r/MBTIDating

I'm not looking for a relationship right now, I want to focus on getting to know each other first (online please!) Not looking for hookups or 18+ photos/videos. Let's see where it goes, maybe we'll become good friends, maybe something more. Asians are very welcome!!!!

A little about me:

I'm 20, from Russia, studying law. I'm an ISTJ. I don't smoke, don't drink, don't use anything. I have a lot of sleep (I'm a sleepyhead!) and study. In my free time I sleep, watch movies, or comedy shows. I rarely go out mostly because I have no one to go with, and going alone is boring.

I listen to heavy rock, metal, gothic rock, and alternative. Inside, I'm goth.

Important: I'm 99% sure I have bipolar type 2, but it's not officially diagnosed. I don't fully understand it myself because I have no way to see a doctor. Please keep this in mind!

I'm looking for ENTP or ExxJ. If you're a law student/lawyer, it's an instant 100% match. If you use anything, smoke, or do anything illegal... we're not a match.

I'm not looking for Russians, but if you really intrigue me, we can try ;)

For the right person, I'll always find time.

Hey everyone,

​I wanted to share a Reddit map tool I built to make it easier to find compatible MBTI types in your actual area.

​It’s just a basic world map where you drop a pin. You set up a quick, anonymous profile with:

- ​Alias

- ​MBTI Type

- ​Gender & Age Group

- ​Location (nearby city)

​Once you're on the map, you can tap on your city or state and see who else is nearby, along with their MBTI.

​I figured it could be a practical way for people in this sub to find local matches or see if their "golden pair" is living right down the street, without having to scroll through endless location posts.

To help support this community, I also added a feature where you can paste the link to your intro post from this subreddit directly into your map profile. That way, when locals find you on the map, they can click to read your full bio here before sending a DM!

r/mazwiz

I hail from the land of misfit toys, located within the US. You can be from anywhere as long as you are willing to come here to meet if all goes well.

My interests include daydreaming, dancing badly, and collecting things. Ask me about my button collection. I have large buttons and small buttons. Shiny and matte. Round buttons and novelty. Do not give me plain ordinary buttons.

I'm looking for a non sedentary man with high cognitive function, interesting hobbies, and someone who is a hard worker and who puts effort into things he takes on.

Edit: I think men who have careers in science, and engineering highly attractive. Physicist is hot. I have no idea what they're talking about but it's hot when they do. I like to be able to ask loads of questions and have the guy give me answers, and I like men who can fix things.

Interests: Sociology/Psychology/Science

Career: Information Technology, Networking and Cybersecurity

A trait I really value: Intellectual Charity. I like it when people invest in truly seeing my idea- instead of immediately assuming a bare bones position.

I personally am the type of person to determine the morality of something based on logic rather than emotion. However, I am open to complimentary types of people and also people who are just like me; I'm open to whatever works; what works may be something I've never seen before. Anyhow, I sometimes think that more emotional people can be a nice contrast.

I may sound like one of the most serious and intense people you've ever met, but I could be one of the least serious in reality. I say I have two types of beliefs: Experimental/Exploratory & Solidified: #1 is inconsistent, contradictory, and cognitively dissonant to an observer, #2 is robust, elegant, consistent, and expansive. I spend a lot of time experimenting with “cognitively dissonant ideas/chaotically organized data” before refining it into my solidified model of reality. I may explore very “fringe” ideas- but I will ultimately come back having sorted the true from the false- in a more grounded way than ever.

It would be cool to have a partner who I could build ideas with (a person who can add new novel insights).

I am eager to connect, but I am nontraditional at doing so. I have anhedonia (not because I am sad or depressed, but as a medical side effect). Also, I would say that my "mirror neurons" are pretty degraded, but haven't always been (not said strictly in scientifically accurate wording). That being said, I spend a lot of time trying to understand people's psychology. However, at times I may not understand certain human behaviors or feelings. I also do not strictly follow social norms. My family focuses on aesthetics. I love music and art, but when it comes to my daily life, I will forsake aesthetics for functionality. People also know me as a germaphobe or "OCD" like person, yet it is a paradox. Aesthetically, I don't look "OCD" at all. Most people care about cleanliness as a social performance- to be presentable to others. I care about cleanliness strictly for health and practical reasons. I may look disorganized in a traditional aesthetic way, but in a functional way I am extremely organized & picky. I track everything & I haven't been sick in years. I am particular about what I touch and put into my body. I also always clean my face with a paper towel and water every time I use the restroom, because I feel microscopic droplets hit my face. However I do understand this may be kinda excessive in some cases (but it's an issue that bothers me until it is resolved). That being said, it really helped my OCD to use a way of thinking that is not binary. It helped me to understand that things like germ accumulation are more gradual- not an on and off switch. Like for example, it's relatively alright if I touch the faucet handle I just touched with my dirty hands in order to wash, because it's more about quantity/magnitude than binary dirty/clean & nothing is ever truly completely clean. Washing reduces quantity/magnitude by a significant amount so that it becomes much safer- even if I touch the dirty surface again. Just an example.

I have emotional investment and attraction, but I think that the bulk of my loyalty and acts occur in a more “logical” fashion. I'd say that the scaffolding is purely- logical with some vaguish- sometimes intense emotions at “endpoints”.

In my life I focus more on pleasure through achievement rather than on fleeting pleasure through various hedonic activities (largely because of that anhedonia). I observed that pleasure is a fleeting reaction- while what I build and achieve is long term. My meaning in life comes from building a life story, building deeper understanding, and making myself proud by aiming for very difficult, rigorous goals. I kinda just want to prove I can do it to myself- and gradually- bring forth the phase shift of dream into reality.

I am quite forgiving and understanding of people.

I really don't think I am the type of person to give up.

I am excruciatingly conscientious. I am so intolerant of suboptimal circumstances for myself- I don't know if I can fail. I will go so far.

I may come across as cynical, but I continue to have hope nonetheless. I said I am like a rat in the experiment where the rats were swimming to resist drowning. The first time around the rats gave up within 15 minutes, but there was a group of rats that were saved. When the ones who were saved were put back in, they kept swimming for around 60+ hours (if I remember right)- without ever being rescued again. I feel like one of those rats. But I will swim until my life achievements are complete at least. I know that it's cooked but I never stop.

This sounds really intense, but the reality is that I am actually way more lighthearted than this would suggest.

I also need someone who is pretty thick skinned in a way who is not gonna fold over an accidental offense. Sometimes I may accidentally hit on a sensitive part of a person's identity without knowing it.

About Me:

I’m 24, female. I’m petite, skinny, with brown eyes, dark brown hair, and fair skin. People usually describe me as cute.

I’m introverted, ISFJ. More bubbly and talkative online once I’m comfortable. I’d say I’m sweet, kind, and easy to talk to.

I enjoy reading mainly romance and spicy novels, and I love playing cozy games like Stardew Valley. It would be really nice to have someone I can play with.

I also love horror movies, I like scaring myself sometimes, and I’d enjoy having someone to watch movies with during free time.

One thing about me: I get attached pretty easily when I like someone, so I can be affectionate, a bit clingy, and emotional. I prefer being honest about it rather than pretending I’m not.

What I’m looking for:

I’m looking for a male around 24–35 who’s emotionally mature, calm, not easy to anger, and patient. Someone who communicates well and actually hold a conversation, doesn’t leave people guessing or confused or feel like I'm talking to a wall.

I value someone who is confident and emotionally steady, someone who handles relationships in a calm and mature way. Someone who can take initiative and naturally lead, more of a man of action. (Please I don't want those "I'm an Alpha Male" crap)

I’m also looking for someone who is not afraid or intimidated by long distance and will meet when the time is right.

Also, I like someone who can listen to me yap and actually be responsive and also talk about their day, share their thoughts, and is just as interested in getting to know me.

Physical Attraction matters, so I prefer:

Someone who takes care of himself, is active, and decent-looking (attractive to me). Doesn’t have to be muscular, just someone who puts effort into himself.

Bonus (just preferences, not requirements):

Fit / active lifestyle

Tattoos or piercings

Plays competitive games and will let me watch

Has a nice voice

Has a car or motorbike

Has a stable job or direction in life

Intelligent

I prefer seeing who I’m talking to early on, if that’s okay and introduce yourself.

And just to be clear, if we don’t click or things don’t work out, it’s nothing personal. Sometimes people just don’t match, and that’s completely fine 😊

Also I know I'm looking for a "unicorn" but you never know unless you try.

P.S. I’ll send a photo when we start talking.

Any type is welcome but these are the ones I prefer. If you dm please dm with your MBTI so I know it’s from here

We’ve all seen the, “Signs INTJs Like You” posts. INTJs are also known for their delayed emotional processing. I’m also aware that an INTJ can be aware of their preference/attraction towards someone without any willingness to act upon it.

My question is: how many signs of attraction do you think INTJs unconsciously engage in before recognizing their own feelings? How many do you think they’re willing to engage in consciously before deciding the object of their attraction is worth pursuing?

Some potential signs, I’ve noticed with an INTJ coworker:

-lightly teases/challenges me in almost every interaction

-his stoic expression doesn’t change when our eyes meet, but I can always break it and get him to laugh in conversation

-I initially thought he was an extrovert since he talks to everyone, but everyone acts surprised when I mention something like his number of siblings, type of tattoos, or why he decided to become a nurse. Apparently he sticks to his fitness routine and healthy recipes when talking to everyone else.

-he said he misses lawn mowing ever since moving into an apartment and I said he could mow mine bc I hate it. He gave me his schedule and offered to do it on a consistent basis. I said he’s a busy nursing student and he countered that he, “is good at making time for people he likes talking to.”

-he asked what he’d in return and I joked, “sexual favors.” He got flustered and said he meant something along the lines of the banana bread recipe I mentioned earlier but the added under his breath that he “wouldn’t say no to that…”

-asked him the day of to mow my lawn (when he asked that I ask him two days in advance) when I had to unexpectedly be out of town for the week for a funeral and he came over and did it after work and the gym even though he said he would only be willing to do it on his days off work and school

-we hung out while the mower charged in between his work and kept saying he needed to shower and have dinner before meeting up with his brother, but kept editing what that would entail to be smaller e.g. “I need to cook dinner,” became “I’ll have a snack,” which became “I’ll eat my brother’s leftovers.”

Confusing Signs:
-doesn’t usually initiate conversations but will allow me to hold him up from moving on to his next task when I initiate conversations for a little bit before reminding me to get back to work

-won’t usually break away from his sudoku puzzle to talk (he recently told me slow work days + a sudoku is his happy place though)

-we once had the same lunch so I sat next to him. He waved, but never took his earbuds out and continued to watch Dragon Ball Z so I embarrassingly acted like I just wanted the window seat.

-has only ever initiated texts twice. Used to respond in an hour now takes a day and a half

-usually only asks questions about myself after I’ve asked him

-calls me out whenever I tell him something he’s already heard me say and the exact number of times I’ve told him (do you all have good memories for everyone? I think i do as an INFP).

-never reciprocates touch but never pulls away when I squeeze his bicep or playfully slap his shoulder after a joke. He simply moves his gaze and briefly stares at wherever my hand last made contact. Except once he got very close in my personal space and asked me the color of my eyes, but that was a while ago.

An addendum: though it’s hard for me to fathom as an INFP, I wonder if I come across a bit intimidating? I’m pretty socially bold and boisterous with my co-workers, have been told I’m fairly attractive, and just turned 30 while he (INTJ) is almost 24.

I'm an incredibly mature and attractive man, so much so that older women will lose their speech when talking to me, even today, saying their face is on fire etc...I have depth beyond probably anyone you've ever met, emotional intelligence and self-awareness to an ultimate strength, and general competency that makes me question my day to day connections' part in harmony...Yet I'm accepting of where people are at, have peace within and a soul that welcomes most. Literally a good body, mind, heart and soul, and I don't know when my match will show for me.

There's a really big problem that likely 80% of the population won't even acknowledge, and every day that passes, more potentially compatible partners disappear off the map. You can think of it as more relationships that could be a match for me are becoming dead to me, because I am a resolute man, and as someone called me the other day in Aussie slang, "a totally rooted unit."

The minimum requirement is not absolute, but something ridiculous, like you've had to have never so much as kissed someone in the past 5 years. And, you had to have also not done a stupid thing that most of the world also has done. Some kind of injection. It's the equivalent of contracting aids, and the whole world was lied to about it. That basically means if you've had any relationship of any sort, not even needing to be romantic, where you exchanged any body fluids, and you are not a virgin of all virginity the past 5 years, you're not going to be an option for me for my entire lifetime. And the more time passes, the more people continue to make decisions in line with this that otherwise hadn't who go on to disqualify themselves. It's really something I can't help, yet there are people who think like me, and value mental and emotional intimacy, and haven't done those things. They're just likely not as young as me.

Yet, if you've had a loyal partner, and you're no longer in a relationship, and you also didn't do that stupid thing, that also means you'd qualify. So it's not hopeless, but you'd need to be educated to not make the mistake of going into another relationship and kissing someone before having met me, most likely, or universal options just happen to align and we meet for the very first time in perfect timing. Sublime! It's in short, more unlikely than I'd like to count. And if I'm to change the odds, I either have to have to become famous, and have more eyes on me, or have the world be my scout. Neither route is optimal without an insane amount of work...Just for a partner.

The reason I'm mentioning this here is because, well, INFJs are sensitive people. Me personally, I'm an ENFP. I am well aware that someone such as yourself, if that's who I'm speaking to, will likely value a connection that sees them, hears them, feels them, and deeply understands them, and wouldn't move until that's ideally happened for them. And so, in some bastion of faith, this may be the place where a wild card is pulled and that person enters my space.

I don't really think this compels you to write me, comment, or anything. I've offered nothing here. I just really want to know, and if you care for your own, I'd love it if you'd tell me that's you so far. Maybe I can get to know you. It may not be wise to comment your past relationship history here, but it would help the algorithm for you to give notice, support, and say something, and if you need, write me personally. I'm not asking for dms, as that's not allowed here, but it makes sense to do more than comment if you need to. Anyways, thank you for your time and your attention, and if this reaches the right person by some chance, may life bless the both of us. Thank you.

If you wanna know more or ask any specific questions, DMs are open.

Does an INTJ male (somehow a close friend) see me as less valuable if I confess to him and express how much i’ve been in love with him for years? I understand that depends on the individual and whether they’re mature enough as a person but i still wanna know the answer. The internet always supports the idea that WOMEN should be chased. But i somehow don’t fully accept that idea. But like really, does that seem to u to apply to every guy or is it different for INTJs?
I hope my post doesn’t get deleted again. Isn’t this the right place to ask…
Thank u:)