u/stonegavel1

I know hookups are easy to come by but the average guy on Grindr is just that, average and not exactly a head turner. So would you be willing to pay for looks? Times are hard and I’m thinking about pimping out my husband (he’s on board) but I’m wondering about the profitability of prostitution in gay circles. He’s 24, gets hit on every time we hit up the bars and he was scouted to model for an adult film studio years ago but refused.

I have a customer late 40s who’s been hitting up my auto shop over the past couple months. Nice enough guy, but the whole crew can tell he’s taken a liking to one of my younger mechanics. Comes in with a different expensive car every other week, asks for him by name and will wait on him if he’s unavailable. Tips excessively. A lot of the time it feels like he’s looking for reasons to bring something in.

Last week the mechanic was working under his car. Gets up off the floor all red in the face from working in the heat and the customer tells him something like “You oughta blush more often.”

The other guys have been giving the kid hell about his “sugar daddy”. At what point do I step in as the owner?

Where do I even start… My husband and I (both 30) have been together for 10 years, married for 3. About 6 months ago, we had a talk after I found some poorly concealed viagra in his stuff. He chalked up the need for a pill to his “performance anxiety” (which he had never brought up before). Not too long after that, he pitched an open relationship because he said his performance anxiety comes from a fear of disappointing the man he loves (me) and fooling around with randos would boost his confidence.

Doesn’t sound too convincing in hindsight but in the moment, although I was surprised, I did say yes (100% for his sake as I personally have zero interest in extramarital sexual encounters).

After opening up the relationship there was definitely a sexual reawakening on his end in bed, though a voice in my head did wonder how much of it was just him picturing that I was one of his younger, hotter fuck buddies…

Anyway, fast forward to today. I had to borrow his car and I noticed that he had racked up a ton of mileage in a couple months, im talking at least 2500 miles. He had started disappearing over the weekends but that was supposedly because he started working weekend shifts. Still thought the mileage didn’t add up so I filed it away and went investigating. Well I know the password to his phone and it didn’t take long to find a months-long text exchange on Instagram with this young Tom Daley-looking guy located in a small college town about an hour away. From their messages they’ve been together a lot… “you arriving soon daddy?” says he to my husband.
This was the most glaring text exchange I found but he had several other ones scattered across grindr, sniffies, tinder, any app you can think of, with more college aged guys. About 90% of them had blond hair by the way, which I thought stood out. My husband (then boyfriend) did cheat on me back in college, and now that I think about it his pick did have blond hair. Seems to be a recurring theme.

I know I agreed to an open relationship; indefinitely is not what’s rubbing me the wrong way here. But it’s hard not to feel like shit when your husband is this hung up on this college twink that he’s driving 2 hours round trip several weekends in a row to get his “fix”, meanwhile he needs to take a fucking pill to fuck you. There’s also the lying about where he’s been spending his weekends so… yeah. I don’t even know anymore. I feel like I’ve aged out of my husband’s type or something, and I’m only 30.

My husband (27) and I (30) are staying over at his parents. We’ve been staying in the guest bedroom which sits in its own private wing of the house yet he says he feels “weird” about having sex. It’s been two weeks and I’ve only managed to fuck him one time and even then he insisted I use a condom and then flush it down the toilet.

I do recall as high schoolers he did have his qualms about sex under his parents’ roof but we moved in together quickly for college so it never really became an issue big enough to discuss.
Right now though I realize how unused I am to lying next to my husband without having free access. I miss his ass and can’t understand why he’s so uptight about sex all of a sudden. It’s not like he comes from a religious family or anything. He’s spent the night at my parents’ house countless times and I’ve never had the slightest qualm about fucking him in that context. Is his reaction normal?