u/transdermalcelebrity

I’m older than many redditors. I used to spend a lot of time helping people online with their anxiety. Now I’m the one drowning.

Forgive me.. the easiest way to do this in probably a list:

1. weird medical shit:

-sympathetic overload with wayyyy too much adrenaline and cortisol most of my life

-had to start medicating it because I was getting hurt and not feeling it. Still getting adrenaline dumps though. Physically falling apart. And can’t sleep. (Dysautonomia does this and perimenopause kicked that hornet’s nest into a frenzy this year and boy are they pissed)

2. have an awesome daughter trying to transfer to a better school after a rough freshman year at the wrong school. Nonstop weeks of technical issues preventing them from seeing her fafsa. Clock ticking.

3. Elderly toxic af in laws moved near for us to help. Husband trying to have childhood he never had with them. Cue the eating of all our excess time and financial resources. We are pinched.

4. See #3… my marriage suddenly is in freefall to such an extend that after 32 years Im wondering id i ever knew my spouse. 2 years ago i was proud if what we had

5. My family is such a shitshow Im thinking of writing a horror comedy. Because they’re so horrible it’s comedic.

6. Ignored an adductor injury for a year because busy being mom. Physical therapy now to fix it and my compensating gait. New injuries happening from relearning the right way to move. Lots of pain.

7. And just today after catching another crisis at home, suddenly the external drive with all our pictures and my kid’s performances is failing to mount. Praying our offsite backup worked correctly (in the middle of restoring everything to a new drive).

But seriously just what the actual fuck?!

I haven’t even gotten into my job search and trying to go back to work after almost 20 years. There’s more but this was already too long.

So I find myself in a pickle. Right when there’s a lot that I’ve been working on, perimenopause stepped up and brought me out of remission of a condition where I get huge adrenaline dumps that play out as anxious spells. Wakes me up almost every morning and it takes most of my energy just to stabilize that.

On top of that I’ve been in physical therapy working on an old injury which is opening up all kinds of pain doors and it’s current rare that I can walk for long without some kind of pain. Chronic pain is no fun.

And neither of these issues were what I was trying to work with in manifesting. It’s hard to focus consistently and positively. Any tips or similar experiences?

So I have an elderly family member who moved here a couple years ago and I recently found out he’s been off his adhd meds (that he’s taken for years) since he moved here because he can’t get a new prescription.

Back where he used to live I believe he said it was prescribed by his primary care and primary care here refuses to give him a script. Looking around I suspect that because in NM it looks like it needs to go through psychiatric channels and not primary care.

I’m not sure I’ll be able to get him to go to a psychiatrist, but does anyone have any recommendations either in town or via telemedicine for getting him back on his adhd meds. He appears to be suffering and it’s been really hard getting other business done for and with him.

ETA: I was informed that some pcps do prescribe. So if you know one weld also consider those recommendations. He specifically was on adderall.

Ugh. We’ve been trying to get this problem resolved for weeks now. Daughter’s ssn was off by a number in their system so her fafsa didn’t register. We spent a week talking to financial aid trying to track and solve the problem. Then thanks to this sub we went to admissions and they gave us a request form to get it fixed and we put that in.

It’s been over a week and we don’t know where to check to be sure the fix went through. Daughter emailed some questions to financial aid on Friday and they got back to us today that her ssn is still wrong.

How do we even get this fixed? And then I know they need time to process and then review the fafsa. We have an extension till 7/14 but I know this financial aid process takes time, and we need time on our end to figure out what we can do to make this happen given the eventual financial aid offer.

Anyone know where else to bring this issue to? I have daughter calling admissions and some contact email they gave her for transfer students.

This is so frustrating.

So my daughter was diagnosed with pots about 7 years ago. Then 3 years ago she suddenly starting having issues with hair loss, weak tooth enamel and demineralization, and brittle nails which still plague her. (I also have dysautonomia but not these symptoms).

We’re treating each of the symptoms separately, and have even done genetic testing looking for some other diseases that she doesn’t have, but it dawned on me to ask up here if anyone has encountered this array of symptoms and if so do you have any medical insight as to what’s happening.

She really doesn’t have good medical support because we live in a state with a severe doctor shortage and almost no one even really acknowledges dysautonomia (her diagnosis was a minor miracle). So it’s not like we can ask a medical expert familiar with pots. So, anyone ever deal with this?

My daughter is a transfer student recently accepted to GWU. We’ve been having a lot of problems stemming from an initial typo on her SSN which prevented her fafsa from being seen. It took a while to get that tracked down and fixed and now we’re in a two week wait to get her financial aid offer.

We can’t accept without knowing whether we can afford the school and this is her #1 school.

Earlier in the week admissions put us in touch with someone to get an extension. That person said they’d send a form but we haven’t received it yet (daughter is trying to call to get that rectified).

My worry is that Monday is the deposit date. At the rate the paperwork has been moving, even if we can get the form I am concerned that there’s no way the extension will be approved before the deposit deadline.

Has anyone been through a similar experience?

My daughter was recently admitted as a transfer student however there was some kind of issue where her ssn was incorrect in GWU’s system so they never saw her fafsa. We’ve been trying to get this rectified for a couple weeks now.

Last week someone in financial aid emailed a link to correct the SSN mismatch but the link didn’t work and it took several days to get a response on that problem. The response was that they’d research today and send an email by end of day but that never happened so we’ll have to call tomorrow.

We’re getting close to the point where we have to put in a deposit and we really need to know the financial aid offer. It’s between GWU and another school and we have all the other school’s info, but prefer GWU so we’re sitting in limbo. Any ideas how we can speed up getting this fixed? Anyone else we should be talking to?

Also any ideas if this delay (we sent the form through fafsa back in Dec) in GWU’s system means she won’t have eligibility for merit aid this year?

Ok so I’m very new to the community, to discussing any of this with others. But I have spent years reading and researching and especially enjoy older texts. I trend towards the Jungian side of things but have also greatly enjoyed time with hermetic alchemy. But I don’t ascribe to any one philosophy at this point.

Speaking very simply, I have run into much discussion about ego death and ego suppression and it always has me a little confused. While I don’t believe the ego should be completely in charge, I have to believe we have this thing for a reason. It came in the package and it can create beautiful things and teach us wonderful lessons when not running amok. Shouldn’t that be embraced, even though we keep it in the play yard to make sure it doesn’t make messes on the rug?

So if there’s someone out there who has deeper experience with these concepts, please chime in. I have done a super deep dive on it and I feel like I’m missing something.

Costs at my vet have skyrocketed in the past few years (not a VCA). A few years back one of my cats needed a cleaning with many extractions and that cost $700 (I used to think $450 was pushing it). Now I was just quoted $1300 for a basic cleaning in a healthy young cat.

I think this explains it. Check the map.

I acknowledge this may not be possible.

Spouse and I have a sleep number bed. His side feels like a slab of rock, mine is considerably softer. And it feels decent. However whenever we go to hotels I’m often in love with the beds that have pillow toppers.

I would love to find a decent pillow top to add to my mattress that I could affix under my side only with minimal shifting.

Any ideas? Is this possible? Every time I look around I only see toppers that need to wrap around the mattress (like a fitted sheet) which wouldn’t work for only 1/2 the bed.