u/mentallyonabeach

I was recently at church and speaking to my church friends. There was a girl who’s about 14-16years old who was complaining about how abusive her dad was and that he shaved her hair and would hit her all the time. I’m in my early 20s and my other friends were agreeing that yes this is bad. So I say angrily “that’s why when I have kids I’ll never hit them” and it’s like a record scratched. They all turned and looked at me like I was sprouting 2 heads. One of them goes “well that’s way too far. You can hit them but not excessively how will they learn” and I was so confused so I responded with “You do know hitting a child basically means you got rage baited by a little kid and you’re immature” and they all started jumping down my back quoting bogus scriptures. I hate that people like to justify beating their kids and corporal punishment with religion. It’s abuse plain and simple. You’re a grown person weighing 150lbs beating on a kid who weighs a third of you. I can’t wait to move out so I don’t need to be around this Christian nonsense

I’m just annoyed whenever people act like because they had children because they were blessed or “god sent me a kid i needed them” or it’s some hard achievement. I’m sorry to be blunt but you got that kid from having smex for 8 seconds that’s hardly a feat. I recently graduated from a very tough university and my family doesn’t seem to care because my sister just gave birth. She didn’t have a hard labour it was in and out but it’s just annoying. It takes like 5 mins to get pregnant but I worked so hard on this degree for 4 years and it still doesn’t feel like it’s taken serious or even appreciated. The kicker is my stupid sister said jokingly I can now buy my niece presents with the big girl job I’ll get. Massive eye roll

And yes I’m NOT talking about people who struggled with infertility or whatever.

I’ve been in this sub since Season 1 came out and have mostly lurked. For the most part, it’s been a pretty civil place

Lately, though I’ve been getting annoyed by all the complaints that Riley is being “picked on” by the sub. Last season there were countless repetitive posts about Charlie, then Georgia, and I don’t remember seeing nearly this much outrage or people insisting the sub needed to stop talking about them. Every season one or two cast mates end up dominating the discussion. That’s just basically how reality TV fandoms work

Now Riley is the main topic, and some people are acting like it’s something unprecedented. And yes, I’m Black before anyone starts throwing around accusations of racism. Criticizing a contestant’s behavior or discussing what happens on the show isn’t automatically rooted in bias

I’m also tired of the conspiracy theories about production supposedly setting Riley up for failure. Sometimes people just don’t like a contestant’s actions and that’s okay. Not every negative opinion has to be explained away as editing, producer manipulation, or some coordinated effort by the fanbase

Can we just be normal? If you’re tired of seeing posts about Riley just scroll past them or make posts about other contestants. That’s exactly what I did when Charlie dominated the conversation last season. Trying to shut down discussion because you don’t like the subject feels far more exhausting than the repetitive posts themselves

I’m a young woman in my early 20s and hearing a couple of my peers having kids has definitely been an interesting experience. I’ve thought about having kids because I’m so experienced with kids (worked in daycares, babysat for many years, camp counselor etc) but it just seems so tiring. Caring for kids is so boring and feels like a humiliation ritual but atleast I got paid for it. Imagining caring for my own kids for free and going to work then coming back to cook dinner for them, check their homework, bed time, etc and it loops every single day for 18 years sounds like hell. I’m not sure how people especially moms don’t go insane from doing the same thing over and over. Especially when they’re usually doing 90% of the child care, house care and usually have to work as well.

I haven’t really told anyone how I feel about it though. I keep getting pressured by my mom (because I’m an only child) how I need to have many kids to make up for my being an only child and how she’ll help me with the kids and move in. I once said jokingly “I can just birth them and you can have em” and she agreed. I laughed at that but I found it incredibly jarring.

I’m not sure if I want to go the full way and get my tubes tied because that’s a whole other ball game especially with hormones and what not. The only way I can maybe be persuaded to have kids is maybe adopt a teen that’s “already been raised” but even then doesn’t feel right for me.

I’m in a pretty good field and make decent money and I know I’m supposed to “pass down” my money to my future children. But I would rather just donate my money to a children’s charity or a cancer foundation or something. I keep thinking of the old “who will take care of me when I’m old” but it’s not really guaranteed they will. I know parents who had kids and their kids unfortunately passed so they’re all alone or their kids don’t have the means to take care of them. I’d rather hire help than go to a nursing place.

Hello everyone! I’m in my early 20s and recently come to terms with my sexuality and currently live in the south and don’t really have a queer community. So I was wondering if you guys had any recommendations other than the popular NYC, LA, etc options. I’ll try to list out some criteria’s. If you comment a location could you please describe the vibes of that place. Thanks so much!!

- Relatively okaayy rent prices
- Diverse population
- Black queer scene
- Public transportation readily available
- Good food plus scenery or fun things to do/explore
- Cold temp is fine but not a lot of snow/ice, I don’t mind the heat, I don’t mind rain
- If I were to get married good schooling, relatively modest housing, etc

I got some cute tops from Plato’s closet a couple weeks ago. My mom goes “oh your top is cute where’s it from” and I go “oh yeah thanks it was really cheap I thrifted it from Plato’s closet” and then she went on an annoying tangent on how I shouldn’t buy clothes from thrift stores because people can put demons in their clothes and you start acting weird. I was instantly sooo irritated. She then goes on about she saw some Christian video where someone thrifted clothes and got possessed and started acting demonic and the demons were telling her to do bad stuff.

I’m honestly sooo annoyed why are Christian’s like this. They live in fear of EVERYTHING it’s so exhausting. Keep your fear to yourself. I just wanted to rant bc I’m so annoyed of hearing about demons and whatever from doing basic mundane stuff. This is why I just hate speaking with my mom at times because she’ll always say some dumb shit like this and I have to remember to be respectful

I’ve been a fan of her since the earlier seasons and I agree she did get annoying toward the end of her time on the show. But the hatred for her is so overblown. So I’m out here asking if there is anyone who’s not maybe a stan but atleast likes Danielle

Also slightly interesting I don’t see anyone worrying for Danielle’s mental health when she has been the one bullied/piled up on by the fans the most…

i’m more so speaking about white people though i will say southern white culture is ingrained w Christianity. But as a black person it’s so deeply ingrained in our culture from black Americans, to Caribbeans and even worse in west/central Africa. I can’t be openly atheist around most black people. Sometimes I feel bad for looking down on people in my race who are so brainwashed by Christianity because it’s like how dumb are they to still believe in one of the tools used to subjugate us? And it’s just fucking ironic how much these western countries spread Christianity to our countries but now their countries are now kinda atheists. I envy how a lot of white people I’ve encountered families don’t care about them being atheist or some weren’t even raised going to church. They’re usually not judgemental if I say I’m atheist even if they are Christian or catholic or whatever. This isn’t hate to whites or anything like that just venting and trying to cope

I haven’t been keeping up with RHOA for years but decided to watch the new season and seeing Porsha in a relationship with a woman is honestly so healing. I’m so glad she’s able to finally feel free in her sexuality and able to express her love proudly. As a black bisexual woman in the south it’s been such a scary and intimidating experience coming out. I’m just glad that we’re able to get more positive representation of black bisexual woman on tv💕

Does anyone else still find themselves wanting to go to church for the social aspect? When I was super religious we’d go on Sunday get brunch right after and it’d be a cute day. I feel like my Sundays are now so disorganized because I don’t really have a set routine to fill that void

Hi everyone I’m an African (west African to be precise) and I grew up in a very Christian household ie going Wednesday + Friday evening and Sunday morning service. My family immigrated to the United States right before my I turned 12 and I basically grew up going to church on sundays only.

I’ve always been forced into the religion by my mother (my father is slightly religious but believes pastors steal money from their congregation and doesn’t like to go but he’ll say stuff like thank god) because she wants to “save” me from ancestral curses and witches from our home country. I’ve basically grown up in fear my whole life (20yo now) but still skeptical of the religion. To this day I havent been back in my home country because my mom said the prophets she speaks to back home said witches want us dead and it’s not the right time. She pays money to various African prophets I can’t even keep track to help pray for her and our family. I believe it’s one of the reasons the marriage with my dad ended up in a divorce once I left for college.

So I’ve been thinking about religion more intensely now and I was thinking if these curses and witchcraft were truly real wouldn’t scientists be all over west African countries trying to get it on camera? I was told stories of people killing/sacrificing people for success, people touching a white witchcraft powder and turning into goats, etc. There was even a pastor I grew up watching on tv when I was younger I believe called pastor Joshua who had what looked like a mega church and had people holding signs and he’d claim to deliver demonic spirits from people, have people manifest during services by touching their forehead(this used to scare me so bad), cure diseases like hiv etc.

In the back of my mind I kind of dont believe it to be true but it’s been ingrained in me so much stories about hell, ancestral curses, witches and wizards etc.

I’m just kind of lost and my mother keeps trying to force me into it because I think she can tell I’m not 100% in it. So my question is do any of yall come from cultures that emphasize witchcraft and sorcery and all that and how do you cope?

I apologize for the long windedness but I truly don’t have anyone to speak to about this because most in my culture are very religious and even mentions of me not believing will have them thinking I’m possessed by some demon or something