u/roommateissues2022

Hi all! I wanted to start off with the fact that I am not pregnant, nor will I be in the near future (I mean... we aren't planning to be lol). My fiancé and I are getting married in the fall, and we were talking timeline on when we wanted kids. In a surreal conversation, we both kind of agreed we will be ready around this time next year. Wild. Naturally, the conversation turned to baby names. We have been going over them since early on our relationship as kiddos were important to us, and I think we were both excited.

To start, my fiancé's last name is the one of most (I actually think THE most) common last name in our area. It is short, five letters, and very classic in a sense. I have decided to take his last name as well, and this lead to me narrowing down our baby names list even more.

I know I am not the first or the last person to say they want their babies name to be unique. Of course we all do, but I have some concerns over the last name issue. I have seen my fiancé have his paycheck swapped with another person, I have seen family struggle to get health insurance because someone with the same name applied recently and has health concerns, and I have seen how my fiancé's mom did a really good job with unique names for her kids (and even then had trouble). So I just want it to be unique enough as to not cause any issues in life without making their lives miserable. I understand that is a very fine line.

The only boys name we are head over heels in love with is Bellamy. I love the gender neutralness of it, the softness, the history and just the overall flow. We plan to have the middle name is Robert, and even though it doesn't completely make sense, we thought the nickname Remy could be nice for him when he is little. Overall, we both just love it. I totally get it isn't everyone's cup of tea, but it is ours.

The problem is this is the only boys name we both love. We think we want at least three, so I was hoping to have three of each gender ahead of time, mostly for fun. So, any ideas of names we should consider?

A few notes: we like long names since the last name is short. We want it to be out of the top 500 ideally. Because our name does feel like a pretty classic WASP last name and I have a hispanic background, we are open to some romance language names as that paired with our last name will be unique in its own way. I also am a sucker for literature and history, so bonus points if it has a strong connotation. Below are a few we like, but don't love:

Top:

• Lucien
• Elian
• Illias
• Emrys
• Lysander
• Caspian
• Auden

Secondary:

• Dorian
• Soren
• Sylvan
• Evren
• Caelum
• Arius
• Osian
• Leontes
• Indigo
• Fintan

Hi all! I posted here the other day looking for a few quick ideas on a nickname I liked, and I was flooded with a ton of awesome name suggestions and great ideas. Even though I loved a lot of them, I still feel like we are not set on anything but our number one baby boy name choice.

I wanted to start off with the fact that I am not pregnant, nor will I be in the near future (I mean... we aren't planning to be lol). My fiancé and I are getting married in the fall, and we were talking timeline on when we wanted kids. In a surreal conversation, we both kind of agreed we will be ready around this time next year. Wild. Naturally, the conversation turned to baby names. We have been going over them since early on our relationship as kiddos were important to us, and I think we were both excited.

To start, my fiancé's last name is the one of most (I actually think THE most) common last name in our area. It is short, five letters, and very classic in a sense. I have decided to take his last name as well, and this lead to me narrowing down our baby names list even more.

I know I am not the first or the last person to say they want their babies name to be unique. Of course we all do, but I have some concerns over the last name issue. I have seen my fiancé have his paycheck swapped with another person, I have seen family struggle to get health insurance because someone with the same name applied recently and has health concerns, and I have seen how my fiancé's mom did a really good job with unique names for her kids (and even then had trouble). So I just want it to be unique enough as to not cause any issues in life without making their lives miserable. I understand that is a very fine line.

The only boys name we are head over heels in love with is Bellamy. I love the gender neutralness of it, the softness, the history and just the overall flow. We plan to have the middle name is Robert, and even though it doesn't completely make sense, we thought the nickname Remy could be nice for him when he is little. Overall, we both just love it. I totally get it isn't everyone's cup of tea, but it is ours.

The problem is this is the only boys name we both love. We think we want at least three, so I was hoping to have three of each gender ahead of time, mostly for fun. So, any ideas of names we should consider?

A few notes: we like long names since the last name is short. We want it to be out of the top 500 ideally. Because our name does feel like a pretty classic WASP last name and I have a hispanic background, we are open to some romance language names as that paired with our last name will be unique in its own way. I also am a sucker for literature and history, so bonus points if it has a strong connotation. Below are a few we like, but don't love:

Top:

• Lucien
• Elian
• Illias
• Emrys
• Lysander
• Caspian
• Auden

Secondary:

• Dorian
• Soren
• Sylvan
• Evren
• Caelum
• Arius
• Osian
• Leontes
• Indigo
• Fintan

Hi all! My fiancé and I are getting married this year and started talking kids names (well didn't just start lol, but got serious about it).

We have always had our top one and two girls names, but only one boys name that really stuck out to us. That name is a bit controversial, but is is Bellamy. I fell in love with the name as a kid (I blame Bellamy Blake in the 100), and when I showed my now-fiancé a list of my baby names, that one jumped out at him.

We like the gender neutralness of it and the softness. It isn't an overly masculine name at all, but we do plan on giving a more masculine middle name in case they prefer to go by that as they age.

Unfortunately, our boys name has slowly been whittle down to only Bellamy and none of the others. Once I marry my fiancé, I will be taking his name which happens to be one of the most (if not THE most) common last names in the USA. It isn't crazy long, and is incredibly common. I know I am not the first nor the last person to be looking for a unique name, but I really don't want my future kids to have issues like I have seen my fiancé and his family have with having a super common last name. Health insurance issues, checks going to the wrong person, paychecks swapped, just overall a headache. They don't need to be a one of a kind, but I would like if there aren't like twenty others in our city if that makes sense.

Which brings my to my favorite nickname ever: Finn. I think it feels similar to Bellamy in softness, but the name Finn alone is a little short, and I would prefer a longer name to pair with the short last name. This is my short list, all of which I don't love for one reason or another:

• Finley - too common
• Finnian - too irish
• Gryphon - too harsh
• Finneas - just confusing... I know its a spelling that is used occassioanlly, but I still hear Phineas and Ferb
• Finlo - I don't know... I kinda do like it? But can't tell

That is really it. I don't know many Finns admittedly, but I am just curious about other full names I haven't been thinking of. Thanks for any advice!

Edit: I do love Finn as a standalone name, but with our last name, I prefer a two or three syllable name. Just a personal preference in what I feel flows best overall.

Edit 2: sorry, just want to draw attention to the fact that I am aware it is a name all on its own. It just isn’t my preference. Thank you for all the helpful ideas and comments! I think we have some fun ideas to consider for sure.

Hi all! I did all my invites either calling out the name of the couple or saying "The BLANK Family" if there were still kids at home. For some, like my cousin who just moved back home from out of state but who is a lot older than me, I still gave him his own invite. But my younger cousin who has lived there since high school and is college age didn't get her own.

I am not sure if that was proper etiquette or not, but it made sense to me and mostly worked. A lot of the kids were like under 10, so addressing a family of 6 didn't make sense even if the older kids were in college. Anyway, I am now at the RSVP point, and hit a bit of a road bump.

I am working with my wedding planner, and she said she really needs all the names of the family members so she can set up the RSVP link appropriately. So I sent them not even thinking about it, just thinking she had to have a line item for each name, and then she asked if all the kids needed high chairs and kids meals, or what the range was?

I realized my mistake pretty quickly. About half of them are families with actual kids, and the other half are families with age ranges from kids to young adults really. So now I am editing the email to send to her, and I feel a little stuck.

I said to my fiancé that I think we should still offer anyone on the list the option of a kids meal. I am a picky eater, and I know a few of my younger family members are too, and since I already had to say if they wanted an adult or kids meal, it seemed like a harmless option. He agreed, but then mentioned a few of his family members (one in particular) who would probably prefer that too.

Those family members are our age or older, and for some reason I paused. I don't know why, what does being 21 mean vs being 27 have to do with a love of chicken tenders, but it got me thinking. What is the right move here?

Do I offer the young adults the option of a kids meal? If not, what is the cut off age? And if I give the young adults an option, do I run it past the other family members who might want to change? I mean from a finance perspective a kids meal is cheaper, so that isn't really a factor on the negative side? It just feels very gray, and I am curious to hear what other brides have done in this case. Happy to answer any clarifying questions because I am a bit scatterbrained today and might have left something off.

Hi all! I did not order a veil along with my dress and realized I probably need to work on that asap as I have my first appointment with the tailor for my dress this weekend.

I heard Etsy has some options, but I have no idea if that is what I want. I honestly want something pretty simple, good make, and I don't really have any price expectations as I haven't looked into it at all. The good quality is important to me.

Any suggestions or shops that people have experienced doing a good job?

Hi all! My fiancé and I are getting married this fall in a destination wedding. Very early on in the process, we hired a wedding planner. We took a lot of time, reached out to family who lived locally and compared their list against the hotel's, then read reviews and did some interviews. On top of the research, she has been an absolute delight to work with. All of this to say is that I do trust her to steer me right, but I am noticing a lot of lulls in planning as we get closer and I suppose I am just feeling anxious.

As of today, we are 150 days out which is a surreal feeling. The venue we picked takes care of the food and the alcohol, so we have had that covered for a while. We have most of the major vendors signed including DJ, Live Music, Hair and Makeup Artist, Photographer, Videographer, Florist. Our officiant is a friend, so that is all good.

What we don't have: Dessert, Stationary, DETAILS!

I have no idea what is actually happening the day of. I have talked about some tentative timeline stuff with the photographer, but that is it. Admittedly, my wedding planner seems to have no concerns, but I feel like there are a lot of details to iron out! Unless I am overthinking it?

I just feel like 1. we need a cake, design and flavor 2. Playlists for both musical groups 3. I wanted entertainment idk when we do that (I have brought it up) 4. decorators and decorations is very blank.

I feel like I don't have a cohesive idea of the day, what to expect, or how it will all come together. The only vendor I feel like we have some detail with is the florist, but nothing else. Is this a normal feeling at this stage? At what point should I feel like "yeah, I got this!" or do I just need to accept I will feel underprepared until the day it happens lol.

I just want to make sure I am not being too laid back about this, and that it WILL all come together. Thanks for any reassurances!

Hi all! I posted on here about a week ago kind of freaking out about some changes to the wedding party that negatively effected the joint bach party my fiancé and I were planning. Long story short, we sent out a message for a joint bach party hosted at my family house at a vacation destination. Since it was a joint party, we decided to include significant others, which at the time were only two, and everyone fit perfectly into the house.

Then we had two relationships begin after the text. And these relationships got serious pretty fast (like moved in already, one is engaged lol), which really threw off the numbers as there had been a space for single girls and single guys, and now I had two new couples who needed a room to themselves.

This week, after spending time agonizing over how to make this work since flights are booked for many people and we couldn't just cancel, I had THREE people text me (two of them being the original couples we has counted on) to say they couldn't make it. They were all so apologetic, and please know I love my friends, I would have loved to have them there of course, in theory, but in actuality their canceling made this whole thing possible.

Not only that, but my MOH is coming and I hardly get to see her anymore. I feel like this smaller group will give me a chance to catch up a little more with her, more than I would have been otherwise.

BUT then I realized a lot of my wedding party will not have met before the wedding day. I have two high school friends, one friend from sports, two college friends, and one work friend. So lots of different walks of life, and only a few of them have overlapped due to everyone living in different states. Is there anything I can do the day of the wedding to make everyone more comfortable? We are having a destination wedding, and everyone is arriving on Thursday, but we get married on Friday, so a quick turn around time. I just don't want it to feel awkward, and I wasn't sure if anyone had advice on how to handle this or if I am totally overthinking. So thanks for any advice here!

Ok, thank you for all of you who commented on my last post. As a recap, we planned a joint bach party for late May. In a twist of events (as in POST invite, which was a casual text with the plan and line item which said "SO's included!"), we had a few surprise relationships who started AND got serious in a very short amount of time. I am so happy for them both, as one is the best man and the other the maid of honor, but we were surprised by their speedy relationships, and certainly did NOT take this into account with the originally planning. Half the wedding party is out of state, so it was tricky to figure out how to handle this. A lot of people said to cancel, but with some flights booked, it simply wasn't possible. The hotels were stupid expensive and far from the house, and there are no short term rentals on the island, so I had some real concerns.

The layout is we are doing a destination bach to an island in which my family has a house. The bach has been made as optional as possible, and SOs are included since it is a joint party. I got a lot of comments on my last post which were pretty negative, so for better or worse, I figured I would at least jump on, say it all worked out, and assure everyone that no one but ONE person might have to sleep on an air mattress (which there was always two air mattress involved, so really, it got better lol).

In a very nice twist of fate, a few friends had to cancel, which brings our total down to four couples, two to three single girls, and two single guys! We have four bedrooms, one study which we are working to add a bed too across from the pool bath, and one loft with two large sofas with access to a hall bath. So three couples in bedrooms, one couple in the study, two-three single girls in the largest bedroom, and the two single guys on the sofa in the loft.

Anyway, this was an adventure. I learned a lot. Probably should have waited for invites, but, in my defense, both had been single since HIGH SCHOOL! I am so happy for them both, but they both moved quick with their people and I can't wait to meet them at this event!

Hi all! I have never in my life attempted to seriously loose weight, so all of this is new to me. I am 5'4", 25f, and currently averaging about 165 lbs. I started about four weeks ago at 168, so slowly trending down and not in a huge rush. I am working to mostly focus on consistency, life changes, and things that feel realistic to maintain for a healthy life. I do have our wedding in Fall, so there is some incentive to drop weight before then, but the goal is a bit of a floating goal that mostly relies on me feeling more toned and fit then actual scale weight loss.

I am currently struggling with some of these rainy spring days where we have family events, friend winery days, and fun weekend plans. During the week, I am able to consistently hit 8-10k steps, do some kind of serious workout (cycle, hot yoga, weights, or boxing), and hit my protein and fiber goals. When it is just me and my fiancé, we got a system and it feels AMAZING.

Then Friday hits. We usually still hit steps, and we try to do a workout of some kind, but Saturday and Sunday always feel like a coin toss. We have a decently active social life, close family on both sides, and, as we are still in our mid twenties, many of these events involve or sometimes even revolve around drinking. Spring weather means many rainy weekends, paired with busy days and unhealthy food, not to mention the alcohol which I definitely cave and drink occasionally.

I am torn with how to handle this. Part of me thinks I should just live my life, let it be what it is, and adjust as needed if I feel like I want to drop weight faster. The other part thinks I should focus on getting a workout in on the weekend, but I worry about my mood if I don't do it. For instance, we were supposed to walk 8K before going to some brewery with my extended family, but forgot to watch the time and only got about half of what I would have liked. I felt like I failed, and definitely was a little moody. I get it is on me to check my emotions and accept, but I guess my point is, if I make it a "gaol" and "fail," I know me well enough to know that will get me down.

How do you all handle this feeling? Do you cave and have these weekends as is? Or should I try harder to get movement in when I know it will be paired with unhealthy food and alcohol? I didn't drink at the brewery as I didn't hit my step goals, but that kinda sucked and it felt like I was punishing myself, which I don't want either.

I also was wondering what weekend, rainy day movement ideas people have? We belong to a gym, but I hate how busy it is on the weekends and would be curious to hear of any around the house ideas we could try that gets the body moving. Thanks for any advice!