Obsession is just the mainstream woman experience
Obsession is just the mainstream woman experience
Obsession just show a guy, wanting a woman, and using manipulating way to make her feel like crazy in love
And further than that, Obsession show a guy making a woman crazy and then putting himself of as a victim
Obsession is just the experience of domestic violence, where the woman reacting to gaslighting, rape, and manipulative triggers, lose all her credibility and social life because she is too emotional, because she seem like overdoing it
Basically Nikki is what we would call today an hysteric or borderline
Nikki is the woman that we would take the childrens from, that we would put at the psych ward because she did a crisis out of nowhere, because she has a mental issue, nikki is the woman that we would kill out of "selfdefense"
But Obsession is also a failure, because it put Nikki desilusion before Bear violence
Bear forced a woman to like him, Bear didn’t stop even after seeing his woman being fucking depressed and psychotic, Bear made her lose her sens of reality, of belonging, Bear didn’t listen when she actually expressed that she was no willfully with him, Bear put himself into the victim status even tho he was fully responsable of the situation
There is no grey, there is a man that ruin a woman life
that’s all
The thing is this movie don’t show the reality way more scary than this little wish trope
The reality is that for decades we have been lobotomizing women through the wanting of the husband
The reality is that all the crazy women that was locked in asile because they were dangerous and weirdo were incest and/or conjugal sexual violence victims
The reality is that each time a man kill his gf he uses the crazy theory, that the woman beat him first, that she was confused, filled with anger and violence, even tho he let her agonize to death, or even made her body disappear
The reality is that each time a woman try to defend her kids out of a rapist dad, she lose her kids, because she is a devil woman that put lies in the head of her kids to hurt the husband
The reality is that a feminicide happen most of the time when a woman say no, when a woman say i don’t want to be with you anymore
The reality is that no matter how many women they’ve ruined the life of, men perpetually continue to find new women to break, with this same speech of the crazy ex
The reality is that we still think women lies, that in police investigation department (when a complaint is actually being take care of) we just seek to know if the woman is a liar, even tho doing so just bring absolutely no benefice at all
Bear is just the result of a society that still want to believe that a man, in a case of domestic violence and kill may also be a victim
Because he did it out of love, because he was tortured, because he regreted after it, because he had no choice
So we make a movie about a looser, that look pitiful, that we would take empathy from
Even tho he build the situation himself