u/my-head-hurts987

I have health issues that make showering really hard (working on solutions to make it easier) and especially the hair-washing part, and I have really low energy in general, so on days I work I generally don't wash my hair. but today I got in the shower, fully with my shower cap on, prepared to NOT wash my hair, and decided "actually, you know what? I *will* wash it" and took off my shower cap and stuff, and washed my hair!! even though I was really tired after my shift!!

hi! as the title says, I'm looking for babydoll style tops and dresses to wear this summer! a lot of the places I've tried these tops just don't end up being very babydoll-esque, and more like slightly loose, which isn't what I want. I'm an XL or 1X, generally a size 18. (US/CAN sizes) thanks in advance for any recommendation!

I really struggle with showering. it takes up SO MUCH of my energy. granted, I also believe I have POTS, so lifting my hands above my head is a horrible experience. standing is too hard, so I sit on the floor (currently not in a situation where I can get a shower chair). I always struggle with scrubbing my scalp because my fingers are too lax, and I have really thick, fine, curly hair so if I want to properly wash it I need to separate it into sections, which makes the whole experience worse cause I need to lift my arms to do that, and then keep track of where my hair parts/clips are, and I have to use clips with my aforementionned super lax finger *while they're wet*, which sucks. I lean my head down a bit and lean my arm on my knee to make it easier, but it's not enough, and I end up avoiding showers entirely. how do you make showering easier? I wish I could just enjoy the warm water and actually be able to relax, instead of the horrible experience it is.

so, I suck at healthy conflict resolution. I get defensive, I withdraw, I lose my cool. I don't want to be like this, but I have no good model to follow in my life right now (I come from a family of "bury it deep inside you until you die, or until it explodes out of you" people) and was never taught healthy ways to talk about issues or to receive criticism. what are some books that have helped you with this? because so far, the only advice I've really gotten is "use 'I' statements", which really only goes so far...

I'm buying myself cheap plastic ring splints already, while waiting to see an occupational therapist to get real ones, and I'm planning on buying myself a shoulder/arm support called "the armbie" that'll help me support my hands while knitting or reading, but what do you to support yourself (literally) in your hobbies?

bonjour, je cherche une série de livres pour jeunes enfants que j'ai lu quand j'étais jeune qui s'appellait "il était 2 fois". ils avaient deux filles comme personnages principaux et c'était des livres qui avaient à la fois des images et du texte, mais ils étaient séparés en 2 et avaient un style vraiment haut en couleur. la première partie était de la perspective d'une des filles, et lorsque tu atteignais le centre tu retournais le livre à l'envers et lisait la perspective de la deuxième fille. elles rencontraient toujours des créatures surnaturelles et des complots. dans le centre il y avait un petit "magazine" avec une espèce de mascotte qui s'appellait "m. pompidou", qui était un alien venu pour conquérir le monde ou quelque chose dans le genre? je cherche en ligne et tout ce que ça me donne c'est le roman de franck thilliez "il était deux fois", peu importe la recherche que je fais 😭 je veux juste montrer à mon amie que je l'ai pas imaginé lol désolé si c'est pas le sub pour ça, mais si jamais vous aussi vous vous en rappellez ou vous connaissez d'autres détails qui pourraient m'aider à les retrouver, j'apprécierais!

so, I probably also have POTS and I decided to try wearing compression socks, to see if it helps at all, and I've noticed my toes feel cold. I've always had cold feet, but I've been so used to it I hardly noticed, I guess? but with the socks on the rest of my foot feels normal and I can feel my toes being cold, for once lol

what do compression socks feel like to you?