u/smollbraintime

i dont know how its going to be next year, but im really giving this new guy a chance here. hes polite, respectful, takes his time, but most importantly he makes time for me. something that you didnt always do. when i think of you now, im just confused. but its no longer a feeling of wanting you to be here. its more a feeling of hurt and betrayal, and realizing you dont have your shit together at all, which made me feel rejected at the time. im curious about the future, but im not letting you get in the way this time.

im not a scared woman. im not someone thats intimidated fast. i dont get nervous around men. but theres you. i couldnt get a single word out yesterday. your eyes do this thing when you smile that just makes my mind go blank. i wish we could just catch up over coffee or drinks, i think we would have a nice time. can we do that? theres still a few weeks left.

i met someone

well, met, idk, weve been seeing each other around but now we’re talking. he reminds me of you a little bit. i feel guilty, thinking about that. i dont want to think about you. all i want is to give someone new a chance. to have a connection again, like the one we had. im scared that if i get into anything with someone new, and ill see you again, ill fall back into old feelings. thats unfair, and i feel like the most evil person ever for that. but i just cant help it. i wish it couldve been you. i hope ill change my mind about that soon, because hes really nice :(

sincerely,

the evil girl from a few months ago

okay so basically im asking for some advice here because im lost and stressed out.

me and this girl dated for a little while last year. we are in a friend group together in school so we see each other every once in a while, but dont talk anymore outside of that. now theres this guy that she likes, that shes close friends with. he doesnt like her back but theyre still close friends. recently, the guy and i have seen each other at a few parties and weve been talking quite a lot. im not sure in what way, but i am pansexual so yeah. ive been feeling guilty about it, because i know next year the girl and i are going to be in the same class and we will probably become friends again. i feel like i could start liking her again, so im not sure what to do about the guy. i think hes cute, but id feel extremely guilty for initiating anything, and i dont want her to hate me for that, as she probably still likes him. what do i do here? :/

i hope that next winter ill get to beat you in a snowball fight. we didnt get to this year, and now we dont even speak anymore. you know i wouldve beaten you, buddy😋

i have to see you again. and then after summer again. and i really just dont want to. youre with someone else and i just dont want to see your face because im scared ill get jealous again. i want to move on, but youre still somewhere in my mind and i wish i had done things differently on one hand, but on the other, youre evil for lying to me about this and then just moving on to the best next girl. i dont hate you, but im pretty damn close at this point.

I was in a situationship 2 months ago that lasted about 3 months. It suddenly ended and it really messed me up. Because of activities we both have to attend once a week, we still speak to each other and consider ourselves friends. Lately though, I feel like he doesn’t put in the effort to be my friend, and when he does, he’s too direct and almost flirty with me. I am seeing him soon probably to hang out with him, but I want to tell him I can’t be in contact with him anymore unless we try again because i can feel myself catching feelings again. What should I do in this situation? Should I end the friendship? Anyone who has gone through something like this? I don’t want it to be awkward when we do see each other, but I keep thinking about him and it’s draining me.

i dated someone for a while, but we ended it on relatively good terms. weve been trying to be friends because we have to see each other every week anyway, and its been going okay, until a few days ago. i was over it but now i cant help but wonder what hes doing constantly and im starting to see him as more than a friend again. what do i do, because its really hard.