u/scorpioncandy

I work at a daycare in California, the backyard gets ZERO shade. Director will not allow shade sail because he thinks it’ll just catch rain. Sir, we are in CA. We have sun hats available for all the kids and a small outdoor tent for when they need a break from the sun. Kids all get sunscreened if the UV is high enough.

One of the parents does not allow sunscreen for her 4 year old son. We are outdoors from 10:30-12 and from 2-4 pm. Poor kid gets red as a tomato and on multiple occasions has gotten sunburnt - never that bad of a burn but it’s happened enough times.

I will ask her to write up and sign that he is not allowed sunscreen to cover my ass in case of a bad sunburn, but is there anything I can do for the kid? He hates wearing the sun hats. Maybe I’ll ask her to send him a baseball cap to keep in school. Idk.

I am mildly autistic and struggle with social expectations and cues. I’m great with kids, not so great with adults.

My co teacher just complains all day. She’ll waltz in 20 minutes late because she didn’t sleep well last night. Or she’ll come in but she’ll announce she’s ‘only 10% here because she’s feeling anxious’. I also have anxiety, I don’t make it everyone else’s problem. She’ll often get a phone call and instead of letting whoever it is know she’s working and not available, she just runs out of the classroom to talk, she has family emergencies a few times a month. If anything stressful is happening in her life, she either mentally clocks out, or complains all day. She’s always complaining she’s hungry but when I offer her to take a little break to eat she says she’ll go later. And continue to complain. I always let her know she has the option to stay home if she can’t fully be here, but she says she needs the money (valid).

Am I being a cold unfeeling asshole? I feel bad that she struggles but I have 13 preschoolers to take care of and I can’t manage an adult’s feelings as well.

My 3 year old spayed 10 lb cat hasn’t pooped in almost 48 hours. She’s acting completely normal, playful, normal appetite. I read on here you can give cats 1/4 tsp miralax a day. Do I need to bring her to a vet for this or can I just give her some of mine?

We work with preschool children. Anything could happen in the blink of an eye. When brought up to her that the phone usage is excessive, she just says she’s addicted and working with her therapist. I’m terrified every time we take the kids outside bc I’m the only one watching them. Director pretends to care when I speak with him but for some reason won’t say anything to her. I’m on edge all day. She has a large following on social media and considers herself to be an influencer, and is always editing her videos while on the clock in the classroom. Sometimes even recording in the classroom (at least she knows not to record the kids I guess?). Brooooo I’m so sick of it.

She’s a squirmy girl even at her most relaxed and I put it way too high up on her neck and head. I’ve been on top of her for an hour and a half making sure she doesn’t get it with her paws. How long does this stuff take to dry?

I’m new to owning a cat. She was 9 1/2 lbs when I got her in April, at her appointment yesterday she weighted 10.2 lbs. She eats 1 3/4 cans a day and a little bit of dry food overnight. Vet says one can is enough, maybe a can and a quarter, and she needs to lose weight.

Most wet food cans are under 100 cal - is this enough food for a cat? I thought they were supposed to get 150-200 cals a day.

She’s a 3 year old spayed shelter cat. She’s been with me since early April. I wasn’t letting her sleep in my room at first because I work with young children and need my sleep, and she would jump on and off my desk using my wheelie chair as a launch pad lmao. After 2 nights I started shutting my door at night. She would go back and forth between sleeping in her favorite bed and then waking up to pace and cry.

Recently I’ve started leaving my bedroom door open for her at night and she’s been very calm, just curls up near my feet. No zoomies, no crazy jumping. But same as before, every few hours gets up to pace and cry. I’ll call out to her once or twice so she knows she’s not all alone.

She gets her last meal of the day before I go to bed, she has a dry food auto feeder that goes off at 2:30, and so many toys that I rotate out so she doesn’t tired of them. We play for 30 minutes before her night time meal.

She is a very shy skittish cat who is attached to me like velcro. I genuinely don’t know if getting her a friend would be helpful or hurtful.

Any advice is appreciated!

What is the developmentally appropriate expectation for a 5 year old in regard to cleaning their nose?

Is it too much to expect a child to grab a tissue and wipe their nose? We are working with a child who will be going to kindergarten soon. She has had a bright green runny nose for months, and if we do not stay on top of her constantly we will find her 10 minutes later with snot all over her cheeks, sleeves, and toys.

Looking for the best way to help her learn to clean her nose when needed, open to any advice.

*Edited to add, she knows how! She doesn’t want to and tries to hide her boogers so she doesn’t have to.

For my birthday I treated myself to a weekend in Monterey and a visit to my favorite aquarium in the country. Unfortunately my birthday is Dec 26 and the aquarium was terrifyingly packed. Frightening. Wondering when the least busy time of year would be to visit so I can have a redo and enjoy the jellyfish in peace? Or is it always like that. Sorry if this is a silly question

I work with children, which means I have 15-20 little people yelling my name for 8 hours a day. I love the kids, my coworker is the stressor here.

1. She is always late. It’s either her alarm didn’t go off, she got home late the night before, bathroom related things, she didn’t sleep well, she’s anxious, the list goes on. She was late every day last week. When I say late I mean 30+ minutes.

2. She is always on her phone. We work with tiny children. You do not need to be on instagram while you’re giving them breakfast, I promise. She has been spoken to both by me and our director for years and nothing has changed. I feel like I’m the only one keeping an eye on the children which is very stressful especially outdoors.

3. She is always complaining. She’s tired. She’s hungry (she doesn’t eat all day). She’s nauseous (maybe eat something). She’s bored. She’s coming down with something. It’s constant daily.

I don’t have patience for her anymore. I come to work to care for children, sorry if this makes me an asshole, I don’t really care about all her shit. If anyone has any tips on dealing with people like this, I’m open.