How To admit someone in a mental hospital?
I need advice regarding my elder sister. She will turn 32 this August. She is unmarried and has not had a job, helped with household work, or maintained a healthy relationship with our family for the last 10 years. She lives with us but has become completely disconnected from the family.
To give some background, after she completed 12th grade, my elder brother funded her CA studies. However, her behavior towards him and the entire family was extremely abusive. She constantly insulted him, saying things like, "You are not even worth five rupees." She would also physically assault and verbally abuse my parents. Because of this, my brother and sister often got into physical fights. Almost every day, my brother would come home from work only to hear that our mother or father had been beaten or abused by her.
As time passed, her behavior did not improve. Instead, she became more isolated from the family. Around her first year after 12th grade, she met a married man and may have been in a relationship with him. Gradually, she stopped talking to us altogether and would only return home late at night. This continued for a long time.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, she disappeared from home for about four months. We had no idea where she was or who she was living with. We even did multiple FIRs for the same. During that period, she developed tuberculosis (TB) and admitted herself to a government hospital. She told the hospital staff that her family lived in a village and that she was living alone in Delhi. We only found out because she called us from the hospital several months later, and my parents and I went there to meet her.
Even after that, she ran away from home again for a few weeks on one or two occasions.
At present, she appears to be mentally disturbed. She suddenly starts crying as if someone has severely hurt her. She still abuses my mother. She writes the names of different men on the walls. We also found an old diary from around 8–10 years ago in which she had written extremely abusive things about every member of our family.
One of the biggest problems is that she soils her clothes almost every day by passing stool in them. This has become a daily crisis for our family. Every morning is spent cleaning up after her, making it extremely difficult to take her to government hospitals, which usually operate during the morning hours.
We are not a wealthy family. I am now 28 years old, and I feel like I have never had a personal life because everything revolves around managing this situation. My mother constantly takes her to different doctors and temples, hoping something will help.
A few days ago, we visited a therapist whose consultation fee was ₹1,500, although we paid less because they knew us personally. The therapist recommended psychiatric medication, but the treatment cost was beyond what we could afford.
Previously, we were getting treatment at Indira Gandhi Hospital in Dwarka. My mother believed she was taking her medicines, but later discovered that my sister would hide the tablets in her mouth and pretend to swallow them.
My father is now 64 years old, and my mother is 55. I cannot bear to see them suffer anymore. For the last eight years, I have been the only earning member of the family because my brother didn't do any job for 8 long years. I also have my own health problems, including spinal injuries, worsening eyesight, dental issues, and several other medical concerns. I feel physically and emotionally exhausted.
I know this may sound harsh, but after everything she has done—physically abusing my parents, emotionally hurting the family, refusing treatment, and contributing nothing to the household for years—I no longer have the emotional strength to continue like this.
I am the youngest child in the family. My brother is six years older than me, and my sister is four years older than me. Despite that, almost my entire adult life has been spent carrying responsibilities that I was never prepared for.
I genuinely want to help my parents, but I don't know what to do anymore.
Can someone please guide me on the legal and medical options available in India? If a person with severe mental illness refuses treatment, refuses medication, and is unable to care for themselves, how can the family get them admitted to a psychiatric hospital or mental health facility? We are looking for a legal, humane, and long-term solution because our family can no longer manage this situation on our own.
Likhne ko bhut sara hai mgr please itne me hi smjh jao.
Please please please koi NGO ya GOVT. hospital se help krwado jo didi ko ya to thik krde ya hamare se door le jaye. Ab me shanti chahta hu life me...bhut salo ki sufferning hai hamari. Please do help me