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I live with IBS-C (with occasional Diarrhea) and I have a set breakfast of oatmeal with apple and toast and sometimes yogurt with water to drink and it works consistently well every morning. However it’s the lunch and dinner where I am lost and often repeater to eating fast food for convenience

Are there any recipes that yall like to make ?

Hello, this may or may not be a clear enough question and probably a long-ish post so please bear with me🙏

For about as long as I (28M) can remember, I’ve always had to urinate more often than my peers going back to middle school. At first it was just a minuscule thing to remember to go after every class period or so; or remembering to pee before I go to bed. This was when I was like 14 all throughout high school. It gradually became more and more annoying where I would have to go every hour or two. By the time I got to college in 2016-2017 I had a cystoscopy to get a better look at my bladder to see it wasn’t infected or anything like that and the bladder looked perfectly “normal”.

I just learned to live with it for the next couple of years and developed other habits too like developing epilepsy with two seizures behind me, being an artist, daily smoking weed, development of IBS, and dealing with some combination of anxiety, autism, potentially ADHD ,and depression,

2022 is when things got worse for me.
It started off when I was struggling to make music and losing direction where I wanted to go in life and I would stop my focus during sessions just to pee. More and more often. However, as time went by it took longer and longer for me to be able to get a “stream” going and whenever I did I never felt like I voided fully.
And this unholy situation never 100% subsided to be honest.

The worst my condition was was in 2024 where my bladder would be full but it still would not budge or open or anything like that. I REALLY had to strain like hell to get a good flow going, and even then it was weak. And it was hell having to deal with a full bladder and never being able to empty it or even really get a good stream. 2024 was also a horrible year personally even outside of this bladder BS. I went to see a urologist and had another cystoscopy camera directly into my bladder since it had been years since the first so surely something HAD to be wrong this time right? Surely I wasn’t crazy…
For better or for worse, he found nothing abnormal for the bladder itself. However, he found something in that he claims that the reason I had to deal with this inability to urinate is because the sphincter for my bladder is clenched so tight all the time as a result of … psychological stuff ig. Nothing wrong came up I. Physicals and nothing wrong with my kidney . He said that trauma can manifest physically and I guess for me, I feel anxiety through the floor of my bladder ? He also claimed that people on the spectrum deal with body sensitivities more often which contributes to my condition. He seems very confident that it is a sphincter issue more than anything and that whenever I successfully pee it relaxes all the muscles around the pelvic floor. And it does feel like heaven whenever I empty my bladder. He gave me a medicine called DOXAZOSIN 8 MG and it did improve my condition

TL;DR Fast forward to today however, I still deal with this miserable daily burden. Every 30-60 min I get a sensation that ranges from the dread of bladder awareness - to the anger that I have yet another urgent need to go. It starts with a tension in my lower back or just pelvic floor

I still take awhile and strain, and have to make these godawful sounds that everyone complains about , and ending the voiding session is always the worst part(if not standing in front of the toilet like an idiot ) as I feel that the sphincter/bladder just reach its limit. It either closes or idk what.

Thankfully I’m not in hell like I used to be. I’m able to urinate, and 75% of the time I don’t need to void again soon afterwards. The medicine doesn’t fix the problem moreso just prevents it from getting worse .
Every
30min - hour it’s the same dread and despair that I have to deal with this situation where it feels like my bladder limits me and often ruins my day. It always ends in me sighing in defeat and going to the restroom.

I’m not sure what to do. I DEFINITELY struggle with anger and am not in all that good of a place because of this, and other aspects of my personal life. I believe in the mind body connection and stress definitely makes it worse, but I’m still very lost and at this point kinda numb to it if I’m not completely stressed out. Idk if it’s really OAB, or nerve damage, or sphincter problems much less how to treat it besides trying not to stress out and look for a job or something to get my life back on track one step at a time. Because I’m tired of having the urge to pee every 30 minutes and I want to train my bladder to “hold it in longer “ or ignore the “phantom urges” but the sensation nor anxiety doesn’t go away until I pee. I want to achieve some kind of normal for my body. Also is water good for me ? lol

It’s gotten to the point where there are more bots than people and thats annoying. I’m only active on Reddit so much 😅

Anyone who is willing to join as mod or come up with some kind of filter to make sure only humans post will be more than welcome . As far as I know we need help with cleaning up the place from bots and repeat posting

If this is something you know how to do leave a comment or DM. Thank you and stay wholesome