like insta, tiktok etc. i hate that stuff. I want to live life offline and only consuming a few youtubers who make content I care about. Mostly spiritual stuff, pick a card readings and ambiences.

I don't smoke or drink, never touched that stuff. I decided at probably 13 I won't ever drink. I never liked that stuff and I don't understand the appeal.

To me in friendships what matters most is a deep emotional bond. That we can be fully ourselves without judgement and we are loyal. A relationship won't make us forget our friendship. I want that type of friendship. We both value each other as much as our romantic relationships.

What I'm looking for in a friend:

I don't care about long distance. As long as you speak fluent/native English or Finnish.

Substance free or you drink a little occasionally. If you drink to get drunk I'm not interested.

Mature emotionally and mentally. Conflict is easy for her and she stays present in conflict. She openly listens to feedback on her behavior and it doesn't feel like a threat to her. She becomes curious rather than afraid when I'm angry or upset. She feels comfortable disagreeing with me if needed be and wants to have an actual conversation with me about the situation. She wants fix the situation and genuinely cares about how others feel.

She respects boundaries, is considerate of how her words affect others.

Kind, very empathetic and has a big heart. Affectionate and warm.

Chatty and loves to talk a lot with me from deep topics to absolutely random ridiculousness. I'd want a friend I just enjoy being around. I like being around her because of who she is.

Open minded and non-judgemental. Like if someone says they have never flown a plane or don't have a degree at 30 she's not gonna be like "ummm whattt that's like so embarrassing." I don't wanna be friends with mean people thanks.

Someone who's already deep in her spirituality. it's fine if you're new to it but I'd rather want people who aren't super skeptical of the unseen world. To me the spirit world, psychic abilities, tarot, energy, manifesting are all very much real. So I'd like a friend who's already on that wave length and not wondering is this all real.

A person who also values a certain level of class and sophistication. Like she won't curse a lot or use words like the b word or mf etc. I'm uncomfortable with people who wanna use offensive language about women.

Likes honest and direct people. I can be very blunt occasionally and I'd like a friend who is chill about that.

She's a feminist proudly and she cares a lot about women's rights. I don't necessarily mean politically but personally she wants to make sure she behaves and speaks respectfully. She embodies and lives out that value in her every day life.

Send me a dm if you wanna chat ♡

I am only open to friendship right now and I want to form a deep bond and trust with someone. I'm looking for true friends with similar values and ways of seeing life. I don't mind long distance at all. I put everything I'm looking for in a friend to bullet points down below. After that I share more about myself so you get an idea of who I am. Send me a message if you connect with my post :)

- Emotionally and mentally mature. Often feels like she's surrounded by people less aware and mature. She wishes she'd meet someone on the same wave length. She's tired of immature, irresponsible and careless behavior and mindsets. She wants to meet someone safe, truly mature and easy to be around.

- Has done the work and actively reflects on herself.

- Spiritual, witchy, into manifestation, tarot, paganism, shamanism, anything like that. I'm very spiritual and I want a friend I can talk about that with.

- Speaks native level English or Finnish. I can't build a deep bond with someone who struggles with communication because of a language barrier. I wanna be able to communicate freely without simplifying my language.

- Doesn't smoke or get drunk. I prefer friends who don't use substances of any kind at all. But if you occasionally drink and it's just one glass or so I'm fine with that.

- Has a classy and respectful way of speaking. I don't wanna hang around someone who uses disrespectful and unconscious language.

- Open to constructive criticism, even if she doesn't like hearing it. Takes responsibility for her mistakes and wants to be an active participant in solving a conflict.

- Strong self-esteem and sense of self.

- Considerate of other people's feelings and boundaries.

- Highly empathetic, warm and caring.

- Has self-love and her own boundaries she communicates clearly.

- Non-judgemental and open minded. Doesn't have those "people should be this, this, and this by this age" types of beliefs. Isn't impressed by people's status or achievements but by their character. Doesn't believe in following the norm blindly.

- Positive, balanced outlook on life. Someone who acknowledges the bad but focuses on the good. Someone who thinks beyond the boundaries of what we've been told is possible. Daring and bold that way.

- Someone who wants to spend her life enjoying it, honoring her own heart's desires and spending time with her loved ones.

- Wants us to be two separate individuals who enjoy each other's company. I don't wanna bond over venting or over constant negativity.

- Takes things slow. Not necessarily in how frequent the conversation is but rather how fast the connection progresses

- Wants a genuine close friend she can be emotionally vulnerable with and one she trusts deeply. She doesn't mind long distance, what matters to her is the depth and the strength of the bond

Here's more about myself as well:

So, I'm a 28 year old masculine presenting woman. I live in nature and love it that way. I'm currently considering what I want to study in university and crafting my own unique path in life. I'm in no rush and I'm focused on my own fulfillment and peace.

I don't like cities and you'll never find me in a bar or a loud club. I enjoy staying at home, being creative, reading, I got a big thirst for knowledge and a big passion for spirituality.

At first glance I seem quite in my own bubble, calm or solemn. Because of that I'm often described as intimidating. But I'm actually very warm and empathetic. I just don't jump for joy or joke around with people when I first meet them, I don't work that way. I don't usually start conversations. But if someone talks to me I'm open to talking. I'm direct and blunt in the way I speak. I can be guarded to a degree because I don't trust people easily. But once I like and trust someone I show my more sensitive and warm side. I'm very devoted and loyal when I form a genuine bond with someone. I really value my different relationships.

When I wanna do something fun it can be having tea and some baked goods/snacks while watching a movie together, playing board games. We can go out to some fun event. For example I really enjoy Halloween or Christmas events.

So, if you saw my post and went like wow I think this person is similar to me and I'd really love to chat, send me a message. I'd love to get to know you :)

Hey~ so I just recently ended a almost decade long friendship and I've been managing okay but I genuinely don't have people in my life I can talk to openly.

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It would feel nice to just share what happened.

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We can talk about normal stuff too, get to know each other genuinely. And if we genuinely click I'd love to be friends because I'm overall looking for long term queer friends in my life.

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If you'd like to chat send me dm <3 and please make sure you have emotional maturity and you're kind and not judgemental if you reach out to me.

I’m looking for true friends here. Someone who also values having genuine friends in her life. A connection where we both feel safe to be vulnerable and our real selves. Someone who also values emotional intimacy and being emotionally and mentally mature. Like I’d love to meet someone who speaks the same language in terms of maturity and self awareness. I did a lot of therapy in my early twenties and I was very serious about it and it’s one thing I’m very proud of. I’m not about flings, surface level stuff, trying to be cool, trying to fit into some societal mold to be accepted. I don’t follow the crowd and I focus on asking myself what do I want and what makes me happy. I value myself highly and I’m very selective about the people I keep around me. I’d love to meet someone who’s like-minded like that and has an actual self and secure attachment or working towards that. I want someone who’s communicative and thus easy to communicate boundaries with or solve a conflict with.

I’m looking for someone who wants to talk often during the week and wants to prioritize each other. Someone who has space for a new person in their life, emotionally, mentally and lifestyle wise. Presence is important to me. Only message me if you want something long term, I’m not looking for a one day chat and then bye.

I take my time building a connection and I want to start off as friends. if I develop a deeper connection with someone, I’m open to a serious relationship. If you’re someone who wants to immediately flirt, I don’t work that way so please don’t do that. It’s fine if you want to express you’re interested romantically, I like direct, the respectful kind. But anything further than that I’m not fine with.

Before I’m interested in someone I need to know their character, energy and what they value and stand for. I need to observe how someone behaves and see if they’re truly kind to others etc. That’s how attraction works for me. I really am not impressed by oh they look hot and are funny. I’m interested in actual compatibility and do we share the same values and world view. I take romance and relationships seriously.

I’m Kay, 28 and from Finland. Bilingual, I speak English more than Finnish these days. I’m masc presenting but I don’t define myself with any labels like masc or butch or fem etc. I’m not quite sure what those labels even are and it’s mostly american culture which I am not apart of. I have short hair and love masculine clothes and having muscles. I have a pretty masculine energy with some feminine flare. I’m not about toxic masculinity though in any way. Like acting tough, stoic or emotionally unavailable is just performative masculinity copied from toxic men. I’m about healthy masculinity.

Personality wise I’m calm, very observant, grounded and a bit shy but also weirdly bold and I speak quite directly. I’m passionate and fiery too. When I’m close to someone I’m very affectionate, physically clingy and warm.

I’m mainly looking for friendship with people who share the same interests as me. I’m very spiritual and witchy. I love manifestation, tarot and witchcraft and goddess spirituality. I’m psychic. I love reading witchy and spiritual books. Like I get so excited if I get to go to a bookstore and buy a new book to learn something new. I usually go straight to the spiritual/wellness/psychology section. I’m not really big on fiction. I’d love to have spiritual and witchy friends who I can talk about that stuff with and share our experiences and knowledge.

I’m a big hogwarts legacy and harry potter fan. No I don’t support or like jk rowling. I love the world and I think hogwarts legacy is the renewed, better version of that world, more inclusive and diverse, which is why I love it a lot more than the old harry potter films. The world makes me very happy and it’s just the coziest thing ever to me. I also roleplay harry potter stuff with roleplay apps, it’s one of my favorite hobbies <3. Can you guess my hogwarts house? You can open with that if you wanna, guess my house and why you think I’m that house haha. And if you played hogwarts legacy I’d love to know your favorite character(s)!

so if you are spiritual or a harry potter/hogwarts legacy fan we have actually something to talk about ❤️. I also love psychology, sims 4, business and entrepreneurship and I’m obsessed with branding for some reason. One of my favorite youtubers is this woman talking about the branding and marketing campaigns of different singers.

One important thing about me also is that I cannot stand social media. I’m very intentional with who I watch and I prefer to not be on social media if possible. It really is such a negative soul sucking environment full of people vomiting their emotional pain onto others. My mental health has been way better after I stopped using social media. I just have a few youtubers I watch and I’m very no no about short form content. I’d like to keep my brain and attention span in tact thank you.

I’m overall a person who values having a cozy, slow and simple life surrounded by my loved ones, nature and good food. That’s what genuinely makes me happy. I don’t find fulfillment in status, constantly having goals and I cannot stand hustling and productivity obsessed people. To me life’s purpose is enjoying it, experiencing being. Spending time with the people I love. I am career driven but it’s driven by a soul calling or a heart calling, not seeking status or validation or whatever else.

My boundaries:

- I can’t be friends with anyone who drinks every week or actively wants to get drunk when they drink. I also don’t befriend smokers or weed users. I’m fine if you drink occasionally a normal amount. Romance wise my partner has to be completely substance free. I cannot stand substances and don’t want them in my life.

- I’m allergic to cats so a relationship with someone who has cats won’t work

- I don’t really wanna talk to people who like anime or manga. I can’t stand it and to me it’s problematic.

- Please be fluent in English or Finnish. I don’t like connections with a language barrier. Romance wise my partner gotta be a native English or Finnish speaker for the same reason.

- if you’re not a feminist and have a problem with any other human rights just please don’t even. I don't wanna talk to you.

- I’m not currently in school or working so if you base someone’s value on their employment status or life situation we aren’t a match.

Send me a dm if you wanna get to know me ❤️

Heyy so I’m looking for a real connection, I'd love some lesbian/queer friends. I’m open to a serious relationship if I meet someone I really connect with that way, but no pressure let’s just be friends first.

I don’t drink or smoke and I’m fine being friends with someone who drinks sometimes. But if you wanna get drunk or smoke you’re not for me. Romance wise my partner has to be completely free of alcohol or any drugs. I’m also allergic to cats.

I'm from Finland. I’m a masc presenting woman and my energy is very masculine with some femininity. I don’t like to label myself to masc or fem or any other word. I’m just me. I have short hair and dress in masc clothes. I have to mention that altho I’m masculine I do not support toxic masculinity, toughness or not showing emotions because I’m masc. I’m about healthy and soft masculinity.

I’m someone very calm and composed. I observe more than I talk, especially with strangers. With someone I love and am close to I talk a lot sometimes. Altho I’m calm I’m very passionate, direct and straightforward in how I speak. Sometimes I do it without even realizing, like to me it’s just how normal people communicate but apparently I’ve always been pretty direct haha, more direct than most people. I don’t mean I’m rude but more like I just say what’s on my mind even if it’s not what the social script says I should do. I just like to be honest cause dancing around it gets you nowhere. I do struggle with that sometimes, showing my bluntness fully or my passion. Mostly because people don’t actually want someone direct around or they’re intimidated by my passion. I feel all of my feelings passionately. It would be nice to meet someone who doesn’t just tolerate directness or a fiery personality but prefers it.

I’m a very spiritual person, I love manifestation, tarot, dream interpretation and I finally got into witchcraft. I absolutely love this stuff and I love reading spiritual/witchy books. I have a big thirst for knowledge. I sometimes read psychology or branding related topics. I’m also passionate about entrepreneurship and business but not really in that bro man logical way. I get all of my business advice from women.

I value living close to nature, slowly and making good food and enjoying the company of my loved ones. To me life’s purpose is to enjoy it and love the people I love. I’m not about achievements or titles. Like I give 0 floofs about status or how other people see me success wise. To me success is being happy with myself, at peace with myself and having people who I love around me and enjoying our time together. I also can’t stand it when people are like omg I’m 30 I’m so old. Like sure we learn it from our environment but I just don’t like that mindset. Like you’re so young still and it’s so stupid to limit your potential and happiness to your 20s.

I’m unemployed and don’t have a degree but I’m actively working on finding out what I wanna do with my life and am doing self-reflection overall. So if that’s a problem I’m not for you. I’m looking for someone non-judgemental, open minded and someone who doesn’t have a problem with that.

I don’t mind if you’re from the US or wherever you are, but in a romance sense I’m not very open to relocating, at least not fully. I love Finland. But I’d be open to visiting your country for a few months a year or more if I enjoy it there with you.

I'm into masc presenting women mostly, but I'm very open minded romance wise with my type so don't feel discouraged by that if you wanna get to know me.

Also language wise I’ve spoken English in every day life for about 7 years now and I consider myself bilingual.

So if you’d wanna chat send me a dm! Please state what reddit you came from so I know the context. thanks.

Heyy so I’m looking for a real connection, I'd love some lesbian/queer friends. I’m open to a serious relationship if I meet someone I really connect with that way, but no pressure let’s just be friends first.

I don’t drink or smoke and I’m fine being friends with someone who drinks sometimes. But if you wanna get drunk or smoke you’re not for me. Romance wise my partner has to be completely free of alcohol or any drugs. I’m also allergic to cats.

I'm from Finland. I’m a masc presenting woman and my energy is very masculine with some femininity. I don’t like to label myself to masc or fem or any other word. I’m just me. I have short hair and dress in masc clothes. I have to mention that altho I’m masculine I do not support toxic masculinity, toughness or not showing emotions because I’m masc. I’m about healthy and soft masculinity.

I’m someone very calm and composed. I observe more than I talk, especially with strangers. With someone I love and am close to I talk a lot sometimes. Altho I’m calm I’m very passionate, direct and straightforward in how I speak. Sometimes I do it without even realizing, like to me it’s just how normal people communicate but apparently I’ve always been pretty direct haha, more direct than most people. I don’t mean I’m rude but more like I just say what’s on my mind even if it’s not what the social script says I should do. I just like to be honest cause dancing around it gets you nowhere. I do struggle with that sometimes, showing my bluntness fully or my passion. Mostly because people don’t actually want someone direct around or they’re intimidated by my passion. I feel all of my feelings passionately. It would be nice to meet someone who doesn’t just tolerate directness or a fiery personality but prefers it.

I’m a very spiritual person, I love manifestation, tarot, dream interpretation and I finally got into witchcraft. I absolutely love this stuff and I love reading spiritual/witchy books. I have a big thirst for knowledge. I sometimes read psychology or branding related topics. I’m also passionate about entrepreneurship and business but not really in that bro man logical way. I get all of my business advice from women.

I value living close to nature, slowly and making good food and enjoying the company of my loved ones. To me life’s purpose is to enjoy it and love the people I love. I’m not about achievements or titles. Like I give 0 floofs about status or how other people see me success wise. To me success is being happy with myself, at peace with myself and having people who I love around me and enjoying our time together. I also can’t stand it when people are like omg I’m 30 I’m so old. Like sure we learn it from our environment but I just don’t like that mindset. Like you’re so young still and it’s so stupid to limit your potential and happiness to your 20s.

I’m unemployed and don’t have a degree but I’m actively working on finding out what I wanna do with my life and am doing self-reflection overall. So if that’s a problem I’m not for you. I’m looking for someone non-judgemental, open minded and someone who doesn’t have a problem with that.

I don’t mind if you’re from the US or wherever you are, but in a romance sense I’m not very open to relocating, at least not fully. I love Finland. But I’d be open to visiting your country for a few months a year or more if I enjoy it there with you.

I'm into masc presenting women mostly, but I'm very open minded romance wise with my type so don't feel discouraged by that if you wanna get to know me.

Also language wise I’ve spoken English in every day life for about 7 years now and I consider myself bilingual.

So if you’d wanna chat send me a dm! Please state what reddit you came from so I know the context. thanks.

I want a woman who’s emotionally mature and kind and loving and caring. she has self-love, self respect, boundaries, she speaks up for herself. She is present in conflict and wants to sit down with me for hours to talk about it if that’s what the situation demands. I want someone deeply devotional and loyal like that. Who’s so devoted to the relationship. Someone who highly values our connection and having a deep, genuine, loving relationship.

I want a woman who's in charge, leads, speaks her mind, confident and self possessed. She has a secure sense of self. I want a woman who doesn’t stop leading just because I start leading or if I start being intense or passionate she doesn’t stop being intense or stern. I want us both to naturally lead each other and our relationship. I want to be able to be my full self without my partner shrinking herself.

I want a spiritual woman. Someone who’s passionate and excited about tarot and oracle cards, manifestation, energy, dream interpretation, witchy stuff. This is a big part of me and my life and I want a partner who lives the same way and has that same passion for spirituality. Someone who’s naturally very drawn to spirituality.

I’m substance free and my partner has to be as well. I don’t want that lifestyle into my life and I want a partner who feels the same way.

About me shortly, I'm from Finland, masc presenting, I love other masc presenting women but am open to any presentation. I'm not open to relocating so you gotta be someone who's willing to move to Finland if we really connect. I'm calm, grounded, very discerning at the beginning but once I see I'm safe and you're a good person I become very warm and affectionate. I'm also very direct and straightforward.

I don't care about titles, achievements or hustle culture or productivity being the measure of a good person. How about do they treat others with respect? To me your character matters the most.

Hey. I'm looking to make genuine friends here with other queer people. I'm looking for people who are genuine, sincere, kind and empathetic and non-judgemental. Someone very open minded and overall caring and sweet. Also someone who's emotionally mature and doesn't run away from conflict. Just a person who genuinely cares about other people.

I'm not really looking for something casual as in we reply to each other once a week or something. I'd actually wanna text live a few times a week. And actually get to know each other and become good friends. So if you message me make sure you're someone who has energy and time to invest in a new person.

I don't care about titles or achievements or about seeming cool or playing games or whatever. I just wanna be genuine and I'd like to meet someone else who's also like that. Someone who cares about who someone actually is. Someone who sees the value of every person.

One thing is that I'm substance free and don't hang out with people who like smoking or getting drunk. It's fine if you drink occasionally.

A bit about me. I'm 28 and from Finland. I'm pansexual and I'm someone with a masculine presentation, energy and mannerism. I don't really like any of the masc fem labels.

I also have to say that I'm not into toxic, stoic, macho/tough type of masculinity. I hate that. I'm about healthy masculinity.

Interests wise I'm very spiritual. I'm into feminine spirituality, manifestation, tarot, shamanism, nature based spirituality. Things like that. I also love to write poems or lyrics. I love sims 4 and world building. I'm also passionate about entrepreneurship.

I'm also a big feminist and women are close to my heart. I center women a lot in my life. Like I don't listen to music from men almost at all, I only learn from and listen to women if possible. I've had enough with the toxic male population.

Now, I don't wanna be friends with anyone who has an issue with trans women, non binary people lesbians or bi/pan women. I like people who let people be who they are instead of judging them with their narrow minded thinking. So keep that in mind before you decide to message me.

Also, I'm someone who doesn't like misogynistic language like the b word, mf, etc. I think it's disrespectful and I don't want people around me who feel comfortable using that language.

Send me a message if you feel like we are like minded and would be good friends. Looking forward to talking to you <3 please be at least 23 years old. Not comfortable with younger than that.

So I wanted to make this post because a lot of masc women who are bisexual don't get talked about and masc women are often grouped with lesbians. I also wanted to make this post in case any guy is wondering are there even masc women who like men? Yeah there definitely are. The mainstream idea might be that most masc women are lesbians but there are exceptions. Some masc women are even straight. It would be nice if we stopped thinking of people as generalized boxes and approached people as individuals.

I often feel kinda lonely with this experience cause like any masc woman content I can find is lesbian stuff, nothing wrong with that but it does get a bit isolating when you're the only masc woman you know who likes men.

I also consider myself more masculine than a lot of masc women I've seen. That's why I also didn't feel a connection with masc lesbians often. Like nothing wrong with them but I just didn't feel that "oh we are the same" vibe. Like even the phenomena of masc women being expected to act like men, that doesn't personally bother me. Totally understand it bothers other masc women. Just personally like I don't really feel the need to be treated feminine or like a woman. So that's another thing that made me not connect with masc lesbians.

Then I'm attracted to men, masculine, feminine, or men who have both in them. And it is kind of frustrating that people assume automatically I only like women. Recently I've found I feel somehow more comfortable with a guy. It could be the shared masculinity. Like for a long time I felt like I'm odd and abnormal because I dream of like a masc x masc relationship with a guy. Someone who's a lot like me presentation and energy/behavior wise. But it was just because there's such a lack of presentation for this dynamic or masc women overall liking men. I've had to really teach myself that this is normal and totally valid cause it is my authentic experience and not everyone is the same.

So yeah wanted to make this post in case some guys are wondering this or if a woman has this experience. Would love to hear from anyone who has a similar experience.

Most men do not intrigue me. Most men can't even get to my level and by level I mean having character, intelligence and actually having a caring heart. About 99% of you are uninteresting to me and I will most likely ignore most dms I get. So yes, you're on thin ice and it takes someone like me to actually impress me.

I'm only into a person who has his own damn mind, his own opinions and he knows who he is, deeply. Someone with a secure sense of self, no need to prove anything. A person who is outspoken, passionate and isn't intimidated by a blunt retort from me. Seems like most guys can't handle even a slight confrontation from me before they run to the hills. Very uninspiring. and pathetic. I'm only intrigued by a guy who can easily handle my bluntness without getting spooked and just smirks at me. Someone witty, fiery, confident, playful and persistent. But if you're disrespectful and don't know what a boundary is you'll be cut off immediately.

I'm also only interested in a person who's a feminist and he hates casual misogynistic language like the b word, mf, etc. I'm not tolerating a person who thinks slurs and disgusting language like that is normal.

I'm substance free and want nothing to do with that lifestyle. I expect my partner to be the same way. I'm also child free. I want to spend my life focused on my happiness, my partner and my friends and enjoying life.

Yes I'm sharp tongued, I'm headstrong and snarky to those who test my patience. I'm grounded, calm, observant, introspective and fiery.

I enjoy living slowly, at my own pace, in charge of my own schedule. I love nature, tea, knowledge. I hate social media and don't have the apps. I trust and value the unseen and mystical part of life more than logic. I'm very spiritual and it's a big part of me. I don't lable myself as particularly anything. Goddess spirituality is the closest term I can give to my spirituality. I'm into manifestation, tarot, dream interpretation etc. I live cyclically. Now, I can't really develop anything deeper with a person if they can't understand my spiritual side. I'm not looking for a overly logical guy who doubts spiritual things and wants to explain everything with science. You're not for me. I want someone who already understands the spiritual part of life is just that, a natural part of the human existence and this world. My spirituality isn't belief, it's just knowing from experience.

My interests include sims 4 world building, Hogwarts legacy, writing, and reading books about spirituality, nature and sometimes psychology. I also love fitness so weight lifting or then I get a work out in outside chopping wood or carrying stuff etc.

I'm also a masculine presenting woman and my energy/essence is masculine. And if that confuses or scares your feeble heteronormative mind do yourself a favor and move on.

So if you survived all the way here without getting triggered but rather feel a relief for finding someone like me, then send me a message.

Hey. I'm Kay, don't really like to label myself as anything at the moment, kind of questioning my gender. I'm afab. You can call me she/he, boy, girl I don't mind either.

I'm looking for a long term friend here. Someone who wants a real friend to talk with often and actually get to know each other and become part of each other's lives. I really value connection and would love to have someone in my life who also values connection based on respect, trust, vulnerability, emotional intimacy and loyalty.

I'm open to flirting if you actually have genuine interest in me for the long term. I don't do flings. but nothing sexual thanks. I like playful, sweet or cheeky flirting. Not nsfw.

Please be someone who speaks fluent English I don't like a language barrier.

I'm masculine presenting, I live in Finland. I'm pan. I'm someone who likes to live slowly at my own pace, surrounded by nature and being in charge of my own schedule. I'm calm, introspective, observant, headstrong, independent and fiery.

I hate social media, I prefer living mostly analog or kind of a middle ground. But I don't have any social media apps. Reddit is like the only one I have and I just use it to meet people. I miss the times when people actually spent time talking to each other and life was a lot slower and more present.

Interests wise I'm a very spiritual person. I'm not in a religion, not new age, not a witch really. I'm just spiritual. I'm into manifestation, tarot, dream interpretation, psychic stuff, goddess spirituality, shamanism etc. I live life quite cyclically and I value the unseen/intuition way more than logic.

Other interests I have are sims 4 world building, Hogwarts legacy, fitness and writing.

Some important values of mine:

I'm a big feminist. Women's empowerment is very close to my heart and yes that includes all kinds of women.

I'm substance free and like to be friends with substance free people or then you just occasionally drink. As long as your goal is not about getting drunk when you drink I'm good.

I don't use casual misogynistic language like the b word, mf, hoe etc. It's harmful and not something I agree with. So only talk to me if you feel the same about that. I don't want that in my space.

If you wanna chat send me a dm!

What I’m looking for is a friendship built from respect, trust, loyalty, vulnerability and emotional intimacy.

Someone with embodied presence. Someone so still and secure in himself he can just be present in every moment. he’s not worrying about did he say the right thing, how is he coming across, he’s just being and that allows him to be present to himself and to others. I want someone who’s that peaceful, secure and present.

A guy who’s truly loving. A love with respect, kindness, care, boundaries and negotiation. A conscious and healthy love. A guy who makes me soften and put my walls down because there’s not even an ounce of cruelty, judgement or disrespect in his being. He’s a mature conscious man.

I do love a guy who’s playful and has that cheeky glint in his eye. Someone who playfully teases me as long as it’s friendly and not disrespectful.

A guy who knows himself well, who has values and he stands by them firmly. I want someone who’s not afraid to express what he feels and thinks, even if it ruffles feathers. I want someone who’s gentle and soft yet spit fire when needed be. I want someone with passion in the way he speaks. directness delivered with respect.

I can be myself with him. He’s open minded and lets people tell him who they are instead of assuming who someone is. He’s grounded, gentle and attentive.

He’s a feminist and he never uses misogynistic slurs like the b word, mf etc. and he never consumes music or content that’s harmful towards women or any group of people. Someone who cares about respect.

He doesn’t use substances and never wants to. I’m not comfortable with that lifestyle.

I’m fine with any country as long as you speak native level English. I don’t like language barriers.

As for who I am? well, I’m a masculine presenting woman, I’m very gender nonconforming and don’t follow any gender roles. I’m about being totally and completely authentic to myself. And I hope you’re someone like that too. And when I say masculine I don’t mean any of that toxic macho crap. I’m about soft and healthy masculinity. I’m also someone who seeks to understand herself and what I actually want in life. I walk my own path and I don’t listen to what society wants for me.

Personality wise I’m grounded, calm, observant and very blunt. I’m intense and passionate when I care about something or when I’m protective. Snarky to those who test my patience.

I mostly spend my time writing, world building in the sims, playing hogwarts legacy yes it’s my absolute comfort game, reading to expand my mind, and weight lifting or engaging in my spirituality.

I love manifestation, tarot, dream interpretation and communicating with the unseen. Nature is sacred to me and I live in a very cyclical way. To me intuition and the unseen are far more valuable than logic. Logic can’t go where intuition can. I’m passionate about goddess cultures of the past and goddess spirituality.

I mostly hate social media and in the words of Wednesday Addams I find it to be a “soul-sucking void of meaningless affirmation”. I find it toxic, a waste of time and a place to decrease my mental capacity for actual train of thought.

I like to live my life slow, at my own pace, in charge of my own schedule. I don’t do well with authority nor do I like being told what to do.

So if you’re interested send me a message and share about yourself and how you fit into what I’m looking for.