u/Substantial-Level778

Heyo 👋

I guess I am overthinking on how to introduce myself. How do I start to capture my essence of the ever evolving and ever changing being I am in a few paragraphs? But i’ll give it a go

I’m a 27 year old woman living in the East coast of US. I’m an INTP (mbti personality type), I have two serious degrees. I call myself a researcher, a scientist. Right now currently working as a computer engineer. I love my work, i think technology is amazing, its something i fell in love with as a kid with my dusty old computer my dad bought me. I moved here a couple of years ago and put myself through grad school. I made amazing friends, got to know amazing people. I like my life but some nights I lie awake and think maybe I’d like someone to share my life with.

I am neurodiverse. I read books, watch movies and have intellectual conversations with my friends. I love getting lost in a rabbit hole researching some obscure topics. I am a bit shy, and goofy when you get to know me.

In summer, I hike, i hangout, i travel to places with my friends, lots of outdoor activities and adventures. Come winter, I love staying in, hot chocolate, video games, more movies, and books.

About my appearance. I am a brown woman, south asian. I am curvy (i take it you like cake 🍰 hehe) 5’6”
I have long dark hair, doe eyes. Best I can describe is my build is like Florence Pugh. I try and take care of myself. I workout a couple of days a week, mainly cardio though i’d like a gym partner, to work on my upper body strength. Some days I am an energizer bunny, other days i’m a goth goblin who can sleep 10 hours a day hehe. Duality of a woman.

I definitely am not the simple kind when it comes to trying stuff out. I’m pretty open minded when it comes to people. People describe me as an introverted adorkable lovable robot. I can be childish one second, and a wise old woman the next. Somehow I am 12 and 50 all at the same time. My close friends would write yearning love letters about me (as I would for them). I’m loyal, honest, straightforward. Emotionally I might take time to open up and thats why i think its important to be friends first, no pressure and then if things progress in a different way i’d definitely go that way. I have friends who believe in true love and eagerly want it with all their heart and soul. While I believe in true love, I don’t think life owes it to me. I know true love exist, but its rare. Either I have it or I don’t, but i definitely would love to have it.

I am looking for cerebral conversational intimacy, i think if you can get my mind, you’ll have my heart. I like men in touch with their emotions (maybe because i am not lol) i don’t wear my feelings on my sleeves, but I can bombard you with 10 obscure facts instead hehe. The bigger the nerd you are, the better. You might need to be more assertive and take the lead as I am not very experienced in dating. I am looking for the slow burn, intellectual and authentic connection.

Be it romantic or platonic love, I think loving someone is still fundamentally loving them as a human being. Maybe I can do love right. Maybe i can feel love like you other humans do. And to everyone else who is looking for love, gosh i hope you all find love. We all deserve it even though life likes to play funny games with us

Hey guys. The perseid meteor shower is happening and wondering where I can go after midnight. I hear parks close down so looking for a spot where me and my friends can go see the meteors. Peak’s on Aug 12th. Its a weekday so not looking for camping or driving too far.

Anywhere i can drive to 20-40 min away is fine. I tried searching through the subreddit I couldn’t find much. Any suggestions would be appreciated!

Hey guys! Looking for recommendations for places that are open late. Late as in 11pm or 12 am. I live in Marlton. Anywhere I can drive within 15-20 mins is fine.

Please don’t suggest bars as I don’t drink. I want to go somewhere where I can take my laptop and study and maybe order something.

So far I found Mango mango, The spot desert bar. Would love any other recommendations! Thank you

I am an objectively attractive woman. Neurodiverse. I have never had any problems of guys being interested in me, however it always end up not working.

I am trying to understand and analyzing what could be the issue on my end or their end or how this entire dating thing is happening. Because anything i have romantically falls through.

Sometimes they have this expectation vs reality thing going with me. Basically either i get “manic pixie”d, get put on a pedestal and they get mad when im not measuring upto it.

I have been told I’m straightforward and blunt, highly logical. Come across as intelligent, a bit socially awkward but makeup for it in adorkable charm. I know I’m a huge nerd but I dress quite well and take care of myself.

I am not tooting my own horn. I dated INFP, INFJ, ENTJ guys but it always ends up them expecting me to all the emotional labor and it ends there.

I want to know how you other INTPs are maintaining relationships? What does it mean when your partner wants to emotionally connect all the time? What does emotional availability look like to you.

For me, I like XXFJ men, they have what I lack, but i believe i’ve been scaring them off or is it not working out?

Non-INTPs are also welcome to share their thoughts

I INTP (25F) Recently started seeing an INFP (M). Went on a date but it was awkward. He wouldn’t talk much. And so it made me visibly nervous. And the energy was all off. Over text we seem to click a lot but in person it was so weird.

We’re both introverts and the shy type but I can’t tell if he’s into me at all. He seems like a people-pleaser and honestly it feels like he’s just going with the flow of being on a date with a pretty girl and seeing what he can catch. It doesn’t seem too intentional. He is so cryptic that I can barely tell.

Are all INFP men like this?

What would a relationship look like between ESTP and INTP?

I am currently talking to an ESTP guy and boy does he love talking. I do like talking to ideas about him but emotional support is just not there so Idk what to do about that.

I’m looking into functions and apparently ESTP are Se dominant where I’m Se blind. What complications do you think we might have?

Hello my fellow good people. Take a break from saving the world and feeling all them feelings and tell me how has been your experience with women INTPs?

I order you to satiate my curiosity. I need information and i need it now.

Thank you