u/prettyinaqua

Mods pls don’t take my post down! I am not asking for relationship advice!

Im a 20 year old girl in college. Im very focused on my classes and career and can’t imagine myself getting married young, it was never something attractive to me personally. I want to achieve everything I want first and then consider that. I remember this Muslim guy I met virtually a few years ago… he’s a year older, I applied to his university as a high schooler and randomly read an article he wrote for that school’s news paper that was VERY well written.

Not romantically but out of curiosity and seeing we had a similar educational background, I reached out to him on LinkedIn asking him for advice on the application and abt the Muslim community there. He was so kind and even sent a follow up message to see if I had gotten in. I chose a different school about an hour away and forgot about him.

Now I’m in another city working for the summer and am in a program for Muslims that he did, also met some Muslims from his school. we’re still connected on LinkedIn and I like his posts but that’s it lol. I don’t know what to say I’m pretty shy, but he’s really attractive, extremely educated on political and social issues and is very highly educated and accomplished.

I hope he’s not already talking to someone! But what advice do you have for me ladies, how can I re-introduce myself to him? Thinking of maybe reaching out separate from this to learn abt an internship he had but. If it’s worth noting I’ve been approached by other Muslim guys and I’ve never liked their demeanor or presence or liked them romantically…they give me the biggest ick and I have never been romantically involved with someone or talked to a guy for marriage.

I’ve thought about him on and off for years bc he’s popped up on my LinkedIn and I definitely have a crush on him and have for years without making this sound creepy. I never like guys like this also. I reached out as a senior in hs when he was a freshman and we’re now a junior and senior in college so 20 and 21.

Mods pls don’t take my post down! I am not asking for relationship advice!

Im a 20 year old girl in college. Im very focused on my classes and career and can’t imagine myself getting married young, it was never something attractive to me personally. I want to achieve everything I want first and then consider that. But then I remember this Muslim guy I met virtually a few years ago… he’s a year older, I applied to his university as a high schooler and randomly read an article he wrote for that school’s news paper that was VERY well written.

Not romantically but out of curiosity and seeing we had a similar educational background, I reached out to him on LinkedIn asking him for advice on the application and abt the Muslim community there. He was so kind and even sent a follow up message to see if I had gotten in. I chose a different school about an hour away and forgot about him.

Now I’m in another city working for the summer and am in a program for Muslims that he did, also met some Muslims from his school. we’re still connected on LinkedIn and I like his posts but that’s it lol. I don’t know what to say I’m pretty shy, but he’s really attractive, extremely educated on political and social issues and is very highly educated and accomplished.

I hope he’s not already talking to someone! But what advice do you have for me ladies, how can I re-introduce myself to him? Thinking of maybe reaching out separate from this to learn abt an internship he had but. If it’s worth noting I’ve been approached by other Muslim guys and I’ve never liked their demeanor or presence or liked them romantically…they give me the biggest ick and I have never been romantically involved with someone or talked to a guy for marriage.

I’ve thought about him on and off for years bc he’s popped up on my LinkedIn and I definitely have a crush on him and have for years without making this sound creepy. I never like guys like this also. I reached out as a senior in hs when he was a freshman and we’re now a junior and senior in college so 20 and 21.

My internship’s only 6 weeks and I wanted to know how I can find a second opportunity that allows me to work in-person until the end of July and then for all of August like work in either my home state or remotely. What’s my best bet at finding an internship? I want to work on a committee ideally because maybe that work can be more online. Where should I look? How do I bring the fact that my internship is ending up to people without coffee chatting feeling transactional?

I am a college student in the US, I’ve worn hijab for 11 years. I have been excluded by people
I thought were my friends/coworkers, verbally harassed, and treated horribly due to being Muslim. I have also dealt with racism. No one around me understands how much it is weighing on my mental health. I already hate the way I look with it on, i look way younger than I am. I already struggle so much. But people have treated me so horribly and have called me the worst things due to being Muslim and wearing it,
because of wearing hijab and thus I am easily identifiable as a Muslim. I am never rude to people, I respect all people regardless of their religion and I don’t get why people don’t respect me. I frequently think that if I just took hijab off I’d look like everyone else and be included, have a lot more friends, and not be subject to absolutely disgusting behavior and harassment by others. It’s weighing on my mental health significantly, I was severely depressed for a year and could barely do anything other than sleep. I already feel very very ugly in hijab but I keep it on because I don’t want to go against God’s commandment. I wish I could take it
Off but it won’t solve this issue.
I just can’t bear being treated like this anymore and fam is saying to stop being affected by this and grow thicker skin but regardless of that I am affected. Please advise me sisters. I have no Muslim friends at my college because the ones I’ve met have been really mean and horrible to me.

Hi, how competitive is this to get? What percentage of applicants move from this interview to the onsite? What’s the onsite like? Is the live interview easier than the OA? I took the OA and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the order book document was simple in terms of the concepts presented but the OA was a completely different beast. What is the first interview like? How much prep does it require? What are the odds of landing an offer from this interview? Is right now (late June) early in their process?

Hi, how competitive is this to get? What percentage of applicants move from this interview to the onsite? What’s the onsite like? Is the live interview easier than the OA? I took the OA and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the order book document was simple in terms of the concepts presented but the OA was a completely different beast. What is the first interview like? How much prep does it require? What are the odds of landing an offer from this interview? Is right now (late June) early in their process?

Hi, how competitive is this to get? What percentage of applicants move from this interview to the onsite? What’s the onsite like? Is the live interview easier than the OA? I took the OA and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and the order book document was simple in terms of the concepts presented but the OA was a completely different beast. What is the first interview like? How much prep does it require? What are the odds of landing an offer from this interview? Is right now (late June) early in their process?

Last week we all had issues with the case, but I’m trying to do the case rn and am having issues 😭😭😭 what do I do omg. I’m emailing them but I am scared that if they give me an extension they will reject my application due to the process moving fast.

I am very grateful to be working in the senate right now for a senior senator and my work isn’t that fulfilling… there’s a lot of us and we’re not given enough work. My legislative pairing (a senior staffer) is just not giving us enough work. I have three weeks of my internship left currently, trying to extend it by 2 more weeks. How do I go about asking for more work? I ask for work constantly and just am not given enough. An intern on my team got two leg pairings and we all got 1 and we all have barely any work lol but they complain about being swamped. Phones for our office aren’t that busy most days, like yes busy but not busy enough for all interns to have enough work lol.

I also want to leave a good impression and be seen as very hardworking. How do I do this when I don’t have enough work and am on a team with many interns.

Also, my senate email inbox is dry as hell, we don’t get any event emails, one staffer was kind enough to forward them to us but I want to go to mixers and receptions and briefings and fun networking events and I have no idea where to look. Also, how can I get invited to briefings? I don’t know where to look, typically a staffer like your leg pairing informs you of a briefing they’d like you to attend.

Yea!! Other inters, pls share your experiences?

Hi, I got invited to the Ai case right after the CCA. I have never cased before or studied for these interviews. However, I study economics so I know some formulas. I have two full days to study for this assessment before I take it on Monday. Please give me any advice! I really want to advance.

I have had some of mine for either a few months or 1 year and they get fuzzy so quickly. Their seams also come apart quickly…. specifically my veiled ones.. my vela ones have ripped at the seams though. help girls! I hate my hijab looking like this it looks so unpresentable.

I’m in college and I’ve worn hijab for over a decade. It impacts how I look, it makes my face look more cutesy because I have larger cheeks and my vibe feels so differently. I’m assumed to be very very religious and people don’t want to hang out with me because they think I’m not down to.

I feel very ugly in it a lot. I have changed my style and tried different colors and fabrics but nothing is helping. I just wish I could be perceived and viewed as a person rather than be subject to assumptions tht people may hold before they get to know me. Before you say you don’t want to be friends with people who only want to be friends with you when you don’t wear hijab, I agree with this. I don’t want to be friends either them. I just want to be seen as a person. I’ve also been verbally assaulted and have had horrible things said to me and done to me because of me wearing it.

I don’t want to be held to an impossible religious standard and be policed all the time. I want to dress modestly still but my hair is something I love. It makes me look way better and way more differently whenever I wear hijab I feel un confident and sad.

I don’t want to be the person contributing to the posts of ppl saying they want to take it off. I want to share my experience with it on. I am not seen as a person. I know it’s obligatory but I wish I show my hair and dress modestly still.

There’s a beautiful Muslim girl I work with who is the sweetest and she’s so nice. Immediately seeing her and being. Around her I felt jealous because she dresses modestly to work but doesn’t wear hijab. She looks great all the time. She talks about our religion to our non Muslim coworkers and has so much knowledge. She is seen by others as a person with interests. I meanwhile am dealing with my hijab creasing and tbh do not dress modestly enough. I don’t want to be but I struggle so much with this. Yet I am scared to take it off even if I choose when I wear it because it is foreign to me and not something I’ve ever done.

Hi, I am a Muslim girl, I live in a dorm and this guy lives close to me. He is definitely interested in me. I am not interested in him. He oversees the program I am in. He’s never gotten that vibe from me. I never look at him or otherwise show him I am interested. He keeps trying to find excuses to talk to me, we’re in the same program so I am around him a lot and he keeps looking at me. Also he accidentally saw me without hijab and I’m just so mortified ofc and uncomfortable. He’ll do more than what is needed of him yk if something is needed from me, etc. it’s a program to clarify. I’m so uncomfortable and can’t avoid this guy as long as I’m in the program. Pls girls tips? I want nothing to do with men rn. I will always be in groups where I have to interact with him a lot of the day most days. That’s what makes this hard.

I’m a hijabi, got my hair done today. Went to salon, a woman washed my hair and asked me if I was Muslim. I said I was. She said I was a good Muslim for wearing it and she was a horrible Muslim for not wearing it. I had my head down a bowl lol and the ish I said more but all I could say was InshaAllah you’ll wear it.

I have been hijabi for over 11 years. I’ve worn it for so long. I have never once looked at a non hijabi and said they’re a horrible Muslim for not wearing it. Are you not doing what’s required of you? Sure. But are you a horrible or bad Muslim for not wearing it? No of course not. You’re still my sister in Islam. Hijab is hard. I will never ever judge another sister for not wearing it. We live in hard times. I wish I told her this. Wearing hijab only makes you a better Muslim, not a good Muslim. To think I was struggling with hijab so much until I had this interaction and came across more hijabis in my life. It is such a amall thing but seeing a hijabi,‘making eye contact with her and smiling at her and saying Salam makes me so happy.
I feel like I meet Muslims more easily too bc of it. But yes my point stands queens. ❤️❤️

Help!! Just got to DC, intern on hill and do not have much time to go out and get a decent pair of flats so all I have that fit the professional dress code are heels. I walked in them today and even tho I only worked 6 hours my feet are have scrapes in a few places. I’m in complete and utter pain. How can I prevent my feet from getting torn up? Any things I can try to get rid of the pain/ prevent this from happening?

Eid Mubarak!

Is this statement rooted in Islam? My parents keep telling me this (even tho i go to college on the other side of the country) because they want me to return to my home state every summer. I told them I don't want to work in my home state post-graduation and they said that doing that is un-islamic and because I'm a woman I need to be protected. Protected from what??? I already go to school in a "very dangerous" city and am perfectly fine. I am filled with rage as I type this; when I was younger I used to believe this but as i've grown up I do not believe this at all. I have learned so much living away from home and really like it. But every time we talk about this I am made to feel like I am a horrible muslim and doing something wrong.

hi, I should start by saying I’m grateful to have received a senate intern offer for this summer in dc. My internship lasts a little over a month (around 6 weeks) and I am struggling to figure out if it’s worth it to be in dc for such a short period of time.

I may get another offer working in my state’s government and it would be a whole summer job, but I’d be doing very boring work and I’m in my home state rn and feel very bored and trapped.

Luckily for the senate job I have housing and food covered through an outside fellowship but if I end my internship midway through July I may have to return to my home state with no job and nothing to do…

I have a research position confirmed that’s virtual however i haven’t received additional details regarding when I’ll start and everything so It’s not set in stone.

If I got the research position then staying in dc a little longer makes sense for me but as of now it’s my something to count on. The state job is very boring and not that relevant to my goals.

However, is it possible for me to network extensively with DC orgs and offices and try and get some kind of opportunity for the rest of the summer when I’m there? If you were in my place, what would you choose?

I’ve thought about this for a long time. I feel like many are exploitative because they’re charging insane prices for basic tops that look just like their competitors and are 100 percent polyester. They price their clothing at 100’s of dollars knowing that man Muslim girls need modest clothing due to a gap in the market. It’s infuriating! And they all look the same! Their styles are boring and they want us to dress overly formal all the time. I have to be honest many of us have similar styles and it’s boring. Personally for the summer I am not even trying to buy clothing from them because I can’t afford them. I’m layering pieces and will look like a clown this summer and overheat.

Hi, I am a female who will be interning on the hill in the senate. I’m getting overwhelmed regarding the wardrobe requirements.

In session I know it’s expected to wear a blazer but could I wear a cardigan and structured work pants? daily what would I need to wear? Out of session especially. How much is normal to spend on a wardrobe? My existing clothes aren’t super suitable for the hill so I feel like I’ll have to buy a lot.

Do I need a shoulder bag for commuting and bringing lunch? If so, recommendations? I know it will be hot in DC and with the strict dress code I’m worried I’ll overheat. Thank you!