u/runaway_tata

Everyone has a right to come here and express how they are cosleeping but many new people are coming here to learn and it worries me that they will see encouragement and approval in the comments of unsafe practices and not understand the risks or be able to make informed decisions. I think the baby wearing sub is a good example there is an automatic comment with safety information and best practices, and then if people choose not to follow themselves they have all the information atleast. Maybe it can provide some book references and info on SS7, etc.

I’m hoping this can all get us back on the same page while allowing room for lifestyle differences and levels of comfort and continuing to encourage as much safety as possible. We should be able to say these are the best practices but of course do what works for you without it being perceived as judgement. This is the cosleeping sub after all where else should we be helping people to safely cosleep if not here. This is not about judgement but rather information and also leading by example.

I feel like we’ve gone alittle off the rails abandoning all of the safety I came here learning 7 months ago and I’m just alittle surprised these last few days between the posts and then the comments on the posts.

Cosleeping already has so much misinformation and misunderstanding around it and is viewed as very unsafe by many (because it can be when done without caution) still let’s not start proving those people right.

I have started trying to implement a few signs with my 6.5m old because she recently starting waving so I thought it was a good time to start teaching them. I recently think she starting trying to do all done but it’s hard to tell it kindof looks like her waive but maybe more frantic? I have been using it for basically anything that we finish - eating, changing, reading, playing, strollers walks, FaceTiming my mom lol. I realized I always pick her up right afterwards so I think my daughter is using it when she’s upset and wants to be picked up. For example she rolled herself into a position she didn’t like yesterday and then she started crying and waiving her little hands all around and it looked alot like her trying to do all done. I mean technically she was all done with being in that position lol. I also think she used it yesterday when she was particularly upset about being put to sleep.

I’m wondering if there’s anything I can do to distinguish “all done” from like a distressed “help me now” or if it’s ok if she keeps just using it this way and she’ll grow into the other use? Should I also teach “help” in those instances? I’d she really is crying and needs me I’m not sure she’ll appreciate a signing lesson in the moment though.

I spent last night up for hours, not because of my baby but because I was so cold and uncomfortable. My top kept riding up exposing my stomach, my sweatpants cuffs kept riding up exposing my ankles and cutting off my circulation and my socks were too tight. I had restless legs and was so cold with my boob out and getting more and more irritable just counting down the hours to morning from the floor bed.

I think I have created a perfect cosleeping outfit with almost 100% natural materials (one item has 5% spandex). No strings or buttons. Breastsleeping friendly.

In layer order:

• mate the label organic cotton unitard (thin straps should pull down easily)
• 100% wool ankle socks
• Merino wool long sleeve breastfeeding top (goes all the way up to the neck and splits at the chest)
• mate the label organic cotton fleece straight leg sweatpant
• mate the label as alpaca half zip sweater (sized down so it was a bit more snug) (Didn’t want to look like I’m selling anything with links but I’m happy to share)

The only exposed skin I should have exposed will be my neck up, my finger tips, and one nipple lol

Between my SOL mattress topper plus platform, my daughter’s Woolino sleep sacks, and now this I am just throwing money at this sleep situation.

Editing to add for some context: between being up 20lb still and also losing all of our belongings a year and a half ago in a hurricane I have very few clothes to work with so I am slowly replacing things with higher quality items I’ll hopefully have for a lifetime. My cosleeping outfit currently consists of mostly my husbands poorly fitting polyester clothing. I just went from slowly replacing to needing a fully new outfit NOW before I lose it.

I’ll review the items once they actually come and I have tried them out!

6.5m hardly wetting overnight/while sleeping since starting lazy EC and looking to get away from disposables atleast to start with overnight sleep. I’d love something GOTS organic cotton that’s going to touch her skin but the issue is the outer plastic cover. I’d like something more natural. So far I’ve come across Disana but would love to know what others with experience think. She’s not quite 20lb and she is long 27.5 inch if that matters for brands fitting best, etc.

Can the wool really hold wetness? Are they difficult to clean and maintain?

TIA!

So much plastic. So many Amazon orders.

Outlet covers, furniture anchors, anti tip for tvs, things to stop the draws from opening, things to hide cords, things to keep the toilets closed, things to keep the closet doors closed. There doesn’t seem to be much option for natural materials 🙃

Obviously all necessary and worth it to make my home safe for my daughter now that she’s on the move but it’s also killing my anti plastic soul lol. When we grow out of it all in a handful of years hopefully I can donate it to someone who needs it.

This has really freaked me out because of how young she is and I’ve never seen a dry diaper first thing in the morning. We’ve only been doing potty first thing when she wakes up for maybe a week and a half. She does very well and instantly would do a pee with some water on and some pshh noises. Today after not peeing for about 12 hours overnight, she peed the second I put her down on the toilet. Is this normal? My mom thinks I need to call the pediatrician. Also her first diaper of the morning within an hour was soaked with pee. I just didn’t think that they could hold pee overnight for so long, but she’s just a happy healthy girl this morning. I don’t think anything‘s wrong with her and I don’t wanna bring her to the pediatrician with a bunch of sick babies if she’s fine and this is normal.

I had noticed last month that before, even starting EC some of her diapers after her naps were dry, which was unusual.

Maybe she is ready? Is this early? I was just so shocked.

Just got a new top loader! Really excited for a machine that actually can do soaks and deep rinses with more than a few drops of water.

I have a great detergent that has oxygen bleach and enzymes including lipase with no soapy ingredients.

I tested my “warm” rinse as it was filling. It’s about 125 degrees and I tested it with the TDS meter is it’s 570ppm😭

I’m wondering if this temp is good for activating the oxygen bleach without denaturing the enzymes.

I also can’t figure out the citric acid concentration. I’m going to keep it pre dissolved in a mason jar (1ltr) and add roughly an 2oz to each load in the fabric softener compartment. How much should I dissolve?

Currently the plan is warm, pre soak with enzymes and oxygen bleach, citric acid rinse.

I am dealing with lots of stains with a 6mo old. Everything smells like spit up and breast milk and there’s poo on everything. Soon to be food stains. Everything gets pretty stiff from the hard water also.

I have elbowed my baby’s head twice now in my sleep like she’s (6m) fine but I feel terrible. All I read is about how my body should have instincts but I just keep moving in my sleep 😩 if it’s not my top arm falling onto her is my stretched out arm knocking into her good lord. I think I’m going to get an elbow brace or something.

But how? I can’t even cosleep with her most nights she screams the second her body hits the mattress. Sometimes I get an hour with her cosleeping. The only sleep I get is when my husband stays awake holding her a few hours but his body just cannot do it much longer he’s in so much pain and idk what I’ll do. I can’t just never sleep again. I always thought if she wouldn’t sleep in her crib I could cosleep but I never anticipated neither. If I could never sleep again and hold her 24/7 I would I just am at a comlplete loss.

And can you send me either an image or text of what the tag says the inner material is made of? Thanks!

5mo and there is punching, pinching, scratching, grabbing, slapping, examining, massaging, caressing, squeezing, poking, talking, mumbling… baby girl this is not a toy.

What’s everyone using? I don’t have an ironing board currently and want to avoid plastic and toxic chemicals in the padding.

I’ve run like 7-8 citric acid cleaning cycles and the amount of suds is the same every single time. Not crazy but definitely soapy bubbles in the rinse water. I’ve also run a towel on the sanitize cycle with citric acid to get the really hot water. Everything coming out of my washer is starting to have a smell. I’ve been using puracy but realizing even though it’s lipase the soapy ingredients might not be mixing well with my hard water. I have a 5mo old and there’s (TMI) spit up and breastmilk on everything and I think it’s starting to take its toll on my washer. I think I’m nose blind because there is a sickly sweet smell in our house that I only notice when we’ve been gone a few days and I noticed it on a blanket I traveled with so I think it’s in the fabrics.