r/MBTIDating

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32 [F4M] #Singapore. Wish to connect with genuine people

Hi,

I’m a Singaporean Chinese woman in my early thirties. Never married, and I’ve only had one relationship. I’ve come to realise that I would much rather wait for something genuine than settle simply because it is convenient.

I’m hoping to meet someone who enjoys thoughtful conversations, approaches life with curiosity, and believes that relationships are built through continuous choices rather than grand declarations. To me, companionship is found in the quieter moments of sharing a meal, discovering a new coffee spots, wandering through nature, talking about everything and nothing, and gradually becoming each other’s favourite person to come home to.

I value emotional maturity, kindness, and honest communication. Conflict doesn’t worry me but avoiding it does. I believe the strongest relationships aren’t those without disagreements, but those where both people are willing to listen, understand, and grow together.

I’m looking for a long-term relationship with a DDlg dynamic, where trust, care, guidance, and mutual respect naturally form the foundation. For me, submission isn’t something assumed but it is something that grows from feeling emotionally safe, understood, and deeply respected.

Outside of work, you will find me exploring coffee spots in search of a good hand-drip coffee, hiking quiet trails, or planning my next trip somewhere with mountains, lakes, or beautiful scenery. I have a soft spot for penguins, enjoy discovering good food (I’m currently on a tonkatsu phase), and appreciate people who can be both intellectually curious and emotionally grounded.

I don’t drink, smoke, or vape, and I live a fairly simple lifestyle.

Ideally, you’re somewhere between 38 and 45, emotionally available, genuinely single, and interested in building something intentional rather than rushing towards an outcome.

If any of this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your story.

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u/autumn_beans — 8 hours ago

I want someone to be with me ❣️

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Hello, SO I am from India, and I want to date someone who is academically inclined( someone who maybe , especially a mature INTJ( I am into mbti lol) , around the age range of 23-27. My hobbies include singing, travelling, writing, reading, and mostly sleeping. I am currently a college student studying Biotechnology. I need someone who is academically inclined and has hobbies.I am 22 yo myself.

I am religious, tho I am not strict with whatever my partner wishes to identify as religiously. I love speaking my way through. I must voice my feelings and get an equal amount of reciprocation from the other side. I dislike people who lack clarity and people who shut down when something needs to be discussed emotionally. Emotions are very important to me, and I require that my partner be able to talk about them as freely as possible, aka be vulnerable(though it's a much later concept in a relationship but I do need initiation in that regard).

I am a switch myself, and I need someone who is also a switch but inclined to a bit of dominance in character. My love languages are words of affirmation, physical touch and thoughtful gifts. I am a very easy-going and simple person, and I also want a person who identifies as the same. Also I am child-free and want to remain throught my life. I strongly condemn beating around the bush and being pushy. I value respect, care and emotions. I need someone who feels the same way and wants to get to know each other fully and commit to a long term relationship.

I hope somebody relates and DMs.... Also people kindly don't end up texting just "hi" and not saying anything else at all. This shows you are uninterested and just want casualty. I will not be entertaining any low effort dms whatsoever.

Edit 1 : Guys, kindly put relevant information when you directly message me , instead of nonsensical questions that have no relation to this post whatsoever.

Edit 2: Sorry for the inconveniences, I am an INFP-T

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u/Excellent_Toe6788 — 15 hours ago

23f infp looking for a connection

Hello! I'm 23 years old and originally Bengali. I'm currently getting a medical degree from Pakistan but eventually plan on moving abroad post grad. I'm looking for someone I can connect to and have deeper conversations with. And at the end of the day, a connection is a connection and I don't really mind the type or location. But I really do wanna meet an INFJ and I get along better with other intuitives. Just please don't be someone's grandpa XD

A lil bit about myself: I'm not good at this stuff, where do we start..it's like writing a CV. I'm ambiverted. I really like people, genuinely getting to know people and perspectives but also staying at home and just musing about psychology philosophy or arts. I love every creature that lives big or small, so it's a plus if you have tolerance or liking towards animals, I have a lot of rescues. I love long walks or hiking in nature. I've travelled seven countries and I love getting to know different cultures. I paint sculpt and write too. I'm somewhat into fashion and dressing up bizarrely in thrifted clothes, or even dress making in general. I'm really into everything abstract.themes that fascinate me are beauty, the human experience, the connectedness of everything, human emotions and their mechanics, god and the essence of life.

At the end of the day I'm just looking for genuine connection, someone I feel compatible with in every aspect despite however our exteriors are. I think it's very important to allign with your partner in terms of your core values, your minds should fit like a puzzle piece. I want someone humanistic, genuinely kind, places a lot of importance of their principals and values, somewhat altruistic and emotionally intelligent. I love deep conversations and just staying in cuddling. Intellectual sparring is fun too. All these are very hard to find in daily life so here I am, somewhat starved,bored and lonely from crowds .

Phew...welp that's all, I hope I made sense.

Feel free to drop by!

Psa: it'll be much more convenient for me if you dropped by with a short intro about yourself ( age ,where you're from ,an idea about who you are as a person ,mbti) instead of just a hi TT. A picture would be appreciated too if you're comfortable

Also replies can be a few days late because I have a nerve wracking exam going and on and am running on no sleep, I'll get back to everyone soon tho so please don't think I'm mean

26[F4M] INFJ Looking for someone special

Hello everyone, I am a 26F from Asia. I like writing, singing, listening to music, audio stories, reading, watching movies, Netflix, learning foreign languages, etc. I am a writer and I like writing poems and short stories. I have recently completed my post graduate diploma. I also struggle with mental health a bit at times.

My favorite movies: Annabelle Creation, Inception, When Marnie Was There, My Neighbor Totoro, etc.

My favorite music artists: Ed Sheeran, Taylor Swift, One Direction, Maroon 5, etc.

My favorite novels: The Midnight Library, And Then There Were None, Life Is What You Make It, etc.

I am looking for someone special to be friends with first and then see how it goes, preferably turning into a relationship if everything goes well. I want someone friendly, caring, nice, good-looking and understanding. And maybe a bit fun. We can talk about movies, TV shows, books, music, life problems, feelings, mental health, etc and I would like to feel an emotional connection and compatibility as well. I would prefer someone from USA or Europe or East Asia. But I am also open to people from other countries.

So, if that sounds good, feel free to DM me! Cheers!

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u/lovewriting2 — 21 hours ago

25M INFP|2 houses|No debts|Looking for a partner

British Mauritian

Job: Manager

Wealth: Family business and Inheritance

I own 2 houses. I have 0 debt. I travel frequently and love exploring new places. I really love to raise and take care of animals

If you love travelling, adventure, and creating memories together around the world, we might get along well.

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u/Call-meCrazy — 23 hours ago

34 Female ENTJ in Australia looking for an INTP cutie :)

Hello :)

I've decided Intp men might be my ideal match, I just need a smartie introvert to read together and figure out this reality 🥺

General info:

  • 166cm, ~50kg
  • Asian descent, ~60% of life, living in western society
  • Not a CEO lol, not super career driven these days, did the grind in my 20s, mellowing out a bit in a cushy data analyst job
  • Has feelings developed to a reasonable extent, try to practice non-violent communications in general (but I do hate a lot, I'm still entj after all haha)
  • Into esoteric and conspiracy stuff (a Jordan Mckinney schizo type is ideal) plus normal stuff like badminton, games, matcha lattes ✌️

Here are some convo starters:

  • Do you think AI will destroy us?
  • Have you had a supernatural experience?
  • Should DNA be allowed to be edited?
  • Have you met an ENTJ before, what are the highlights/lowlights?
  • What are your thoughts on a partners' body count?
  • If you had 500k, what would you do with it?
  • How do you view the near future of civilisation? What should we be doing differently?
  • What are dreams?

Edits:

  • My bad, I figured out how to open the dms now haha
  • Probably need to stick to folks located in Australia for now and similar age range, plus apologies if I don't reply/speedily reply, hard to talk in depth with multiple people, feels a bit wrong.
u/nachoslegs — 1 day ago
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25 [M4F] #India/Anywhere - Looking For Someone

Hi there!

I am a simple guy who's easy going and fun loving. I believe in being calm and handling every situation with maturity. I do love playing basketball and practising it whenever. My hobbies also include cooking, I love making good food. I'm also very caring (to the point I'd bring you chocolates and your fav things during your periods)

I have no friends atm because my previous experiences with friendship has not been very good. So I'm looking for something more. Something genuine and long term.

A little description about me:

Built: Normal medium, wide shoulders

Height: 5'10

Skin tone: Dark Skinned

Hair: Black Slicked Back

Voice: Very deep and soothing (ASMR type and you'd love listening to it, you might feel like I'm talking straight to your soul)

Here's a pic of me: https://ibb.co/j9KmB5tj

What I'm looking for:

A sweet, loyal and easy going female who believes in true love and wants something long term. I am not very picky about looks, I care about heart more and the behavior. I want someone who is serious and fun loving like me. She should be open minded to the idea of dating, physical touch and everything else.

I believe that relationships are not just something that you can make, break and move on to another. I don't understand the people that does that. For me, I'm only interested in something meaningful and long term but I also don't wanna be anyone's rebound or get played with. I don't break hearts and don't want anyone to do that to me either.

A relationship is a very beautiful thing which happens very naturally when two souls meet and get fond of each other. It's truly a magical feeling when you know you finally have someone to by your side, you're not alone in this lonely world anymore. I LIVE for that feeling 🫶🏽

Race, age and distance also doesn't matter for me. I believe that love is what matters. I'm open to relocating or coming to meet you and plan our life ahead. I'm open to all age groups, I believe we can communicate anything and everything once we start our connection.

So if this interests you even a little bit, make sure to drop me a message. I'd reply pretty quickly usually.

Looking forward to hear from you :)

u/Tushar3333 — 2 days ago

20F INFJ - Europe - Audhd artist looking for an INTJ/ENTJ female to connect with through projects

- Population of Europe: ~740,000,000

- Females in Europe (roughly half): ~370,000,000

- INTJs (~2%) + ENTJs (~1.5%) combined: ~12,950,000

- Mistypes? A lot. Let’s cut that in half just to be safely pessimistic: 6,475,000

- Queer/WLW women (generous 6% estimate): 388,500

- Age filter (roughly 19-24 bracket, let's say 7% of pop): 27,195

- The % of them who are actually ambitious, smart, and share my vibe (let's say 10%): ~2,719

According to this highly scientific and partially made-up data, there are maybe 2,719 women in all of Europe who fit the criteria. Factoring in those who are actually single and use Reddit, the final number is probably -12.

Statistically speaking, I should probably just give up and get 5 cats instead. But I'm feeling stubborn, so here we are.

About me:

I’m a 20yo tfemme, an Audhder, and an INFJ (5w4, sx/so). I'm currently interested in game development. I like the creative side as a 2D/3D hobbyist, but I will soon try to learn programming.

I like tech games and survivals (Stellaris, Space Engineers 1 & 2), sci-fi and disaster movies/shows. Beyond digital stuff, I’ve been into text roleplay since I was young, and I really want to learn robotics one day.

I have a very unhinged sense of humor and my Audhd combined with being sp-blind means I sometimes get struck by random, slightly crazy ideas that even make me facepalm. I am direct; I hate lying, sugarcoating, and beating around the bush. I value honesty.

I am fiercely loyal especially if someone manages to click into that "special person" slot in my brain. I take privacy to an extreme level. I can also be slightly possessive, but in a protective, "you are mine" kind of way, not a toxic or insecurely jealous way.

I am looking for an xNTJ female (or anyone with a heavily analytical, dominant & territorial, logical mindset) to genuinely connect with, as I find them cool. I like mental banter, discussing unhinged theories, and perhaps collaborating on some game projects.

My goal is to find someone cool to talk with and become friends first. If there’s chemistry and we click intellectually, I am open to exploring other options and dynamics.

If you made it this far and are one of the -12 statistically available individuals, well, send me a carrier pigeon and I'll try to come with a shovel and dig you out

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u/B1ackAbyss — 3 days ago

19F ENFP

Hi, my name is Kami. I’m from the USA, and I’m looking for someone in the age range of 18-22. My hobbies are singing, video games, editing videos, and witchcraft. I just started community college for Film studies. I am spiritual and open-minded about religion. I’m bisexual. I’m an Aries who’s fiery and compassionate. I want someone who’s comfortable with telling me how they feel. I also want to get to know the other person more, like their hobbies and career path.

u/midnightkami — 4 days ago

37F - ISFP looking for friendship/partner.

I'm 37F from the Caribbean.

I spend most of my free time gaming (league/Fortnite/GTA RP; not very good at them but I do enjoy it), enjoy good conversation, and I appreciate the company of people who are kind, emotionally mature, and can communicate. I'm pretty laid-back, a little introverted at first, but very easy to talk to once I'm comfortable. I've also just begun my fitness journey so looking for my personal cheerleader to keep me motivated to continue!

I'd love to meet some new people. Friendship is more than welcome, but I'm also open to seeing where things go if there's a genuine connection. I'm open to long-distance, and if things ever reached that point, I'd have no issue travelling to meet.

If you think we'd get along, feel free to send me a message.

u/New_Object_6503 — 5 days ago

Infp 33(f) looking for a partner :)

Hi there! I'm a Christian, a creative person who likes to paint and draw. I work out a few times a week, like cycling, dancing, walking and running.

I'm a big time texter, I can text for hours, that's my way of showing interest and care.

My preferred age range: 27 - 42. And PLS add a picture of yourself in your message! Cause that way I can see if I'm attracted to you or not as that is also important to me :) if you don't mind. I've had it more often that we would talk and talk and at the end I wasn't attracted to them, that's a bit waste of time, that's it :)

And introduce yourselves to me properly please! Hehe, I know it's a hassle but that way I can get to know you way better and it'd be easier for me to ask questions etc. Thank you in advance!!

I live in the Netherlands but i don't mind meeting someone in Europe. Let's get to know each other! Ask me questions and let's have a decent good/fun conversation :)

You can dm me! God bless.

u/babe808 — 6 days ago
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ENFJ / 25

I heard it’s rare to find an ENFJ man, but we are busy saving the world 🌎 searching for a wife ❤️

u/smoothtalkerx — 5 days ago
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20f any guy want to be me e-kitten

I’m 20f from uk. I would rlly like to chat and vc chat to a guy that would like to be my e kitten and do whatever I say. I have an about me post on my Reddit page if u wanna that out. In terms of appearances I’m blk 5’3 79kg (I’m fat)

My discord is gunnyhoe please be 19+

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u/Plenty_War3708 — 5 days ago

(25M)[M4F] ENTP-T – Mumbai. An AI Engineer, boxer, and unapologetic romantic looking for a debate partner and my Player 2. (Gate Catch: Auditory Verbal Agnosia, HoH)

Hey r/MBTIDating! I wanted to translate my vibe specifically for the intuitive minds in this sub.

I’m a 25M ENTP-T, an M.Tech student in computer engineering with specialization in AI/Data Science, and someone who thrives on a good paradox. I spend my days building aerospace AI architectures with the goal of making it as scientist post graduation, but I’m just as passionate about sketching cartoons, playing guitar, or traveling to document regional cultural heritage.

If you’re looking for that classic ENTP banter, maybe petty fights😉, you’ve found it. I love a sharp game of chess, discussing medicine and anatomy, diving down random late-night rabbit holes, and playfully challenging the status quo. I am assertive and highly driven, whether that means training intensely for my next marathon, sticking firmly to my ifestyle, or knowing exactly what I want in a partner.

But beneath the debates and the drive, I am a massive romantic. Due to my auditory verbal agnosia, spoken words just register as background noise to my brain. This means I am completely, delightfully dependent on the written word. For the writers, the deep-texters, and the journalers out there, I am a guy who will literally hang onto every single word you type, text, or write on a sticky note. I will absolutely melt you over a late-night text paragraph, a handwritten letter, or a sweet note left on the fridge.

I have absolutely zero language barriers or cultural constraints, I only care about the depth of our connection and if you can match my energy.

I’m looking for someone to share terrible cheesy jokes, maybe code along, challenge my intellect, and grab a quiet, comforting meal with after a long run. If you're ready to write a story together, drop into my inbox. Any takers? 😼

u/Dangerous-Habit- — 7 days ago

38F INTJ #Riverside, CA Neurodivergent Christian Goth in Search of Romance

About me: In full transparency, I’m African-American, 250 pounds 5’7 and currently on a weight loss journey. I’ve already lost 50 pounds so far. I’m a bit of a tomboy but will still throw on a dress from time to time if it fits my style. I tattoos and piercings and although I probably won’t get anymore piercings, I have a few more Tattoos in mind. I’m single with no kids and a little shy when meeting new people but super goofy once you get to know me. I love learning about new cultures, their history, traditions and food. I also love to travel and would love to have a travel companion. Although I do enjoy traveling, I’m a true introvert through and through. Majority of my time is spent alone at home playing games and watching anime. I’ve also recently picked up knitting lol. Right now I play mostly on switch and consider myself to be more of a cozy gamer. I do have a PS5 and would be willing to play your favorite games with you if we connect. I do have my beliefs that are super important to me. Despite what people may think of them, I consider myself to be open minded, loving and respectful. I will only share my beliefs with people who are truly interested and won’t use them to judge me. Aside from that I’m an open book so ask me anything you’re curious about that wasn’t already mentioned.

What I’m looking for: I don’t have a preference on race or height because I know they’re things we can’t control and don’t determine whether someone will be a great partner or not. For age I’d prefer someone closer to my age or older but if the connection is there I’d be open to someone younger. Attraction is important but a person’s character is also important. I shouldn’t have to say this but I’m not desperate or insecure and have standards. If you message me please be single and unattached, emotionally available, respectful and looking for a monogamous relationship. I don’t have a preference on location but there has to be a desire to close the gap at some point in the future. Would love to meet someone who has similar interests as me or can teach me something new. I have a love for art and music but sadly it isn’t a gift of mine lol I think it’d be cool to meet someone gifted in those areas but definitely not a dealbreaker for me. Dealbreakers for me would be anyone who drinks, smokes or does drugs. Other dealbreakers would be someone who’s not looking for a committed relationship, who has no dreams or goals and someone pushy who doesn’t respect boundaries. I feel like I’ve rambled on enough. If you’re interested in chatting after reading my post, feel free to send me a message.

u/Love-Fantasy-Fiction — 6 days ago

27M ENFP, looking for a partner

Software engineer, 🇮🇳, cat dad 🐈‍⬛

I’m Calm, collected and curious. I love to yap and also would listen to you yap for hours :). I used to play video games semi professionally a decade ago but now I play casually.

I’ve been travelling a lot in the recent years, visited 🇳🇱🇫🇷🇸🇪🇩🇰🇱🇰🇹🇭🇵🇭🇸🇬🇰🇷🇲🇾 so far, I’m also getting tattoos from every country i visit (fun side quest ngl). I love concerts, swimming, creating playlists, finding new hobbies.

I don’t have any preference on location/language. As long as you’re communicating, we gucci. I had an anxious attachment type but have been growing out of it lately. Love languages - physical touch and quality time

When I took the test a few years i was an INFP so maybe I oscillate between E and I? So I’d be down for a “Lets stay in and chill” night or anything spontaneous.

hmu if you’re down to navigate this world, one step at a time. Luna and I will be responding :)

u/zzKillswitchzz — 6 days ago