The two examples I gave I know they are both popular bands, but for some reason I'm the only DJ in my area who plays that kind of music, and I have no clue why. It works in so many different settings and it's an inoffensive genre, one where if you put it on in a mixed crowd most people don't mind it. Anyone else play this vibe?
I have a gig in a couple days and I asked the organizer if we're going to play vinyl, digital or both. He said they'll have turntables but I'm welcome to play digital if I bring my gear.
I'd much prefer to play digital, but I hate being that guy who makes them turn off the music, unplug the turntables and plug in my decks, probably killing the vibe if it takes a moment too long.
I'm debating if it's worth doing, or if I should just avoid any inconvenience and play vinyl only. On one hand I want to uphold my reputation of being an easy DJ to work with, on the other hand I'm new to vinyl so my digital sets outshine my vinyl sets by a wide margin, in my opinion.
Any advice?
I don't get how a knob is better than a fader, and why it's preferred specifically for vinyl
Considering abandoning this friendship altogether but first I thought I'd ask here in case any of you have been through something similar and have advice.
Have you ever befriended a "straight" guy and then you hooked up and things became weird between you? Did the friendship continue or did it end?
A couple years ago I messaged a guy on Grindr looking to have his first experience with a guy. I was 36 at the time, he was 20. Somehow during the convo we discovered we have a hobby in common, DJing. I came over to his place that morning and we spent all day DJing at his place and eventually took a break and got down to hooking up.
Afterward I told him I had a really fun day and I would like to keep in touch. If not to hook up again, then just about DJing together. He hesitated to reply but eventually we talked and I invited him to come hang out with my DJ friends and we'd play music together.
He came and before he met my friends I said I didn't mind lying about how we met if he wasn't comfortable with anyone knowing. He said let's not talk about what we did anymore. I said OK, and we hung out and my friends and I got to know him.
Him and I started hanging out often and we've been good friends for a couple years now. We talk several days a week and see each other once or twice every couple weeks.
A few suggestive text messages were sent back and forth from time to time, but we didn't verbally talk about them.
Well, finally one day I was driving him home from a bar, he was pretty intoxicated, and he came onto me very aggressively. He's hot as fuck so I gave in rather easily and we went back to his place and had sex.
The next few days we sent a couple messages back and forth but didn't directly talk about what happened. Eventually he started replying slower and then just stopped replying. I sent a text saying I didn't want to lose him as a friend and I just want to know where we stand now, I wanted to know if we're still cool. He did reply and said he hadn't replied for unrelated reasons and that we would talk eventually. But then I went out of town, I'm back in town now and he's gone out of town, and I asked when he's coming back and he hasn't replied. It's been a couple days.
I keep on thinking about the guy. It's hard to stop. On one hand I value our friendship a shit ton and love what we have between us platonically. On the other hand, would I hook up with him again if he wanted to? The answer is FUCK YES, any time I'm horny I think of him now.
But I still haven't seen him, I still don't know where things stand between us, and it's been about three and a half weeks now, which is the longest I've gone without seeing him since we met. It's tearing me up inside not knowing what he's thinking. I thought of him as a friend before, but now that I can't get him off my mind it's starting to feel like it's more than that. Maybe I like him. Like like him. I don't know. I'm confused how I'm feeling.
What the fuck do I do? Part of me wants to bury all sexual and romantic feelings for him and just try to be platonic friends. I really like him though. Who knows if he'll reply to me when he gets back. This is hard.
Thank you for reading this far
Looking for love songs in particular
I have a gig in a few hours. I downloaded a bunch of new songs, made a playlist, picked out an outfit to wear, and I'm practicing mixing the new stuff a bit before showtime.
But everything I play is just not feeling right. I can't decide what my opening song should be. It's just me playing from 10pm-1am. Last time I played this bar people were antsy by 10:00 waiting for me to start and they could hardly wait to start dancing. I have to come out swinging with bangers.
I'm at home on my decks right now and everything I try to play just doesn't sound high energy enough. I'm upping the tempo on songs and faster is just not enough to elevate the feeling. I keep trying to mix stuff and I'm flopping almost every mix. Whatever I pick to play next, when I transition to it, it just feels like I picked the wrong track. And I know for a fact I have the right music for the night, it's not like I'm totally underprepared.
I need to snap out of this like right right now now. What do you guys do to snap into your best DJ self?
The only things I can think of doing right now is take a little extra ADHD medication and get drunk. Might make things worse but I don't know what the hell to do. I'm spiraling.
Anyone had a hard time getting to orgasm and found a way to fix it? It takes A LOT of effort for me. And I feel bad because of it.
Guys will suck and suck and suck and suck and I'll get close a few times but never get there. I've cum from a blowjob maybe once or twice ever. I'll warn guys ahead of time that I don't normally cum from blowjobs. But that doesn't stop them from trying. They always seem to think "Maybe not from other guys but I'm different. I'm very skilled, I can make it happen. I always make guys cum." Then after like 25 minutes they are frustrated and disappointed. And it's like... I told you beforehand. I told you I wasn't going to be able to finish. But they're pissed anyway.
I've never, not once, cum from fucking a guy. Doesn't matter how tight or loose he is, it does feel good on my dick, but I can't finish.
Pretty much the only way I can finish is stroking myself with lube and some dirty talk happening, either out loud or in my head. For most of my life I jerked off dry. Then one day I tried using lube. Ever since then I can only cum if there's lube, or enough saliva or precum to make it slick. Stroking it dry I can't get to completion anymore.
Sometimes I think it's performance anxiety. Like this guy wants me to cum, focus focus focus, cum for him, cum for him, and I strain so hard but can't get there. And maybe it's harder because the pressure is on, the guy is waiting for it, and I try to do it on command but my body just can't. I think maybe I have to be relaxed in order to finish?
But actually sometimes I have a hard time finishing when I'm alone, completely relaxed, and it'll take a hundred strokes or more to get me there. I do jerk off everyday, usually a couple times a day, just depends on how much free time I have. Do I need to abstain for a while? If I stop jerking off will it make it so when I do get touched it'll be more arousing? I've never been able to take more than one day off from jerking off. It would be extremely difficult for me to quit cold turkey.
Another factor is I'm circumsized, which I've heard makes me less sensitive. I don't think there's anything I can do about that.
Also, maybe this has something to do with it, but I have erectile dysfunction. It's a 50/50 chance whether I will be able to get hard without taking any Viagra. I normally take a quarter of a pill every time I go to jerk off. But I was under the impression that this was just a hardness issue, unrelated to stimulation.
Lastly, I almost always cum laying down and never standing or sitting.
Any advice?
I've heard people talk about mixing two songs for a duration of like two minutes. My understanding is that it's two songs playing on top of each other but EQ'd in a way that they aren't clashing.
Now I get it if you're looping one of the songs and keeping it just hovering in the background for a long time. But I've heard some say they'll do long blends with vinyl, where you can't loop.
My question to those people: what are these songs you're playing that are so minimal and have such formulaic, predictable song structures that you can layer them on top of each other for such a long duration of time without any sounds clashing and the phrasing matches up just right?
I play every weekend and get paid. I'm on Rekordbox, I play on CDJs. All my songs are extended mixes and often I'll let a track play for about 6 minutes before mixing into the next song.
Tonight I met up with a DJ acquaintance at a gig. He was using a Hercules controller with a laptop. He'd play a song for approximately two minutes before scratching another one in. He played with both channel faders up and crossfade. He'd fade to the middle so two songs are playing, both with the EQs nearly at 12 o'clock. Something I would never ever do. Flicks the crossfader over and cues up the next song. The waveforms are in a space on the screen so tiny, flying by so quick that it's impossible to catch a cue point before it passes.
Then he asks me to jump on and play a song. I'm taken aback. I'm like, "No man, I can't do this". And I really felt like a bitch. I felt like I didn't know how to DJ at all. He was playing so different to how I play.
If you're gonna call yourself a professional DJ, do you need to know how to scratch with Serato? If you can only play on CDJs, and can't play on other gear, does that mean you aren't very good at DJing?
I have heard a few DJs use this term to describe a certain type of song, but I don't exactly know what one sounds like. What are the most definitive chuggers of all time?
I always thought witnessing people dance to songs they don't know is very satisfying, but I had a fun moment on Saturday night. I played a song that I didn't expect many people to know, but then everyone sang the words. That put a big smile on my face.
Anyone had a moment like that?
I've been flaked on so many times that I've hit my limit. I have self-respect. I don't allow people to play silly games with me anymore. I don't deserve to have my time wasted. I'm at a point where it's zero tolerance for guys I'm talking to. Don't make plans with someone and then wait until the last second to back out.
I'll plan my day around our date to happen at the time HE suggests we meet. He pushes the meeting time back three hours. I sit around three hours waiting. He stalls again and doesn't say an estimated time when he'll be ready to meet. Then I don't hear from him for several hours, until I finally call off the night.
Guys have one chance for a first date now. You make plans and don't follow through - conversation over.
Have I ever flaked on someone? Surely I have, more than once. Did I expect them to forgive me and give me a second chance? No. I blew my one chance. So I call it my loss and move on.
Single gays - How many times do you allow a guy to flake on you before you cut the conversation off?
I'm a regular at a bar and there's this one bartender there who got hired not too long ago. Cute short twink, but he's straight (as far as anyone knows). Super friendly guy, naturally I've been extra nice to him, but I just considered him eye candy and kept things very "Sup bro?" at first. I'm not one to pine after straight guys hoping I'll get a chance with them someday. Waste of time.
Anyway, he and I have gotten to know each other a little bit and we'll text sometimes. Then one day I was DJing there and he brought me a shot and a beer, and was like "Here you go, Daddy 😉". That lit a fucking fire inside me, I was so turned on. Since then he has been kinda flirty, but just in a playful way. The other day he was dancing on me, like grinding into me and I had my hands on his hips, and then we laughed and that was it.
I know nothing will ever actually happen between us, and I'm completely fine with that. But it's incredibly fun to joke about it. However, a couple days ago I came up behind him and put my hand on his back and he flinched like it was unwelcome. Maybe I just caught him off-guard, I don't know. Afterwards, I felt embarrassed and was like "My bad, I won't touch you anymore, I don't want to sexually harrass you." He was like "What if I like it?"
Still, I'm kind of unsure about it. It's a bar, so obviously whenever I'm around him I'm buzzed/drunk, and I just don't want to be playing around and it gets out of hand and feel like I'm being creepy. I know I absolutely won't grope him or anything like that. But who knows what else could happen.
It's one thing for him, he's straight and making jokes, we all know he can't be attracted to me in that way. But it kind of feels like a different thing for me, because I'm gay and everyone knows I'm attracted to him.
The flirting is really fun and it turns me on so I want it to keep going. But I also don't want people to think I want to chase straight guys. I'm sure I'm overthinking it and should just enjoy a fun friendship with a straight guy, and the situation is probably less complicated than it seems.
Do any of you guys have straight friends who you flirt with each other jokingly? Is it safe to do?
In honor of Cinco de Mayo, does anyone know any Latin Disco?
Preferably Spanish language
My favs are Susana Estrada - Mi Chico Favorito and Righeira - Vamos a la Playa