I know my BF is sexting on Grindr, but he doesn't know that I know.
I've had two friends show me his profile and photos he has sent unknowingly to my friends blank profiles! My friends were horrified and told me with the expectation that I'd end the relationship immediately. I was upset, I felt sick when I found out. However, it was also clear that he wasn't actually meeting these guys. He seemed to be using Grindr just like watching porn when having a wank. A few dirty messages and photos back and forth and that's it.
Am I mad for accepting this? We are NOT in an open relationship, and if he met /slept with someone else then I'd end it. He does have a higher sex drive than me and I know I don't satisfy him in that context, so I do feel like it's 'unfair' that I deny him sex and then monitor what he does when he had a wank.