I have social anxiety but its not false beliefs
Social anxiety is framed as false beliefs about how you're perceived and so the solution is exposure, to go out into uncomfortable situations and learn that you aren't broken. But mostly when I do that, I do find signs that people truly begin to dislike me. It will be fine in the beginning, but after some time things shift. At a conference the best case is I will talk to someone and the conversation is fine but it just kind of goes nowhere and fizzles out whereas other people somehow build a rapport and keep going. Maybe I say something too political, or too weird or just don't have the right filter and the vibe starts to shift - maybe they slowly try to leave the conversation, or it just doesn't work. Someone who was friendly one day becomes cold the next. Then I know I've done something wrong, but I never know what, and they would never tell me.
I tried working with therapists earlier but its a totally artificial environment with them, i don't behave the same with them because I'm not afraid of being judged as much, im not trying to get them to like me so much, and they don't judge me the same as normal people do. I have worked on my social skills to some extent and they are decent I would say, but they never get sophisticated enough to handle real situations.
So it feels like an unsolvable problem to me. You can't simulate the game, and no one ever tells you what you did wrong in the real game and anyways there is no room for mistakes there. You can read books or watch videos or whatever but its not really learnable like that. So you're just fucked. What am I supposed to do?