u/mi-sopiras-vin

I have never been in a relationship, but I am really sure that I am bisexual. I am attracted to both men and women, but I feel frustrated. As an adult now, I find men disgusting because of how they treat women. I see so many TikTok videos also in real life about marriage and living with men, and it looks like a disaster. They seem to be becoming more misogynistic, and now I don't want to date them. To be honest, though, I can see myself married to either a woman or a man.

Ok, I'm slightly exaggerating: I cried in the shower in the morning, and then later I cried before bed, but in between that I actually went outside and did some fun stuff. I'm not completely despondent and bedridden, but I'm certainly in a sad era of my life right now.

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I need nice people to talk to throughout the day. I would love to bond over shared interests with some chill internet friends, have low stakes conversations about how our days are going, etc. I'm not asking for a romantic connection - I am still devastated by a promising relationship that I completely fumbled 2 months ago, so I'm in no position to fall for someone new. If you're also recently heartbroken, hit me up and we can commiserate together!

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I have a lot of free time. I work from home doing a pointless marketing job that I don't give a single fuck about, but it pays the bills (barely). I would love a friendly distraction to help the day go by faster, and potentially help me forget about the person I'm missing.

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Important info about me:

• I'm far left politically and I get pretty fiery about my opinions, so if you are conservative, we won't get along.

• My interests include art history, movies/TV shows about dreams and the unconscious mind, 90s alt rock, and media that features violent women who kill without remorse.

• I recently started watching The Pitt, so feel free to hit me up if you want to discuss why Dr. Mel King is the best.

• I'm open to chatting with any gender, but keep in mind that I am a lot less trusting of men. The reasons for that should be obvious. If that offends you, then you shouldn't bother talking to me. You'll probably think I'm a "feminazi" and it would be a huge waste of time for both of us.

• I care deeply about people but I have also become incredibly nihilistic this year. I don't like being a buzzkill but the world events of 2026 so far have basically killed my faith in humanity. Let me know if you feel the same way. Maybe we can help each other feel less alone and hopeless.

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Despite how sad this post sounds, I promise I'm actually pretty funny. I love to yap, share memes, and learn about people's inner worlds. Hopefully, we can make each other smile at our phones a few times before you leave.

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I met someone online back in mid-March, and we chatted every day for a month straight. The connection felt effortless, we had immediate chemistry, and we became smitten with each other quickly. This person made it clear that they were falling for me, and the feeling was mutual.

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Unfortunately, I completely fucked it up. I won't bore you with the specifics, but after one month of daily texting and romantic attachment, I lashed out at them during an emotional breakdown fueled by hormones and my unresolved trauma. They did nothing wrong, they were amazing, they were everything I wanted, but then I pushed them away in a fit of misguided rage. I realized my mistake quickly and sent them a heartfelt apology the next day, but it was too late. They told me that they really like me, and this isn't an easy decision for them, but they can't handle the emotional stress I've put them through, especially since they were already in the middle of a difficult time in their lives.

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I was devastated, but I don't blame them for leaving at all. I acted ridiculous, unstable, and selfish. They are wonderful, they were so nice to me, and they deserve better. It's been 2 months since they said goodbye, but I am still not over losing them. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I feel as though I lost my chance with someone who could have been my soul mate. I can't forgive myself for fucking things up, and I can't stop thinking about them. I started going back to therapy again because of all this, and I'm trying my best to move on with my life, but it's so fucking hard. I deleted their number from my phone, I deleted all my screenshots of cute moments from our past conversations, I even deleted my old reddit account because it reminded me of them (we met on an R4R subreddit). What else can I do? Please, if anyone has some concrete advice for moving on when you're obsessed with someone, I would greatly appreciate it.

Hi everyone. New person here. I was diagnosed with OCD over 10 years ago, so I'm no stranger to the ways this disorder can impact my life, but right now I'm dealing with something especially difficult and I'm hoping this group can help.

I met someone online back in mid-March, and we chatted every day for a month straight. The connection felt effortless, we had immediate chemistry, and we became smitten with each other quickly. This person made it clear that they were falling for me, and the feeling was mutual. Unfortunately, I completely fucked it up. I won't bore you with the specifics, but after one month of daily texting and romantic attachment, I lashed out at them during an emotional breakdown fueled by hormones and my unresolved trauma. They did nothing wrong, they were amazing, they were everything I wanted, but then I pushed them away in a fit of misguided rage. I realized my mistake quickly and sent them a heartfelt apology the next day, but it was too late. They told me that they really like me, and this isn't an easy decision for them, but they can't handle the emotional stress I've put them through, especially since they were already in the middle of a difficult time in their lives.

I was devastated, but I don't blame them for leaving at all. I acted ridiculous, unstable, and selfish. They are wonderful, they were so nice to me, and they deserve better. It's been 2 months since they said goodbye, but I am still not over losing them. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I feel as though I lost my chance with someone who could have been my soul mate. I can't forgive myself for fucking things up, and I can't stop thinking about them. I started going back to therapy again because of all this, and I'm trying my best to move on with my life, but it's so fucking hard. I deleted their number from my phone, I deleted all my screenshots of cute moments from our past conversations, I even deleted my old reddit account because it reminded me of them (we met on an R4R subreddit). What else can I do? Please, if anyone has some concrete advice for moving on when you're obsessed with someone, I would greatly appreciate it.