u/throwsway77

I tend to not have regrets. I would my only regret is this. Wasting precious years of my life on someone who couldn’t care less about me. I am well and truly single now for 2 years and my mental health has skyrocketed for the most part. I’m doing well in my career and most importantly I’m enjoying life with those what value my time and energy.
I was truly miserable and looking back I wonder “wtf were you thinking prioritising someone else because yourself”.
I can also guarantee once you have it out on the other side, you will feel the exact same

I’m so confused. I’ve messaged ‘hey how’s it going?’ To about a dozen people in the past 2 days and have gotten a response from nobody. Mind you, these people swiped on me first.
Why are people on this app if they don’t want to make new friends I’m confused

Like ZERO and I’ve used the same pics on tinder where I got decent attention.
Do you need to pay to use this app properly I’m confused

My grandmothers is visiting us and her brother passed away this morning. We had to break the news to her and the way she was bawling just absolutely shattered me.
I’m really scared of losing any of my family members especially my mum. It all just seems too painful and idk how I’d cope with it. I just feel like once something like that happens you can never been truly happy again?

Idk this was a really surreal weekend

VPR was kinda losing me in season 9 with not too much happening but I’m watching season 10 Scandoval and I’m so glad I stuck around. I’m on S10 episode 13 where they’ve just dropped the bomb and shit hasn’t even hit the fan yet. I’m so incredibly invested.
For some reason out of all the other scandals this just feels different. The editing is top tier, the timeline is crazy, I have never been more intrigued watching it.

Keen to see what’s next. Also I feel horrible for Ariana it was such a tough year for her

I know for a fact that it’s him cuz he lives right around me and l’ve seen him on Grindr constantly. Just then I went down to the convenience store and saw him with his mate.

He’s actually really nice, very polite from his interactions with me and everyone around him. That being said, the man almost looks nothing like his twitter page/socials. I had a penny drop ‘that’s him??!’ moment.

I feel like we as gay people look upto so many influencers/‘hot people’ because we’re so big on aesthetics but honestly so much of what we see online is not real. I used to think this was a bs cliche like but today solidified this for me.

Edit- for those asking who it was, I really don’t wanna shit in someone’s appearance. I know the tea is hot but I’m not putting that negativity out there for someone who seems very sweet

For context I’m 26, he’s 41. I’m a top, he’s a bottom. We live very close by.

I topped him once and then since then ever since he seems me online he hits me up, to the point where I’ve seen him like 5 times now and I sleep over at his. Last time I saw him I did the same, we had a great time. Mind you he even admitted to me “I only honestly go on Grindr to look for you”.

Anyways, he didn’t hit me up recently so I messaged him if he wanted to hang, he goes “sorry I’m really tired” and then an hour later I see the man online. And that was the last I’ve heard from him?

That was 2 weeks ago. We’re both online at the same time, he keeps putting his ‘right now’ status and literally stopped messaging me. I’m so confused?

I’m honestly so weirded out. This guy used pics from like 10 years ago, he looked really different. He also randomly drops the bomb that he’s done hard drugs before coming to mind and if I’d like some (wtf).
Anyways the vibes were off but I just went along with whatever he wanted to do cuz I didn’t wanna escalate anything. Anyways he was quite nice actually and was like I’m gonna leave you seem tired. As he’s leaving he tells me he’s actually 37 and his profile says 29. He says he’s been unemployed for 5 years and does nothing. Weird but also like whatever.

Now he’s left an hour ago and his location is still 0m (still online) ??? Thankfully I live in a highly secure building so I’m fine but also this is weird. Do I need to do something?

So I’ve got the letter of offer. My start date is supposed to be on the 29th June and I haven’t given my 2 weeks yet because I’m waiting for the contract.
I have a recruiter who is in the middle of this who suggests that the letter of offer is enough (it only gives me a salary breakdown nothing else). She suggests that it’s good enough that I should quit and that I’ll be provided a contract when I start my job.
Seems weird. I’m not really comfortable with quitting without having a signed contract

Had my first interview on Friday, went extremely well and she told me she wanted another interview asap with me with the director. By the time I reached home I already had another invited for 9am interview Monday (today).

Today’s interview seemed to have went quite well too, the director kept saying to me how much he loved my energy and we actually seemed to have vibed quite well. As I left he told me to go online to get his contact details and reach out to me him personally for any questions.

Most of the time when I interview I hear back before the end of the day if the interview went well, it’s been about 6 hours now and I haven’t heard anything. Wondering I’ve botched it? It all seemed to have gone decent

She’s just turned 50. We’ve had a family friend 7 years younger to her who has been diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer. I keep telling my mother to go to the doctors to keep herself checked, she says she does but I don’t believe it.
There has been so much crime lately, and my mum sometimes gets so unaware from her surroundings, what if someone takes my mother away from me.

Someday I know I’ll have to face it and I’m just SO anxious about it happening and how I woukd react too, because I genuinely think I will not want to live if she doesn’t

As someone who couldn’t get over their LO for over 2 years despite only going for 5 dates (ik crazy). NOTHING was helping.
I finally decided to stop stalking, blocked EVERYWHERE. Even if I felt like I wanted to unblock to stalk, I instantly shifted my energy elsewhere.
Post one month cleanse, I forgot the man even existed in my life. Like I was genuinely going to write this post last week, but I forgot.

I know it’s so hard but treat it like an addiction (cause it is). If you can’t stop stalking, you won’t be able to get over them in my opinion. Hang in there. Life is too short to make your autobiography someone else’s biography

He played all the cards right, love bombed me like there was no tomorrow. Responded to me within seconds, even by date 5 told me he liked me so much he wanted to marry me. I was super guarded the whole time. I let my guard down and confessed I feel the same way, the moment I did, he became distant.

He went away but promised by how he’ll come back next year and we’ll end up together. When I put guard back up he started texted me how much he missed me etc.

I responded, asking when he’s coming back. He ghosted me (mind you to a conversation he started). During our first couple of dates he promised me he is not the sort to ghost. I messaged him profusely and no response. He blocked me on everything.

I have NO idea why he decided to play with my emotions like this because I begged him just to give me some closure, ANY. I’m over him but the whole thing made me feel so shit I don’t even bother dating anymore it’s so hurtful

He played all the cards right, love bombed me like there was no tomorrow. Responded to me within seconds, even by date 5 told me he liked me so much he wanted to marry me. I was super guarded the whole time. I let my guard down and confessed I feel the same way, the moment I did, he became distant.

He went away but promised by how he’ll come back next year and we’ll end up together. When I put guard back up he started texted me how much he missed me etc.

I responded, asking when he’s coming back. He ghosted me (mind you to a conversation he started). During our first couple of dates he promised me he is not the sort to ghost. I messaged him profusely and no response. He blocked me on everything.

I have NO idea why he decided to play with my emotions like this because I begged him just to give me some closure, ANY. I’m over him but the whole thing made me feel so shit I don’t even bother dating anymore it’s so hurtful

He played all the cards right, love bombed me like there was no tomorrow. Responded to me within seconds, even by date 5 told me he liked me so much he wanted to marry me. I was super guarded the whole time. I let my guard down and confessed I feel the same way, the moment I did, he became distant.

He went away but promised by how he’ll come back next year and we’ll end up together. When I put guard back up he started texted me how much he missed me etc.

I responded, asking when he’s coming back. He ghosted me (mind you to a conversation he started). During our first couple of dates he promised me he is not the sort to ghost. I messaged him profusely and no response. He blocked me on everything.

I have NO idea why he decided to play with my emotions like this because I begged him just to give me some closure, ANY. I’m over him but the whole thing made me feel so shit I don’t even bother dating anymore it’s so hurtful