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I'm married to my best friend who is a man, recently came out to myself. I think about women a lot and then when I go out I think "oh its all in my head, there's no way you could ever even pull a woman even if you were single, everyone you know is straight, this is just a fantasy, just get busy with something etc."

Then I see a beautiful masc woman and damn, I nearly break my neck to look at her and the obsessive thoughts begin all over again 🫠

5"2 SW 60kg CW 58.7kg GW 55kg.

I've done food tracking at certain points in my life and it works but I'm in a phase where I just mentally cannot do it anymore. It makes me obsess over food all day.

I know what to eat but portion size and getting in enough protein is my issue I think. I train x4 per week already between sport and gym.

I simply started make a 40gram protein smoothie per day with lunch and ive lost weight already. I also add more egg whites to my egg fried rice.

Thats it, no tracking but it really helps lower my hunger levels overall and now im more cognizant of my daily protein intake.

Edit: Further thoughts: I think making one meal a day your big protein meal helps mentally as it feels like a part time diet. Making lunch 70grams of protein means I no longer need to make every meal at least 40grams of protein to reach a daily goal of 120gramsish. Dinner is usually 30grams by default as I eat meat and breakfast is eggs so I'm hitting at least 110.

At 34 years old. My initial reaction was "ummm excuse me? Why wasn't I shown a wlw relationship this deep before and passionate? " GESTURES BROADLY CONFUSED.

Are my feelings even valid since arcane is fiction?

Well, here's my current pipeline highlight reel:

Im a 90s tomboy > 13yo social anxiety out the waazoo > all girls school > girls are bitchy af & male centered > better make myself look pretty for boys approval > college made friends with mostly boys as they were chill > first serious boyf > started saying I liked girls hair & makeup when I stared but didnt want to do anything with them > thought lesbian porn was gross > turns out it was all male gaze porn I found gross > started to watch more lgbt shows after arcane > exclusively watched lesbian porn (the good kind!) > thinks about women during sex 90% of the time > daydreams about women being attracted to me > cannot stop staring at women i find attractive (gals with muscles & who look bi? Idk) > still find some men attractive and enjoys penetrative sex > never been with a woman tho > find men romantically boring now.

Sorry if this isnt allowed I know this sub is for lesbians just wanted to share where I'm at and see if anyone relates.

34F, 5'2" (157 cm), currently around 60 kg / 132 lb. Goal weight is around 55 kg / 121 lb.

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I tried tirzepatide last year at 1 mg and the appetite suppression worked almost too well for me.

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The positives:

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- Food noise and cravings dropped massively

- Weight loss felt much easier

- I didn’t feel driven to overeat

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But the negatives were pretty rough:

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- Extreme fatigue / low energy

- Appetite suppression felt too strong

- Food aversion / not really enjoying food

- Felt like eating became effort

- Concern I wasn’t getting enough protein or fuel in

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I’m considering trying again, but my goal isn’t maximum appetite suppression or rapid weight loss.

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What I’d ideally want is to just turn hunger down slightly — like from an 8/10 to maybe a 4–5/10. Enough to make staying in a mild calorie deficit easier and reduce food noise, but still:

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- enjoy meals

- feel normal hunger

- recover well

- have energy for sports and gym

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I’m pretty active and train/play sports regularly, so I really don’t want that exhausted, “I hate food” feeling again.

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Has anyone found that a much lower dose gave more of a gentle appetite reduction without the fatigue and food aversion? Or if you had those side effects initially, did they improve?

When my defender gets too close and we are battling for the ball or when I have the ball and they are chasing me side by side.

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I never go down and I see other teams doing this a lot.

Spent my whole childhood being criticised by my mother and sister growing up and even as an adult its hard to have a conversation with either of these without some slight or passive aggressive comments towards me.

Ive distanced myself from them which only makes me even more of a black sheep. Its really affecting my mental health now as I do wish to remain in their lives somewhat but every single interaction with them is in some way triggering and I end up ruminating about it for days afterwards.

I just dont know what to do anymore and I'm always made out to be the problem and I'm sad about it. The only responses I have are to defend myself lest my self worth be even further denigrated.

Please dont suggest no contact this is ireland and its a very small place to live.

I live close to my mother. She is constantly trying to be more in my life and I am avoidant of her calls and visits.

When I have to spend time with her, I either blow up in anger or grey rock, take her emotional abuse and want to die from how sad I feel. I ruminate on it for days on end afterwards. Nothing seems to work.

My husband doesn't think what she says if as big a deal as I think it is (he's a man so the emotional range is low).

Getting tired of feeling alone in this and tired of the constant threat from her being around me.

I genuinely think about running away a lot and starting life again.

I'm 34, spent my 20s in survival mode trying to get ahead at work so could afford things and gain safety and independence, followed the standard path and thought it would lead somewhere.

Now I have a house, a wfh job and im married but I feel like I made choices out of fear and now im just realising how insecure I am now that I'm comfortable. I learned I am a dismissive avoidant and it all makes sense now.

Also I have ADD and I'm very bored of my life and always have been.

My mom drank and shes in recovery for 20 years but the anxiety never left me.

My sister bullied me all my life and ive gone LC with her.

I just feel like im constantly anxious, overthinking and isolating myself to self soothe and nothing feels good anymore.

I have constant hypervigilance around people and honestly just feel fed up and want to run away to a place where no one knows me and start again.

I wish I was 24 again, I would change so much.

Hello, I've recently come out to myself as a bi woman at 34. I'm married to my husband and although I'm happy I feel like I want to connect with the queer community in some way as its been a bit lonely. Ive been watching a lot of queer media and its really nice, I wish there was more!

All my girl friends are straight, I love them and all but i feel like I cant express this side of me with them. I'd love a bi or lesbian friend to chat with.

I play women's soccer and I thought there would be more queer women there or maybe they aren't as noticeable to me yet!

I take it occasionally when I need to relax (I dont like the physical side effects) but I find the crash so hard.

The next day though I'm so much looser and flexible in my head its so nice and my social anxiety lowers because my mask is lower too so its way easier to just talk and be myself. Then I start to clam up again due to stress and I start to mask again.

I feel the body relax for sure but mentally I just feel idk dull?

Its still hard to focus and my head is still not much different.

I dont know how i should feel but usually vyvanse makes my adhd worse or more obvious but makes me as a person less anxious overall especially in the rebound phase.

I just needed to come up for air temporarily as I cannot take vyvanse everyday as the physical side effects are too much for me.

I lost 3kg over the last month and I literally put back on 2kg over the weekend due to me feeling so ill I couldnt do my normal routine.

Its like 1 extra meal can put on so much extra weight.

Back to my routine now and I'm 1.3kg off where I need to be.

At 5'2 its just scary how little my TDEE is per my whoop its 1500 which is so low and its easy for me to overeat.

Anyways

I’m trying to figure out what’s going on with my body and could really use some input.

Over the past couple of days (I’m on day 5 of my period), I’ve felt extremely fatigued — like “I feel like I’m dying” level tired. I’ve also had dizziness/faintness and even a heart flutter, which scared me.

What’s confusing is that my previous bloods (last 1–2 years) have always been really solid:

- Ferritin consistently around 80–95 (good)

- Haemoglobin 13.7–15.1 (no anaemia)

- Iron + transferrin saturation normal

- Thyroid normal

- B12 good

- Only slightly low-ish folate

So on paper, I’ve been healthy and not iron deficient.

Important context:

I changed my contraception coil about 6 months ago to one that allows me to have periods again. Since then, I’ve been getting regular periods, but they’ve never been this bad before.

Right now I feel:

- Extremely weak and drained

- Faint/dizzy

- Had a heart flutter

- On what feels like a heavier-than-usual period

From what I understand, this could be something more acute, like:

- A temporary drop in iron or blood volume during this cycle

- Low blood pressure / dehydration

- Hormonal crash late in the cycle

- Electrolyte imbalance

I’m planning to get new bloods done ASAP because clearly something doesn’t match how I feel.

Has anyone experienced something similar where:

- Your bloods were always fine

- Then after changing contraception, periods came back and one cycle just hit you really hard?

Trying to figure out if this is common or something I should be more concerned about.

Im talking some very misogynistic but tasteful rap music in particular which I really enjoy for years! Like songs I would never admit to anyone I listen to. Just a thought!

Playing amateur women's league as a forward for the first time. Passing is not good so its a lot of chaotic high balls aka hail Mary's.

Our team kicks in a lot of high balls and the other teams defenders are always positioned to received it and I as a forward dont seem to have a good tactic to get the ball off them as they tend to quickly clear it away.

What should I research and try?

Thanks!