u/mosaad40

I'll delete this post as soon as I get an answer because I don't want to spread fitnah about the Sheikh..

I've been following him since 2023, and his lectures have benefited me a lot and had a big impact on me.

Recently, whenever I search for him on YouTube, I keep seeing videos of him with girl called Lil Jay. The way she dresses and interacts doesn't align with Islami at all..

Anybody has any idea what exactly happened or provide the context?

May Allah guide us all to the truth and forgive us.

Asslamu Alikum .. Hope you are doing well inshaAllah..

I keep myself busy.. full-time engineering job, part-time translation work at night. Alhamdulillah, I stay away from mixing and try my best with lowering the gaze. No relationships before marriage, never.

But there are moments where I just feel this huge emotional emptiness. Like there's so much love I have to give and nowhere for it to go.

I'm actively looking and putting in the effort, but nothing has worked out yet.. I have full trust that rizq is from Allah, Alhamdulillah..

wondering.. have you been through this? What actually helped you fill that space while waiting?

Salaam.

If someone is working remote. No office. No fixed city, necessarily.

Income is steady. The location isn't. "Digital nomad"

how this lands for someone thinking about marriage. Does it read as unstable? Or just... different?

I'd rather hear the truth than assume. Critical answers welcome.

JazakAllah khair.

محتاج نصيحتكم.. إيه أفضل طريق للخروج من مصر؟

أنا خريج هندسة ميكاترونيكس 2023.

في بداية السنة كنت بسعى وبقدم ع شغل كتير و متارجت سنغافورة .. الحمدلله جالي أوفر من شركة و جامعة ودخلت معاهم في بروسيس حوالي 3 شهور، لكن للأسف لا الشركة ولا الجامعة قدرت تطلعلي فيزا وزارة القوى العاملة هناك كانت بترفض ..

الحمد لله حاليًا شغال في مصر، ومعايا كمان شغل ريموت بارت تايم بيدخلي حوالي 500 دولار شهريًا.

دلوقتي محتار بين كذا اختيار:

- أفضل في مصر وأكمل تقديم على شغل بره.

-أسعى إنى أسافر دولة زي ألبانيا أو إندونيسيا وأشتغل منها ريموت لحد ما ألاقي فرصة في دولة تانية.

- أو أفكر في ماستر في أوروبا، مع إن بصراحة الجانب الأكاديمي مش حاسه خالص، وأنا مهتم أكتر بالشغل واكتساب الخبرة.

حابب أسمع من الناس اللي مرت بالتجربة أو عندها خبرة: لو مكاني، هتعملوا إيه؟ جزاكم الله كل خير..

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Still in the search myself, so this is me thinking out loud more than anything.

These platforms can quietly shift your mindset into something like... browsing a supermarket and looking for best offer..

You come across a profile that might aligns with what matters .. good deen, good character .. but you keep scrolling anyway, because what if the next one is slightly better? And then the one after that?

It becomes a loop with no real exit.

Come to my mind now that The Prophet ﷺ kept the criteria simple for a reason. For brothers: "Seek the one with deen."

For sisters: "The one whose deen and character please you."

That's it. Not a checklist of every ideal trait stacked together.

I think a lot of us, myself included, let expectations quietly inflate the longer we stay on these platforms. And the honest reality is .. if you're always looking for "better," better will always seem to exist one scroll away.

Curious if anyone else has felt this or has thoughts .. :)