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Hint: There’s a Bird.

Hint 2: Film is based on a true story.

Hint: Directed by a woman

This isn’t really necessarily a rant. I’m just feeling down about how much my life has changed and how little others seem to acknowledge it or care. I’m 6m postpartum and I’ve barely seen or talked to my friends since having my daughter. I’ve tried to reach out, check in, and gently say I need some moral support (literally just adult conversation with someone other than my husband) and the majority of them have just quietly faded out of my life when they used to all be constants. Worth mentioning I’m the first to have a baby, so maybe they just have a hard time connecting with me now? I just feel like most of my friendships became one sided and I started feeling like a burden constantly reaching out when I had a minute to talk. Since I stopped doing that it’s been crickets.

My husband is so, so supportive and I’m blessed to have him, but I just need my people and I’m realizing I don’t have as many people as I thought I did. My mom helps when she can but that gives me the time to shower, pump, catch up on housework…

I guess I am still adjusting to my new life, but I wasn’t prepared for how lonely it feels. My daughter is my entire world and I love her to bits, and I feel guilty saying I need a break sometimes but I do. I also work with kids in special education so even work is a similar kind of draining.

I have been in therapy and am now in the process of finding a new therapist because I didn’t “vibe” with the one I started working with freshly postpartum, but I held off on switching because I felt I needed support more than I needed to be selective about my provider.

Idk I’m just sharing because I’m sure someone here feels the same.

Just curious what yall prefer! I like using the baby scissors while she’s asleep to get them cut down and then the electric buffer when she’s awake to round them out. She loves the light so she stares at it happily lol. But would never stay still for long enough to fully trim 10 nails that way alone.

Not sure what flair this falls under lol but keeping their nails trimmed is a safety thing I suppose 😂 Technically baby proofing their hands lol

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I know it’s not the end of the world but it was disheartening. One of my friends has three kids, all under 10. She has LOVED being pregnant, loves when people are pregnant and is an all around kickass mom. I’ve asked her for advice many times while pregnant, shared my loss with her, and went to her time and time again for advice with my 6mo babe.

The other day I was just venting about a leap my daughter is having (just learned to sit unassisted and is days away from crawling 🫠) which has affected her night sleep. Over the weekend I was up every hour with her and was falling asleep at my desk at work Monday. She casually mentioned to just let her cry it out. She said she did it with all three of her kids, that the first few nights will be rough she might cry 10-15 mins before falling asleep. Then it’ll go down to less than ten, then five, then a minute, then she’ll eventually just lay awake in the crib til she falls asleep again. It just, broke my heart in a weird way? She seemed so casual and apathetic about it and it just made me sad. I just really don’t understand how people can suggest listening to your kid scream their lungs out until they learn you won’t come to help them calm down. Then she asked me how I get her to sleep and I said she falls asleep and I transfer her, or calm her down and then put her down awake to fall back asleep on her own. She told me to just stop letting her fall asleep in my arms.

Idk I just wanted to vent. It was one of those moments where I saw someone in a different light and it made me sad knowing I won’t want to go to her for advice with the same enthusiasm.