u/northstardoll7

I’m 26F and recently moved to a new state by myself after getting out of a bad relationship. I’m back in my home state of California but I’m in SoCal which is completely unfamiliar to me. It is gorgeous here and the weather’s perfect. I’ve only been here for one week so of course I’m going to feel unsettled. I don’t know if I even really feel lonely, just empty. 3 guys have asked me out since I moved here and I turned them all down even though two of them were really cute. I just have absolutely no interest in dating again. Or in hanging out with my coworkers who are all fun and great to work with. I don’t feel lonely in that way. I guess I just miss familiarity. And my coworkers all have their families and communities here and were all shocked when I told them I moved here alone without knowing anyone. But my whole family is dead and it doesn’t really matter where I move to, I don’t really have a community or support system anywhere. I hate to whine. I never do but felt the need to vent. It’s like there’s something missing and when I’m not occupied with work or something else, it’s hard to not feel depressed. Like what am I even doing all this for.

Hey guys,

I’m a 26f licensed nurse (not RN) originally from Rocklin CA but currently living in Oregon. I’ve been desperately wanting to get back to California ASAP as I miss it so much. Don’t have any family left and I’ve always loved SoCal, though have never gone to San Diego. It looks and sounds absolutely beautiful though and I know I’ll love it.

I’m going to stay at a Airbnb the first month while I scope the area out and see where I want to settle. But is $43/hr enough, even if I rent a master bedroom in a house or get a studio? I’m scared I made the wrong decision because of how expensive everything is but I am so unhappy in OR and life is too short to live somewhere you don’t like, right? Also, I’ve always worked per diem for an agency alongside my regular job. So at the job I’ve accepted, it’s 40 hrs a week at 43/hr in El Cajon, but I also tend to pick up one or two shifts per week through a staffing agency for a safer cushion. Please let me know if this sounds doable. I get emotional every time I visit Cali because it is and has always been home to me and the weather, palm trees, people and beauty make me so happy

We’re both 26F. I am currently renting a room in her mom’s house since I just got out of a bad relationship and this will only be a temporary living situation. This is the only reason this friend is in my life again. We haven’t really spoken much since we were teens.

She lives at her boyfriend’s apartment very close by. He pays for everything, though they are both always broke. She has not had a job in 3 years despite being perfectly capable. She has been “trying to find a job” but just cancelled yet another interview because she didn’t feel like going. Her mom and I pay for her food all the time when she’s over at the house which is multiple days a week. We both give her rides constantly too since she cannot drive. Fortunately I work long hours as a nurse so I’m away from home a lot.

Today she vented to me about how her grandma got mad at her for canceling another job interview and she was saying that her family shouldn’t be upset at her about that. She then said, “Like if I wanted to have a kid, my whole family would be mad at me. No one should be able to give you sh*t about that if you wanted kids and it should be the same for me.” And I said “No..because I’m self sufficient, everything I have is because of me, and you are heavily dependent on your mom and boyfriend, and now me. It’s understandable that your family is upset at you for cancelling yet another interview. It’s disappointing for everyone and we’re tired of paying for all your meals and your boyfriend can hardly afford rent on his own. I would never financially burden anyone so our situations are completely different.”

Then she left the room and cried on the phone with her boyfriend. I don’t feel bad because it genuinely is baffling to me how someone could be so comfortable living their life leeching off of others. Maybe IATA though and could have been more sensitive in my phrasing.

Hi all,

Please, before calling me crazy, hear me out.

I’m a 26F nurse living and working in Oregon. I am from California and desperately want to move back ASAP as I miss it so much. I have only $5k saved up. I’ve been applying to jobs all over Cali but they seem to lose interest as soon as they hear I’m not yet living there despite telling them I can definitely be moved down there within 3 weeks.

My plan is to get a job hopefully somewhere in SoCal, then stay at a furnished finder (like Airbnb for nurses) for a few months while I save for an apartment. By that point, my brother will be able to move in with me too and we’d split a two bedroom together. I am only a LVN and not RN so I’m not making nearly as much and it’s harder to find jobs that help with relocation. More supply than demand it seems, and of course they’re going to pick the LVN that’s already living in the area.

So I work through an agency and I’m planning to pick up some shifts with them in SoCal in a few weeks, so I can make money while I’m there interviewing at places. I have so far 4 pending shifts in Santa Barbara in June. I’m either going to overnight in my car/shower at gym or get a cheap motel during this time. Hopefully I’ll be able to get a job offer during this trip.

Is this crazy? I’m so tired of Oregon, I’m not happy here and it feels like my life is on hold until I move out of here. I would love some input, I’ve no one to talk to besides maybe my brother but he’s really busy. Thanks for reading

Tl;dr: 26F LVN in Oregon trying to move back to Cali ASAP because I’m unhappy here, but jobs lose interest when they hear I’m not local yet. Planning to work agency shifts there and live in hotel or even car while interviewing in person — is this unrealistic?

Hi internet parents!

Parents are dead and need some advice. I’m 26F and a licensed nurse working and living in Oregon. California is my home state and I miss it terribly. I’ve been applying to jobs mainly in SoCal, and today I heard back from a facility in San Diego that wants me to visit them in person for an interview.

I told them I could potentially move down there by the 26th this month and they told me to text them when I’m in town so I can “check the place out”. My plan is to just stay at a Furnished Finder (like Airbnb for nurses) or at a motel until I find an apartment and actually have a job lined up. I only have $5k in savings but I might be able to pick up shifts per diem through my agency while I’m there if needed.

Is this a bad/stupid idea? Should I wait until I have more saved and until I have a job lined up for certain?

All input is appreciated thank you!