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My 29f am in an “argument” with 28 bf cause he was being playful how women smell bad on their periods (I’m on mine) and I told him “umm you’re not supposed to smell a woman’s period. If you can the girl isn’t washing or taking care of herself..” and kept insisting that what he said was true

Then he was saying I always wanna argue over stupid things and how “no wonder why my mom says the stuff she does to me” and “idk how your mom stands being around you all day. If I have to put up with this stuff for the rest of my life I’m gonna end myself.” He knows my mom is narc and has said messed up things about me, I understand sometimes I’m at fault but I try to bite my tongue

This has been going on for 30 mins and everytime I say something I’m getting cut off and being called immature. And he keeps saying I’m not as nice as I usually am lately and honestly it’s cause I’ve been shitting down from the way he talks to me and treats me but still expects me to be lovey dovey. Like I want to be my normal sweet self but it’s hard when your bf is telling you to “shut tf up” or calling you “a big girl” in a baby voice trying to be demeaning or calling you other names

I’m a 29f and the number of men, even ones I didn’t have a relationship with, stated “one minute you act interested and the next you don’t.” I’m talking the past 4 men I talked to and my now current bf.

And to be honest, most of the time, I don’t really realize it until something is said to me. It’s unfortunate but true. I want to get better at being consistent but I also don’t want to be like “oh did I do a good job of showing you that I want to be with you?” every week. Another struggle is I’m an introvert as well and my social battery drains quick, it’s not an excuse, but just a little extra info on my personality. And I bring that up cause sometimes it feels like a lot to me to constantly do that stuff 24/7.

I want to be better but I don’t know if anyone else struggled with this and if so, what helped? Thank you so much.

We’re both in late 20s for context. Hell ask me what I’m up to and I’ll tell him, and half the time my answer is painting. I’ve been commissioned for two paintings for someone and weirdly anytime I mention that I’m working on the painting, he word for word is like “oh my godddd” after clicking/smacking his tongue against his mouth, likes he’s bothered or annoyed.

He’s been wanting me to paint a thing or two for him and I have told him I can do it but I need reference images & for him to measure the size he wants the canvas to be…to which he’s only sent one picture and that’s it. It has nothing to do with money cause he has offered to not only pay me but also buy the canvas’ since they’re bigger than what I normally have. It’s an until he does what I ask - which is what I ask of anyone who commissioned from me - I do first come first serve.

It’s just so weird to me he acts like that, like is he jealous I’m focusing my attention on that and feels like I’m not paying attention to him? Mind you we’re literally around eachother almost, if not, 24/7. It seems so juvenile for this to even be happening

I’ve been with my sp for a few years and I manifested away a 3p I was completely unaware of, in Feb. which honestly was easy cause I always had the belief my sp would always choose me to be with

My question is, even though I know she’s out of the picture, I’m unsure of how to manifest her not existing ever. Like as if that my sp would have no memory of her ever. I’ve been saying “xyz never has existed to to my sp” whenever the thought randomly pops up

I’ve been with my sp for a few years and I manifested away a 3p I was completely unaware of, in Feb. which honestly was easy cause I always had the belief my sp would always choose me to be with

My question is, even though I know she’s out of the picture, I’m unsure of how to manifest her not existing ever. Like as if that my sp would have no memory of her ever. I’ve been saying “xyz never has existed to to my sp” whenever the thought randomly pops up

I 29f am at my limit pretty much with my bf 28. He’s always saying things to provoke a response/reaction out of me and if I stand up for myself or say something, most of the time he’ll get pissed and start arguments.

We were watching a kall me Kris reddit vid and this post Kris telling was about a husband being upset that his wife was cutting her hair shorter and shorter and my bf was making dyke/butch jokes. My bf and I were stating our opinions on the reddit post in the vid and he was saying how super short hair is ugly and the husband has every right to have preferences/wants and I agreed. Then I also mentioned after that it’s the wives body and she can do whatever she wants. That set him off on a tirade. He kept saying “oh white girls always have this nasty a** attitude” and I didn’t say anything at first then he was like “am I right babe? You guys have this attitude?” And I just snapped back saying “we’re just like latinas, black girls, Asian girls, etc etc. They have it too,” mind you I don’t even believe in what I said, I said it because I was over being provoked and he was the one to mention race to begin with. Then he got even more into it and saying how messed up it was for me to think me and my race is better than the other. When I didn’t.

He proceeded to say “we’re need to stop watching kall me Kris cause you always act like this and act like her and I can’t stand it. It brings out your ugly side and makes you ugly.” Then went on a tangent saying “I mentioned your race as a teasing joke. Anytime I want you to be chill you have something up your a** and when I want you to fck your a** you create excuses…” (which I do, but the last time I did that I started to bleed and took a couple weeks off.)

Then he’s trying to make me even more upset by trying to provoke me by saying “women should pay 50/50 went out on a date and how it’s bs women have the mentality that since we’re women that men should pay for dates” - we’re watching a podcast that touched on this topic for context here - which is ironic cause he’s always wanting to buy me food, clothing, toys, makeup, etc etc. even a new phone, ac unit, tv when I mentioned wanting new ones.

I’m tired of being provoked. I’m too damn old to be treated like such and he’s too old to be doing it. How do I stop this bs?

I f29 am dating 28 bf. I was clinically diagnosed at 18 with major depression disorder and adhd. At the time I was taking Wellbutrin and adderall and then stopped, then restarted Wellbutrin around two years ago.

My bf is very opinionated on people taking meds and how unless absolutely needed, you need to toughen up mentally and not take them. And honestly I don’t have an issue w that mindset until it comes to my health. The past month I’ve fallen off taking my antidepressant accidentally (adhd, out of sight outta mind) and at first I felt fine…then I’ve noticed I’ve gotten more irritable, overstimulated, annoyed, etc and a few sad days. And I just brought up how I refilled my prescription cause I’ve noticed those changes and how unmotivated I am. And I didn’t even think of it or else I would’ve been quiet, but he went on a whole tangent about how I need to “toughen up and handle it maturely and on my own w out pills and that for all I know, since I’m taking the lowest dose, it might be placebo.” I don’t take any other meds regularly (I have provera every few months to regulate a cycle) and that’s it. Even with vitamins he hates the idea of me taking them

The convo lasted like 10 mins before he was like “hey I’m not gonna argue, everytime I say something you’re giving me a rebuttal”

Aio or is he out of line for pushing his beliefs that far onto me?

So I’ve been with sp since 2023 and up until the last few months to a year, he’s always made comments about wanting kids with me (multiple even) and getting me pregnant. Now he’s saying “he hates kids” and doesn’t want any - solely based off of seeing how his little cousin acts (and I told him that his little cousin acts like that cause the parents aren’t parenting like they should be and he agreed).

What do I affirm for things to be back how they were? Sometimes I go straight to the end and am like “oh him and I are married and we have two daughters and one son together” and others I affirm that he wants babies w me and only me, etc. but here’s the thing, my brain for some reason gets tripped up on one affirmation - I’ll start affirming and it’ll be “sp doesn’t want kids with anyone other than me” and my brain gets stuck on the doesn’t for some reason 😩

I 29f dropped a good amount of money on my 28 yr old bf for his birthday today. He was so excited for his gifts and I tried finding things that suited his interests as best as possible. I got all the “big” gifts he wanted and one of his smaller - filler like gifts was a deck of uno cards in the theme of dragon ball z. I thought he’d find them cool since he loves uno and the show a lot, instead he started busting a gut laughing at the fact I got them.

He didn’t hate them but doesn’t like the gift either, which is okay and that’s not why Im hurt. Im hurt because he went on a 20+ min tangent of how I’m a silly girl for getting him those and that “oh but this switchblade you got me? Amazingggg gift” in a tone that was saying “this gift is great but that game, absolutely not.” And he kept saying it over and over. I offered to take the game back and he was like “I can send you the money you spent.” And he just keeps laughing at the fact I got him uno cards, still. Then he kept making comments of “I have two gifts left to open but after that uno game I’m scared to open them “ and I’m just sitting there like 🧍🏼‍♀️🧍🏼‍♀️

Like I understand he’s probably being sarcastic but sometimes like today it gets a little much and I wish I knew how to tell him that without it targeting him/getting into a fight

I 29f have been w my bf 28 for a few years. Today we watched the 2003 version of Texas chainsaw massacre cause we were in a movie mood. We’ve both have seen this movie before and we’re both really into slashers/horror movies.

During the whole movie he kept talking and talking about stuff, or when something messed up or gory happened he’d drop the “n” word out of shock. Like we couldn’t watch the movie for 5 mins without him saying something. If it was here and here it wouldn’t even bother me. But it’s not, then because he was talking, he restarts what he missed.

But I’m someone who isn’t overly dramatic when reacting, I react but usually it’s more verbally or when I do react w my body it’s when I don’t realize it. Basically my bf is going on and on for 20 mins so far how messed up it is how I barely reacted to the movie and the gore and etc etc. I he knows how I am when it comes to reacting, AND we literally last watched this movie not even two weeks ago and he fell asleep during the last half. So I stayed up and watched it myself. Like I agree the movie is messed up and gross and etc etc 1000% but I don’t react the same way he does with things. And he’s like “are you a serial killer? Are you on the spectrum?? That’s not normal to not react to that stuff.” And I also told him I view slasher films like that as “unrealistic fake” even though I love them, like Halloween or Jason, etc. so it doesn’t freak me out as much as a paranormal movie would or mental thriller would.

But this instance and other instances (him showing me new music and I’m vibing and chilling listening to the song and he’ll go off on a similar tangent about me not reacting) etc make me feel like I’m dumb and not normal and honestly it lowkey messes with me

I f29 am with my bf (28) and I remember when we first met/started dating three yrs ago we had a talk or two about past relationships to just get an understanding of eachother, our pasts, etc. which lead us to revealing the ages in which we lost our virginity. I lost mine when I was 17 to a one night stand, and my bf said he was 20 and in a relationship (he’s had a 4-5 yr relationship & a 2-3 yr one prior to me). Well all of a sudden this year like a month ago we got on a random topic and he said he lost it when he was like 15. And I was like…you told me you were 20? And all he said was “really? I feel like I was 15 but maybe it was when I was 20” part of me doesn’t think it’s something really to worry about since it’s been eons ago, and tbh I even had to think if I lost mine at 17 or 18 when writing this…but there’s part of me that’s like why would he lie? Is it him feeling threatened I lost mine sooner and he tries to be more dominate/lead the relationship and wear the pants/manly? Did he genuinely mix it up?

What’s your opinion?

I’m pretty good at manifesting, especially with my sp (I mainly use affirming) but even though I’m in a relationship with him there’s a couple things I want to fix that take a toll on me and how I act w him.

One, he watches nsfw content - it’s disgusting and disrespectful to me when he has 30+ GBs of stuff I’ve made him (he continues to ask for me of me), watches it on Christmas Eve when he had family over to celebrate, watched it 20mins after opening the gifts we got eachother, at work, w the homies, etc etc. not only does it turn me off and not want to be intimate at all with him, I’m worried about his mental and emotional health from it. I want him to be completely done with watching it cause in all honesty, I’m way more than enough in general but especially when pleasing him (our intimate life is very active and strong, multiple times a week/multiple time a day). I keep saying his member only works for me and I’m the only one for him etc but I want to know what I can affirm for him to stop watching that stuff forever

Two, we get in these stupid little “arguments” often where he doesn’t like the way I word or the tone I’m using even though I’m already trying to be mindful of that stuff. What can I affirm for us to never fight or be upset with eachother?

Part of me looks at everything I write and feels like it stems from me feeling disrespected & unconsidered and I wonder if I need to start affirming that I am those things especially in my relationship with him - since eiypo

Any help is appreciated 💜

I’ve made it a goal to own & read all of Kings books, but with that being said, I also want to branch out and read other authors who are just as good/give off the same vibe. What are your recommendations? I’d love to hear!

I 29f have been so tired lately; most of due to a monthly cycle I just got off a few days ago, and me having to activate it with a pill ten days prior - which the side effects are drowsiness. But the cherry on top is my 28m bf who constantly without fail tells me “wake up you sleepy f” “xyz wake up!” Anytime he hears me doze off or nap. At first I thought he was kidding due to the tone, but I realized it happens every time I knock out. I already stay up late until 1-2 am cause he wants me to wait until he knock out first cause he has trouble falling asleep if I do first. Which normally doesn’t bother me since at most it’s 10 mins before he’s in dreamland.

Given the time I go to bed, weekdays I wake up at 6:30am to workout, get stuff done around the house, etc. but this Friday and Saturday I’ve been super busy with my little cousins high school graduation, I was gone fri from 3:30pm-11pm and sat I was gone from 12pm to 7/8pm for the open house celebration for my cousin. My cousin lives 90mins away just one way so it’s a good drive. My bf was already complaining about how weird it is for me to get ready so early (it’s not, I just know how long it usually takes me, and I knew if I got ready at an earlier time I wouldn’t feel rushed) and then would bring up me putting in my lovense for a quickie before I left both days when I wasn’t in that type of mood at all.

Then tonight, I’m in bed almost completely knocked and he’s telling me to put my toy in and I’m just like thinning to myself “is he kidding? We haven’t flirted this past hour to build up anything to get me going or such” and so I asked him if he was being serious or teasing/joking around like he’ll do sometimes, and he was like “I’m serious. What are you scared?” And I just laughed half asleep, cause I’m exhausted. Apparently he didn’t like my tone and was “never mind, after your tone the mood isn’t there anymore.” And I’m just half awake in puzzlement cause he knows how tired I’ve been, even today I’ve mentioned I’ve been tired earlier. I did sincerely apologize for being snappy to him in the moment. And he take naps everyday and I never wake him or tell him to get up

Idk why I’m even typing all this, I just felt like I needed to get it off my mind to someone cause I’m just slightly annoyed

I 29f an dating my 28m bf and normally things are really good. But last night I got upset at something that made me want to ask for reassurance, which I haven’t done much at all lately if at all. I asked before bed since it was when I felt he wasn’t super stressed etc. and he replied with “yeah we’re done talking for the night. Goodnight” and gave a chuckle. I usually love doing my hair and makeup and used to be in a good habit of doing so frequently but depression gets the best of me, so I don’t always feel like putting on makeup or curling my hair. Especially when I work from home and don’t have to. I’m trying to get back in the habit of doing so and he asked what I was doing , so I told him I was doing my makeup. And he’s always telling me “you gotta take care of yourself before others, self care is important” etc. so I don’t think he’d have an issue with it. His reply when I told him “you always do this bs, everytime you ask for reassurance and I don’t give it to you the next day you do makeup and stuff to feel pretty”

And now we’re in awkward silence. Like what did this even imply or what would even make him react like this that I’m not seeing? Thank you

I f29 have been distancing myself from my dads side of the family; I still show up for important events (open houses, weddings, etc) but half or most other times I’m invited I make up excuses as to why I’m not there. Why do you ask? My grandpa, my dad, and my uncle were all accused and served/serving time for being pdf files (using that term since I’m not sure if actual word is allowed). My parents got divorced when I was like 3 and growing up, my dad’s mom always treated my mom like a part of the family even after the divorce & after he took his life when I was 7 by inviting her to family gatherings and such. My mom always asks if I want to go with her to gatherings on said side of family and as previously mentioned, I decline. My mom acts all annoyed and says I’m not a “family person” when she knows why I don’t like being around that side, not only because of what my grandpa/dad/uncle did, but also because my grandma (dads mom) and my two aunts (dads sisters) defend my dad and uncle as if they’re innocent and did no wrong. Which I don’t believe in at all. And my mom will be like “well grandma believes what she believes….” Like am I tweaking? Cause it feels like no one views it as a big deal like I do or is willing to hold people accountable for stuff

I 29f have been with my bf 28m for three years. Our relationship is great and I know he loves me dearly as do I him. My issue is adult nsfw content - I always felt like if it’s a random page on the hub just to bust one out cause I’m not there, sick, etc it’s whatever…but I feel like it’s making me insane now. He watches that stuff on Twitter - I’m upset because why do I see him follow girls/accoumts posting that stuff before telling me “good morning”, at breaks at work, when we’re on call (which is almost all day since ldr & our jobs luckily allow us to), after I make him climax 2-4x in one sitting, while ranting and raving about me and my body, I’m always normally down to be intimate, he has over 30GB of stuff I made for him of me I sent him & that’s not including stuff he’s screenshot/recorded while on FaceTime, looked at that stuff 20 mins after opening xmas gifts, had fam over at his place on Christmas and was on call w me at the same time & broke away to look at, I’ve made a rolling tray and lighters with my pics on them and made a painting of my body that he has hung up in his room….like it hurts so much. He recently got YouTube premium so we can watch it at the same time instead of screen sharing cause he was over the ads (he watches YouTube all day usually so I get it), tell me why he accidentally started sharing his screen and my phone screen went from watching a video game streamer to a couple doing it on a couch…let alone premium will notify the other if a video is paused because you can’t watch YouTube and other videos at the same time without YouTube pausing, meaning anytime it pauses - I know what for

Like how so I even go about this, I’ve never been in a situation like this

I (29f) have been with my bf (28m) for three ish yrs now, I’m white & he’s Mexican (important for context). He’s so sweet and smart but he literally says the “n” word (not hard r but the slang version) and it doesn’t bother me cause he’s from the city and that’s him and his choice of wording. But lately it’s getting a lottttt, I literally timed him for 2mins and he said it seven times - let alone when he’s amped up or mad at something then it’s more. Like I said, he’s super smart but it just feels like…can we have a convo where it doesn’t feel like every other word??? 😩😩 who knows maybe I’m overreacting 🤪