Our 7.5 week old suddenly started rolling on his side so we realised we needed to stop swaddling and move onto sleep bags and oh my god, I didn’t realise it would make me so sad lol! Husband is fast asleep and I’m still up staring at him wondering where the teeny tiny newborn we brought home in August went. This does not bode well for me avoiding tears at every milestone…
On the plus side at least he’s sleeping okay in his new get up.
I live in London and our health visitor recommended these vitamin drops for our two week old. He is exclusively formula fed and now takes in over 500ml a day. When I looked up the drops on the NHS website it advises not to give them to babies taking in over 500ml of formula a day, and not to give them to babies under a month. I asked our HV about this but she just said “I can’t force you to give them to your baby but it’s what the borough advises” (as you can probably imagine she’s not the best). Anyone received these and can shine a light on it? Bit confused atm!
Hello! I had a c section two weeks ago, and I’d like to start baby wearing soon. I have the artipoppe but also the mom cozy newborn carrier for when my son is still potentially too small for the artipoppe. I have asked my consultant when I can start but as with so many aspects of c section recovery it’s very subjective so she couldn’t really advise me when to take the plunge. any c section mums in here who can share when they started and any tips?
What would you put newborn baby in underneath this? Room is 21.5 degrees. It’s 1 tog!
Hey everyone. I am nine days out from my c section. Yesterday I had to take my baby to hospital near us and it was quite a lot of travel, moving and stress (thankfully he is ok!)
Today and last night I feel absolutely exhausted and in pain. Obviously there wasn’t much that could be done to avoid the trip, but just wanted to see if anyone had overdone it accidentally at a similar timeframe and how long it took to feel better again afterwards.
Thank you ❤️
I had an elective c section a week ago. I have bad health anxiety and my baby was big (8lb 10oz and born at 38+4) so I thought it was the best thing to do. Now I regret it massively. I can’t breast feed and I can’t do much else either. I’m stuck at home and my husband is doing everything for me and baby, we don’t have any help unless we hire some, which we can’t really afford to do. Today I spoke to a midwife to see what I can do now I’m a week out and broke down in tears on the phone. I’ve only been out once and felt terrible afterwards I literally collapsed into bed. I want to get on the floor with my baby and bathe him and carry him around in a sling and I thought I’d handle this all way better. I guess this is just a vent, but if anyone has any insight or been through similar I’d love to hear about it. Right now I feel like my bad choices mean I’m a terrible mum and that I should have been braver. I’m really not coping well.
ETA: thank you so much for the responses and being so understanding and kind. It makes me feel less alone ❤️
Hey everyone. My son is five days old and since early pregnancy I was set on the fact I would be exclusively formula feeding. I had breast cancer some years ago and while my oncologist said it may still be possible to express on one boob, I felt it may be too triggering and difficult to try. But now he’s here I feel guilty for not giving it a go. I’ve had no signs that milk will come in but I wanted to ask if it’s too late to give it a go, or any success stories from similar contexts? Thank you in advance
Our baby has spent the first few days of his life guzzling Kendamil ready to feed bottles and loving it. But we’re home with him now and ready to try a less expensive alternative. This is probably a stupid question but I can’t understand how his stomach can go from drinking 30-50ml at a time to a 4oz/120ml bottle we make up… For anyone who did the same shift did you notice a drop off in volume and baby’s weight as a result
I am on day 3 post c section and as expected feeling very tender and slow. What I didn’t expect was the pain in my left butt cheek and leg, every time I lie down. It’s almost as if I’m bruised around my tailbone. Has anyone experienced similar
Newborn! Hot! Help! Sleepsuit with no vest underneath? Vest with 1tog love to dream swaddle? Hide in corner and cry?
My in laws came to visit my new baby in hospital today and when they were leaving they both kissed him on the head. It was a one off and they are quite old so won’t have realised - although my husband says he’ll now speak to them about waiting until after the baby is vaccinated etc. But I’m worried. As a one off is it still really bad? Baby doesn’t have his midwife/paediatrician checks until we leave hosp tomorrow, should I ask/inform them about it…?
Did anyone here have a c section between 38-39 weeks? Panicking I will go into labour early before my elective and I’m looking for positive stories I guess - my anxiety has been so high the past few days I can barely function.
I’m having my c section on Thursday, and both the chat with my (very lovely and supportive) anaesthetist about risks and some judgemental comments from (older) people in my life have got me down and made me so nervous. Where I live (in the UK) c sections are so common, so logically I know my panic is unfounded, but I feel like I’m being perceived as a failure as not trying to give birth vaginally for my first baby.
I’ve had a lot of health issues in the past and suffer with severe anxiety, so the control of an elective always appealed to me. My husband is super supportive, but I guess I’m looking for positive stories to get me over the last little hump! Thank you x
Did anyone else not hear from them before birth? Nearly 37 weeks and giving birth at 38+4, but still haven’t had any contact with them. I live in London
…so when did you guys stop? I’m 34 weeks now and our sex life has slowed only slightly due to logistics. I’m kind of keen to just keep on going till the end, especially as we have to take six weeks off. If we did is it harmful in any way?
Hey everyone. Looking for advice bc I am tearing my hair out with vinted’s customer service emails/messages. A month ago the app banned me for uploading a counterfeit product that was actually real. I’ve emailed them and messaged them LOADS, provided images to prove the item is real along with the receipt and yet my account is still blocked. At one stage they sent me an automatic message to say the issue was resolved, but the account was still blocked? I know their customer service AI is bad but this is getting ridiculous. Anything else I can do to speak to an actual person? Or can I just make a new account with a different email. It’s driving me nuts!
Hello! I am a FTM and have been very anxious due to previous health issues for my entire pregnancy. My baby was measuring really big up until the past few weeks - he’s now 57th percentile but he started in the high 90s. I panicked about size and a potential GD diagnosis (which later turned out to just be some mild insulin spiking) and booked in an elective c section.
But now we’re five or so weeks out and I’m having cold feet. Has anyone changed their mind about how they choose to give birth? I’m about 33 weeks and so uncertain and worried about all the risks and variables. My consultant says if I go into labour before my elective date she can give me a category 3 c section, I’m wondering if I should ask to give it a go vaginally if that happens.
EDIT: I feel like I may have worded this badly! I know i CAN/am entitled to change my birth plan. Im really wondering if anyone’s had a similar experience. I can never tell if my dithering is down to anxiety or whether it’s worthwhile abandoning a previous plan. Sorry bad wording!
This is a question I can’t really find an answer to online but - for those who are self employed, is there a certain number of hours a week you are entitled to work while claiming MA/SMP? I’ve heard mixed things from my self employed friends, and while it would be great to supplement my income bc obviously I can’t take maternity leave, im wary of accidentally doing some sort of esoteric benefit fraud.
I’m 31 weeks today and as it’s going to be so so hot in London this week we are driving out to Cornwall to get some relief. My husband thinks it’s a great idea and so does my consultant. I know deep down it is too but I am SO anxious about the long drive. We’re taking lots of stops and I am wearing very fashionable compression stockings too. Is there anything else I can do to make it more bearable? Or at least stop worrying lol
I’ve been struggling during pregnancy, not enjoying it or being able to enjoy life generally to the point that my GP now wants to do an urgent referral to the perinatal mental health team for depression. I am worried about this - the fact it will be I guess “marked” on my file and possibly means that when the baby comes they think I won’t be able to look after him as well as if I didn’t have any issues during pregnancy.
I’m nearly 28 weeks so quite close to the end, which makes me worried about the postpartum interventions I might expect… has anyone got any experience with prenatal MH teams they could share?