I need help figuring out what to say to my doctor to get them to actually listen to me -sincerely, a girl with a weird menstrual cycle in immense pain

I’m at a loss. I’ve talked with my doctors and OBGYN about my symptoms so many times and every time I just get “that’s normal since you’re on birth control” or they switch me to a different birth control. Am I crazy??? I’m just looking to see if anyone has advice on how to approach this with my doctor or if anyone else can relate to what I’m going through.

I’ve tried Nexplanon (bled every day), IUD (bled every day, excruciating cramps), depo shot (bled every day, excruciating cramps), and am now on the mini pill (not bleeding every day, but a weird cycle and sometimes I’ll get 2 periods in one month or skip it entirely, and still have excruciating cramps).

I have PMDD that was originally misdiagnosed that makes me absolutely miserable for most of the month, especially since my period is so all over the place.

The cramps are so fucking painful. I get them weeks before my period, during my period, sometimes just whenever they want to show up. I’m doubled over in pain and can’t move. Today at work I nearly collapsed from sudden sharp pain in my ovaries and I am now so bloated I look pregnant. My back hurts so bad and I feel very dizzy when I stand up.

My doctors have sent me for an ultrasound twice and each time it shows some cysts “within normal range”. They say everything looks good and send me on my way. I don’t know what to do. I don’t have the money to see a specialist or anything. I just need to know what I can say to my doctor to get them to take me seriously. I need help. 😭

u/milkshakespill — 15 days ago

My para is a gloomy romantic… but now I can only ever flirt with everyone or tell depressing stories, so I make everyone miserable and uncomfortable

Does anyone else have this problem? 😂 It’s kind of funny, but I’m hoping I get some better dialogue options at some point! Is anyone farther in the game and can share more to that point?

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u/milkshakespill — 17 days ago

My girl is getting old but her tank needs a deep clean!

My dwarf hamster, Dumpling, is at least 2 years old. I spot clean her tank, but she hides food at the bottom of the little caverns she makes and I feel like it needs to be deep cleaned and reset. I don’t want to stress her out though, especially if she’s nearing the end of her journey. Any advice? My favorite Picture of her for tax 🖤

u/milkshakespill — 28 days ago

Anyone with excessive blinking/eye rubbing tics have makeup recommendations?

Some of my tics involve excessive/hard eye blinking and eye rubbing that makes it very difficult to wear any eye makeup. I’ve tried so many different products that claim to be long lasting but since I rub my eyes and blink so much, it all ends up smudged under my eyes. I have goth/alternative style so I’m wondering if maybe there’s a look out there that is designed to be smudged under the eyes that might work? What do y’all do?

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u/milkshakespill — 1 month ago

Chicken Parmesan always responds to “who’s that?” with a little “whoooo……..”

It’s just one of those things that we didn’t deliberately teach him, but he does it every single time without fail. Chicken Parm stands on business and is always ready to find out…….who is that???

u/milkshakespill — 1 month ago

Just put in a menstrual disc for the first time and I’m having a panic attack, please tell me success stories or like anything to make me feel better

I don’t know why I’m freaking out so much, maybe because of past trauma or because the first time I ever put in a tampon it got stuck on my hymen……but I’m kind of panicking and it feels so strange 😭😭😭 I’m scared to take it out later and I don’t know what to expect or what it should feel like and all I can think about is that there’s a foreign thing inside me….. I didn’t expect to feel this way, I was very excited to try it but I’m just scared and need someone to hold my hand 😞

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u/milkshakespill — 2 months ago

Is Chicken Parmesan TOO fluffy?

I don’t take him to the groomer because of far too many bad experiences. I do it all myself. I always feel scared to cut too much, so I do a little bit at a time fairly often. He doesn’t seem uncomfortable to me and has many ways to keep cool in the summer, but I always get little comments about “why don’t you shave him? He must be so hot…” I’ll never shave him!!!! But should I trim it a bit more or is this okay?

These pictures are right after a trim (I know I’m not very good but it’s better than taking him to a groomer where they think the only option is to shave him!)

u/milkshakespill — 2 months ago

[Recommendations?] 38G/H (US) Looking for Lightweight Comfort Bra, No Underwire, Amazon Preferred

I fear I may be searching for a unicorn. I’m used to not wearing a bra and need something that feels like nothing, but I have a large cup size and have a hard time finding a bra that fits with a smaller waist. I’m really hoping to purchase from Amazon because of their easy return policy in case it doesn’t work out. I love the feeling of the “jelly” bras, but I haven’t found a brand/size that fits right. I also struggle because my nipples were put back higher than usual after a reduction, but nothing I can really do about that. Support is not a necessity, I mostly just need something to keep my boobs separate from my stomach in this heat.

Brands that are not sold on Amazon are still welcome. Thank you!

Loose underbust: 38.75
Snug underbust: 38
Tight underbust: 37
Standing bust: 44.75
Leaning bust: 47.5
Lying bust: 44.75

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u/milkshakespill — 2 months ago

What is he doing?

Chicken Parmesan has been making this noise on and off all day. I’m wondering if maybe he got some water in his nose and is trying to get it out? He sometimes likes to stick his whole snout in the bowl and blow bubbles. He’s been to the vet recently and updated on all vaccines and healthy as a whistle.

Took this video when we just got in the car (parked while filming!) but he’d also been doing it inside.

u/milkshakespill — 2 months ago

Buying a Policy on the Phone VS Online?

I’m looking into Plymouth Rock for MA auto insurance. I have an online quote that’s pretty reasonably priced, but I called to see if they have student discounts. The rep quoted me a bit higher than my quote and said that mine might be lower because I selected DriveSafely, but I didn’t select DriveSafely and I went back to confirm I didn’t. He also said that I should buy the policy with him because he can help with the “2-way form”. Is there a benefit to going through him or am I safe to just proceed with my lower quote online?

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u/milkshakespill — 3 months ago

Menstrual Discs + Tilted Cervix?

Hi! I’ve been wanting to try out a menstrual disc because I’m tired of putting tampons made of questionable material in my body, chafing from pads, and I’d like to reduce my carbon footprint (and money spent) too.

The problem is that I have a retroverted uterus and I also have a lot of other problems with extremely painful cramps and pain during sex. I think my pelvic floor is all kinds of messed up. I’ve talked to my doctor about all this but they don’t seem to really care. I’m not sure where my cervix sits… I tried feeling around for the “tip of the nose” but I don’t feel anything that feels like that? I’m honestly pretty ignorant about all of this and could really use any advice at all.

I was looking at the hello disc, but I also read about the lumma or saalt. Thoughts?

Thank you for reading 🖤

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u/milkshakespill — 3 months ago