I love the temples in Kerala - all the legends & lore, the architecture, the culture and customs. Would anyone be willing to share any special experiences you have had during your path of worship, any specific temples famous for certain wishes, pujas etc, or even any temple legends that you have heard from your ancestors?
I love the temples in Kerala - all the legends & lore, the architecture, the culture and customs. Would anyone be willing to share any special experiences you have had during your path of worship, any specific temples famous for certain wishes, pujas etc, or even any temple legends that you have heard from your ancestors?
Hello all! Been browsing this forum and recently learnt that Havanese colors fade within a year or two. Saw this profile and I love Rio’s coloring:
https://www.instagram.com/ridingwith.rio?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==
Would this color fade as well?
Hi all! Looking for hygienic and tasty food spots in Thrissur. We have sensitive stomachs, and we are visiting. :)
Hi all! I have high myopia and eye floaters, and was wondering if the rides at these theme parks are safe for me. Wish I could enjoy these rides without fear about floaters! Thanks!
Hello! Requesting suggestions on upscale restaurants serving hygienic food. Visiting Palakkad and most of us have sensitive stomachs. Thank you!
Having a 12 year old continuously on his school issued Chromebook for hours and hours. Did not expect school to let kids keep it. He is offline since I have cut the internet on his device, but has games and videos he has downloaded already earlier. I tried taking it away and he pushed me down and stomped on my feet. :(. Now he has locked himself up in a room. Is there any way I can block the offline content? Does Bark block offline content? He is also vengeful and threatens to break or take away my laptop or phone.
Hello! Any suggestions for organized birthday party venues with fun activities in the Bay Area? Slightly older kids - 10-12 year olds.
How do you deal with a child who has completely shut down from you and refuses to talk a word to you no matter what?
Thanks!
I have spend years (starting 4th grade) with my son trying to make him study and write.. him resisting every step I tell him to. We had ugly fights. When teaching him Math for example, if he made a mistake and I would try to explain the answer and ask him to correct it, he would have major meltdowns, and say things like “That’s not the only way to study”. All this started in 4th, he’s going to 7th next year and our relationship has pretty much ended. He hates me from the bottom of his heart, and is so unbelievably rude and disrespectful. Anything I ask him, his only answer is no. (Like putting his lunchbox in the sink after school, having a shower, changing his clothes and underwear after school, filling a bottle of water). If I ask him why he is responding in this manner he says “Be curious, I don’t care”. He has failed many courses, (since he has refused to work with me, he would make it through when he would cooperate), is addicted to his laptop (from school, I turn off the internet, but he has a lot of games and videos he can access offline). Anything I ask him to do is a huge “NO”. He sits for hours on the school laptop. If I ask him to stop or set any boundaries or consequences he responds that I am a failure as a mother or that I am a waste and that I deserve to die. Or “shut up you idiot and closes his ears.” He is vengeful and threatens to break my laptop or take away my phone. (He has done this as well). I am in tears, there is zero empathy for his mom. He’s not this bad with anyone else. I have been most engaged with him - school demands, extra curricular demands, and now I’m in this position. He is going to get a formal diagnosis now. I think I’m finally open to trying out medications. Will I ever have a positive relationship with my son? Do such kids ever love or empathize with anyone except themselves? What are they like as adults?
Is anyone else bored with the uncreative and untalented group of Malayali influencer girls over-exaggerating and detailing every part of their lives, zooming into their faces and outfits and bodies, twirling around - “Dinner date with hubby”, “My hubby has money”, “Surprise planning or surprise for me”, A day in my life”, “I love my life”, “My husband loves me and I love him”, “My parents love me and I love them”, “My in-laws love me and I love them”, I love my kids”, “My kids are so cute”, “Our vacation trip to xyz”, “my lazy day”, “my gym day”, “my girls trip”, “movie day”, “the food I ate”, “birthdays”, “my shopping day”, “spa day”, “see my fancy bag”…
The worst thing is how average or below average these people are. There is nothing to watch and admire or appreciate. Zero comedy, creativity, nothing unique on the fashion front, can’t design anything, (interiors, clothes, jewelry, nothing), no specific talent to sing, dance, model, cook, craft, teach, draw or paint, not really business minded or be able to be successful there, no sense of humility or charity, it’s just an endless string of “mememememe” .. “look how mundane I am!”. And the social media culture has made us follow them! What they have is someone who provides stable financial and family support, so they don’t have to work an actual job.
Sigh. I unfollowed most of them now. Can’t believe I have wasted hours of my life on this s***.
I like Rishika Paul because she’s a good dancer (talent), Kalyani Srsh - because I think she’s pretty and like her outfits, plus she’s not overdoing it, Greeshma Bose for her humor.
Is anybody else worth the doomscroll?
[Adding] : Just was made aware of Rishika’s antics and the unethical jewelry company. I had zoned out of her insanely boring wedding prep and skipped it all. Unfollowing her as well!
See peeps - we have all admired someone or the other growing up in school or college - maybe they were kind and helpful, maybe they had a good heart, maybe they were pretty, or witty, maybe they sang/danced/painted well, maybe they cooked or baked well, maybe they were intelligent or a good speaker or leader. Social media has made our bars so low, we are spending our valuable time watching average joes and janes doing things every single one of us does or can do.
Child is 12. He has always had difficulty listening to instructions, even as a toddler. He would just keep running and wouldn’t stop, we would have to run and catch him, yelling “stop, stop”. He would fight sleep, even as a baby.
All this calmed down when he turned 7-8 years old, and then he was reading obsessively. As school expectations increased, particularly 4th grade, things started going haywire - there were times he would cooperate, but most evenings were filled with meltdowns, yelling (us as well :(). He would insist on writing in a specific way, refuse to correct or change no matter what. He could never sit down and do set of math problems, even now he would flat out refuse and yell “NO”. The myriad of tutors we hired, he ended up hating them. Mostly this was because they would get upset that he wasn’t following instructions, and would change to a “strict” tone, and this is followed by complete shutdown from his side. Punishing him for not doing his schoolwork never worked, he would just get so angry and motivating him didn’t work either - he would still feel “controlled” and throw a fit. Strangely, the times that he does cooperate, he is quite smart and does well.
He’s in CBT therapy, but hasn’t really been keeping up with his worksheets. I didn’t want to push him for that either.
The thought of studying gives him so much stress and anxiety he has completely shut me out. No matter what, he refuses to respond to anything I ask. He can be vindictive, wanting to hurt my feelings and say things like “you deserve to die”, “you are a failure as a mother”, “you are a liar”.
I’m just so worried about medication, have been not for it so far. Sounds weird, but when he is free and relaxed, he’s a sweet, creative, friendly, social, smart and funny little guy.
Please share your experiences if you can. How painful is the process to find the right dosage? Will it have weird side effects such as not eating/ hungry and others? Does it help with extreme anger / anxiety? How will medication impact puberty? I’m so scared of changing something in his brain that can’t be changed back. 😭
Thanks for reading.
Does anybody have advice for a child who gets super angry and vengeful when parents set boundaries? My 11 year old gets obsessed with computer games and reading. He’s not allowed much computer time, but he’s in a rage mode when we force him to stop or cut the internet. I take away his books as well, reason being that he’s so obsessive he forgets everything else, homework tests. He seems to be constantly raging nowadays. He says bad things to me - that I deserve to die, “shut up you idiot”, “you’re nobody to me”, and keeps threatening to break my work laptop. He’s in therapy but it doesn’t seem to be doing much right now.