u/travelerbeyond

518/3.94
Hi,
I applied last cycle and got on like 5 waitlisted of t20 schools (washu/cornell/johns hopkins/einstein/rochester) but didnt get in to any. meanwhile I got no interviews at lower tier schools. does anyone have any advice if I choose to reapply? How can I attract lower tier schools? I have received feedback that I didn’t have enough clinical hours so I got that up but I feel pretty discouraged and not sure if this cycle will turn out any different.

Would be reapplying to my waitlists, but am open to anywhere that offers need based full tuition scholarships.

my mcat 518

UNM grad and NM local

3.94 GPA as the final gpa with all the amcas stuff

2.5k hours research , co-author of two pending pubs awaiting approval

1k hours ed scribe

750 or so volunteer hours

500 new clinical volunteer hours

Last year founded a tech start up so worked for like 2k hours on that

Run a tutoring thing on the side mostly for free just word of mouth advertising, 250 hours added since last app

have leadership like being in student gov and an RA in college

also interned on capitol hill for a semester in college

300 hours shadow (GI and peds)

Hi I am looking for a roommate to join a lease who has celiac disease 1 year minimum.

Hi,
I applied last cycle and got on like 5 waitlisted of t20 schools but didnt get in to any. meanwhile I got no interviews at lower tier schools. does anyone have any advice if I choose to reapply? How can I attract lower tier schools? I have received feedback that I didn’t have enough clinical hours so I got that up but I feel pretty discouraged and not sure if this cycle will turn out any different.

my mcat 518

UNM grad and NM local

3.91 GPA as the final gpa with all the amcas stuff

2.5k hours research , co-author of two pending pubs awaiting approval

1k hours ed scribe

750 or so volunteer hours

500 new clinical volunteer hours since last app

Last year founded a tech start up so worked for like 2k hours on that

Run a tutoring thing on the side mostly for free just word of mouth advertising

have leadership like being in student gov and an RA in college

also interned on capitol hill for a semester in college

300 hours shadow (GI)

Hey caption says it all, 1k budget and year long lease. LMK

Budget 1k and lease for a year, am applying to med school this year.

Caption says it all, looking for a year lease

Looking for a celiac roommate in north red line in chicago to get an apartment with, anyone have any ideas?

(M25 applying to med school) Looking for a celiac/strict gluten free roommate or 2b apartment for a year long lease starting before september 1 to live with off the north red line. budget would be 1000$ or so. I’m extremely easy to live with, very quiet, no smoking, I dont host big events.

This is a long one so bare with me:

My (25M) gf (27F) of nearly 5 years broke up with me recently. I accepted it in the moment because she seemed so stressed and distraught that I knew I could not fit a word in but as i look back on things I get more and more confused.

Things have not always been great between us. We had different comms styles to begin with, doubled with long-distance it was rough. I was abrasive and she was soft. Also had trouble with her parents, but slowly smoothed things over with them and build real relationships with them. I should note that them seeing how good i was for her was most likely the thing that helped me get on their good side (as well as extreme effort like meeting with aunts and uncles in her family to consult on how to grow closer).

But two years ago we moved in and we still had our differences but we worked through them as they showed up. One problem was her friends. I moved to a new city for her and was immediately met with hostility, racism, and exclusion (she was also excluded from things) from her friend group. She tried to micromanage her friends and my interactions which only made things worse and my defensive response to their actions definitely made things worse, but knowing it was so important to her i tried to smooth things over slowly with her friends despite them being explicitly racist to me.

I tried my best to forgive and move on but with two friends in particular it was hard. they spread rumors about me and the rest of the friend group saw me through a very dark tint. Quickly after meeting me they decided I was bad for her because of a few poorly worded sentences by me and a refusal to talk to me about misunderstandings i only learned about later.

Despite all this we meshed really well together this past year and although I was going through easily the worst time in my life I was there for her doing the things I thought she wanted from me. She never communicated a different time scale for me to be best friends with her friends. The only thing she ever mentioned is that I would have to be on good terms with them for us to get married but we planned to get married in 4+ years so I thought I could continue at my pace.

Fast forward to 2 months ago her friends decide to exclude me because they “dont feel comfortable around me”. The image of me in this group is someone who doesnt want to be friends with anyone, someone who abuses their friend (my gf), and many other things like: supposedly I glared at a gay couple (i didnt but to be fair sometimes i do just stare off into the distance and maybe i did in this case) or I didnt dance enough at a wedding (when I was injured).

They never talked to me about anything, they never tried to get to know me they just excluded me from a dinner because they were “uncomfortable” with me.

She lost her mind from stress because of this. We drifted apart and the stress was at an all time high. I nearly killed myself from other things and this adding on after trying to reach out to her for help but she was too deep in her stuff to really pay attention. She didnt really talk to me about much and I proactively apologized for past mistakes I had already apologized for but knew left wounds and promised her to be better and also knew I had already changed for the better. I also proactively scheduled meetings with her friends to try to figure out finally why they hated me (the info I have shared was garnered from those meetings) and smooth things over with them (fyi some didnt like my personality eg. I was argumentative…but others just had heard a rumor or something about me and made their judgement off that).

But she decided to split because the stress was too much and she couldnt wait for things to be better. We had a great relationship (despite us both agreeing that if either of us had a friend who was treated the way we treated each other we would not want that friend in a relationship). I would do every house chore for her because I was unemployed, I massaged her, I cooked, I asked her at least weekly if she felt loved and she said yes, we supported each other and had great comms spent time together etc. But she never brought any of the “speed at which I befriended her friends” up. If she had I wouldve prio’d that instead of washing her undies!

And so she broke up under the claim that she never felt settled in our relationship. She has always functioned really poorly under stress and fails to see in the moment that stress is temporary and hasnt always been there.

is this a choice anyone has seen before? prioritizing friends that have treated a partner this way? Do i try to fight for our relationship? Is there a world in which I am missing something where I would be like ohhh this relationship ISNT good?

Note: She was really pro couples counseling but the emotional exhaustion set in for her and now she says she doesnt want to do that.

Can anyone explain Why this girl who has ALWAYS been the bigger person in every manner in life, made wise choices, and worked ridiculously hard on relationships just given up on us at the worst point in my life when things were getting measurably better in every aspect of our relationship??

TLDR: gf of 4.5 years isnt acting like the usual bigger person she is and has given up on our relationship because she has never felt settled (most likely due to her friends hating me for unfair reasons)

Not sure which flair to use and i dont use reddit often…but

This is a long one so bare with me:

My 25M gf 27F of nearly 5 years broke up with me recently. I accepted it in the moment because she seemed so stressed and distraught that I knew I could not fit a word in but as i look back on things I get more and more confused.

Things have not always been great between us. We had different comms styles to begin with, doubled with long-distance it was rough. I was abrasive and she was soft. Also had trouble with her parents, but slowly smoothed things over with them and build real relationships with them. I should note that them seeing how good i was for her was most likely the thing that helped me get on their good side (as well as extreme effort like meeting with aunts and uncles in her family to consult on how to grow closer).

But two years ago we moved in and we still had our differences but we worked through them as they showed up. One problem was her friends. I moved to a new city for her and was immediately met with hostility, racism, and exclusion (she was also excluded from things) from her friend group. She tried to micromanage her friends and my interactions which only made things worse and my defensive response to their actions definitely made things worse, but knowing it was so important to her i tried to smooth things over slowly with her friends despite them being explicitly racist to me.

I tried my best to forgive and move on but with two friends in particular it was hard. they spread rumors about me and the rest of the friend group saw me through a very dark tint. Quickly after meeting me they decided I was bad for her because of a few poorly worded sentences by me and a refusal to talk to me about misunderstandings i only learned about later.

Despite all this we meshed really well together this past year and although I was going through easily the worst time in my life I was there for her doing the things I thought she wanted from me. She never communicated a different time scale for me to be best friends with her friends. The only thing she ever mentioned is that I would have to be on good terms with them for us to get married but we planned to get married in 4+ years so I thought I could continue at my pace.

Fast forward to 2 months ago her friends decide to exclude me because they “dont feel comfortable around me”. The image of me in this group is someone who doesnt want to be friends with anyone, someone who abuses their friend (my gf), and many other things like: supposedly I glared at a gay couple (i didnt but to be fair sometimes i do just stare off into the distance and maybe i did in this case) or I didnt dance enough at a wedding (when I was injured).

They never talked to me about anything, they never tried to get to know me they just excluded me from a dinner because they were “uncomfortable” with me.

She lost her mind from stress because of this. We drifted apart and the stress was at an all time high. I nearly killed myself from other things and this adding on after trying to reach out to her for help but she was too deep in her stuff to really pay attention. She didnt really talk to me about much and I proactively apologized for past mistakes I had already apologized for but knew left wounds and promised her to be better and also knew I had already changed for the better. I also proactively scheduled meetings with her friends to try to figure out finally why they hated me (the info I have shared was garnered from those meetings) and smooth things over with them (fyi some didnt like my personality eg. I was argumentative…but others just had heard a rumor or something about me and made their judgement off that).

But she decided to split because the stress was too much and she couldnt wait for things to be better. We had a great relationship (despite us both agreeing that if either of us had a friend who was treated the way we treated each other we would not want that friend in a relationship). I would do every house chore for her because I was unemployed, I massaged her, I cooked, I asked her at least weekly if she felt loved and she said yes, we supported each other and had great comms spent time together etc. But she never brought any of the “speed at which I befriended her friends” up. If she had I wouldve prio’d that instead of washing her undies!

And so she broke up under the claim that she never felt settled in our relationship. She has always functioned really poorly under stress and fails to see in the moment that stress is temporary and hasnt always been there.

is this a choice anyone has seen before? prioritizing friends that have treated a partner this way? Do i try to fight for our relationship? Is there a world in which I am missing something where I would be like ohhh this relationship ISNT good?

Note: She was really pro couples counseling but the emotional exhaustion set in for her and now she says she doesnt want to do that.

Can anyone explain Why this girl who has ALWAYS been the bigger person in every manner in life, made wise choices, and worked ridiculously hard on relationships just given up on us at the worst point in my life when things were getting measurably better in every aspect of our relationship??

So my partner and I are looking to buy a car, most likely a Subaru (which is why I’m posting here) and I had a question: what is the cheapest possible way to have a functional car over a ten year span?

Here are the rules:
-You can buy as many cars as you want.
-You must keep the car safe and functional (like you can’t just not replace your windshield wipers to reduce maintenance cost)
-To make it fair we have to assume law of large number strikes fairly so yes I am sure theres a crosstrek from the year 1776 that is somehow still running but that’s an outlier. (So if you buy a used car for 1k you will need a new car soon and if you buy a used car for 10k you will need to do repairs soon…this is a gentleman’s game)

My idea was a CPO like 3-4 years old minimal mileage because you dodge the initial depreciation, you have access to a warranty, and its as close to new as possible.